Truvelisback:
Why not? If i don't have the capacity and he has the capacity, he should. No problem. Marriage arrangement na small thing?

pocohantas:
A very confused logical gender.

One is on another thread wailing that they ripped him off via bride price and wedding.

This one is having ego attacks because they want to save him wedding expenses.

The last woman that tried to understand Nigerian men died of high BP.

pocohantas:
A very confused logical gender.

One is on another thread wailing that they ripped him off via bride price and wedding.

This one is having ego attacks because they want to save him wedding expenses.

The last woman that tried to understand Nigerian men died of high BP.

NoToPile:
That's how one guy opened thread and was worried his father in law spent so much during his daughter's wedding that it will affect him in future abi how did he even put it sef.

He was so worried that people knew his FIL spent so much his ego seemed to be at stake That's how everybody started assuring him more like appeasing him sef that that's how it's done ooo especially as his FIL is a yorubaperson.

A simple solution is for some guys to stop getting married from families that can spend on their daughters wedding, marry the one that you will sponsor everything so your ego will still be intact. If your ego can't handle it, go for the other ones. Shikena.

All these threads ko necessary rara.


It's like some people don't even know in lots of cultures brides family entertain their guests(husband's family) during their traditional stuff.

jornwhite:




Thats peculiar with yoruba tribe naw, the groom's family tend to contribute no matter how little, even the dowry collected some would even take few notes n return the balance.
Buh with other tribe its quite different, its more of a tribal issue, if i am an igbo man i won't take assistance from my inlaw

Hayee:
you can never understand what you did not create

Very confused logical gender indeed
Op please if your friend is marrying from the Yoruba tribe it is very normal at least if later on the woman wants to shame him he can remind her that he didn't send her she was the one that willingly wanted to help

NoToPile:


Let's even remove yoruba from the matter

So you are saying as an Igbo man if you marry an igbo lady you will feel offended( your ego will be bruised) if her father spends so much at the wedding (feeding, hall, deco every every)

If you marry Rochas daughter you won't take such assistance, or you will say he should not celebrate his daughter.

Just asking

You are making it sound as if some of us don't have igbo friends that get married and we don't see some of the things even the brides brothers / father do financially at the wedding.

jornwhite:




Like i said earlier, assistance is never the problem rather gender, kind of people attached are the problem.
it is not a c'mon practice in igboland for the bride family to contribute or finance there daughter wedding, igbos are out to sell & make profit, if out of the blues people with such custom & mentality want to finance my wedding, before my Ego rings, discretion calls i don't feel offended, i don't just want anything that might turnout to hunt me later.
@most they can make 5star preparation for there guest buh should allow me be responsible for my guest, how i want it.
The main question is can Rochas daughter marry a poor man, if i marry rochas daughter its mean my family is within her father's league, we go use money compete, buh lets say i'm poor n i decide say naa rochas pikin i want then it means i am ready to take whatever my eye see in that r/ship. trust those untrained daughters any small issue she go remind whu paid the cameramen, e whu pay the piper dictate the tune

Having a igbo friend or knowing that your friends wife sponspor there wedding does not negate the term " greek gift". a lot of shit happens in marriage he won't even want to tell is close friends, beyond that wedding day do you live with them, i can count the number of times i visit my married friends house, we only meet @ bar/lounge simply because a woman is @ home Regardless of wrong or right, everyone has choice n can do whatever they want afterall we bear the consequences alone.

crackhaus:
If not that there are now too many greedy/hungry girls who came from equally greedy/hungry families, is it not the bride's family that is supposed to sponsor the traditional marriage rites (entertainment and refreshments) in the first place?

Just tell your friend to tell his wife that her father can sponsor the traditional wedding, it's not a big deal.
He can then use the church/white wedding reception to show himself and show how much of a man he is for the in-laws.