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Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Karleb(m): 3:05pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Parents should stop telling their children that a child of God or responsible child should not fight. A child should be ready to defend his/herself. Worst case, you lose a tooth or two. It's better than dying to me. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by lenghtinny(m): 3:07pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
odinson1:You made a whole Lotta sense.... Most people feel they are entitled to respect due to age, status and so on. And when they don't get it they resort to oppression, intimidation because they think fear is the same thing respect. 2 Likes |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by ekitimanalways(m): 3:13pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
EdoFirstBorn:Tomoe Gozen in the making. Tomoe Gozen was an onna-musha, a female warrior in pre-modern Japan. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by femi4: 3:23pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Romanoff:Advantage of day school is that the bully is not in your corner 24/7 unlike in boarding schools. 2 Likes |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by westfield: 3:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I dont see this one as bullying asking if you have washing machine or dish washer........all you have to tell your child is he should make sure it doesnt get into his head so he doesn't start stealing because of Inferiority complex |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by brain54(m): 3:30pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Seconded.!! |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Sterope(f): 3:33pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I told my cousin to slam his lunch tray hard at one of his bullies. Everyone said violence is not the answer. Lol. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by olalekan1(m): 3:40pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bullying: My first experience being bullied. I could remember clearly how the event went even though I was just 4 years old then. Mom will go to market and come back in the evening, while she was gone, I will attend Jeleosinmi "Let house rest" Jeleosinmi was the Kindergarten class in the 80s and 90s. Parents will enroll their children between the age of 3 and 6 so as to reduce noise within the period that they are there. In every Jeleosinmi, there will a teacher that will be teaching the children how to recite alphabets, numerals and the likes. The main objective was to prepare the children for primary education. Since I grew up in the village, my extended families are within reach. After every Jeleosinmi class, I will stay with my paternal uncle who trade in owambe firewood and bamboo. While I stayed with him, our Jeleosinmi teacher usually see me there and he came to conclusion that my father is a firewood cutter and seller. At the end of every Jeleosinmi class, we will sing and March out to our different location. So one day, our teacher (we use to call him honorable) change the song with lyrics that contain my name as the son of a firewood seller. As he sings the song, other children took it over from him and he did not stop them. I laughed because I did not want to show my saddening face while deep inside of me I was sad and depressed. For several days after that particular class, when other children see me, they will start singing the song. The moral of these story is that Children can naturally bullied their mate but the blame should go to any adult that witnessed such act without calling the children to order. There is more work to be done by parents in understanding what their kids do on daily basis. As a parent, you can secretly watch and observe your kids. Kids nowadays are smarter because they are exposed to what we were not exposed to when we were their age and this is how the trend will continue to go. RIP Sylvester 2 Likes |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by lincs25(m): 3:59pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
habsydiamond:exactly, solution is hot slap and blow. I give one when I was in JSS1. 2 Likes |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Pinkzebra: 4:09pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by enonche85(m): 4:13pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Oblongata: Exactly!. Let them know that no matter the threat they can always talk to you. 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Pinkzebra: 4:16pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
westfield: That's is emotional intimidation and yes,.it counts for bullying. Making mockery and jest of people to the extent they feel weakened counts for bullying 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by MartinsD12(m): 4:17pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
hartoyebi38:Not every child can fight , the late Sylvester seems like a quiet dude who couldn't fight it's terrible , I have seen pictures of some of his alleged killers , those evil children adult should rot in jail and die by firing squad they killed an innocent child they don't deserve to be alive |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Nobody: 4:26pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bullying in every form is wrong. It defeats the essence of humanity. Unfortunately, this has become a general discourse at this time, because of the Dowen case. We have them everywhere, even on this platform. Online bullying of adults by adults is not any better. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Nobody: 4:26pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I have also seen lots of bullies on Nairaland. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Nikkymagg(f): 4:29pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
