LordofNaija:
Your babe is an online vendor, a cover for runs. She is extravagant cos she knows maga go pay again tomorrow. Toto no dey finish. I'm an OG, what you read is the blunt truth.

you made valid point, if she is the type of those girls, then Op have to run comot the relationship, they eat like tomorrow will never come when they know the money will also be available again through online run.

Op, try and know the source of her income.

The brain of a woman mature fully at 25!! Even u no supposed the date any girl! If u like no run, stay like mumude de ask useless question!

GauRanTor:


If you don't save how can you invest?

If you don't Invest how can you save? Or you will rob people and save?

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

She is a kind of lavish spender but when long range sakpa don hold her she go get sense, savings is necessary no matter how small or big your income is because some times things don’t get Rossy always

InTheCloudySky:
Teach her how to save and manage her money more wisely. With the right knowledge and tools, she will change.

If she can't learn this by her self, then she doesn't worth taken to the next level, its this type of girls yahoo boys do see finish. How so.e guys do endure all this, with the mindset of "she is a woman, its my responsibility to provide and take up her problems" still marvels me
.

Is your girl friend into drugs ?
How can she spend 100k a week without using it for something important.
I know people who do drug can spend that without knowing. As long as the money is there. They just want to get high all the time.

op that gal that is a joke to you is another man's treasure, at least she has helped you in the past you can now help her in your own ways if you have management skills that she doesn't have why don't you pass those trait to her

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

U see Ure in a delicate situation and the type of gal u have is the I know what I’m doing type bt she doesn’t know jack or she knows bt can’t control her actions. She will get u into serious trouble if u don’t have a mind of ur own.

When she gets out of line stop picking her calls or replying her chats. Ignore her completely theyvobly understand tough love and hard treatment.

She will know ure dams serious.

You have already intuited the smart decisionnbin your lasts paragraphs so why are here to get confused advised? post=108063633]Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise [/quote]

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

U are a nagger sorry that's d absolute truth.

Even if she has, she will say otherwise to get that recharge card from you cos that's her nature and it's not like she does it all the time. Moreso, you want to explore her without spending a dime, very fascinating.

Another dimension might just be that she has a guy she is catering for. If she helped you in d past while you oil her, what would stop her for doing thesame for another guy.

If you're not in school with a lady, that relationship is totally off. Often time, i av had serious thing with ladies with serious boyfriends that want to marry them. Some of these ladies even talk down on their boyfriend being stupid and even had to take from Dem to please me. They do call Dem when i am around.


Fact is, woman is money, wedar financially sufficient or not, you can't date Rihanna without taking her out once in a while with your own money even though she has d world.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

U cant change a heavy spender no matter how hard u try.

It talks self discipline to deny oneself some gratification when u have money. Without financial self discipline there is nothing that will change.

Moreso if u marry her like dt u will be frustrated with her money habit

lambsbread:
Ladies don't spend their money extravagantly instead they'd do that to another guys money. There's a high odd that she's saving that money and posturing like she's spending it so that she can depend on you or so that you don't look up to her for anything.

Wisest comment on this thread.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

she can't spend and you won't see tangible proof.....op, she is saving massively and fleecing you.

nextBIGthing:




Thanks for your comment

She isn’t that extravagant in spending like buying luxuries.
She just spends unwisely and don’t plan for important things
Like at the end of the day she won’t be able to even account what and what the money was spent on

I think this is not natural, since she has nothing to show forth for what she's buying. I hope this is not agbano

Like how can one single handedly spend huge some of money within maximum of a week

mikigen:
OP they are telling you now you are defending her.
She isn't financially disciplined my guy and I see that you are even too young to control that girl she won't and can't respect you Atleast not for now so how do u intend to make her change when she doesn't even listen to you?

You are a still young, I will advice you face your life and do the little you can to make her see reasons to adjust her lifestyle if you don't notice any changes then let her be even this relationship stuff you are doing now at this your age is not the best for you cos u need to focus and build your life.

