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Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Foodqueen(f): 8:49am On Nov 07, 2021 |
And am very sure, u once dated a homely girl. But when she was doing those things her mother taught her to do diligently, you took it for desperation and u abandoned her. Seeing the way good girls are abandoned to marry all these other type of girls ehn! 4 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by crackhaus: 8:49am On Nov 07, 2021 |
There's nothing really unusual with your wife... She's just another woman who wants her man to tolerate all of her bullshit in the name of love. The only mistake you made was not putting your foot down & correcting her behaviour from the start. Overlooking a woman's wrong NEVER ends well because she will simply get more comfortable doing those things you don't like. I wish I could tell you (like everyone else is doing) to start putting your foot down and forcing her to change, but I'll be honest that you have only a 50/50 chance at succeeding because there'll be resistance (like you're already experiencing). You simply can't teach an old dog new tricks... and if you try to force it to learn, you might get bitten. I advise you call her bluff on that "divorce threat", let's see what she can do and how far she can go... but your mind strong reach? 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Richy4(m): 8:50am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Please do not let this be the reason why u will have problem in your marriage... It's unfortunate that you did not court with her long enough to see if you can put up with those annoying thing... Get a house help my dear... And enjoy your marriage... Just try and look past those dirty laundry and mountain of dirty dishes and focus on the good stuff...U can't get the full package in marriage buddy... U have to learn to be tolerant and over look certain things.. it's annoying I know but try.. and it will get worse by the time babies starts coming...by then, her excuse will be she was taking care of the BABY...U got married to one of those ladies every good grandmother warn their grandsons to avoid ![]() |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by crackhaus: 8:51am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Foodqueen:Seems personal to you... ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Inferior19: 8:56am On Nov 07, 2021 |
umehaam:Lol.Threatening you with divorce,over what? For a minor issue like this.Sorry I'm not a prophet of doom,but looking at this early threat,I think her eyes is set outside already. Now be careful not to add her name to any property, we don't want to hear story that touches the heart. 2 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Nobody: 8:56am On Nov 07, 2021 |
umehaam: Oga are you sure you're a man? How can someone under your roof control you? |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Kobojunkie: 9:18am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Foodqueen:So only these "homely" girls know how to do their part of chores in marriage? Or are you suggesting only these "homely" women are deserving of marriage? ![]() |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Newboss(m): 9:30am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Kick her out of your house. Na mumu she be. Bloody simp! |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by ImaIma1(f): 9:42am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Lush100: What point will she want to prove? That she cannot wash plates? Or that if her husband doesn't wash it, she can't do it? When we see nonsense, we should not condone it. We should call it out and condemn it. If her husband cannot do it, he should report her to a family member who can. Her behaviour is a very horrible one. It is his duty right now to make sure she doesn't continue in it especially because he is the direct beneficiary. 2 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Biglittlelois(f): 10:12am On Nov 07, 2021 |
I've always wondered how humans can be comfortable in a dirty environment, i don't know if its just me, cos once I see or I'm forced to be at a dirty irritating disgusting environment, especially for a long period, I always control myself cos it makes feel like screaming or gnaw at something, I hate dirt, lazy people are the worst, they can make you loose your mind, At Op, if she cares less about sweeping, cooking, mopping, and washing plates, I do not want to imagine how your toilet and bathroom looks like, I just can't ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Klass99(f): 10:32am On Nov 07, 2021 |
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Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by GboyegaD(m): 11:35am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Teach her to do stuffs the way you want it in love. Learn not to nag her and watch her grow. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Nobody: 11:44am On Nov 07, 2021 |
Foodqueen: Women, you people will always blame men for everything. Did he tell you he dated an homely girl? |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Nobody: 12:07pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Klass99: That's why It's always good to spend time with whoever you are going to marry before actually marrying them, if possible live together for some couple of months or sleep multiple times at their place to see how they are in real time. All this visit me once in and go back home like born-again sister Mary Amaka doesn't work in 2021. Someone you will spend the next 60 years with and you did not know their in-and-out before saying I do. We keep seeing stories on Nairaland of people surprising their spouse after marriage. I had a female flatmate who ordinarily washing of dishes use to make us fight daily, It was crazy. I used to wonder how little things like dish washing can be a problem to her. I mean her own plates oh, not even everyone else. I can imagine marrying such a lady without living with her, how much would I be spending money on maids just to wash common plate. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by emmanuelbrown26: 12:09pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
izzou:U are dumb and senseless with this your comment. 4 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by emmanuelbrown26: 12:30pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
