DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even through it was CS everything went successful. So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knief on my mum and i, she even fought my mum before she left. So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and i have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. but I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even through it was CS everything went successful. So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knief on my mum and i, she even fought my mum before she left. So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and i have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. but I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go dey urge to go abroad for omugwo.

sisisioge:
She pulled a knife on your mother? Crazzy

Everyone is afraid to tell OP that she married an "Ojelegba" Woman. I mean It takes guts to pull a knife on another human being ..
Just wondering how that man could close his eyes and sleep @ night

Vickyvice:
mother-in-law are using it to achieve control over their daughter and hubby, something we frown at, we DONT DO THIS SHIT, we only provide all the supplies both for the baby and family. That's the real omugwo. I have two sisters abroad, and we are too busy to ask my mom to do this nonsense, she herself is a lecture lre too busy to consider this. while, we waybill all the needed stuff and send abroad. Any woman can do it, not necessarily the girls mum.

DjBigMoni:
No other reason, she even had to threaten my life again after my mum incident, wanted to pure me hot water in the presence of her mum all because I said I'll still deal with her after all the pleading. she still begged for forgiveness that night

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go dey urge to go abroad for omugwo.

Efewestern:
Omigwo wasn't invented by poor people, it has been the way and custom of almost every Africans.

It okay not to do certain things, but do you have to downgrade a practice that was helped lots of family?

DjBigMoni:
No other reason, she even had to threaten my life again after my mum incident, wanted to pure me hot water in the presence of her mum all because I said I'll still deal with her after all the pleading. she still begged for forgiveness that night

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Justkatty:
That wasn't nice of her her, irrespective of what could have happened, she wouldn't have resulted in carrying knife or having a physical fight with her mother inlaw.....She for get mind carry knife for her own mama?
Anyways since she has apologise, please forgive her but a Stern warning should be given.

God abeg give me mother inlaw wey go take me as her daughter and I promise to cherish her.
The way my mama born me naso she too born the person I call my crown.
Desist from violence it doesn't pay.

Chase away his mother.

Bring in her own mother.


Then apologize.


Women are smart

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Cuttycool:
Umuogwo is not compulsory. Next time she gives birth look for another alternative helper, it's not compulsory that your mom should spend months there. Your mom can spend few weeks.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Kobojunkie:
It ought not to be a tradition/custom though.

How many married men would, after having to be directly involved, and in charge of caring for wife and child- we are talking being hands own here I.e. changing diapers, feeding, bathing, massaging the mother, waking up at night to feed and change baby or sing said baby to sleep - this during the first 6 to 9 months after birth, opt for several more of that experience?

Some men would say no more kids after 1 or 2. Your Omugwos while helpful to some, serves as a serious impediment and ought to seize as a tradition.

michlins:
First thing first,why should your mom come for omogwu?


Isn't that the exclusive rights of your mother in-law or whoever your wife choose?

GboyegaD:


Where is the law that states a mother or mother-in-law needs to come take care of the mother or her baby? All these self centered behavior is one of our problems.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Vickyvice:
this is exactly what our family want. Our sisters give birth, our family makes all supplies, both for baby and their kitchen without visiting for omugwo, while our in-laws both from our sisters husban side and our bothers wife's people visit for the omugwo, ... Both ways. even our wives are surprised that their own mum comes for omugwo, while our mum,,,their mum inlaw doesn't go for omugwo when her biological daughter gives birth. we in our family don't see the unusual neccesity of this, as we want them to be at total peace of privacy. Truth is it's not compulsory for a woman's mum to do this, since most mum in-laws have used this opportunity to become their boss of marriage. What if d woman no get mum again?

Vickyvice:
omugwo na plot my most mum in law and their daughter to turn her husband to puppet. I know many case