slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

Jesus Christ.

Now I see why some people chose to remain single

Arsenate:

Ma'am, he literally just told the whole world that he washes the toilet and gets his wife "little inexpensive things" in order to cajole her into having sex with him. His wife oo. His legally married wife whom he paid bride price on. How is that wisdom? That is absolutely pathetic and pitiful and I'm sure you wouldn't wish this on your brother (I'm assuming you mean well for your brother)

Gosh, the things that pass as "wisdom" in women's book. Wtf

So because he paid bride price means he shouldn't do anything else for his marriage?

Kobojunkie:
A woman married to you is still a human being and not a sex doll or slave. Once you get that into your head, you will be well on your way towards finding a resolution to your marital problem.

If you really don't want to cheat on your wife , then the options available to you are as follows:

■ Find a channel through which you can expend the excess energy you carry around with you there self control and discipline aren't lessons only kids ought to learn. Adults benefit a great deal from having such lessons planted in them from childhood, and are still able to learn them. Take up exercise, Sports or a hobby that allows you focus on other things to take your mind off sex.

■ Work on improving the health of your marriage .i.e., communication, stress management for both of you
etc. You and wife can seek out professional marriage counseling to help you both figure out how to help each other in this problem

■ Also consider the aid or a sex therapist as a couple to help you get the best sexually out of each other.

He ought to have done all these before getting married.

Newbielearner:
He ought to have done all these before getting married.

How? Do you resolve a problem before you even realize it?

theForth:


You're such a shame of a man, you're everything a man shouldn't be.

The man shock me. I don't want to say he's a simp.
I don't even know what to call him

ogahope:


Well said, I believe he is young in marriage. He should always look for the happy moment of the wife and strick. If he knows he will strick any time, he should prepare the way early enough and avoid quarry and provocative words. He should also learn to be more romantic even when he doesn't want sex.

Which is why no one should marry because of sex. Marry for partnership. Otherwise, stay single.

Kobojunkie:
How? Do you resolve a problem before you even realize it?

If they had met marriage counsellors before marriage, all these areas would have been planned for...

Asour:


"Counseling. Counseling. Counseling. Don't go religious"

So you guys say. But relationship counseling is not an exact science! The variables in human relationships are not modellable & human behaviour/responses are extremely complex.

The tendency to reduce relationship problems to Therapy & counseling without faith is Pretentious!

No Human words is potent enough to change the unprepared.

This is wisdom, i have been looking for the right words to pass this same message across. Everybody advocates counselling these days as if the art itself is an elixir for marital issues.

Even the counsellors have their own issues in their homes and therefore have their own biases.

No human word is potent enough to change the unprepared

Newbielearner:
If they had met marriage counsellors before marriage, all these areas would have been planned for...

You think meeting marriage counselors before marriage helps resolve all marriage issues include sec issues? Who gave you that idea?

theForth:


You're such a shame of a man, you're everything a man shouldn't be.

I swae,him comment just dey irritate me for body..na agbaya simp,very old married agbaya simp.

okpanachil:
This is wisdom, i have been looking for the right words to pass this same message across. Everybody advocates counselling this days as if the art itself is an elixir for marital issues.

Even the counsellors have their own issues in their homes and therefore have their own biases.

No human word is potent enough to change the unprepared

I believe you don't understand what the job of a Counselor is instead.

A Counselor is not there to offer you human words or an elixir of any sort. He is instead there as a coach to guide the man and woman through the steps to resolving their relationship problems by themselves.

Yes, coaches can also have their own issues but that doesn't disqualify them from being coaches for others or needing coaches of their own since the process is far removed from the individual acting as coach..

The problem with humans is that they fail to tell themselves the truth.
There is always a constant in any type of relationship which is insatiability.
It has nothing to do with how good they are on bed or how much care they give each other.
Even with all the styles on bed or not, humans still crave for new experiences, the only difference being that some apply a lot of psyche to suppress such cravings.
A practical example. If a man has a wife with a very big backside, Don't be surprised when he goes for a smaller rounded back. Same for women whose husbands are huge or financially buoyant; they could even wana taste something below that level.
Some ladies even fantasize making out with their oppressors (strange but true)

All these marriage financial problems, kids and stress are just excuses for a boring experience.
Don't be surprised if you take that same wife of yours to some resort for weekends and watch how she would ask you for sex just by seeing other couples kiss and hold each other at the pool side

slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

Some slaves were happy with slavery because their masters beat them less than other slaves and gave them old clothes and allowed them to work in the house and not on the field. It didn’t change the fact that they were slaves though.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control
myself?

OGA pray about it

For divine intervention

For the power of God to fall on her for her to be in the mood
When you are in the mood


since she's your wife

God would grant it

INCREDIBLE007:

OGA pray about it
For divine intervention
For the power of God to fall on her for her to be in the mood
When you are in the mood since she's your wife
God would grant it

Abeg leave God out of this make the man and wife find Commonsense solutions instead.

Power of God will turn woman into sex machine because the husband no fit adapt some level of self-control? Na so dem tell you say God dey work?

Kobojunkie:
Abeg leave God out of this make the man and wife find Commonsense solutions instead.

Power of God will turn woman into sex machine because the husband no fit adapt some level of self-control? Na so dem tell you say God dey work?

The guy na person wey fear God

If not he 4 don apply option 2

So, there's a verse in the bible that says

"It is better to marry than to burn"

If he reminds God that, and ask God to give his wife the grace to be in the mood when he's there
God would grant his request

It's not God will for a family to be broken

Kobojunkie:
I believe you don't understand what the job of a Counselor is instead.

A Counselor is not there to offer you human words or an elixir of any sort. He is instead there as a coach to guide the man and woman through the steps to resolving their relationship problems by themselves.
.

