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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by SilvanusII(m): 7:31am On Nov 08, 2021
I bet that this complainant probably treats the nanny as trash outside of her duties. It is already clear that she sees her staff as subhuman. That her major complaint is that she will be calling her former staff 'aunt' is also evidence of a jumped up ego, large enough to suffocate her. You have not yet been peppered. I only hope that the nanny is really a good person because I would make your life miserable just for the singular reason that you voiced your objection to my marrying your father in law.

Anyway, if I am her husband, I'd be finding ways to divorce her. I intensely dislike inhumane people.
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Fourwinds: 7:32am On Nov 08, 2021
Biglittlelois:



I'm not asking of your mum's decisions, I'm asking of your outward emotions and reaction to what she did,

The wife the Op talked about expressed her feelings on what her father in law did, which in her right she is justified, no one will be happy of such a scenario except we want to deceive ourselves, and I for one do not like to deceive myself.

If your mother gets pregnant for your driver, you will not be happy about it, but you just have to accept her decision to marry him.


At 65 the man still sabi fire oooooooooo... Very conversant with the direction grin

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Johel(m): 7:32am On Nov 08, 2021
MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.


U get problem sha...so because she's a nanny then u feel u are better...You are part of the family already,why stress over who's madam and who isn't?...u better don't make dem see u as the enemy and face your business...Start planning on how to have a happy ending instead of all this...nanny is a woman and a human like you...afterall,even your husband has no issues with his father's decision...You should aim peace instead of superiority.
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by hamtabfawaz(m): 7:32am On Nov 08, 2021
Biglittlelois:


Who said they shouldn't enjoy their choices?

Get it, making ones opinion known on an issue positively or negatively as in the case of the Op, and expressing it is not a bad thing, this shouldn't be too hard to understand.

Expressing it to the point of crying?
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Adadioranma79(f): 7:32am On Nov 08, 2021
Not related at all

Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by everythinggirly(f): 7:33am On Nov 08, 2021
From nanny to darling grin
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by ReubenE(m): 7:33am On Nov 08, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him

The OP is not biologically related to grandpa, so I don't understand the parallel you are trying to draw here. Papa's son is happy.

The unhappy one here is not the son, but another woman married into the family just like the maid.

The only problem here is pride. Pride of seeing someone below you rise to your level. The house belongs to the father, and obviously his family including his son is happy with his decision.

OP can't claim to care more about grandpa than his own son. She should allow her husband to worry about his father's decision.

We all prioritize our happiness above others most times as humans.
Unfortunately for the OP, grandpa's happiness is more superior than her happiness in his own house
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Dextre(m): 7:34am On Nov 08, 2021
Biglittlelois:



A logical response, and @bolded, I'm glad you see my point that selfish traits has nothing to do with a particular gender but humans generally, no man or woman will be happy seeing his father getting married to their maid, no man or woman will be happy seeing his/her mother get pregnant and marry their driver,

All these idiots coming online, opening their dirty mouth/typing with their hands, making it seem as if being unconformable or going against what is not the norm is a woman thing of hating each other, are fools I have to say, fools too stupid and ignorant to accept reality to know that it is okay to hate what you hate.


Ignorance is your major problem. Nobody is better than anybody, circumstance is what differentiate us, the fact that you just spewed all this trash confirms the idea that you women look down on each other and people in general. If the so called woman isn’t married to the man, you think she will be privileged as she is today?
If the papa is happy with his decision, so be it, let a nigga be. Highest let her tell them it will create awkwardness around the house so they move out. Just imagine the stupidity, you want to tell another person how to live their life? Person wey nor even be her husband? Person wey nor be ur papa?
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by GAZZUZZ(m): 7:34am On Nov 08, 2021
MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

Nah your husband get that belle, Popp's and the children are just covering for him.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by beelyjay45(m): 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
Madam, I will only tell you the fact and will not judge you.

