Thank God for threds like this.... Bro ur sanity comes first,never give in to emotions over reality.
She has been sending her naked pictures to the guy.
She plans on divorcing u.

A desperate woman can do anything. She can even kill u.
A lady whose husband is dead...Can fall in love again and REMARRY!!!.. it is spirituually and legally acceptable.

Dnt get over emotional with the kids...if u die,they will attend ur funeral with thier mum's Bf. Be warned...

akins33:
Thank God for threds like this.... Bro ur sanity comes first,never give in to emotions over reality.
She has been sending her naked pictures to the guy.
She plans on divorcing u.

A desperate woman can do anything. She can even kill u.
A lady whose husband is dead...Can fall in love again and REMARRY!!!.. it is spirituually and legally acceptable.

Dnt get over emotional with the kids...if u die,they will attend ur funeral with thier mum's Bf. Be warned...

Thanks for the submission

@Op, you are dead man walking. Take it from a senior colleague in marriage business. You need to be resuscitated.

Here is my advice.

(1) Try to DNA children discreetly. This is beyond infidelity (infidelity is already established trust me) but to guide your steps moving forward.
(2) Do all your travel plans without her knowledge if you can. If you can't tell her she will join you later. I bet she will love this offer because this will be a chance to ride as many d1cks as she fancied all along.
(3) When you get abroad, don't move her and her children. Even if they are yours. Just be cooking stories for them.
(4) If the children are yours you don't need any marriage anymore, just enjoy your life.
(4) Abandon the marriage if you need your life.

I don talk my own.

Oga,are you romantic or not?
Start playing those foreign movie love for your wife,it seems she love that kind things.

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Uglygurl:
Oga,are you romantic or not?
Start playing those foreign movie love for your wife,it seems she love that kind things.

To think this is what you can come up with....lip sealed

My advice to you as a senior man in this game of marriage:

1. Do dna test for your kids. I know you may be apprehensive of what the result will be. But trust me...do this. And since you live in Nigeria....you can do it secretly without her consent. I don't think there is any legislation. In Nigeria that compels you to tell her before you do it (in the usa though.. You need to tell her...so best do it now before you leave).

2. Continue gathering Evidence. Your wife is already cheating on you. You just haven't caught her red handed. You work in a bank. You are very busy. Women are extremely good at hiding stuffs. Pay attention to her chats more. Save screenshots. One day...she and her lover boy will fess up via cht how they had sex and how amazing it was. They will share nude pix.

3. Get. Family lawyer who understands dissolution of marriage in Nigeria. Let them advice you on how to file for divorce and what evidence is sufficient.

4. The hard part: when you have enough evidence....approach the court for dissolution. And use your evidence as proof of infidelity.

I know the mindset you have right now is to try and save your marriage. Get your wife back.

But trust me...your wife has gone far. The more you beg. Plead. The more weak you appear to be before her and the more she will disrespect you because she thinks you are week and can't do anything.

And if you travel abroad....she will be able to even have sex multiple times and when she moves a road....there IS NOTHING! You can do to get her back.

Ẹ.g. If you divorce her After you both move to the US...she still gets the kids and most of the money you both save. And you will even have to pay for child care ontop she was the one that cheated.



Be secretive about your snooping and gathering Evidence. So thT when you start listing it....she will be shocked and won't see it coming.

I suspect you may not take this advice because you love your wife...but trust me..this is the best logical course of action.

Gather evidence before you move abroad and dissolve that marriage amicably with agreement that you both share responsibilities for the kids.

After all....this exactly is Wht she will do if you were the one cheating. She will dump your ass.

Finally...please go on Google and search for this phrase "Tunde and Moyo thomas paternity scandal"

Or even read this link: https://motherhoodinstyle.net/2021/01/09/mom-2-moyo-thomas-caught-paternity-scandal-fcmb-md-adam-nuru-finally-breaks-silence/

Uglygurl:
Oga,are you romantic or not?
Start playing those foreign movie love for your wife,it seems she love that kind things.

Merry Christmas to you dear

Vicas2000:
My advice to you as a senior man in this game of marriage:

1. Do dna test for your kids. I know you may be apprehensive of what the result will be. But trust me...do this. And since you live in Nigeria....you can do it secretly without her consent. I don't think there is any legislation. In Nigeria that compels you to tell her before you do it (in the usa though.. You need to tell her...so best do it now before you leave).

2. Continue gathering Evidence. Your wife is already cheating on you. You just haven't caught her red handed. You work in a bank. You are very busy. Women are extremely good at hiding stuffs. Pay attention to her chats more. Save screenshots. One day...she and her lover boy will fess up via cht how they had sex and how amazing it was. They will share nude pix.

3. Get. Family lawyer who understands dissolution of marriage in Nigeria. Let them advice you on how to file for divorce and what evidence is sufficient.

4. The hard part: when you have enough evidence....approach the court for dissolution. And use your evidence as proof of infidelity.

I know the mindset you have right now is to try and save your marriage. Get your wife back.

But trust me...your wife has gone far. The more you beg. Plead. The more weak you appear to be before her and the more she will disrespect you because she thinks you are week and can't do anything.

And if you travel abroad....she will be able to even have sex multiple times and when she moves a road....there IS NOTHING! You can do to get her back.

Ẹ.g. If you divorce her After you both move to the US...she still gets the kids and most of the money you both save. And you will even have to pay for child care ontop she was the one that cheated.



Be secretive about your snooping and gathering Evidence. So thT when you start listing it....she will be shocked and won't see it coming.

I suspect you may not take this advice because you love your wife...but trust me..this is the best logical course of action.

Gather evidence before you move abroad and dissolve that marriage amicably with agreement that you both share responsibilities for the kids.

