The mindset of guys on nairaland is something else. I pity those who come here for advice. it is well.

, so you went to check

Mariangeles:



I like monikers that are non binary on nairaland.

Why not if the conditions are right. However I would not advise any man to try this with a Nigerian woman. She will so dehumanise and infantalise you that you will regret being born.

Women don't handle power well. Money and riches in the hand of a woman, is equal to a man hooked on cocaine. They become erratic.

Over and out

Ishilove:

We are not programmed to be providers but nurturers. That's our default role

nature can be reversed

frozen70:


Any man that can't provide for his family, should willingly submit himself to be house-husband

Anything short of that will lead to trouble marriage

Exactly

Opeyemiextra:
We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.

But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.

To the reason for this post:
So, most men, at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?

All i ask is 50-50 contribution before children and 60-40 after children. with 1 yr maternetity leave per child i.e. i wont allow her work for 1 year after each child.... not asking for too much!

Just be a father and husband, and work on your value. Your value can mean many or specific things.

Men should always assist their wives even if they earn all the money in the world. If things go bad and you, the man, becomes broke, helping out won't disrupt your ego because you're already used to chores. It's that simple.

The idea of role sharing based on who earns what has never made any sense to me. Y'all stop worshipping money. Don't let money control your life and relationship with those you care about.

The concept of househusband can only be a topic of discussion in a dysfunctional home, where the man sees the need to put a title on a common and basic responsibility of sensible husbands and fathers.

Ishilove:

We are not programmed to be providers but nurturers. That's our default role

This is utter BS. You better reprogram yourself before its too late for you. And who told you men are not programmed to be nurturers too? A father nurturing his children with good character and manners nko?

Most of you are just looking for excuses to dump all financial responsibility on the man but that era is long gone. You must be bringing something (something significant oh).

Another case in point, as a bachelor, i went to work, cooked and cleaned my house and nurtured my younger brothers; so after marriage which nurturing you wan come do? Omo better go and find something small you can be doing to contribute your 40% to the house.

Opeyemiextra:
We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.

But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.

To the reason for this post:
So, most men, at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?

Sounds like Feminist porn to me the way you describe it

good advice, you know, we just need wisdom and understanding.

If the home is not a battleground for the sexes, then the kids will be masters.

Acidosis:
Men should always assist their wives even if they earn all the money in the world. If things go bad and you, the man, becomes broke, helping out won't disrupt your ego because you're already used to chores. It's that simple.

The idea of role sharing based on who earns what has never made any sense to me. Y'all stop worshipping money. Don't let money control your life and relationship with those you care about.

Yes, if she employs a bursty house girl, I will stay and take care of the children and the……….

frozen70:


Any man that can't provide for his family, should willingly submit himself to be house-husband

Anything short of that will lead to trouble marriage

We are know there’s nothing like house husband. It doesn’t exist. Embarrass and degrade ur husband at ur own peril and expense of ur marriage.

A man is not forced into a role that’s unnatural to him, he can only take it if he wants or agrees with it.

Nobody forces a woman to do hard labor jobs/chores in the house.

Opeyemiextra:
We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.

But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.

To the reason for this post:
So, most men, at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?

Go and ask Funke alakija.

It’s funny how rich women have respect for their husbands and gals who make small money want to turn their husbands into houseboys. It’s the marriage that will suffer at the end of ur misadventures.

SeriouslySense:
, so you went to check

The day we all remove the M and the F tags beside our monikers, nairaland will begin to make sense.
Our comments will no longer be judged based on gender, but as our opinions.
Gender hate will decrease drastically.

No way! Just imaging me cooking, bathing our kids, sweeting everywhere, washing plates and clothes and going to market to buy food stuff. What a huge chores for me. Women welldone oo! Una they try wellar

I agree, ultimatums, are dangerous, we should not be dissing out orders, about what women or men can do, it's just understanding, if the home is not a battle ground for the sexes then the kids are masters.

jaxxy:


We are know there’s nothing like house husband. It doesn’t exist. Embarrass and degrade ur husband at ur own peril and expense out of marriage.

A man is not forced into a role that’s unnatural to him, he can only take it if he wants or agrees with it.

Nobody forces a woman to do hard labor jobs/chores in the house.

Seriously, Someone will just come and say women are evil, lo. Or men are bad.

