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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by CaptainAyub: 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
geezynoni:Can't blame d kids cos they still so young though rascally. Part of the reason ppl send their wards to boarding school is for disciplining. I'm talking like this cos I went to boarding school and a minor seminary for that matter. The Rev Frs or masters might not flog you but by the time you spend most evenings cutting grass while your mates are playing games,you go behave by force. Then,to expell ppl is as easy and often as eating bread. At a time,they found out ppl started misbehaving once they start writing WAEC,they changed d rule to "if you are expelled during WAEC,you forfeit the rest of the papers". No be person go tell you to behave in such am environment. 2 Likes |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Crafteck1: 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Dannydaking007(m): 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I am a teacher. I get reports of bullying almost everyday. I can say it without mincing words... Parents are the pillar of the upbringing of a child, be it good or bad. Parents of these days are so money-conscious. They leave their parental duties and responsible child-training totally to the teachers. I've seen parents who umpteenth times gets invited about their children's bad behavior in school. There and then, they'd defend their children without paying attention to the facts. How's that child not going to bring shame to that family tomorrow? The school also has their part of the blame. There's every right to expel a child who refuses to abide by the set down rules and regulations of the institutions. The good ones will come and stay. The ones that wish to change positively would also do same. Good name is better than Silver and Gold. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by JaskanFactor: 2:06pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
the culture of the world including Nigeria is this, lets all shit where we eat, so that eventually the children too come out covered in shit. Everybody who went to school knows what wend down is nothing new, and far more serious is the fact that they can see all those bad boys in school, have grown up to be be doing far worse things than they did in school to society at large, with thier parents taking a hit along the way. And my estimate is that this will continue to get worse, until people decide its to dangerous to be around other people, and everybody flees into to jungle to escape people and seek shelter amongst wild animals. Cause too many people acting like enemy inside the common wealth of society, and nobody in their right mind will remain inside society that's harbouring too many people acting like enemy, both infant, young and old alike, cause a lot more people are saying this days that now the younger they are the more dangerous. At this point, Society is overrated , cause too many people taking advantage, so that by now the stranger has no alibi , its no longer safe to help the stranger on a dark road at night, or even the helpless crying baby that could be a trap. We are nearly there, cause even as we can all see civil servants genociding Nigerians in the north, people are still posting about davido rolls Roys car. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Kingsean(m): 2:07pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
this is a case of bad parenting. the school should have also not neglected it's duties. well... these are the kids that deserve the electric chair treatment... 100% |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Crafteck1: 2:07pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by YorubaEniEgun: 2:08pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Elinosweet143(f): 2:08pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
In my own opinion the school is mostly to be blamed, firstly there was no proper modalities to checkmate cases of students behaving anyhow, secondly immediately the incident was confirmed and the boy rushed to d hospital what did d school do to immediately get hold of the bad boys, thirdly the school even went as far as saying the boy sustained the injury from the football field. As for the parent take it or leave it we are all very selfish wen it comes to our kids and it would naturally be hard for a parent to hand over his child to the authorities for his offence, and also speaking of home training, there are kids with good home training but somehow got inflenced negatively in school, so laslas na make God go just help us we go do our part leave the rest |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by FreeStuffsNG: 2:09pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Charity begins at home. Some parents even intimidate school and most times get away with it. I believe the school must have been lax in terms of enforcing discipline but the story of every child begins from the home. That's why parenting is the ultimate. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by generalwo(m): 2:10pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
A bulk of the blame should go to the school in this case.... The reason I said so is.... Any parent that forks out 1m for the school fees of a child in boarding in this country should have a certain level of trust in the school's ability to help mould the child into a decent citizen..... I can't pay 1m for school fees and still be scared as if the child is attending a tuition free school...... If the school had lived up to its responsibilities, then the cult group should have been noticed or detected earlier before it degenerated to this level...... But even after the incident, the school still tried to cover up the issue by lying to the world that the kid died of injuries sustained while playing football..... What does this tell you? To me, it simply means things of this nature and more are going on in the school which the world doesn't know yet.... The only reason I would blame the parents of the accused kids is because, they are trying to cover up a murder case which suggests the kind of parents they are...... So in this case.... On a scale of 100, I will blame the school 75% and the parents of the kids 25% |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by TamiOkoroDedeh(f): 2:10pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
What Sylvester Oromoni would have looked like if those murderers hadn't had their wicked way. Rest in peace, Sylvester
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by sulaak(m): 2:10pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad Country |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by sabbiboi: 2:12pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
