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Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Mac2016(m): 9:24am On Dec 06, 2021 |
This is genetic especially for African women (of cos they are the ones I know). They are always grappling with all financial resources available for their husband so they want everyone that won't serve their interests off the list. One of the reasons why they despise polygamy even tho it is men's natural call. Our mums, our wives and even our daughters might do this and the trend continues unhindered. As a man, just try your best to be fair and fight all the necessary battles in your home with wisdom and never confuse softness for kindness. Most women are logically and emotionally wicked and tactical but subtle in their pursuit most times. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Timekeeper: 9:24am On Dec 06, 2021 |
JONNYSPUTE: Ur approach is right but the truth is, if u call both of them.... Ur wife may have no reason.... I m telling u.... It is jsut inhibited in most ladies, they can't even explain |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Dshocker(m): 9:25am On Dec 06, 2021 |
pocohantas: And the ones from the woman's side are saints? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Origin(f): 9:25am On Dec 06, 2021 |
when you consider the attitude of some families you will realize that its not because it is a side of the family, rather it is the mentality. i grew up taking my brother's and uncle's wives as my sister and aunties. but where a small girl or boy will be calling a grown up - my wife and will want to treat are as a slave..... you do the maths there will always be problem.... they will never help out, eat and leave the dishes and housework for "our wife" no matter the age gap. Open your eyes and see the real problem. Same goes to bosses who call their employees "my boy" or colleagues that say "my dear" to show superiority. You all need to calm down and know that the future no certain for anybody. Mutual respect is key. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Zeus88(m): 9:25am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Timekeeper:way forward and best move ever, na so I push my own elder siblings aside oo.make I face my life on my own and by the grace of God |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by tradepunter: 9:26am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Men are the foolish ones .. take care of your family and there needs.. Whatever you send to your parents or relative is none of their bizness... That's wife's biznes. Must you announce what you send to your parents or relatives?? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 9:26am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Timekeeper:....True |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Tadeus(m): 9:27am On Dec 06, 2021 |
joyandfaith: You single or married? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Buffalo2(m): 9:28am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Numbers 1,3 and 4 no concern me but you see that number 2 eh! I must be informed before she comes, what is she coming to do and when she go commot. any visit wey go pass 3 days, na to go hotel oo. I no even mind to add money join |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Nobody: 9:28am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Timekeeper:Mehn I can relate. Some women sha. My brother I stayed with in lag immediately after my NYSC was very accommodating. I spent a year plus with them and we never had issues. Then there is this my second brother who was family oriented b4 marriage. If he nor see u for his house in a month na wahala, naso he dey buy different things for us until he got married. The girl was all nice during their dating period. Immediately after marriage naso he banned us from visiting him whereas the girl 2 brothers were living with them and she doesn't work. He even sponsor one of them to abroad twice and he was deported whereas none of his own blood dey abroad. We kukuma leave am make he dey mumu. The next thing the girl begin dey catch us witchcraft say na we make her nor born. Nobody even dey mind them 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Bigchristo: 9:28am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Timekeeper:Its a very simple case to handle as a man of the house when she debate of your siblings not coming for a visit then place banned on both her siblings and your own siblings, if she said your mom will stay for few days let that few days also be applicable to her mom when she visits, there will be peace when you pass such a resolution in the house 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Nobody: 9:31am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Selfishness is the nature of women that is why they manipulate men at will and if they meet a 'soji' (wise and smart) men, there is always trouble that is when you irreconcilable differences. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Buffalo2(m): 9:31am On Dec 06, 2021 |
joyandfaith:It's as simple as that. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Kingcalls: 9:31am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Shey u talk say u de 60... u are a kolombian |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by ImaIma1(f): 9:32am On Dec 06, 2021 |
JONNYSPUTE: I wish the bolded could work. If each person can let go of their preconceived notions or judgement and live peacefully. People fail to see the part where the wife is treated like an outsider but they expect her to treat them like family. It should come from both sides. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by dominique(f): 9:35am On Dec 06, 2021 |
If your brother the so-called head of the family cannot manage his home and resources, then he's not fit to be head of the family. Na figurehead be that. In most cases your brother just doesn't want to help but you find it convenient to blame the wife. I don't think any woman can effectively prevent her husband from helping his family, does she have access to his account? He doesn't want to give you period! And as for the part of not allowing eat whatever you like in the house, don't be surprised if it's the woman is the one buying all or most of the food in the house with her own money. You people will go and want to eat what you wouldn't eat in your houses as per I dey my brother's house. Why won't she lock up the groceries, do you know their budget for the month? Most men's relatives have this inbuilt entitlement mentality that makes them expect to be treated like royalty by the wives. Anything short of that, they start wailing like this op. The same sets of people that will be bragging that wives are not a part of their family will now be expecting same wives to give them royal treatment, no be juju be that ? 4 Likes
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Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by SenecaTheYonger: 9:35am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Iyaebe: For a man that you did not even build ohh? You now want to come and form boss for the parents that made him who he is? You will probably marry a low Iq husband with zero reasoning capacity so no surprise there |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Timekeeper: 9:36am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Origin: I still maintain, there is an evil Dt reside in some married women....... *Some* 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by tradepunter: 9:36am On Dec 06, 2021 |
