I'm trying to encourage our men here to take good care of their health, physically and mentally.

It's not like women don't have theirs but those of the men are very much noticeable in the sense that it takes a toll on their physical and mental health.

(1) I entered lagos two weeks ago and I needed to take uber, this uber driver as I can guess will be bw his 50s and 60s.He needed to send money to his wife (3k)but somehow he couldn't do transfer since he was driving me but I helped him with my bank app while he gave me cash. Do you know after transferring the money his wife was ungrateful and demanded he returns home immediately (that was around 8pm).Now,the man started complaining to me how whether he brings money or not how his wife keeps complaining and he said he's pitying Nigerian men who are getting married to strange women and giving birth without knowing what they're going into. He looked stressed out and trying to make ends meet but yet his wife added more burden, not just financially but mentally. So tell me how this kind of stressed man won't die out so sooner than later. He was lucky somehow that one of his children got a scholarship to study in India.

(2) I attended a friend's wedding and to my utmost shock both fathers of the celebrants are late. Only their moms are still alive while other relatives represented their fathers. So I was wondering how their moms are still alive while their fathers are late.
Some may say men marry younger women that's why they die out but from the mothers of those celebrants they're not up to 60 years, so how much age difference that will make the two men be late?

Im saying this because I have noticed lots of people esp men are passing through a lot of stress, please men don't allow your wives, siblings or anything infact to overstress you to the point of dying out in time. We men aren't super beings, try to take things easy.

Just my 2cents, bye.

Brotherly you have said it all. I have promised myself that I will take life easy and enjoy small. After all no be me kill baba

Nothing in this world is worth the stress and I will never allow any woman to stress me. Despite the stress men go through and the sacrifices they make on daily basis to make ends meet and to provide for the family, it will shock u to know that ur children will always choose their mother over u. The thought of this alone dey pain me! I came across a post on Facebook two days ago where a guy said he had 500k to share btwn his parent and that he need an advice on how to share the money...... I was surprised at the response I saw. 95% of the comments was for him to give his mom 450k and give the father 50k. Honestly I dropped tears

That's Nigerian women for you

I'll be A Capital FOOL if I ever Get married.

Rubbiish:

Lol
Don't be so quick to conclude o, u may change your mind by the time u approach 40+ seeing all your mates getting married

Have you been to divorce courts before?

LoveJesus87:
enlighten me abeg my brother.

What if I get married but I don't do court wedding?

As long as you are in Nigeria and you don't do Court wedding,you are safe if you ever get divorced

They deserve it.

odinson1:
I'll be A Capital FOOL if I ever Get married.

Me too baba

Sadly that’s the reality. A lot of married men are under intense pressure to meetup with family demands and many of them don’t know stress kills.

When you work too much and worry too much your body release stress hormones and over time could increase your BP! To make matters worse you chill off in the evening with beer which is bad for your health instead of going home to rest. Learn to take care of yourselves please, problem no dey finish for this life oh!

This topic is a sad truth. I know of a woman who has been to yankee twice for omugwo. The training of the daughter was 100% paid by the struggling man. She went to yankee at the expense of her husbands failing health.

Lucky Dube said it all "Men are born to suffer"

It's quite painful though that in our clime, the life expectancy of male is arbitrarily low.

I think this current generation are out to correct that.

The ruggedness of life in the past and somewhat in the presence has made it so.

Well I'll get married, but I'm on the lookout not to get into a trap.