I take it counsellors are there to offer you some supernatural words that will help in resolution right?

Mind you I am not saying counselling is not effective, i am saying that alone is not enough, as it takes a willing partner to engage.

Most marital issues border on selfishness by either or both parties.

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

Humans! Always denying self because of some sort of religion.

Wait longer, you will tear that ur shirt and run round the street.

Deevorce her azz. She is giving it to her ex. or she is sexually poor or not intelligent.

this is a surefire sign that she's not intelligent.

Any girl that is sexually not active is not intelligent

INCREDIBLE007:
The guy na person wey fear God
If not he 4 don apply option 2
So, there's a verse in the bible that says
"It is better to marry than to burn"
If he reminds God that, and ask God to give his wife the grace to be in the mood when he's there
God would grant his request
It's not God will for a family to be broken

Anyone who fears God will know that option 1 is always self-controls and self-discipline. Jesus Christ did it, Moses did it... Ezekiel, Hosea, John the Baptist, Jeremiah etc., they all did it and some lived that way for many decades. So don't just assume a person fears God simply because the person has not chosen what you consider Optlon 2.

It was Paul that supposedly wrote it is better to marry than to burn, but guess what? God teaches us that self-control and self-discipline is His will for us whether married or not.

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

In that case, a wife must be treated like a girl friend even after marriage..Tickling her fancy..

The part you show her result and demand finish me with laughter.

A happy woman Will always be in the mood..

okpanachil:
I take it counsellors are there to offer you some supernatural words that will help in resolution right?

Mind you I am not saying counselling is not effective, i am saying that alone is not enough, as it takes a willing partner to engage.

Most marital issues border on selfishness by either or both parties.

There is absolutely nothing supernatural about what a coach does or offers.

The reason why couples are encouraged to get marriage counseling is because it takes two to make a marriage and if both are willing to engage the help of a Counselor, then it means they are both willing to try to work on their marriage.

horlahwaley:
omoh... If i have to go through all this just to get sex from my wife. I dont think i am going to marry at all. Kilode

Lol...but you do that and more for your girl friend...

Tickle or forget the extra.

Men, will should readjust to the mentality of keeping wify like used cloth after marriage...

Awlays give her the girlfriend treatment....And a bit of pampering ones in a while...You will be enjoying her fine...

But, if you come with the mentality @bolded bro, you go frustrate...It only takes attention and care to enjoy best of her.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Get yourself a side chick. And let your wife remain spiritual for as long as she likes. That's how many of them behave. Just make yourself happy but with sense o.

Kobojunkie:
There is absolutely nothing supernatural about what a coach does or offers.

The reason why couples are encouraged to get marriage counseling is because it takes two to make a marriage and if both are willing to engage the help of a Counselor, then it means they are both willing to try to work on their marriage.

Counselor or no counselor, it takes two to tango...

Two must agree to work.

Kobo you too dey argue o

MrBrownJay1:


you guys are not sexually compatible... you can either accept it or move along apart from one another (cheating isnt an option). so if you really need to stay together in this one sided marriage, then you need to bring a concubine to the household/family, who will replace her and take over her sexual duties.

I agree with u.

Munzy14:

Counselor or no counselor, it takes two to tango...
Two must agree to work.
Kobo you too dey argue o

Again...

Kobojunkie:
There is absolutely nothing supernatural about what a coach does or offers.

The reason why couples are encouraged to get marriage counseling is because it takes two to make a marriage and if both are willing to engage the help of a Counselor, then it means they are both willing to try to work on their marriage with the help of the coach.

teacherbim:


Gold fly is libido booster, just pour some inside her drink,she would be the one begging for sex, just make sure you get the original.

Can it be found in pharmacies?

SuperStriker:



I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex.

What is your demand?... 5 times a day? ... as often as you get erection? Your demand is likely not normal. If that's the case then you should've chosen a nympho for a wife. What if your wife meets your demand and gets used to having sex 4 times or whatever a day ... and the time comes when you are unable to maintain ... but she wants it ... what will you say to her? .... wouldn't it be the same she is saying to you? ...you need to control yourself? Again ... your demand may be unreasonable..... selfish ... inconsiderate.

How many times per week? Biko carry book with her to calculate then stay within your alloted quota


They said those girls with healthy sex appetite are ashewos.....the ones with the low sex drive are the good girls. You then marry them and start complaining. Ndi jakujaku....you were supposed to match your own drive in a partner fa.

Kobojunkie:
I don't quite get what you are saying but yeah, religious level counseling of any sort is nothing but bullsheet!

No imam or Pastor is certified to counsel any person out there on anything, including marriage. I advice those in need of help in marriage to seek professional counseling from professionally certified practices.

Wow!

So religious counseling is bullsh t?

But secular counseling is effective / glorious?

What I've said is that no human words (AKA Counselors counsel) is potent enough to change someone who is unprepared.

Now religion / related practices aren't always done correctly . But when correctly done (especially around here) can be more effective because it appeals to a higher calling in us. The counselled is more likely committed to this higher calling (as an adherent of such a religion) . It is this commitment to counsel that I refer to as preparedness and no words (of counsel) can change the unprepared.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Communication is key to each party getting what they want out of a relationship. You guys will need to sit down and talk, let her know how you feel and listen to how she also feels. Let her know the pressure her actions are pushing your thoughts to. Now in a marriage we have two types of sex, the beautiful sex and the dutyfull sex, from what you have explained you are only getting the beautiful sex, the dutyfull sex can be a quickie say twice in a week, five minutes. You guys can come up with some timetable of the days so that all parties are prepared. Sometimes we just have to make concrete plans to make things work.