MMotimo:Wow! Interesting topic. Your kids need to be taken through some rigorous exercises of life to be emotionally strong bro/sis. Life and it teachings is not for the faint hearted, it takes consistent morals, strict instructions and God's will to raise a proper kid in these days. The good book says, "Fooly is bound up in the heart of a child, and the rod of correction shall drive it away" |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by kingthreat(m): 2:12pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad parenting. Most of those kids were spoilt and were not harshly disciplined. The foolish kids must have believed they will escape justice because of their parent's position or wealth. The parent will take the utmost blame. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by yinks77: 2:13pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
THE SCHOOL MANAGEMENT SHOULD BE BLAMED BECAUSE THER ARE CHILDREN WHO ARE WELL TAKEN CARE OF AT HOME BUT GO OUT THERE TO BECOME SOMETHING ELSE. HAVE SEEN CASES WHERE TENAGERS CAUGHT IN CRIMINAL ACT WERE PLEADING THAT THEIR PARENTS SHOULD NOT BE INFORMED ABOUT THEIR ACT. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Bahamas95(m): 2:13pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I blame parents for failing to do their homework very well. At my age I find it very difficult to do some certain things my friends do with ease because I didn't do them from childhood.....Peer pressure didn't influence me in anyway. I had friends back then in primary/secondary school that smoke and do all sort of rubbish but I disassociated myself from them without anybody forcing me. Parents shouldn't transfer all their responsibilities to teachers simply because they are paying one mumu school fees. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by tabaski: 2:13pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
donbachi:this still bore down to bad parenting. If those supposed bad egg had good parenting,they won't indulge in bad vices. My take. Shalom |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Spherical77(m): 2:14pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
yemi1504:You are right. No school teaches and encourage students to join cultism, bully and assault themselves, beat up teachers et al. Some of these children are spoilt from home. Which could be either bad parenting or total disobedience from them. These bad children will go out and influence the upright ones. Especially in boarding school. You know the school staffs can't be with the students 24/7. They could be doing all these cultists of a thing at mid night. They'd always find a way to hid their dirty shit. The school is definitely culpable for not being responsible and trying to sweep everything under the carpet. Heard this isn't the first iccident of students being bullied. Infact, this particular iccident the school attempted to hid it away from the public as usual by shutting up other students who witnessed the iccident as they tried to explain to them. The school is just after making money. The school management knows the parents of those killers. But because their parents are rich and well connected they couldn't speak out Boarding school cannot stop existing. However, a reform should be made. How can they mixed junior and senior students together in the same hostel? Parents should have access to their wards on phone at least 3 times weekly. Senior school should be demarcated away from junior school. They shouldn't access same cafeteria, rest rooms, lecture halls, sport facilities amongst many others. There should be a counselling department in the school that'd be counselling the students. Through that, they could easily deduce what individuals might be passing through (psychologist come into play) There should be mandatory monthly visitation by parents and all nooks and cranny of the school should have CCTV camera This would also go along way in curbing all sorts of crime in boarding school |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Spherical77(m): 2:14pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
yemi1504:You are right. No school teaches and encourage students to join cultism, bully and assault themselves, beat up teachers et al. Some of these children are spoilt from home. Which could be either bad parenting or total disobedience from them. These bad children will go out and influence the upright ones. Especially in boarding school. You know the school staffs can't be with the students 24/7. They could be doing all these cultists of a thing at mid night. They'd always find a way to hid their dirty shit. The school is definitely culpable for not being responsible and trying to sweep everything under the carpet. Heard this isn't the first iccident of students being bullied. Infact, this particular iccident the school attempted to hid it away from the public as usual by shutting up other students who witnessed the iccident as they tried to explain to them. The school is just after making money. The school management knows the parents of those killers. But because their parents are rich and well connected they couldn't speak out Boarding schools cannot stop existing. However, a reform should be made. How can they mixed junior and senior students together in the same hostel? Parents should have access to their wards on phone at least 3 times weekly. Senior school should be demarcated away from junior school. They shouldn't access same cafeteria, rest rooms, lecture halls, sport facilities amongst many others. There should be a counselling department in the school that'd be counselling the students. Through that, they could easily deduce what individuals might be passing through (psychologist come into play) There should be mandatory monthly visitation by parents and all nooks and cranny of the school should have CCTV camera This would also go along way in curbing all sorts of crime in boarding school 2 Likes |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by olatuns2017: 2:15pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
ModelLook: It's been scientifically proven Bad patenting = social vices= yahoo= kidnapping etc |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by JaskanFactor: 2:16pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
seeing the other kids in school as a toy for you to play with their blood is nothing new, and when they finish doing harm at school, they grow up to do the same to the people at their place of work. Its like a tree waiting to grow up to devour everything around it, meanwhile all its future victims hang around not knowing what monster is developing next to them. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by PoliteActivist: 2:16pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Spherical77: Well said 1 Like
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Lamasta(m): 2:17pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
All parties should be blamed in the innocent boy's death including the parent of the victim too |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by olatuns2017: 2:18pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
generalwo: If you like pay 20biillion If your child is brat from home School can do little because school doesn't want to loose customers... It's parent/ Guidance 70% social correction School 30% social moulding |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by BABANGBALI: 2:19pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
BREAKING: Dowen College Allegedly Sealed!
