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Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Ugandatales: 10:50pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
thatigboman1: hahahahaha ![]() |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 10:57pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Ugandatales: This is the stupidest thing I have read this year |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 10:58pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
njelrapheal: Then find your own sources stating otherwise and stop yanning dust |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 10:59pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
streetsoldier1: Climate* |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Ugandatales: 11:01pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Amarisco: I knew you would come with an emotional answer. Just answer my simple question. 6 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by DrayZee: 11:03pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Amarisco:Is academic research required for one to know that American (or other nation) based statistics may not necessarily hold true in Nigeria? Your “findings” are not pointless to this discussion, but it’s not out of place to think that the results would be very different if data used was obtained from here. That said, the general conclusion is correct. Women seek help in better ways than men, and there are better support systems to help women out, which they take advantage of. I wonder what prompted you to begin stating how women go through more in a thread that just wants men to do better for themselves. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by ActuaRise696969: 11:08pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Lush100: You went through a period of awakening and you thought it was midlife crisis but never realized who your wife really is. When the soul wakes, a lot happen. You must understand who you are who your wife is then work things out. Then your confidant will show up, your teacher will show up and you will realize the true essence and your mission and happiness. That sounds cryptic but you know 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Ayion: 11:11pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
GenBuhari: Even if food stuff is cost 1billion, be grateful for the little you have received and encourage him to put in more effort. Also do something and raise some money too to support him We dey complain say marriage na prison sentence, you come dey add hard labour on top 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by jesmond3945: 11:36pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
murphyibiam15:God I just want to cry. God bless your soul brother. 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by streetsoldier1(m): 11:51pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Amarisco: i wrote clime and not climate, it is what it is. 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by dingbang(m): 11:59pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
I was billed to visit my parents in a far place and i called my mom that i was visiting, she said i should buy something for her when coming. My mode of transportation was by flight of which i had to borrow money from friends to pay ticket since i was down financially. I told my mum i didnt have any cash on me to buy stuff when coming and she said i should have entered public transport instead. She wanted me to risk my life on the road for kidnappers and bandits just to squeeze out money to buy something. I told her look, it is either you want to see me or you dont see me and i send the money for the flight to her instead. To cut the long story short, she saw that i was smarter and she said seeing me was more important. Guys, please, you first! 7 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by jesmond3945: 12:08am On Oct 11, 2021 |
drimzsmoke:when you marry come get pikin you go know how far 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by patosky55(m): 1:00am On Oct 11, 2021 |
cbrezy:only u can help your dad, call your mum tell her that anything happens to your dad u would hold her responsible and that she will do the burial herself, believe me she will calm down 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by WinningEleven(m): 1:47am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Amarisco:I would advise you to check the back of your secondary school textbooks or your university handouts to know what a citation really is. according to google, this is what a citation means ...a quotation from or reference to a book, paper, or author, especially in a scholarly work.... You have made zero quotations since you made your still unfounded claims, and when you were asked to do so, you started throwing tantrums like a 4 year old child. And no, copying and pasting links are not genuine quotation, in case you needed that to be pointed out for you. And thats not all, you pasted links to US surveys to judge a Nigerian situation and problem. From First World to developing world. Who is fooling who here?? Seems someone doesn't understand simple demographics and how they work. Do tell, who needs to go back to school?? The boy who is simply asking for evidence backing the opinion he found on the net, or an aunty who doesn't know what simple citation and demographics are?? No need to be sentimental please, calmly make your reply to my questions (if you can) 3 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by S1MP: 1:56am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Amarisco: Keep shut you this woman, you have zero idea of what you are even saying. Only fools think they know everything. Compare your reply to his, which sounds more collected and intelligent?? Typical woman, switching to tantrums when their argument falls in the face of logic if you are possibly a man behind this account then you should be more ashamed WinningEleven: 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Wynd44: 2:01am On Oct 11, 2021 |
WinningEleven:There was a caught ooooo ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Small small abeg, dont expose her again ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by iTroll: 2:04am On Oct 11, 2021 |