On the contrary, research indicates that women go through more e.g. victims of violence, lower pay, birth etc but just have better coping strategies. Strategies such as being more likely to seek medical help early, rely on social support systems and openly acknowledge the emotional impact of adverse experiences.

hopeforcharles:

Brotherly you have said it all. I have promised myself that I will take life easy and enjoy small. After all no be me kill baba

Yes oo

Osobi32:
Nothing in this world is worth the stress and I will never allow any woman to stress me. Despite the stress men go through and the sacrifices they make on daily basis to make ends meet and to provide for the family, it will shock u to know that ur children will always choose their mother over u. The thought of this alone dey pain me! I came across a post on Facebook two days ago where a guy said he had 500k to share btwn his parent and that he need an advice on how to share the money...... I was surprised at the response I saw. 95% of the comments was for him to give his mom 450k and give the father 50k. Honestly I dropped tears

Unfortunately that's the reality for men.I do hope we get it into our subconscious minds to find a way to manage stress at all levels including in the family. One thing is certain, even if you drop dead the family still moves on. That's the sad reality.

mmadu4:
Thanks for sharing this

Uwc bro

Cc lalasticlala Mynd44 OAM4J front page please, let our men get to know that stress isn't good for any human.

Men should learn to take life jejely. If you drop dead, madam will most likely marry another man or be getting steady shagging from another man. Your kids will call him uncle or worse, dad.

Not let woman drag you enter grave with their stress. Life is easy.

Don't kill yourself for that lazy ungrateful gender. Enjoy your life. Save for your old age. You won't lack companions. It's a poor man that can be simping for fear of being alone in old age.

I lost my dad last year (age 62) as a result of sickness ... A very hard working man (an accountant).... His whole body system shut down .... Am still not happy about his departure.

This was a man i had great plans for.

My mum complicated the whole issue cause she wasn't a caring type.

This is the effect of generations of family life. When we start solving this problem from the cause, there will never be answers.

We encourage our girls to focus on being wife materials and mothers. We teach them how to cook and take care of the home while the brothers are outside playing ball, making connections and going places. He is taught that a man's place is outside the home. To bring home the bacon. To take care of his family and be the bread winner. Till we start to teach our kids differently, we will still get this same results till eternity.


We teach our boys to not cry, don't show emotion and he bottles it up till he has a heart attack while a woman will cry from morning till night, shout out all her frustrations and be relieved from that burden.

We tell our men to take care of this girlfriend so another man doesn't snatch her. So he does two jobs and a side hustle just to 'maintain' her.

Why can't we teach our kids that both parties should be equal contributors to the family purse? Why can't the first person home make dinner? Why can't the man take the kids to the hospital while the woman goes to sell her tomatoes? Why do we have men coming on nairaland to tell us 'I take care of all the responsibilities in the home and all she does is to fill gas and she is complaining when I boil ordinary water to bath'?

Till we begin to train ourselves as one and the same unit, men will keep dieing young and women will keep enjoying the fruits of both their labours.

Amarisco:
On the contrary, research indicates that women go through more e.g. victims of violence, lower pay, birth etc but just have better coping strategies. Strategies such as being more likely to seek medical help early, rely on social support systems and openly acknowledge the emotional impact of adverse experiences.

Kindly post a link to the research which states this.

Stress or no stress... ya'all still gonna die one day... none of you will become immortal... death in 100 years is no different than death in few seconds...just enjoy for the main time...just assume everyday as the last day of human existence on earth...achieve more financial freedom... drink more beer... smoke weed, suck and finger more clitoris, dig more pussies and rest in peace when it's time.



Let's drink beer for now

Its not easy at all.

Thanks

If it was me I had advise the uber driver to look for some other business, nobody is making a living wage from driving Uber.
Do you know the cost of foodstuff alone these days? And you want her to be grateful for #3000?

murphyibiam15:
I'm trying to encourage our men here to take good care of their health, physically and mentally.
It's not like women don't have theirs but those of the men are very much noticeable in the sense that it takes a toll on their physical and mental health.
(1)I entered lagos two weeks ago and I needed to take uber, this uber driver as I can guess will be bw his 50s and 60s.He needed to send money to his wife (3k)but somehow he couldn't do transfer since he was driving me but I helped him with my bank app while he gave me cash. Do you know after transferring the money his wife was ungrateful and demanded he returns home immediately (that was around 8pm).Now,the man started complaining to me how whether he brings money or not how his wife keeps complaining and he said he's pitying Nigerian men who are getting married to strange women and giving birth without knowing what they're going into. He looked stressed out and trying to make ends meet but yet his wife added more burden, not just financially but mentally. So tell me how this kind of stressed man won't die out so sooner than later. He was lucky somehow that one of his children got a scholarship to study in India.