1. Your father In-law is still active and can make judgment calls on his own "HE IS AN ADULT" SAME AS YOUR MAID
2. The fact that you employed her as your maid does not mean they can't be your Boss or be better than your person in future, her journey in life and yours are different be happy for her.
3. The fact that your husband and his siblings agree to the union(non of their biz too) they know their father better and know that he isn't the kind of man that fools around and his wife is late for crying out loud he saw something good in her that's why he's marrying her.
4. Lastly you need to come to terms with the reality on the ground your former maid is now your father In-law's wife and she's carrying his child could either be your brother/sister-in-law so you need to respect that status and come to terms with it and from your narration you never mentioned the maid giving you attitude, so thank God for that she technically is the Boss now because her husband is the CEO of the company your husband works in. So ma nobody is challenging you in your space as a wife and a mother pls stop letting your mind play tricks on you. God just elevated a maid to the wife of the CEO so I ask "which of the favours of your Lord would you Deny"

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by BABANGBALI: 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
All I know is that sniper is no longer expenses like before and it is now very affordable
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Preciousppearl(f): 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
Never look down on anyone. We are all humans.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by meetme01: 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
The question is, how old is the wife? Having a 32years old lady as nanny is what I can't decode. If her husband was not busy, he might even be the one to impregnate the nanny.

Solution is simple.. To me, you brought a new wife for your father in law unknowingly because you were too busy to take care of him. He didn't nag or complain that you were too busy. And bringing forth a young lady to do your job relieved him.

Now, the deed has been done. It's either you calm your nerves because your husband will NEVER be on side. Reason been that, the money ge brings home is from your father in law's company. If you don't want to loose your home, be patient. When I say, PATIENT, it takes a lot of maturity. Calm your nerves, treat her well.

In this situation, if you don't calm your nerves and be patient, you might loose your home because other siblings will NEVER be on your side. They want happiness for their Dad and anyone that will cut if short, will have a lot to deal with.

The right time will come when you will be justified. Don't fight. Don't nag. I know it's geasy said than done but all these is what you need to keep your home.

Marriage is full of ups and downs. This is yours, accept and move. Others are worse, yet it was managed.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by 8stargeneral: 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
Na woman be problem of this world
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by treatise: 7:35am On Nov 08, 2021
We call it "happy ending". Madam, just brace up and turbocharged for the new reality. We move!
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Dextre(m): 7:37am On Nov 08, 2021
Johel:



U get problem sha...so because she's a nanny then u feel u are better...You are part of the family already,why stress over who's madam and who isn't?...u better don't make dem see u as the enemy and face your business...Start planning on how to have a happy ending instead of all this...nanny is a woman and a human like you...afterall,even your husband has no issues with his father's decision...You should aim peace instead of superiority.


Honestly ehn, unless the woman has been wicked to the nanny, then she shouldn’t even make a fuss about it. If person wey get papa say no problem, wetin be ur own there, even to the extent of crying and writing up a 300words essay in the name of ‘I need a suggestion’

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Adadioranma79(f): 7:37am On Nov 08, 2021
She should be happy she was used as a vessel to change a life. She should get another nanny, mind her business and be happy she made a positive difference.

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Das1mama: 7:37am On Nov 08, 2021
Are u surprised?, i knw d question running thru ur mind, how did it ever happen and so on like, what were u thinking or how did u not feel or suspect all along that such was happening behind ur back, D Truth is not bitter but pple are bitter 2 d Truth; if u must be free and truthful with urself. 1, u must overcome pride, hatred it only leads to destruction 2, Try to view that u are part of nature meaning for u to be where u are today is not because u are d most qualified or perfect, for her to be a house maid is not because she wants it, nature decided it. 3, Find a way to make peace with her, since it's nature that made it this way, Nature will always remind her u were the source to her sudden fortune and she will be forever indebted to you only if u apply the right steps. 4, what u have to do now is relax ur nerves, force urself to be calm; if u have treated her either right or wrong, make her see reasons to your actions of what it takes to maintain your roles. Shalom
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Lizzieo(f): 7:38am On Nov 08, 2021
Honestly,I see no reason why she should be angry,it is the father in law decision and he is happy with it. So far u are not blood -related with the nanny,so what is the issue. U are just an intermediary for connection, if it is ur husband that impregnated the nanny,what will u have done? Pls wisen up!!!!!!!!
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by dannovidlimited: 7:38am On Nov 08, 2021
u are just too greed dat u don't want another person to prosper
instead of u to rejoice at somebody x breakthrough u are pained
it's not u husband that married her so waiting concerned u there
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Omniman(m): 7:39am On Nov 08, 2021
If this story is true,
Nanny is now richer than madam
Madam is pained grin

