Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...

Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.

Yes. Age is a number.

Your relationship has to be based on MUTUAL RESPECT; like all relationships.

Biko, if this is still puppy love, do NOT get married.

Be together for like 2 years first before marrying.

darkstar6971:
Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...

Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.

CC: Lalasticlala

If u really love her , age shouldn’t be a barrier. Like someone said age is just a number. If both parties love each, there should be any problem at all. I wish u all the best in your relationship.

Been there, done that. Older women are, gandemmit , too loving.

darkstar6971:
Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here....

Love no be for mouth. If you truly love this your galfriend, why do you need the input of others in this or any case?

Are you here looking for suggestions on how to make the age gap between you two go 'poof!'?

Or are you here seeking a reason for to end the relationship because of the age gap which seems to be an issue for you?

Shakira and Gerard Piqué have been married for about 10 years now, Shakira is Older than Piqué and there's been no bad news about them(none that I know of).
Macron is way younger than his wife and younger than her children.
I think what you should be more concerned about is respect, do you both respect eachother regardless of the age difference? Even if you're older and neither of you respects the other, it might not work unless you both enjoy violence.
Personally, respect and other stuff are what I consider and not the age (especially if the age gap isn't much).
Anyway, no be Piqué, Macron and other people go decide for you.
What do you both want? How do you treat eachother?

Why not ?

UndauntedYOCA:
Shakira and Gerard Piqué have been married for about 10 years now, Shakira is Older than Piqué and there's been no bad news about them(none that I know of).
Macron is way younger than his wife and younger than her children.
I think what you should be more concerned about is respect, do you both respect eachother regardless of the age difference? Even if you're older and neither of you respects the other, it might not work unless you both enjoy violence.
Personally, respect and other stuff are what I consider and not the age (especially if the age gap isn't much).
Anyway, no be Piqué, Macron and other people go decide for you.
What do you both want? How do you treat eachother?

In all these examples there is not 1 single African there talkless of Nigerian.
Even abroad, younger men marrying older women is the exception not the norm.


@oP na small child still dey do you... when you grow up small your eye will open.
Age is not just a number, especially if you are an African. Oyinbo people have already normalised homosexuality while it carries 14 year jail term in Nigeria.
The summary of my talk is that we are Africans/Nigerians and as such reason like one.

The lady has lived her life while you are just about to start yours. You don’t want to be trapped in marriage at 23. If she can wait 6 more years.

If you were 33 and she was 39 it wouldn’t be a big deal, would she have looked at you 4 years ago when she was 25? I wouldn’t even advise a 29 year old man to marry a 23 year old girl. A 23 year old is a baby with baby priorities.

Even a 20 year old girl has seen more life than the average 23 year old boy in terms of relationships. Date all you want but don’t get married at 23 to a 29 year old woman.

Count it all joy you have someone you love, the earlier you take that age thing off your head the better for you. Marry her asap if y’all are compatible. Don’t listen to people on the advice of age, you just need to do what will make you happy the rest of your life. Be happy and forget that age.

My mum is 78 and my dad is 69, we’ve all grown and are happy. I wish my dad can advice you on this because their experience about people back then according to him was worst, now most of those people are either dead, had issues or barely surviving. But here they are, went though thick and thin and still at it. Please do you, no advisor will live with you the rest of your life and if something goes wrong when you take their advice, they will come back to tell you that you had your choice to make because they only adviced you��� and not choose for you. So do you bro

Are you sure you're ready and mature enough for marriage?

Are you financially comfortable to some extent?

Can you conviniently cater for three as at now?

What are your prospects?

Let me tell you, marriage is not only all about those butterfly in your belly feelings. You must be ready in all ramifications otherwise you'll jump out almost immediately when the nitti-gritti of marriage starts hitting you left right and center. And I mean the bills, financial burdens and responsibilities of marriage. So if you're not well prepared to shoulder all that or go through it, you better sit back and work harder before jumping into it.

Marriage is not lalaland or a fun park.
It's not childs play. It's a serious lifetime venture.

Yes u can Mali

Op, you just want to bury yourself,with your own hands small small...

You wor go start your young life by reading evening newspaper

Any ways,rip in addy

You can't, for you to even create a thread for it, is an indication you are not even sure of what you are involved in.

oldienavie:

In all these examples there is not 1 single African there talkless of Nigerian.
Even abroad, younger men marrying older women is the exception not the norm.


@oP na small child still dey do you... when you grow up small your eye will open.
Age is not just a number, especially if you are an African. Oyinbo people have already normalised homosexuality while it carries 14 year jail term in Nigeria.
The summary of my talk is that we are Africans/Nigerians and as such reason like one.

I do not know of relatable popular Nigerians that I could have used. If I did, I'd surely have used them but I'm sure there are people who are younger than their wives and are living happily.
Don't mislead the OP into thinking it's just marriages where the husband is the older ones that work.

darkstar6971:
Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...

Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.

CC: Lalasticlala

What advice do you need exactly?

To go on, or not to go on

Just follow your heart, whatever comes out of it, you are an adult, so you can take responsibilities

It seems your family and loved ones have given you approval.

Who are we to disapprove it

Experience is the best teacher
Be ready to mark your own script

greenie77:
You can't, for you to even create a thread for it, is an indication you are not even sure of what you are involved in.

His case is like, someone that have junior waec, he skipped senior waec and want to do jamb exams because his mates are writing Jamb

Megabig:
Count it all joy you have someone you love, the earlier you take that age thing off your head the better for you. Marry her asap if y’all are compatible. Don’t listen to people on the advice of age, you just need to do what will make you happy the rest of your life. Be happy and forget that age.

My mum is 78 and my dad is 69, we’ve all grown and are happy. I wish my dad can advice you on this because their experience about people back then according to him was worst, now most of those people are either dead, had issues or barely surviving. But here they are, went though thick and thin and still at it. Please do you, no advisor will live with you the rest of your life and if something goes wrong when you take their advice, they will come back to tell you that you had your choice to make because they only adviced you��� and not choose for you. So do you bro

Wow! I love this. This is the true definition of love and family.

UndauntedYOCA:

I do not know of relatable popular Nigerians that I could have used. If I did, I'd surely have used them but I'm sure there are people who are younger than their wives and are living happily.
Don't mislead the OP into thinking it's just marriages where the husband is the older ones that work.

I think current Ondo State Governor.

greenie77:
You can't, for you to even create a thread for it, is an indication you are not even sure of what you are involved in.

I agree.

bukatyne:


I think current Ondo State Governor.

Really? I never knew. Well, I know some people like that but I just had to use prominent people as examples.
I actually think age doesn't really matter sha, people are free to marry people who make them happy.

Nooooooooooooooooo

It depends on the circumstances surrounding both of you

You know the drill, Bruv

NOTHIN' ELSE MATTERS BUT LOVE!!!

And as long as you can PSYCHOLOGICALLY PERSUADE her in the Chemistry game, then you're good to go, Bruv!

You wan marry your aunty

You wan to marry someone that has been having sex since you were a child? Well go ahead and marry her...

She will make a great wife!

See my man... She Sabi watin she de do, na you no Sabi watin you de do.....
The truth is that you are too young to understand things about love... A woman of that age is emotionally more mature for a guy your age or even her age.... The truth is it might not work especially in this path of the world.. Unless ur natural attracted to more mature women.... Don't worry you will have the experience and it will make you a better person both positive or negative outcome