umehaam:As for opening business for, pls don't I repeat don't, even if she were to be my sister don't open a damn business for her. Secondly, u were too open and she took advantage of that. I tell guys around not to be too open and soft on women. Once u are soft on them, always expect the worst from them. I have dealt with women both young and old and I know how I brought them on their kneels. So never u jorpertise your happiness for anything, peace of mind and happiness should never be sacrificed bcs of marriage. If this union no work, abeg free her let her go and meet who would tolerate her attitudes bcs she has too much ego 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by emmanuelbrown26: 12:33pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
umehaam:Don't u think that it's very early to bring maid? If she can't do anything now that's only 2 of u, she would never do anything again in that union if u eventually bring in maid. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Justbehave(m): 12:39pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Are you tired of being called a realman? Foolish simp who cannot put his wife in her place.Serves you right. This should be a lesson to your fellow simps and Sissies women call REALMEN. |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by frozen70(f): 12:54pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
umehaam: Divorce dey fear you ? If you don't take time, you will be the slave of that marriage Just domestic chores she can't do what other women does as daily chores Her type will put to bed and her only job will be to breast feed the baby and she may even use breast pump, just to be free from any thing called task She will make sure she dumps the baby for you to carry, you and the house help will be the one carrying the baby, she will definitely do so It's not too late to divorce her but it's best to be happy staying away from someone that came into your life to give you heavy load Just suspend the issue of opening business for her, like getting a shop, she won't even have time to be going to shop on a daily basis Inshort, help yourself, unless you have taken that as a cross to carry |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Oizee(f): 1:21pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
I don't know the part that is so much annoying, she threatened u with a divorce and u couldn't tell her to go..... Let me tell you something, women like trying men to know what they can tolerate, don't be emotional and too weak. Make a wise decision and put ur home in order.... maintain your stand, let her know that ur no is no, and you are saying no to her dirty attitude... Belle never enter and she's like dis, I pity u o. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by 22o62021: 2:04pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
I want to upload this Both men and women should know this Again op If you don’t stop her now, you can never stop her in future. My neighbors sister is like that She will dump pot in the sink for months I don talk tire
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Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by izzou(m): 2:06pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Klass99: No wahala. Hopefully the next lady he meets would be neat, tidy and have no cons to complain about |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by pocohantas(f): 2:30pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Unteachable people are the worst set of humans to be in any form of relationship with. The problem is hardly ever their shortcomings. The problem is they never make corrections. They will employ all manner of emotional blackmail, threats and whatnot, all to ensure they don’t apologize or change. Very difficult set of humans. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Mariangeles(f): 3:04pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
GboyegaD: You can only teach a person who’s willing to be taught. |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by dahmie2013: 3:05pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Wow... If this is true, you are definitely my kind of man. I love neat men. I am extremely neat. To the matter, please just accept her for who she is so peace can reign in your home. |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Justbehave(m): 3:14pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
dahmie2013:Can you accept a dirty man who is unwilling to change for peace to reign? As you sef love neat men. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by dahmie2013: 3:16pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Justbehave:The challenge is, he didn't do his due diligence before getting married. For me after the God factor, that is the next I must check. I won't support divorce on this grounds. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Mariangeles(f): 3:17pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
dahmie2013: Anything for peace okwaya? Ebelebe! ![]() |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Justbehave(m): 3:32pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
dahmie2013:Let's assume you found yourself in such situation. Will you accommodate such even as he has refused to understand and make amends ? |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by dahmie2013: 3:37pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Justbehave:Fine, to be honest, I am a religious person. I will just accept my fate. |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Yankioutfit(m): 3:45pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
Lord have Mercy. My brother, don’t divorce her . You guys need to work on your communication skills, it’s Not easy at first but you will get there… Talk to her gently with love , cause clearly she doesn’t see anything wrong with what she is doing . Try to do something nice for her , like take her out to a nice restaurant. Then when it’s time to cook , you guys can cook together. Teach her how to do things . Her mother did a Bad job for Not teaching her how to be a wife , she lacks some home training. So probably Not her fault cause No one taught her . But I can tell you Love her a lot, so Don’t loss that. And importantly, keep asking God for the right way to go about your marriage. God bless you both �� |
Re: Please I Need Someone To Tell Me If I’m Wrong Or Not. by Justbehave(m): 3:45pm On Nov 07, 2021 |
dahmie2013:This is where most of us make mistakes in marriage. Being a religious person doesn't mean you should allow things get to worst and get hurt before taking actions. Have you ever asked yourself why anybody administering a marriage vow always use FOR BETTER FOR WORSE AND NOT FOR BETTER FOR WORST ? |
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