1Sharon:
There is a better way to deter if she's fertile before marriage. They can both go for genetic counselling together and have themselves tested.

If she gets pregnant there's no incentive to get married anymore.

sadly, many women A) dont know the above and/or B) are too scared to tell the man to go for test because that may upset/anger the dude.

its a psychological trick that is very easy to fall into... not only does the man wants to have sex with the lady, but he also wants to have unprotected sex with her. sadly, there is only one valid reply to the above story:" i am sorry that this is what you desire from me before marriage, because you clearly wasted your time and obviously fooled yourself, as i aint gonna have sex with you before marriage....that was my position yesterday, thats my position today, and this will be my position til the day of the wedding."

Nwachi22:

Don’t know. Not interested.

Alright.

Nwachi22:

Mr. Lamenter. Lol.

Stop your lamentations and move on as the guy you are lamenting and gnashing teeth over has since moved on.

numericalguy:



Stop your lamentations and move on as the guy you are lamenting and gnashing teeth over has since moved on.

I hear you, Mr. Lamenter.

Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

You're lucky.

Anybody telling you such rubbish is evil and has no future for you.

lilvicky68:
If you had hoped in two months ago you would have been the pregnant one now..

Are you sure you're not regretting your decision?

I smell pain and jealousy also

okoroemeka:
I smell pain and jealousy also

Really? Lol.

Nwachi22:


As in eh! Lol

You didn't dodge any bullet. Forget that rap that made you feel okay as if you are smart. I understand you very well, and the reason why you had to resort to this forum to pour out your heart. The issue here is are you a virgin? Of course not. Have you slept with him? Of course yes. Have you taken in before? Sure yes. Have you done an abortion before? Yes. Age is not on your side that was why he demanded that you get pregnant first. you know you are in your 30s which means it may not be easy for you take in immediately hence your decision to keep him in suspense. Whatever the case you are pained because you feel used and still lost him and not that he has a wife in Dubai which you claimed was your after- discovery. My advice to you is to trust in God so that He will give you a husband, who may not fit into your choice, but would give you a peaceful married life.
Goodluck

1Sharon:


And he may be the cause ya know?

When the op has already said he impregnated another lady. Sometimes I wonder how people reason.

Thank God for Dr. Myles Munroe. If you've ever watched any of his videos, you'd know that any man that gives you such a condition (or any condition) doesn't love you.

Oksman:


[s]You didn't dodge any bullet. Forget that rap that made you feel okay as if you are smart. I understand you very well, and the reason why you had to resort to this forum to pour out your heart. The issue here is are you a virgin? Of course not. Have you slept with him? Of course yes. Have you taken in before? Sure yes. Have you done an abortion before? Yes. Age is not on your side that was why he demanded that you get pregnant first. you know you are in your 30s which means it may not be easy for you take in immediately hence your decision to keep him in suspense. Whatever the case you are pained because you feel used and still lost him and not that he has a wife in Dubai which you claimed was your after- discovery. My advice to you is to trust in God so that He will give you a husband, who may not fit into your choice, but would give you a peaceful married life.[/s]
Goodluck

Biko, who is this one? Lol.

InTheCloudySky:
Thank God for Dr. Myles Munroe. If you've ever watched any of his videos, you'd know that any man that gives you such a condition (or any condition) doesn't love you.

Exactly. That was what I told him the first time he approached me.

Nwachi22:


Exactly. That was what I told him the first time he approached me.

If this happens again. Tell the man you are ready to take a fertility test.

Tell him you are ready to carry all his babies as every good wife looks forward to this.

Most men would move forward. This is logical.

Oksman:


You didn't dodge any bullet. Forget that rap that made you feel okay as if you are smart. I understand you very well, and the reason why you had to resort to this forum to pour out your heart. The issue here is are you a virgin? Of course not. Have you slept with him? Of course yes. Have you taken in before? Sure yes. Have you done an abortion before? Yes. Age is not on your side that was why he demanded that you get pregnant first. you know you are in your 30s which means it may not be easy for you take in immediately hence your decision to keep him in suspense. Whatever the case you are pained because you feel used and still lost him and not that he has a wife in Dubai which you claimed was your after- discovery. My advice to you is to trust in God so that He will give you a husband, who may not fit into your choice, but would give you a peaceful married life.
Goodluck

Nigga u cruel


Lol

Elporo:


If this happens again. Tell the man you are ready to take a fertility test.

