No. From your post, your SIL is the wicked one.

Perciy:

Also, whatever happens in my home my husband's family is aware because of the lady in my house.

She needs to leave. Besides her bad behaviours and attitudes in your home, which are too numerous for me to quote, the above is a major problem. You have tried to have put up with all these for two years. It's time for her to bounce.

Let me be very frank with you.

1. She's envious that you're married and she's not. I blame your husband for everything. It's only him that can deliver you. Only him. Any other method will result into problems in your marriage.
The children of my dad's elder brother (cousins), who are really way younger than my mum, came to our house. One is a guy, the other a lady. My mum served them food. After eating, the lady left her plate on the table and also prevented her brother from taking it to the kitchen. My mum hadn't even complained to my dad when he saw them. My dad shouted on her, and sent her to the kitchen immediately to drop the plate. You see, that's how it should be. I'm sorry, kindly endure her till she gets married. I know it's hard but from the look of things, anything you do, anything at all, will be counted against you.
Let me give you a secret. Whenever she's around, radiate happiness and joy. That will get to her cos all she's doing is intentional, to make you sad. Sing joyful song around the house, play music, dance and carry out your chores with so much joy. She's a narcissist. There isn't much you can do to please or change her.

Btw, I wish you can travel for sometime, maybe visit your family. This will reveal her to your husband and afford him the opportunity to see her true colour for himself. But if you can't, just be prayerful. Pray that God make her leave. He can.
Finally, always maintain a pure heart towards her.

Ah, your sister-in-law is the replica of the devil himself. Mr. Malami needs to take a crash course from you on how to professionally defame a person that going to the court of law won't be necessary. How can a person appear completely useless, just because you are obsessed with throwing her out of your house? I am cocksure if she were your sister, you wouldn't be so crass and indifferent in painting her bad.

It's same people, same story. You know the talk about how to easily hang a dog, just give it a bad name. Sadly for you, your husband has seen beyond your infantile territorial wrangling, and should be commended for ignoring you.

The sister is a bully but you need to be more patient and tolerant. The relationship between you and your husband is faulty as well otherwise, you ought to have discussed this long before now.

I don't have the full picture so i don't know how to advise you.

Try to be a bit more tolerant with her since she would also be married one day. Some familes do not respect boundaries as lobg as they are related to the husband.

no, you won't be considered wicked.

don't feel guilty for anything that is not your doing/fault.

the girl is wicked.
your husband went against your agreement, and he is still allowing worse happen

I don't see much of an issues here.

If your sister-in-law is disorganized, dirty. Most ladies are like that, clean on the outside but dirty within. I don't see how this is an issue that should warrant her leaving the house.

If she is invading your privacy your husband has to let her know the area of the house that are out of bound to her.

On the issue of being wasteful, I don't want to believe that she can't take food by herself.

Taking care of 2 toddlers and an infant is no mean task. Also, most jobs today are also very demanding that most workers barely have time for themselves let alone house cleaning. The solution here is to get a maid who comes weekend to do all the cleaning.

Madam, the day you got married, you got married to your husband and his entire family. This is Africa, where families represent a tight knitted community. Your "My home", "My marriage" convey the impression that you are trying to take your husband away from his family or that you don't want his families around him. If that is your intention, my dear, you are morally wrong.

Foodqueen:
Op, for her to have lived with you for two years with all these characters means that u have tolerated her enough and indeed you are a good person.

She's really comfortable in her space, that's why she isn't planning to move.

Marriage na wa!!

Op just painted everything in a way that will favour her. From her statement, read the line very well, "that the husband family now knows what's going on bcs of the said sister inlaw" this shows that op has attitude

emmanuelbrown26:

Op just painted everything in a way that will favour her. From her statement, read the line very well, "that the husband family now knows what's going on bcs of the said sister inlaw" this shows that op has attitude

No, I don't think so.

Every family have their ish from time to time and settles without any outsider knowing.

There are some things she may just want to joke about but she can't cos her sis-in- luv might get read meanings to it.

She misses her space.

mrblessed:
Ah, your sister-in-law is the replica of the devil himself. Mr. Malami needs to take a crash course from you on how to professionally defame a person that going to the court of law won't be necessary. How can a person appear completely useless, just because you are obsessed with throwing her out of your house? I am cocksure if she were your sister, you wouldn't be so crass and indifferent in painting her bad.

It's same people, same story. You know the talk about how to easily hang a dog, just give it a bad name. Sadly for you, your husband has seen beyond your infantile territorial wrangling, and should be commended for ignoring you.

I never knew that we still have men with guts like u. I salute u sir, women are damn selfish and op is too selfish and self centered

Foodqueen:


No, I don't think so.

Every family have their ish from time to time and settles without any outsider knowing.

There are some things she may just want to joke about but she can't cos her sis-in- luv might get read meanings to it.

She misses her space.

We are talking about selfish and self centered human being here.
From everything she wrote, it was all about the sister inlaw, I know her type