Oboy your first line just killed… they re telling you now and you re defending her lol

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

It can be very difficult to do, but please don't stop trying to teach her financial discipline.btw,what kind of online business does she do, can you tell me,if it is something I can do to still help my life abeg..

Ammishaddai:
Bros , the foundation of every good relationship begins and ends when both parties see and accept things from the other person's point of view .

So try and make her see things from your perspective by highlighting the pros and cons of her spending habits . But if she's adamant, kindly walk out of the relationship and save yourself the horrors of living with someone who's unbending.

After all, a woman who's used to living extravagantly isn't someone worth marrying and raising children with.

Anybody wey get sense, make e just read this and take heed.
No time to dy read other responses or opinions. This has spelt them all.
"If she is adamant, just walk away."
Thanks.

Depends on what and how she is selling...
She dey do home delivery for her online stuff?
Overall, you're the man make her reason your way an she will appreciate, but giving up on her after she don help you wella no too fresh

She has poor money management. If she still refuses to be frugal after you talked with her, I advice you to break up. Just imagine, if both of you decide to ignore this issue and you eventually get married, if she keeps on spending money like this and it affects your home, what will you say then?

nextBIGthing:




Thanks for your comment

She isn’t that extravagant in spending like buying luxuries.
She just spends unwisely and don’t plan for important things
Like at the end of the day she won’t be able to even account what and what the money was spent on

bro she's keeping her money

InTheCloudySky:
Teach her how to save and manage her money more wisely. With the right knowledge and tools, she will change.

Is she ready to be taught?

Panda7:
op that gal that is a joke to you is another man's treasure, at least she has helped you in the past you can now help her in your own ways if you have management skills that she doesn't have why don't you pass those trait to her

Correct.

And she can pass her money making skills to him as well. (money maker + money manager)

Win - Win

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Guy that's a red flag oo. I have met with a lady like your girlfriend, who only thinks her money is her and mine is our own, in the end her siblings pressurized her to force me to give her time frame to marry ( her ) someone who doesn't work or bring nada to the table . Omo na so I japa She won't listen to you , don't end up with her out of pity . You go regret am

Your babe does drugs and I suspect Para (crack) . Try watch her for a while most especially since you say you don't see what she buys and why would anyone need anybody for recharge card after making 100k 3 days ago .

Poster you just de try give ur self heartbreak at this your young age .....

Na naija gals you wan de carry for mind

I pity you

You are lucky to have a lady that is supportive.. if you do the math you will find out that she has spent far more than you in this relationship.

If you want to leave her to go for all this girls that can only offer you p**cy it's cool go ahead ..

A hard working lady is difficult to fin this days

If you can't change her,den let her be and chase your dreams

Bro @op you are a mugu

That gal is using you ...she is gathering her money somewhere for something because she believes one day she gonna dump your sorry ass

So if Dem tell u the truth ...the two of you age gap ..you will still get along in 5 years time ...never

That gal is a clown and she is using you bro make sure you damage her Weller before you dump her

@womenareapess come and see small boy that is falling in live in this naija

bro! this really call for concern try to convince her the reason why she should control her spending if not after marriage she will want you to be leaving above your standard, children school fees? she will take you to where you will pay higher and that is why you will keep on struggling in life except with the mercy of GOD.

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

You are the type that needs hot slap to bring you back to your senses. So you need advise on whether to run or take the relationship to the next level. You are about to be sacrificed by that your girlfriend and you are here asking question. Stay in the relationship you hear. Take it to another level. Just start budgeting for your casket and funeral ceremony because it can happen anytime soon with that your girlfriend abi na girlenemy!

juniorstar:

She looks like a girl that loves the good life and is ready to put up with the hustle..but as her guy you need to continue to make her see reasons why she should not just save but diversity. And you need to upgrade your own hustle too. Help her be better even though it can be hard cos most ladies dont think they simply act.

Op by all means avoid this advice

Ok, to me if I don talk tire I will free her let her spend extravagantly na she sabi