Tell him you are ready to carry all his babies as every good wife looks forward to this.

Most men would move forward. This is logical.

There are plenty cases of people medically certified fertile and not able to get pregnant..

It’s one thing to test/check for bio-markers of fertility it’s another thing for the mechanism of conception to fully happen....
Some ladies that have done multiple abortions are even fertile and get pregnant before some virgins..no one know exactly why

Science cannot explain it all....that’s why there’s always a part of research with the statement

“ the reason for this is not fully understood”

Nwachi22:

Biko, who is this one? Lol.

You need not ask who is "This" because you already know before slashing the message, and accepting my goodluck wishes. I followed this thread from the beginning and realised that this was the only post you couldn't swallow. They say that "truth is bitter, but the bitter truth; sets you free"

advanceDNA:


Nigga u cruel


Lol

I am being objective and not cruel, brother.

I see a lot of her type in my circuit and I know who she is, that all.
Have a blissful day.

Oksman:


I am being objective and not cruel, brother.

I see a lot of her type in my circuit and I know who she is, that all.
Have a blissful day.

Look at this one. You see what happened to that lady, will befall your sisters and daughters.

I rest my finger.

Oksman:


You need not ask who is "This" because you already know before slashing the message, and accepting my goodluck wishes. I followed this thread from the beginning and realised that this was the only post you couldn't swallow. They say that "truth is bitter, but the bitter truth; sets you free"

Look at this one. The kind of things we see on Nairaland.
You see what happened to that lady, will befall your sisters and daughters.

I rest my finger.

advanceDNA:


Nigga u cruel


Lol

Don’t mind the anuofia that comes online to insult
his grandmother.

Nwachi22:


Look at this one. The kind of things we see on Nairaland.
You see what happened to that lady, will befall your sisters and daughters.

I rest my finger.

Nothing will befall anybody. You are so pained that you are not married yet, and someone else acted irresponsibly faster than yourself. Look if anyone has a share in your wish/curse, it's you and your evil friend who connected you to a "married" man to hook you up. It shows the low regards and the actual worth as a person she has for you because she alone knows you and your kind of lifestyle. "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so stop bleating like a goat in a pen! Your true self is not hidden to those who have discernment even if this forum is faceless. When you said a "friend" linked you up to this man, I hope you know the true def of the above quoted word when next you make an expose of yourself in a public forum.

Nwachi22:


Don’t mind the anuofia that comes online to insult
his grandmother.

What is anuofia??

Sounds like a terrible insult..

Oksman:


[s]Nothing will befall anybody. You are so pained that you are not married yet, and someone else acted irresponsibly faster than yourself. Look if anyone has a share in your wish/curse, it's you and your evil friend who connected you to a "married" man to hook you up. It shows the low regards and the actual worth as a person she has for you because she alone knows you and your kind of lifestyle. "Birds of the same feathers flock together" so stop bleating like a goat in a pen! Your true self is not hidden to those who have discernment even if this forum is faceless. When you said a "friend" linked you up to this man, I hope you know the true def of the above quoted word when next you make an expose of yourself in a public forum[/s].

Thrash. Lol.
Are you sure you’re not even the man in question. I wonder why you’re so pained by my post. Chai! I pity you, please take it easy. I fully understand the root cause of your problems; Hunger and Frustration. Jobless anuofia.

Nwachi22:


Thrash. Lol.
Are you sure you’re not even the man in question. I wonder why you’re so pained by my post. Chai! I pity you, please take it easy. I fully understand the root cause of your problems; Hunger and Frustration. Jobless anuofia.

hi.. saw your email

Any man that tells you to take
in first, you should also ask him to
deposit 2m in your account as security..☺️☺️☺️

Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.

Why do I see this comment as damage control?

Anyways, I can't advise a close sis to accept such offer.

Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

You just goofed and messed up the opportunity you have to get married. You should be hiding your face in regret now.

The guy is just going about doing "random sampling". You are just lucky, thank your God.

Nothing bad with that, I'll definitely do same.

Nwachi22:


I opened this thread for my fellow ladies to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.

He kept that part from you? What about the friend that introduced u to him?