Tallesty1:
I don't understand the kinda men we have these days.

Your wife is sleeping around whenever she's broke and you're still with her? Really?

Nah when she finally kills you to have her way you go get sense.

Anyways I just say make I tell you that you're the only one married in this unah union.

You're married to her but she ain't married to you. Get sense.

Alaji1220:
we kept away from each other for 3 days but on getting home yesterday I discovered she had packed her loads and kids loads and left for her parents house and this should be her 4th time of doing this whenever we have misunderstanding. I love my kids but her attitude is making me to gradually loose the the love I have for these kids. I reported her to her mum she was kneeling down and begging me yesterday but for how long I'm I going to continue with this woman...

Please I need advice that will guide my decision, I only fear for those innocent kids future because she doesn't seem to care about their present well being though she claims all she is doing is to process traveling to secure their future.

pocohantas:


See ehn, I have gotten to understand that all this fire and brimstones we rain is because we never dey faced with the matter. Let’s not pray to meet temptation that is more than us because no one marries with the plan of ending it after years of suffering together, not forgetting the kids.

Tallesty1:
You don't cure suffering with suffering or endure suffering to avoid suffering.

This guy is not dealing with a woman who had a one time affair, or a couple of affairs and repented. He's with a woman who cheats whenever she needs money. It has happened and will always happen.

This guy dies, resurrects to die again.

A woman who doesn't contribute to the running of the family.

A woman who treats him like thrash when he doesn't have.

Except the guy is lying, there's no reason a man would want to stay with such a woman. A woman who does what she wants no matter what you say or do, common what's there to hold on to?

pocohantas:


Strange things are happening. She fit get im mumu button.

bjprodint1:
If na my village woman,she 4 don run mad,d husband wey know say him wife dey cheat and still dey chop her food 4 don die.its an abomination 4 a woman 2 use d money she got from sleeping with other men 2 cook 4 her husband[b] (my village o)[/b] .

pocohantas:


See ehn, I have gotten to understand that all this fire and brimstones we rain is because we never dey faced with the matter. Let’s not pray to meet temptation that is more than us because no one marries with the plan of ending it after years of suffering together, not forgetting the kids.

Tallesty1:
You don't cure suffering with suffering or endure suffering to avoid suffering.

This guy is not dealing with a woman who had a one time affair, or a couple of affairs and repented. He's with a woman who cheats whenever she needs money. It has happened and will always happen.

This guy dies, resurrects to die again.

A woman who doesn't contribute to the running of the family.

A woman who treats him like thrash when he doesn't have.

Except the guy is lying, there's no reason a man would want to stay with such a woman. A woman who does what she wants no matter what you say or do, common what's there to hold on to?

Tallesty1:
I don't understand the kinda men we have these days.

Your wife is sleeping around whenever she's broke and you're still with her? Really?

Nah when she finally kills you to have her way you go get sense.

Anyways I just say make I tell you that you're the only one married in this unah union.

You're married to her but she ain't married to you.

Get sense.

Tallesty1:
Where's that?

InTheCloudySky:
She's sleeping with other men yet she's the one who is angry with you and has packed her loads to her parents' house for the 4th time? I guess she wants you to come and beg her so that she can come back to you to continue her escapades. The manipulation.

bjprodint1:
If na my village woman,she 4 don run mad,d husband wey know say him wife dey cheat and still dey chop her food 4 don die.its an abomination 4 a woman 2 use d money she got from sleeping with other men 2 cook 4 her husband(my village o).

pocohantas:


You wan go marry for that side?

NarcissistKing:
You married a whõre! Nothing can change her. You can only keep her if you got more money!

She ain't even for keeps, anyways.

waywardpikin:


You said it already, such a woman isn't worth keeping.

Alaji1220:
I need a very reasonable advice from this wonderful forum.

I got married close to a decade ago and the marriage is blessed with two kids.
Though things were tough at the beginning because wife lost her job and I bore the burden solely for 4 years, we had our st child 5 months after wedding andh the second 2 years later. Lost my job around the time our second kid arrived, we kept struggling with great hope. Around 2017 she connected me with a mam that help with an adhoc work in a recruiting firm, I got their within 2 months I helped madam to secured a marketing job, I managed with the job for like 8 months before it ended. Immediately it ended Madam began to behave funny let's I forget I sold my car to pay for her final year exam and also gave her money to get the certificate all amounting to 250k then. Around 2018 I was thrown back to the labour market and I was shown hell by wife, several calls of men, knew about 4 men through her watssap messages that she had affairs with I always get to see these whenever she fell asleep with her phone in her hand. 2019 I got back on my feet and I noticed she stopped the runs. Meanwhile she made so much money during the period of her escapades because of clients deposit that earned her bonuses at work but squadder a huge sum on travelings which were unsuccessful. She joined another financial institution this year and she handles client that need loan, 2 months after securing the job she started talking of getting car ordinarily I would have discouraged her but being someone that is always resolute in her decision making I quickly wade in so as to safe her from men that may want to take advantage of her as this has happened before I tried to inquire about the source of fund for the car she said she liase with a client to take loan that she will only pay back the principal portion that the client will pay the interest and she will be using all her salary to pay back, before we got the car I told her to go for a lesser car like 700k but she said it's 1m she budget for Nigeria used Toyota Corolla. But since we have got the car madam is so stressed up financially while I take care of all the bills even before she got the car she has not be helpful in the area of bill but only buy food stuff whenever she feels like but since she got the car she's still pestering me to be funding the maintenance of the car she drives to work everyday. I saw her chat with a man like 3 months ago and from the chart she was wooing the man for financial assistance, they arrange a meeting which I'm sure something must have transpired between them I confronted her and she promised not to see him again, my main pro is that in her new office some people around there know me we carried out maintenance work on the car recently that got her to online loan debt and I can observe that she was connecting with some men again for financial help, I got some messages confirming her promiscuity again and I confronted her she began to raise excuse here and there I was so mad with her that she thought I will beat her but thank God I didn't though we kept away from each other for 3 days but on getting home yesterday I discovered she had packed her loads and kids loads and left for her parents house and this should be her 4th time of doing this whenever we have misunderstanding. I love my kids but her attitude is making me to gradually loose the the love I have for these kids. I reported her to her mum she was kneeling down and begging me yesterday but for how long I'm I going to continue with this woman...

Please I need advice that will guide my decision, I only fear for those innocent kids future because she doesn't seem to care about their present well being though she claims all she is doing is to process traveling to secure their future.

tensazangetsu20:
The greatest misfortune that can ever befall a man is poverty chei .