(2)I attended a friend's wedding and to my utmost shock both fathers of the celebrants are late. Only their moms are still alive while other relatives represented their fathers. So I was wondering how their moms are still alive while their fathers are late.
Some may say men marry younger women that's why they die out but from the mothers of those celebrants they're not up to 60 years, so how much age difference that will make the two men be late?

Im saying this because I have noticed lots of people esp men are passing through a lot of stress, please men don't allow your wives, siblings or anything infact to overstress you to the point of dying out in time. We men aren't super beings, try to take things easy.

Just my 2cents, bye.

Very Necessary, The earlier men know that Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

The better for them

GenBuhari:
If it was me I had advise the uber driver to look for some other business, nobody is making a living wage from driving Uber.
Do you know the cost of foodstuff alone these days? And you want her to be grateful for #3000?

so she shouldn't be grateful for 3k.you no well

GenBuhari:
If it was me I had advise the uber driver to look for some other business, nobody is making a living wage from driving Uber.
Do you know the cost of foodstuff alone these days? And you want her to be grateful for #3000?

so she shouldn't be grateful for 3k.you no well.if you are grateful for small,Big things will come.

My brother,
I too late have learnt my lesson,
I have decided to take care of my self do what i can do but will not go further once i see the remainder can't take care of my need.
Many ungrateful women abound.

murphyibiam15:
I'm trying to encourage our men here to take good care of their health, physically and mentally.
It's not like women don't have theirs but those of the men are very much noticeable in the sense that it takes a toll on their physical and mental health.
(1)I entered lagos two weeks ago and I needed to take uber, this uber driver as I can guess will be bw his 50s and 60s.He needed to send money to his wife (3k)but somehow he couldn't do transfer since he was driving me but I helped him with my bank app while he gave me cash. Do you know after transferring the money his wife was ungrateful and demanded he returns home immediately (that was around 8pm).Now,the man started complaining to me how whether he brings money or not how his wife keeps complaining and he said he's pitying Nigerian men who are getting married to strange women and giving birth without knowing what they're going into. He looked stressed out and trying to make ends meet but yet his wife added more burden, not just financially but mentally. So tell me how this kind of stressed man won't die out so sooner than later. He was lucky somehow that one of his children got a scholarship to study in India.

(2)I attended a friend's wedding and to my utmost shock both fathers of the celebrants are late. Only their moms are still alive while other relatives represented their fathers. So I was wondering how their moms are still alive while their fathers are late.
Some may say men marry younger women that's why they die out but from the mothers of those celebrants they're not up to 60 years, so how much age difference that will make the two men be late?

Im saying this because I have noticed lots of people esp men are passing through a lot of stress, please men don't allow your wives, siblings or anything infact to overstress you to the point of dying out in time. We men aren't super beings, try to take things easy.

Just my 2cents, bye.

My brother,
That's what some women do,
I am now learning my lesson.
My aunt who is a widow lost her husband when he their kid was 10 yrs told me categorically that i should take care of my self, go to cinema , do Friday night out even if its alone (when my other was behaving somehow) and go for medical check-up.
That my aunt her husband was a pastor of Foursquare church in Jos.

Taywon:
I lost my dad last year (age 62) as a result of sickness ... A very hard working man (an accountant).... His whole body system short down .... Am still not happy about his departure.

This was a man i had great plans for.

My mum complicated the whole issue cause she wasn't a caring type.

Stress or no stress.. Everybody go die... U no want stress but you go still carry big gbola dey panelbeat big ass. Lol.

Live life bruh.. Only poor men reason this way..