Mariangeles:




The day we all remove the M and the F tags beside our monikers, nairaland will begin to make sense.
Our comments will no longer be judged based on gender, but as our opinions.
Gender hate will decrease drastically.

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That would be a welcome development. Let's go genderless .

An average man writes differently from an average lady so some people can't hide.

Mariangeles:




The day we all remove the M and the F tags beside our monikers, nairaland will begin to make sense.
Our comments will no longer be judged based on gender, but as our opinions.
Gender hate will decrease drastically.

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Sterope:
That would be a welcome development. Let's go genderless .

It begins with you.

It has never felt right putting the F in front on mine.

An average man writes differently from an average lady so some people can't hide.

True, but we all have that masculine/feminine side. More or less.

I know I’ve got some masculine energy.

frozen70:


Any man that can't provide for his family, should willingly submit himself to be house-husband

Anything short of that will lead to trouble marriage

Even if dat man agrees to b d house husband , na una go still complain. Our oldmen used to say that any man a woman is feeding, that man il soon grow a hunched back.

Most women can't handle the role and pressure that comes with it. They'll eventually blow off or disrespect the man or cheat on him or publicly embarrass him. This I've seen many times. A man can provide for yrs without issues and without plastering it on the face of his wife.

SeriouslySense:
Seriously, Someone will just come and say women are evil, lo. Or men are bad.

...or men and women judging other men and women for not supporting their views on gender matters.

If Jeff Bezos ex-wife is looking for househusband, every man in Nigeria will apply, even Buhari

addexx:
Most women can't handle the role and pressure that comes with it. They'll eventually blow off or disrespect the man or cheat on him or publicly embarrass him. This I've seen many times. A man can provide for yrs without issues and without plastering it on the face of his wife.

This is the truth. Women do not want any kind of stress lolz and at any given point in time are only focused on whats convenient for them.....

If she can truly be a provider not just in cash, but other male duties (I'll like to watch a woman try), why not? But if being a house husband means the usual insults, sexual starvation, and slowly reaching a point where it would be "I'm independent and need no man", then no, I won't want such arrangements.

So the problem here is not the men, its women that don't want such role in the truest meaning of it. If you doubt me, then ask yourself why women only chases rich men, and not the poor ones. I mean, most of these poor men would want a woman to take good care of them, who wouldn't. So yea.

Don't ever consider it guys and Don't get married at all if possible,its a snare for abuses and insults.A trap for endless bashing and arguements with other cons on the side..Eventually na divorce go be the order of the day.
Do not be deceived,no naija woman go give you a house husband peace of mind ohh.

Hathor5:


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Something tells me that you will be a great father, loving and loved dearly.

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In many countries governments encourage fathers to look after their children temporarily. While the mother stays at home after delivery for 6-12 months, the father can stay with the kids for some months afterwards. Or if the mother is not breastfeeding, he can take over few weeks after delivery.

I love fathers to be more involved.

But how come u left out the juicy part which is so true :

If a woman has to solely provide for her home she doesn’t need the man and she will show him clearly in words and in deeds.

pansophist:
If she can truly be a provider not just in cash, but other male duties (I'll like to watch a woman try), why not? But if being a house husband means the usual insults, sexual starvation, and slowly reaching a point where it would be "I'm independent and need no man", then no, I won't want such arrangements .

So the problem here is not the men, its women that don't want such role in the truest meaning of it. If you doubt me, then ask yourself why women only chases rich men, and not the poor ones. I mean, most of these poor men would want a woman to take good care of them, who wouldn't. So yea.

The bold is the real issue with the arrangement why no rational guy would dare allow a woman be the sole provider. We all know that

Women dey try o.. To dey cook, to dey arrange house and other things.. All those stuff no easy abeg. Them go do am like say its nothing.. Respect

Acidosis:
Men should always assist their wives even if they earn all the money in the world. If things go bad and you, the man, becomes broke, helping out won't disrupt your ego because you're already used to chores. It's that simple.

The idea of role sharing based on who earns what has never made any sense to me. Y'all stop worshipping money. Don't let money control your life and relationship with those you care about.

The concept of househusband can only be a topic of discussion in a dysfunctional home, where the man sees the need to put a title on a common and basic responsibility of sensible husbands and fathers.

One of the few posts that sits well with me. All this back and forth. Just love your wife.