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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by pocohantas(f): 10:48am On Oct 19, 2021 |
truthsayer009: You mean like the senators that get caught in hotels with small girls? Or the rich Northern elites that are sponsors to Southern christian girls? Smh again! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Nobody: 10:50am On Oct 19, 2021 |
pocohantas: Abeg leave Nigerian politicians, those ones are maritally useless. The ones that aren't useless make up for it in extreme evil wickedness like Tinubu, so abeg |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:04am On Oct 19, 2021 |
HenryThegreat1:Your church weddings are not according to the Bible but of your churches and their doctrines. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:06am On Oct 19, 2021 |
paragon40:The same is obtainable in much of patriarchal Nigeria. Women in marriage are property under traditional law and so any woman going in blindly into such a contract does so to her detriment. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:08am On Oct 19, 2021 |
OmoEpe:I am sorry, God's concept of marriage? What is that? |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:13am On Oct 19, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:Concubines off the street? What the heck are you talking about? When dealing with many of our traditional marriage laws, wives and concubines as acceptable partners in a marriage. The term "monogamous" means nothing to such laws. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:16am On Oct 19, 2021 |
DEMZEE:What does the divorce rated which are rumored to be about the same at this point , got to do with this now? Divorce rate has nothing to do with family value abeg! Again, the question was what family values do you refer to that are not observed in the western setting? 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by maureensylvia(f): 11:18am On Oct 19, 2021 |
WHITELIGHTER: A loving husband should know what is right to do |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:19am On Oct 19, 2021 |
DEMZEE:Wrong! This is not about nature at all but about restrictive laws that shackle women to arrangements which onlu favor men. In our patriarchal system, the laws are set against women engaging in polyandry however the law allows for men to engage in polygamy. Other than that, women have also been engaging in multiple relationships since the dawn of time,only they tend to do so in hiding because of laws set against their freedoms. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by maureensylvia(f): 11:19am On Oct 19, 2021 |
ityP: Upon say I'm there fellow woman oo 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:24am On Oct 19, 2021 |
DaInferno:This discussion isn't one where different views can be correct in this. Either you accept the facts or you chose to live in denial of them...and the fact is traditional marriage laws are polygamous by default and so are not of great advantage to women who prefer monogamy. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:25am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Godbless3:They are not the same in any form. These are completely different marriage contracts we are talking about here. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by luluman: 11:26am On Oct 19, 2021 |
maureensylvia:Respect!!! You are right 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by luluman: 11:29am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:Oga cool down. If you want legal protection on your marriage go & register your marriage with a court o. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:37am On Oct 19, 2021 |
truthsayer009:You need to visit reality a bit more often! A woman objecting to polygamy does not stop her husband from attempting it though. There are so many women out there today who had polygamy foisted on them - helpless and unable to do anything about it simply because they opted for a traditional marriage agreement, sometimes in addition to the court option. So suggesting that women don't want to share their men means polygamy won't happen to them is deceit or seriously deep levels of ignorance. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by obinnawhyte(m): 11:37am On Oct 19, 2021 |
maureensylvia:My problem is including just Church like is only Church goers ( because I rarely see Christians around lately in Nigeria) that exist or get married or the post is made for. What about other religions ( Muslims, Eckist, Olumbas, etc). Whether Polygamy or Monogamy it all balls down to understanding, agreement involved and the ability of the man ( husband ) to comfortably provide and take care of his home. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Nobody: 11:45am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Its not a matter of ignorance. A woman who is educated and has something going for herself will not accept polygamy. You will have to divorce the woman and settle with someone else of less status than her. Women only accept anything when they don't have a choice. Its not by talking on Nairaland, go out there and try to convince a woman who has her life together that you want to be polygamous. Lets see how far you go. Except you want to have secret concubines, side chics outside of your marriage, then okay. But official wife? Mba. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kajaard: 11:45am On Oct 19, 2021 |
ityP: Makes you really wonder how their brain works. Very confusing set of beings 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Godbless3(m): 11:46am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: At the end, they all must be registered with the govt. Its just about understanding bro. The only people that give consent to marraige is the both family after that are just mere formalities to satisfy organization. To satisfy church, you do church wedding (white wedding), To satisfy the law and govt, you do court marraige. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by niri(m): 11:49am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Were is church wedding stated in d Bible? |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:49am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by niri(m): 11:50am On Oct 19, 2021 |
luluman:if you are married u will know dat dere is not called church marriage |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Okhuadams(m): 11:51am On Oct 19, 2021 |
pembisco:you are the very daft and and senseless person when any of ur family members get married traditionally advise them to b messing around bloody tool |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:53am On Oct 19, 2021 |
truthsayer009:So long as your educated women opt for a traditional marriage contract, the only thing she can do is leave her marriage of her own, if she objects to her husband bringing in concubines and other wives which he is entitled to under traditional law. No educated women who does not want polygamy would opt for a traditional marriage contract is what you should have said instead. Nigerian society is a patriarchal one meaning the opinions of a woman holds little to no value even in her own marriage even it comes to what her man wants, and this has been the reality since the time of our ancestors. So, you need to again visit reality more frequently please. What a woman wants and what she typically gets, especially where marriage and Nigeria are concerned, are most often not always the same thing. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:57am On Oct 19, 2021 |
Godbless3:Wrong! Again, we are talking here of different contracts here. A traditional marraige contract which gives a man free reign as to number of partners he wants is not the same as a court marriage contract which restricts the same man to only one partner. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by CTete: 11:59am On Oct 19, 2021 |
maureensylvia:Traditional marriage, is the real marriage. Do you do marriage rites during White wedding? Sisterly, be calming down. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by FlipModeSquade(m): 12:01pm On Oct 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:You have to be specific what you are talking about.. I know for a fact that WIVES and CONCUBINES are not one and the same thing under traditional laws.. Atleast not in Igboland where am from.. One entails a ceremony that recognizes her as a SPOUSE.. The other entails no such ceremony.. And being picked up from the streets is an APT term in such a situation.. And if you can be picked up from the streets and co habit with a married man.. WHAT is then the difference whether the man is in a monogamous or a polygamous marriage? |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by luluman: 12:03pm On Oct 19, 2021 |
niri:Just go to court if you want legal backing. That's all. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:I am not entirely certain where exactly you are going with this. The OP stated that those women who opt for a traditional marriage have no use to complain of their husbands cheating on them or marrying additional wives. Why? Since traditional marriages recognize concubines and other wives as part of the agreement. So? |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Nobody: 12:10pm On Oct 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: To be fair, only a bunch of ignorant women would actually get married without court marriage in 2021. All this talk of traditional marriage doesn't hold water unless you want to pick a girl from the village. Then no problem. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Godbless3(m): 12:13pm On Oct 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: A traditional contract doesn't give a man free reign to marry many wives. Its just your view on it. The court marraige doesn't compel a man to 1 partner but just protect the wife future and the child incase of divorce. A legally binding marraige (court) can also involve a divorce and there is no law that said a man can't be legally marry to wives in court. Quote that section of the 9ja constitution for me. Every marraige, be it court, church or TM must be properly be registered with appropriet body and what is happening here is a fail system. We see how whites and celebrity take their marraige to private island and only friends and family witness, but will register and hold same legal power |
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