After all....this exactly is Wht she will do if you were the one cheating. She will dump your ass.

Finally...please go on Google and search for this phrase "Tunde and Moyo thomas paternity scandal"

Or even read this link: https://motherhoodinstyle.net/2021/01/09/mom-2-moyo-thomas-caught-paternity-scandal-fcmb-md-adam-nuru-finally-breaks-silence/

Thanks a bunch for this piece of advice.

Baca2Wenger:

I wish to be advise on what to really do in this situation i am..

1. Divorce
2. Travel out
3. Move the kids to an expensive boarding school in Ota
4. All asset in Nigeria should be moved to your son or daughters names.
5. Bring them abroad for holidays as often as possible.
6. When its time, move them abroad.

Case closed. You should aim for the head of the viper, but remember even in death the body still jerks, and the fangs still stings.

Baca2Wenger:
1. Also, i don't want to do anything that i will regret later because truly i love my wife and kids but the issue of what i've seen and know she's capable of doing brings weakness to my heart because I've discussed the issue with her diff times before but i don't want to talk about it again as she can go into default setting knowing i want to apply for visa for the family.

2. The great affection i have for my kids is what is really disturbing my head because my hustle n all is majorly to see them grow in a working system...
I wish to be advise on what to really do in this situation i am..
I am open to suggestion and advise from experienced and mostly married persons .

1. Have you in fact confronted your wife with the evidence and information you have here. I don't see the sense in playing detective if, at the end of the day, you don't confront the suspect with evidence gathered. If you indeed love your wife then you should make sure she is aware you are not happy at all in the marriage and two of you can maybe work towards resolving problems as a couple or with the help of a professional marriage counselor.

2. Working on your marriage - either towards reconciliation or otherwise is the best you can probably do for your kids as well. I don't know how old they are but they too may have noticed the relationship between mom and dad isn't going so well either.

Baca2wenger, If you take her along while still married to her, you will have invariably opted to play Russian roulette with your freedom. You are one accusation away from prison and one divorce lawyer away from bankruptcy.

Protect yourself first. Your kids will be fine.

MisterKennedy:

Merry Christmas to you dear

I WISH YOU A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR

Uglygurl:

I WISH YOU A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR

We claim that sis.
We wish you a blessed and bountiful year ahead.

We just came across your profile picture,
We fell in love with it instantly.
It's so apt!!

Now you make us wanna change our profile picture after almost 4 years we uploaded it here!!

royalpearl80:


@Barca2Wenger, the reality is actually staring at you right in front of you.....There are certainly some options in front of you based on how strong emotionally you are

One is to talk to your wife and discuss this issue with her since you still love her, bare out all your mind on how you feel and what her reaction would have been if the table turn around. The truth is that you should be ready for denial and she becoming more careful going forward with her chats and all thereby you will not see any traces again.

Secondly you can decide to ignore like nothing happened, focus your energy on the kids and pay less attention to the chats for now pending when you will get the hard fact. Continue to play your role as the hubby while also processing your traveling for now.

Thirdly, it's a dicey situation and practically impossible to say after traveling you want to take only the kids alone and leave their mother here. You rather face the reality of taking your wife and the kids then face the consequence of whatever happened afterwards or leave all of them here in naija. Except you want a divorce which is not advisable.

Fourthly, based on the present situation, leaving her all alone here while you travel abroad is also a bit of dilemma too cos as you said, you don't know what will happen. This bring me to earlier assertion that based on how emotionally strong you are, if possible for you to ignore and accept the reality of anything happening.

Would love to talk to you more & share experience with you. The other advise I can give you this particular moment is that you should make your peace of mind paramount.

I sent you a PM tho

What do you mean a divorce is not advisable? Are you okay at all??
OP do not listen to this charlatan and do not accept any pm from him.
Divorce is the only way out for you right now.
It is the hard way and also the only true way.
Any other thing apart from that is just you beating around the hush and the chicken will definitely come home to roost one day

Mariangeles:


That means she does not care about your feelings, neither does she respect your marriage.
Heck! She’s already having mental sex (if not physical) with multiple men!
So, for your peace, you have to let her go. Hard as it may seem.

Start by disconnecting from her emotionally.
Stop caring about what she does or who she chats with. Become indifferent. Let her do whatever and however she pleases.
Start doing your own thing, like fixing your own food and all.
Go cold with her. Talk with her only when necessary. Stop talking about any of your plans with her.
Play and relate with your kids only.

Remember; all these are not to make her jealous, but to free yourself from her emotional torture, and gain control of yourself again.
When you feel you’re emotionally strong enough, you cut her off by divorcing her cheating ass!

Matter of fact!

Kellzzyy:

What do you mean a divorce is not advisable? Are you okay at all??
OP do not listen to this charlatan and do not accept any pm from him.
Divorce is the only way out for you right now.
It is the hard way and also the only true way.
Any other thing apart from that is just you beating around the hush and the chicken will definitely come home to roost one day

I seriously had to look at your profile very well before coming into conclusion the kind of reply to give you for your name calling as I never quoted nor talk to you.
One thing I realized is if as at May 2021 you were still talking about girlfriend and not interested in relationships, isn't it awkward for you to put your mouth in issues like this cos it goes beyond your comprehension.

royalpearl80:


I seriously had to look at your profile very well before coming into conclusion the kind of reply to give you for your name calling as I never quoted nor talk to you.
One thing I realized is if as at May 2021 you were still talking about girlfriend and not interested in relationships, isn't it awkward for you to put your mouth in issues like this cos it goes beyond your comprehension.

I see you.
Why don't you get a job at FBI?
This is a faceless forum and it goes against the rules of this platform to check someone's profile activities.
I could easily sue you for this.
Be warned.