Davash222:
Women and Wickedness.

InTheCloudySky:
At least let her finish her story before jumping to conclusions.

Davash222:

I can't waste my time to wait for her to finish. Women are naturally wicked to their fellow women.

Davash222:

I can't waste my time to wait for her to finish. Women are naturally wicked to their fellow women.

Davash222:
Women and Wickedness.

Opeyemiextra:
C'mon! Be better. Please note that she said they both had an agreement about this.

Davash222:
Wicked gender.

I no get una time.

Davash222:

What nonsense agreement

Agreement or no agreement, women are naturally wicked and evil to their fellow women.

I want you to agree to this.

Davash222:

What nonsense agreement

Agreement or no agreement, women are naturally wicked and evil to their fellow women.

I want you to agree to this.

InTheCloudySky:
At least let her finish her story before jumping to conclusions.

Perciy:
Good day Nairalanders,

I've been a silent follower of Nairaland for many years, but something bothering me and about making me lose my mental health made me run here for advice.

I'll try to be precise. I'm married with 3 kids, 2 years old twin boys and a less than 6 months old daughter. Our marriage is 3years. We relocated to Lagos state 3 years back after we got married. God has been so faithful to us. My husband's youngest sister who got a job shortly after came to live with us.

Before we got married, we both agreed no one would live with us at least for the first five years of our marriage, but boom, my sister-in-law came. Before she came I asked my husband how long she'd be living with us...

To be continued shortly.

tabithababy:
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Please finish this story

Truvelisback:
U don't need to quarrel with her or with ur husband. Live with her with wisdom. Whenever she wants to eat, put a little quantity for her to avoid wastage. When she finish eating, tell her to wash the plate she ate with. When u guys are having fun, always luck the door.

Perciy:
Thanks for your input, won't telling her to wash her sound like an insult to her? Remember I said she doesn't like to be corrected. This person in question is older than me with a few years.

Moreso, you've advised I live with her with wisdom, but I'm just wondering how long she'd live with us. Our home is so comfortable, i fear she might not want to leave the comfort she's getting at my house to get her own place. It's well. Thanks again for your input.

Truvelisback:
Don't let her comfort bothers u. As a wife, u should be accomodative to family members including visitors. Just live with her peacefully.

Perciy:
Good day Nairalanders,

I've been a silent follower of Nairaland for many years, but something bothering me and about making me lose my mental health made me run here for advice.

I'll try to be precise. I'm married with 3 kids, 2 years old twin boys and a less than 6 months old daughter. Our marriage is 3years. We relocated to Lagos state after we got married 2 years and a few months back. God has been so faithful to us. My husband's youngest sister who got a job shortly after came to live with us.

UPDATED

Before we got married, we both agreed no one would live with us at least for the first five years of our marriage, but boom, my sister-in-law came. Before she came I asked my husband how long she'd be living with us, he decided to pick up a quarrel with me in order not to give me a response.

Now my reasons for asking how long she'd be living with us are these:
1. To at least let her know what is obtainable as she'd live with us, know her boundaries
2. To give a clue that we had already agreed no one will be living with us at least for now, so she can stay for some time with us even if it's for 3 years to be able to save up and get a place of her own.
These points are what I wanted to suggest to him before he walked out of the conversation.

This is because I feel just letting anyone come stay with us without having a definite time of the person leaving will put a strain on our young marriage, no matter who the person is related to.

Before she got the job, she put her friend's address on her CV as her place of residence even before we relocated to Lagos. But I understand it will be somehow to live with a friend when her brother's place is still close by.

To the crux of the matter, this lady is so disorganized, dirty and doesn't like to be corrected. She doesn't respect boundaries, she badges into our bedroom without knocking to take my stuffs without seeking for permission. She has once badged in on us making love. If I'm taking my bath she can enter the bathroom to take whatever. I feel so exposed, I'm someone who loves her privacy which my husband knows.

Also, whatever happens in my home my husband's family is aware because of the lady in my house.

This lady is very wasteful, she doesn't contribute a dime to the running of the home. I support financially in the running of our home. If I serve her food, she can tell me the food is much so I can take from it, but NO! She would eat little from it and dump the rest in the kitchen sink, especially this time that food prices are pricey.
She doesn't assist in any chore at home, she washes the dishes once in a while and eats and keeps her plate for me to wash most of the times.

The general bathroom which she alone uses, because I have a bathroom in my bedroom is always dirty, when visitors come I feel ashamed when they use the convenience, coz it's most times dirty, I was forced to tell one of my visitors to use my bathroom, coz I was ashamed to show her the other convenience. There are lots more but I won't want to say more. Taking care of 2 toddlers and an infant with no help is no easy task, adding an extra load to my responsibility is not easy task for me.

This lady works in a good organisation that is very well known. I think it's time to get a place of her own as she has lived with us for 2 years and I'm sure she should have saved up a little. I will also suggest he assist her with some funds in getting a place.

I can't tell her what to do, she ignores me. This is my marriage and I think I deserve the coverage my marriage needs, I need my privacy too. I'm so exhausted, I'm losing my mental health already.

I'm considering discussing with my husband to discuss with her to work towards getting a place of her own. Will I be considered wicked if I do so?

prettysassygirl:
Please ask her to leave.period