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by BABANGBALI: 2:21pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
TamiOkoroDedeh:eyaaaaaaaaaaaa 1 Like |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by PurpleSoftHub(m): 2:21pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Blame the school authorities, Blame the teachers Blame the Boarding masters Blame the school securities Blame the all the parents Blame the government Blame everyone. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Odidigboigbo(m): 2:21pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Nemesis0147:But your folk are the same that will blames and call winners names for over tele-guiding their students. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Amanda4life: 2:22pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
ModelLook: 100% TO THE SCHOOLS AND MINISTER OF EDUCATION. DO YOU KNOW WHY? THE CULPRIT HAS BEEN UNDER THE SCHOOL MANAGEMENT CARE FROM THE DAY THEY BOARD THEM INTO THE SCHOOL. THE MINISTER OF EDUCATION HAS TO SPELL OUT IN THEIR OWN WORDS , RULES GOVERING BOARDERS, ENSURE CERTAIN PUNISHMENT ARE IMPLEMENTED. GOVERNMENT SHOULD HAVE PEOPLE, WHO WILL VISIT SCHOOLS FROM TIME TO TIME. SCHOOL MAGT FAILED TO EMPLOY CAP ABLE SECURITY, INCLUDING POLICE TO GUARD THE PLACE. MY CHILD CANNOT BE BOARD IN A SCHOOL WHERE THERES NO "REAL " UNIFORM MEN OR MAN, PLUS OTHER SECURITIES. HOW CAN MY CHILD BE IN A SCHOOL WHERE THERS NO MAXIMUM SECURITY? WHAT IF ONE MILLION BOYS DECIDES TO RAPE ALL THE GIRLS IN THE HOSTEL? |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by akpunda86: 2:24pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I rember my guy in Unizik the Dad was ogboni,from year one said he will be an Aye guy and yes he did and was killed in final year. I went to University Primary School Enugu.i was innocent till I met the twin brothers,I was an ardent novel reader.wish can mention the kids name here,so they came bk from UK so infact I read the whole Novels in their house Having read the whole books in their house I wanted more,out of ignorance they gave me an occultic book,I couldn't comprehend the book at primary 6,I kept d book was like six books of Moses,brothers not fiction my bed was vibrating ,my parents ran away,I had strange occultic powers,strange things happening in my gouse,school was stopped for me .Three cats came to my room,two mad dogs came to my house,I float,my family scared,was hiding it from people,who say power no dey from Devil is a lie .In all this my problem was from the occultic book from my friends. My elder broda saw the book after some months as I was not normal so opening the book was a warning on consequences of not completing once u start and that was where my problem was,Showed books to my parents and the book was burnt after prayers,as the book was burning was like a power was leaving me,till was burnt and I was okay.kids scared of me in school folks changed my school So on this kids own,is what they emulated from their parents and an innocent kid was used as a victim . Lord have mercy. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by ipobarethieves: 2:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
May the soul of the lil boy sleep well. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Amanda4life: 2:26pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
donbachi: NO MATTER THE PEER PRESSURE, IT CAN BE CONTROL ED BY SCHOOLS. ,BUT WHEN IT GOES BEYOND THEIR CONTROL, THE CAN EXPELL THE CHILD FAST FAST AND MAKE SURE THE MATTER IS REGISTERED IN THE POLICE AND COURT OF LAW. TO ENABLE THE CULPRIT SIGN UNDERTAKEN. SEE AS SCHOOLS MGT , U NEED TO BE PROACTIVE. U THINK FAST FAST, THINK AHEAD OF OTHERS, UNFORTUNATE LY, THE MGT IS INSIDE AIR-CONDITIONING OFFICE, COUNTING THEIR MONEY, AND LOOKING FOR CHRONIC DEBTORS |
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