gannod: 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by 1Sharon(f): 5:49pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Kobicove: Nah. Bullies will always exist in society. As long as people are perceived as weaker, they will get picked on. It's human nature to take advantage. If someone is seen as vulnerable and timid, they will always be picked on. If it doesn't happen in school, it happens in the workplace. 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by 1Sharon(f): 5:50pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
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Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by 1Sharon(f): 5:51pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
EdoFirstBorn: Wtf? |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Testimony1988(m): 6:01pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Lol. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Nobody: 6:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Me, right from school am used to bully. u bully me i bully you, nothing dey pain me atall. All my school mates know me well for throwing stone, u tell me thrash i break ur head immediately, i no get time. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by ImaIma1(f): 6:42pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Romanoff: Even on this forum...many bullies. It's not only in schools. We went for a 40th birthday party and took our daughter along. The sons of the celebrant were bullying my daughter. She's friendly and wanted to play with them. They kept pushing her away and laughing. I had to take her away from there and told her not to play with them. She was about 2yrs old plus and they were around 4 and 5. Very young bullies. 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Nobody: 6:46pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
GboyegaD:So parents that do not have the means should kill themselves so as to please the children of the rich like you? Better put, you should teach your child to know that all fingers are not equal.... Teach your child kindness and love, so that the milk of humanity will flow.. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Mariangeles(f): 6:56pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
EdoFirstBorn: Omo! |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Mariangeles(f): 7:06pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Brandonx: If you were a parent to one of the kids who bullied and killed Sylvester, what would you do? How would you handle the situation? |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by yebo: 7:12pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
1Sharon: Yes, it happened in work place too, some senior staff tried to bully me at my work place but i stood my ground, they refuse to send me out for official assignment i still maintained my stand , they wanted me to worship them, i no gree, last last , they tagged me a trouble maker, a lot of staff new what they were doing was wrong but kept quiet. I fought tell physicaly and through prayers since i am not related to any senior staff, at the end , they dont even mess with me or anyyhing that concerns me, they will always say i will not agree.³ |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Brandonx(m): 7:17pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Mariangeles: I know there’s no justification for killing but do you know after everything the bully will still be alive ? The parents would probably get a good lawyer to drag the case for years and by the time you realize it’s already a thing of the past. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Cousin9999: 7:22pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
1Sharon: Nah. I think it's a combination of things, but perhaps mainly it comes from insecurity and a person not getting the emotional support they need. People who do it "because they can" seem to suffer from mental illness (e.g. sociopath) or rētārdation. It's really only people with strong mental and emotional problems who get satisfaction out of tormenting someone. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by SilvanusII(m): 7:38pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Please own ur poverty by urself and on ur own, but don't rope all Ekitis in with u. It's disgraceful how u can say a grinding machine 'erodes' the taste. Something you saw go into the machine Talking like as if the machine hid some taste inside it and ejected uselessness. That said, it is fine if u don't have these things. You really owe no one explanations why u don't. I don't have is I don't have. Just don't give silly reasons |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by gannod(m): 7:44pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
[quote author=Nikkymagg post=108238416][/quote] Regardless of the level of 'ajebutter' of your son, you should allow your son to have that street mentality. Let him play street football with other rugged kids.( especially on Saturdays) You can stick around to watch if you are less busy. After some time, it will toughen him up. I am not against feeding kids with all these junks but I encourage my kids to eat eba, iyan and our local dishes. They need enough energy to go about. I also make sure we watch a lot of Natgeo wild, especially about predators and prey. I used to tell them that the reasons lions hunt down bigger preys like Buffalloes is because the bufalloes refuse to take the fight to them. Above all, may God protect our kids. 1 Like |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Kobojunkie: 8:28pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
BlackfireX:If your approach is no different from those you condemn then you are a bully yourself and no better for your child. |
Re: Bullying: I Taught My Son To Fight Back by Kobojunkie: 8:30pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
coretechng1:if you mean having your child fight those bullies himself, that's only been proven to be effective way to checkmate bullies in the world of anime and Manga. In the real world, many children end up worse off the situation more violent. |
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