Screw madam for hating on nanny
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by edoairways: 7:39am On Nov 08, 2021
The summary of this story is this, the aggrevied is bitter because someone has reduced the wealth allocation. Someone has been promoted from grass to grace
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by chinedu202000(m): 7:40am On Nov 08, 2021
crackhaus:

This woman don't have sense. She will just die for nothing.. grin

I wonder what makes her think she's more special or on a higher level than a maid.

Abi is it not the same vagina both of them are carrying, or does her own taste like strawberry and smell like fresh roses?

Wonderful!!

I've said it before and it's a fact that women look down on other women than men looking down on women. cheesy

Madam, Kill your pride before it will kill you. Maybe you have been eyeing your father in-law and it didn't work for you. Jesus made Himself of no reputation and you are calling someone a maid, are you not a maid or house help?
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by TOPCRUISE(m): 7:40am On Nov 08, 2021
This is what s slay queen celeb meant when she said what you have to take what is rightfully yours. That's is your body.
Very Bad.
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by deardear2021(f): 7:40am On Nov 08, 2021
U said ur father in-law married her and not your hubby, so why worried so much about that when you were also "married" into the home. My candid advise to u is that u should accept and love her like ur own sister..... because if u continue with d angar and hating on her, I tell u sis, u will live to regrate one day. Chop some sense abeg. And please stop with that #housemaid# stuff because she is human like u are
MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by jornwhite: 7:41am On Nov 08, 2021
Biglittlelois:
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How will you feel if your mother gets pregnant for your driver and end up marrying him



Preek are destined to be shameless that why you would see a full grown man stand in the middle of the road bring out his preek to unirate in full glare of the public, even the most shameless prostitute won't do such.
my point in short is; women have PRIDE & men have EGO ... if you check d meaning you will realise why his mother won't even think of marrying a driver as a solution for being pregnant for her driver. everyone wants a perfect image of a mother so it will hurt

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Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by Joydan95: 7:42am On Nov 08, 2021
MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

*************************************

Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

******************
What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

So long your nanny didn’t collect your husband, there is no problem. No one is born as a nanny, it’s just part of her life’s journey. I will advise you pack out especially if you maltreated her cos it will be a case of karma living next door
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by olawaley12(m): 7:42am On Nov 08, 2021
I don't know if i'm the only one who's going to say this but i see nothing bad here. You're just hating GOD'S blessings. Nawao
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by iscom(m): 7:44am On Nov 08, 2021
Oshey
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by 8stargeneral: 7:45am On Nov 08, 2021
Nanny find hope in a hopeless place.
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by mejai(m): 7:46am On Nov 08, 2021
Such story was even in the Bible...

I dey come make I go find the verse in proverbs


Ehen... Proverbs 30:19 and 23.

Wonderful!!!








Step mother in-law.... Chai grin
Re: My House Maid Has Become My Madam In My Own Home by snoopz: 7:47am On Nov 08, 2021
no be everybody wish to be house maid o, na condition make fish bend.
why are you angry or sad your maid made way for her self? @32, she made a wise and bold decision to win the heart of the man at the top of the food chain, I salute her courage to secure her future as far as say no be your husband she collect, abi you wan make she die as house maid
move on lady!!! and remember to call her mummy wa not maid again

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