ImaIma1: With all due respect that's a senseless assertion.... Why would a family see their son getting married as someone interrupting their family The bar just keeps getting low with the way most of your niaja ladies speak... Blood is thicker than water.... You have a life time to build with your partner to raise kids in the same format. Respect his family like you respect yours... No stupid woman will make me turn my back at my family when they need my help... Just the way I won't want my kids to turn there backs at each other when any is in need of help... I will take care of my wife and kids along with my family.... If she nu like am, she can fk off 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by LINTUNE(m): 9:37am On Dec 06, 2021 |
pocohantas:madam whats your problem with men,this is really getting out of hand..I just hope u are just catching cruise here,that you are not like this offline...for FS even if a man says something is white,which u can clearly see it's whites,u will still object, simply cos it's coming from a man... I understand the feminist point of view ,but common your own is too much..even Linda ikeji and other popular feminists don't despise men this way..pukes! 4 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by okine4real: 9:38am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Na Simps full everywhere now. Me I dey for my family Wella. The ony people when dey chop my money more, na my wife and children. My wife family, them go try to collect money from me, I just bought a car for my younger bro last month make him take dey do Bolt, the car na more than 2.5M, but my wife sister ask for help, na beg beg my wife beg me, na bank me and her dey so as I dey type, the sister dey beg for 50k, I dey send am now but the money done go Sha because refund is not coming back. My wife self they tell me say her sister say I go wicked well well ohh, that won call me last week say her phone screen break make I help am fix am, I confirm the price the screen and workmanship na 13500, I tell her say I nor get, she beg me for two days before I answer her. The truth is nor be say me self know get my own simpism too ohh, eg my mama and wife na cat and dog, confirm cat and dog, so watin I do be say mama stay your own for another place my wife stay with me for my house, but I dey settle my mama monthly to take chop. My brother dey my house now, the guy dey chop my food ehh, my wife done bring am come my table say my brother dey finish all the good when dey house ohh, truly the guy dey chop like lion, but na my brother, when me and him dey drink garri, my wife nor dey there, so anytime she talk am, I go say I done hear. As a man your extended first before your wife family because your wife would not choose your extended family over hers, the only person your wife would choose over her entended family is her husband. Me I done master the game well well because I marry inside family house where my younger sister and my mama dey, the funny thing was my younger sister self senior my wife, so them trouble her Wella, finding myself in this situation made me smart in terms of dealing with my wife, her family and my extended family. 10 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by SmartPolician: 9:39am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Mstick:Create a thread for it. Don't come to someone else's thread and start wailing. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by MummyD2020(f): 9:40am On Dec 06, 2021 |
pocohantas:The world will be a better place with balance. You are so right. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by joyandfaith: 9:41am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Tadeus:Married. 2 kids. Working for me. |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Ubanz: 9:42am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Mstick:'Increasing crime rate among men and women' |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by sapientia(m): 9:43am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Happens mostly in scarce resources Especially when the husband of the house is not the head |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by theamazonguru(m): 9:43am On Dec 06, 2021 |
This is why marriage is not meant for boys but for men. Boys can't make up their mind. They don't even have a mind of their own. Hence In marriage they are pushed around anyhow. I made it known to my wife from day one,you can't hate my people and expect me to love you oh? I am not saying I am going to be too attached to my people but all I need from you is the same treatment you will give your people, give same to my people. My people are as free as yours in my own house. Don't push my siblings around anyhow or maltreat them, let mutual respect be the order of the day. I told my siblings the same thing. Hence, madam knew that anything contrary to to this riot act na war. I can tell you for free that for the past 11 years of our marriage my wife has never had any confrontation: fracas,argument, challenge, fight, shouts etc with my folks. Anytime there is a brewing issue, she would rather talk to me first so I can address the brewing wahala. If my wife buys anything for her mum, she buys for mine too. Same for her dad and mine. She even reminds me to send money to my folks. Lol. As if I need to be reminded to do my duty. Me wey as I dey collect my salary I don send cash to popsy, send mumsy own to my brother who will help her withdraw it. Hahaha. What am I saying, na the man I go blame not the wife. If you want to enjoy your husband house, be good to the family. Don't treat them like shit. And the man should not be doing like mumu wey dem dey remote control for him own house. Tueeeeeeeeeh. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Wiifesnatcher(m): 9:44am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Tallesty1: my immediate elder bro was like that too but to me he doesn't exist, I still even respond to him than my two other siblings we are all guys in the house but na him wife family he carry for head, anyway I no send him |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by MummyD2020(f): 9:44am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Tallesty1: Wife's family kee? His immediate family should be the koko. Even after that, the fact that hes married doesn't stop him from been the eldest.. some men 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by sapientia(m): 9:45am On Dec 06, 2021 |
pocohantas:
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Re: Why Are Some Married Women So Selfish And Wicked? by Nobody: 9:46am On Dec 06, 2021 |
Timekeeper:People especially from the husband's side feel because they are in their brother's house then they can do anything and behave anyhow without respecting boundaries. Imagine someone coming to his/her brother's house who is married, they will eat and not wash their plates, they won't help with house chores, they play music so loud disturbing neighbors, all this just because they are in their brother's house. And the husband won't be able to caution them because they are his siblings, How do you want a wife to be comfortable with this kind of people? It is easy for women to caution their own siblings when they misbehave but men always try to play family politics. 4 Likes |
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