WinningEleven:yep, she had no clue of what she was saying. dont waste time on people like her on the web. uninformed folks forming prof 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Emmanuel909090: 2:48am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Well said 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Deblow: 2:54am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Davidonkonsults: Honestly! I spend very well on my kids' education and upkeep. I spend well to keep and maintain my home. I also spend well on my personal well-being and happiness. Of course, I know my kids still have, and will continue to have more sympathy for their mother now and later, but I'm carrying out my Biblical and social responsibility to them all. Nonetheless, I owe myself enormous responsibility as well to gladden my own heart wen I need to. I always strike the balance. Mi ò lè wáá kú! 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by 30naira: 3:00am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Amarisco: I do not discount the findings in the US. But That's where it ends. Much of that research is not practicable or actionable in Nigeria. our realities are different. Social research such as these are location bound. You can't stretch it beyond it's locality else you may run into hasty generalization . For instance, I read in one of the research that women are more likely to seek therapy. You really want to draw that down to Nigeria? How many psychotherapist do we have in Nigeria? You really think an average Nigerian, male or female will pay money to talk to a therapists? I work in a hospital, it's a struggle to convince people to even honor medical appointments. I read something about a gender pay gap. That again does not exist in Nigeria. So it is purely a US problem. In fact it is still a strongly contested issue in US from what I gathered Unless you have data from research done in Nigeria, your overall argument is merely an opinion, don't state it as fact. Again, this discussion isn't about gender roles, I have said nothing about gender roles. But since you brought it up, as a society, we still firmly believe in gender roles. Women still want to cook and clean, men still want to be providers. The argument has always been for men to be more supportive at home, and for women to support financially. Only few who identify as feminists in Nigeria are trying to do away with gender roles. A microscopic few I might add....... This is purely my opinion though 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Munzy14(m): 3:35am On Oct 11, 2021 |
GenBuhari:Read what you typed again and again. Marry an unproductive wife and you will understand the difference between Sokoto and Shokoto... ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by HIPROFILE(m): 4:13am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Osobi32: Its quite unfortunate for men bro The thing is our fathers would never tell us what they go through do you know that many children thinks its their mum that provides food for the family just because she is the one they always see in the kitchen and who always serve food to the family Again most women would make sure everybody in the house including the kids knows her 1kobo has been used to take care of the family. So much pressure on the man...His immediate family His wife's family his own family friends and other relatives are all on him most especially when the man is seeing small money. Bro I can go on and on but this issue they burst my brain and I deh vex for our fathers somehow cos they will never tell us how these things deh be from early someone like me only got to understand what my father went through only when I became a husband and a father too Its just too long a time before I understand their pains. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 4:13am On Oct 11, 2021 |
WinningEleven: You see, you did not even read that definition well. Pay attention to detail, it says quotation OR reference and I referenced the papers. You don’t want to accept the research because of the premises stated, no problem. I’d just like to see you back your own claims. You keep mentioning generalisability, which is a very basic and feeble critique attributed to ALL research. You think that every research based decision is based upon the sole and unique population of which that decision effects? OK Stop expunging far too much energy on this. |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by HITsquad: 4:14am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Amarisco:Oh God... You brought This here? 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 4:20am On Oct 11, 2021 |
DrayZee: I’m going back and forth with about 10 different men talking about how Nigeria is a different place, and quite frankly - not necessarily holding true does not automatically invalidate research or the deductions based on them. The OP made numerous comments about men being more stressed. I just gave scientific context Yes, women do have more adaptive coping strategies. |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 4:22am On Oct 11, 2021 |
S1MP: Stop dickriding and find your own cause to fight for |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 4:39am On Oct 11, 2021 |
30naira: Firstly, Regarding the epistle on generalisability - OK. I’m not going to keep repeating myself on that aspect. If you can evidence that the research is automatically non relatable to Nigeria - please do so. Secondly, No gender pay gap? Please can you share the stats/data you saw on that with me. In fact please also the Nigerian data that informed you on your following staments Men as every bit as likely to seek health care as women. Women are not paid less than men in Nigeria. Men discuss their problems, they just don't nag about it. Thirdly, We are talking about the behaviours of different genders, which would most certainly also include gender roles which inform those behaviours. Furthermore, saying that Nigeria still believes in gender roles is not really accurate. All nations have gender roles - as it’s a social construct, but different types. So what you mean to say is Nigeria still prescribes to traditional gender roles. Whereas USA may have more egalitarian gender roles. Oh, and thanks for your opinion |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by Amarisco(f): 4:48am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Ugandatales: Thank you prophet Uganda for knowing what I would and wouldn’t do. Why not do some research around discrimination, glass ceilings, sticky floors, marriage penalty and children penalty. Just do some reading first. You don’t seem to understand how pay gaps work or are measured and you’re not the only but - at least the angles of some others were a bit more plausible. I simply refuse to waste any bullet on you. How icky |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by etoete77: 5:22am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Longevity of women is higher than Men, Women have hormones that do stabilize their system. She sleeps and snow, while a little issues keep me awake all night. It very serious issues. I just learned it. No matter the stress of women hormones cushion their stress. But men are not that way. Women are elastic. You can drag, stretch and turn up and down , but they still survive. But not so with men. We are different. So we should always take appropriate care of ourselves. Thanks 3 Likes |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by ojuolu(m): 5:50am On Oct 11, 2021 |
murphyibiam15:She does qualitatively. She is not employed or in business but She contribute her quota to the home and I appreciate that... although, I wish she is able to bring more in term of money but "This is Nigeria". 1 Like |
Re: Men Please Try And Reduce Your Stress And Live.. Real Life Lesson by njelrapheal: 6:16am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Amarisco:Hello, you dont have to be rude. |
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