InTheCloudySky:
Teach her how to save and manage her money more wisely. With the right knowledge and tools, she will change.

richmanrichard:
Op by all means avoid this advice

VERDA:


You seem to be defending her, how does a 22 year old spend 100k in a week and can't account for what she spend on and you say she is not extravagant, anyways...like you mentioned, you are a young man just starting life, the last thing you need now is a gf being a burden financially when the money stops coming to her as frequently

juniorstar:

Why? Am curious.have u dated a girl that's a hustler b4?

nextBIGthing:




Thanks for your comment

She isn’t that extravagant in spending like buying luxuries.
She just spends unwisely and don’t plan for important things
Like at the end of the day she won’t be able to even account what and what the money was spent on

richmanrichard:
stop tolerating rubbish in d name of been an understanding guy.hustle ko hustle ni

nextBIGthing:


Thanks for ur advise sir

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Ammishaddai:
Bros , the foundation of every good relationship begins and ends when both parties see and accept things from the other person's point of view .

So try and make her see things from your perspective by highlighting the pros and cons of her spending habits . But if she's adamant, kindly walk out of the relationship and save yourself the horrors of living with someone who's unbending.

After all, a woman who's used to living extravagantly isn't someone worth marrying and raising children with.

Wrecxman:


Correct.

And she can pass her money making skills to him as well. (money maker + money manager)

Win - Win

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

winner37:
Don't worry more money is coming so if you give today tomorrow she will pay you back. .
Maybe she is using the money to support her family and siblings do a proper investigation about it before crucifying her ..

Ammishaddai:
Bros , the foundation of every good relationship begins and ends when both parties see and accept things from the other person's point of view .

So try and make her see things from your perspective by highlighting the pros and cons of her spending habits . But if she's adamant, kindly walk out of the relationship and save yourself the horrors of living with someone who's unbending.

After all, a woman who's used to living extravagantly isn't someone worth marrying and raising children with.

onosbaba3310:


Very simple bro, download Netflix, call her over, buy popcorn, make feel comfortable, open your Netflix and search for this movie....

"The Smart Money Woman"

That movie is all about women spending big and how it affected them and they decided to start saving, after you guys are done tell her, she might end up being broke like the lead character if she doesn't change and start saving now or she might become successful like the lead character who later retraced her steps and started saving....

This movie is going to reset her brain bro, believe me

Wrecxman:
Few things I can say as per what you posted:

1. You are unemployed. Your girl makes money and you don't. Have you asked her what she does online? Is there a way for you to join this online "business" as well?

2. For her to blow through 100k without flinching means there's a solid assurance she can get more. This is the more reason you should ask what she's into. You could be missing life changing money by not doing so.

3. I personally have no problems with an extravagant lady as long as she has earned it herself. There is no prize for living in poverty in this life.

4. Some people have said you should leave her because she spends "unwisely". I think they all miss the vital point here. It's HER money not yours and she has every right to spend it as she wishes. What if she's making investments that you know nothing about? Talk to her. You have not come out to say she buys this or that, only that you don't know what she spends on.

Let me know your thoughts.

Rosement:

It does not matter if she has responsibilities, he also has his own responsibilities. He has not even married her so he is not meant to carry her responsibilities. Will she not survive if she is not in a relationship? She even knows the guy his unemployed and she is stressing him so much, she is very selfish and greedy.

She is meant to give him the chance to become financially stable. Instead of giving her money, he is meant to be investing his money in a business. If he allows her spend all his money on unnecessary things, how do they want to get married and what will they live on after marriage?

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise