I was about to ask you to consider post partum depression until the part where she and mother haven't had issues yet. You should discuss what happened with her. I am curious to hear her excuse.


Personally, omugwo should be the wife's family. The woman is starting a new life. We have new mothers with new knowledge that contrast with our mothers' practices. It will be easier to stand her ground and for her mother or family to feel less offended when she opposes their approach.

What audacity!!

Pataricatering:
oga, talk true ? Wetin be your problem with women ?

Shè na man dey bear PatriciaCatering ni?

viyon02:
So her mum can come for omugo abi? If you don't want thunder fire you, don't allow her mum too to come for omugo period.

The wife's mother is usually the one who comes for Omuguo, it's always been like that.

Justkatty:
What are you saying? He should aswell chase his mother inlaw? Two wrongs can't make a right, She has said sorry..so I don't see any reason for dragging same issue.

Read carefully and get the gist.

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

Have you done DNA test on the kid ? Ok

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pricklewane:
Abeg shut up.
So the postpartum depression can not continue on her mother. It is selective n only happens when the guys mom is around.

Your head need to be busted with confirm iron sledge hammer so you never live to spew rubbish again.

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You and those that liked that your sick comment are even sicker than the op's wife!

michlins:
it's thing of you for the visiting mother

I'm guessing you mean a thing of joy. This is true but not until one does Omugwo before she experiences joy. I have many seen more woman abandon their husband to go do the Omugwo thing which I think it is unfair to the men.

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go mumu leave her lecturing work wey she even dey look for more time to conclude research, dey urge to go abroad for omugwo, as if she's the first mother in law in d world, or na she be the first grandmum on earth, I hate to hear this useless term,,, omugwo. Africa and their useless mentality

What is Africa doing here? Abeg, stop that rubbish. Always looking for ways to tarnish the image of Africa. No wonder ur race is so left behind. Be ass licking whites.
Africa this and that yet, there is higher rate of failed marriages and suicide in USA alone.

Keep hearing stories that turns me off from marriage , no woman can ever come between me and my family.

Simran94:

The wife's mother is usually the one who comes for Omuguo, it's always been like that.

so that gives her right to pull knife on his mom, do you see unfortunate words that is coming from your empty brain

leesamyoung:


so that gives her right to pull knife on his mom, do you see unfortunate words that is coming from your empty brain

First and foremost, you are the one with the empty brain here with the unfortunate words because you can't decipher the post I was referring to in the first place

Tallesty1:
Selective postpartum depression abi? why is she not having issues with her own mother?



@OP I think say nah wife's mother dey first come omugwo ni?

Because her own mother would be more sensitive to her post partum induced tantrums and treat her with love and the extra care she needs right now.

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TheKingsmann1:
will you shut up

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Behave!

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cescky:


My friend shut up, i thought you would make some sense.. The curse of Africa is suspension of reason for stewpid custom and tradition..

Nothing wrong in going to help your daughter inlaw, prior to birth, during birth and after.. But not from the slavish mental state you see it, The guy above posted he had various sisters... In these covid economy, in the name of worshiping customer and tradition, you'd be traveling up and down? Imagine if the daughters are up north.. You risk your life going from one bokoharam territory to another?.. People will travel from lagos to kano in the name of attending wedding to only eat rice, they may not even be in good terms with the couple etc, but their beig faithful to custom and traditional practices, some even get accidents etc, Africans why?

With all your useless custom and traditions, Africa is the most backwards continent, am sure you haven't even lived under 24 hrs of light in your life, in this year 2021,the people that don't have custom and traditions have bern to the moon and back, their next trip is mars.. Your here talking nonsense.. Anyways buhari is your leader, we thought he was from sudan, but hes from you and your of him

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Gibberish!

Simran94:


First and foremost, I'm the one with the empty brain here with the unfortunate words because i can't decipher the post I was referring to in the first place

I thought so your brain is in sleeping mode, if na ur mom dem pull knife for you won't reason like slowpoke

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

N.B. Postpartum depression is not an excuse for bad behaviour, it is real.

Postpartum depression to the extent of threatening her mother in law with knife?

And she cannot use the same knife on her own mom ?

The wife is surely a bad woman. I won't condone that from my wife. Never!

leesamyoung:

I thought so your brain is in sleeping mode, if na ur mom dem pull knife for you won't reason like slowpoke

Like I said before, go back to the post I quoted from the beginning before you came to my mention to display how low your level or reasoning is.
Selah.

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

in yoruba land, its man(husband) family have right to come for omogwu ,though I don't know about other tribe ooo

PS: both family parent can come for omogwu but man family have right to stay longer like 2 -3 months while wife family can stay for like a 2-3weeks or so.

After all the wife family has entrusted the welfare of their daughter family to the man during wedding stuff

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nkemoma:




Mugu...

The depression happen only when mother in law de Why the wife no pull knife for her own mama?

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Behave!

First of all, it's your wife's mum who should come for ọmụgwọ not your mum, except her mum isn't available.
Secondly your wife needs mental checkup, does she think she'll be married to you if not for your mum.
Thirdly, let her continue giving birth, she'll be in your mom's position one day na tears go pop her eyes out.


OH! Finally everyone's mom should fucking go home.

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

You are the cause of your family issue. Why allow you mum come for Omogwo first. Her mum should have come first

TheKingsmann1:
there is nothing to decipher, you're foolish and senseless.
This is what you get when you're in.
Try go school so you fit upgrade your mentality.
Senseless fellow

The person i originally quoted was arguing about why the OP allowed his wife's mother to still come for the Omuguo and I replied and said it is usually the wife's mother that comes for the Omuguo. I never replied the OP issue in the first place. But as usual you nairaland boys always like to display your low level of reasoning and the reason why you would quote someone without insulting yourselves and your families.

GboyegaD:


I'm guessing you mean a thing of joy. This is true but not until one does Omugwo before she experiences joy. I have many seen more woman abandon their husband to go do the Omugwo thing which I think it is unfair to the men.

lol


You dare not complain as a man because someone left her husband to come visit you too

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go mumu leave her lecturing work wey she even dey look for more time to conclude research, dey urge to go abroad for omugwo, as if she's the first mother in law in d world, or na she be the first grandmum on earth, I hate to hear this useless term,,, omugwo. Africa and their useless mentality. It's is devised to attempt control the husband.

Mesef tire for this omugwo shii o cos I wonder who do omugwo wen Eve born..

Simran94:


The person i originally quoted was arguing about why the OP allowed his wife's mother to still come for the Omuguo and I replied and said it is usually the wife's mother that comes for the Omuguo. I never replied the OP issue in the first place. But as usual you nairaland boys always like to display your low level of reasoning and the reason why you would quote someone without insulting yourselves and your families.

Depends on tribe. Since the woman has joined a new family, her mother is not the one to do itomo in Yorubaland. The OP might be Yoruba.

Mariangeles:


No dey talk wetin you no know. If you no understand, ask!

Wetin you think say omugwo be for? Vacation?
You think say na about food, and toys, and echetara'm na echetara'm?

Omugwo for Igbo land na to help woman wey just born pikin.

To help her with herself and the baby, until she's strong enough to handle things herself.

God bless you. Don't mind that mumu. Even the Asians, Caucasians, Latinos all do this. I am surprised when people tag everything to be African culture.

This is a global culture........ Mothers/Mother in-laws help their daughters after delivery.

viyon02:
So her mum can come for omugo abi? If you don't want thunder fire you, don't allow her mum too to come for omugo period.

I hate you

baby124:

Depends on tribe. Since the woman has joined a new family, her mother is not the one to do itomo in Yorubaland. The OP might be Yoruba.

Yeah but Igbo people do and I think hausa too not sure. My cousins mother was the one who went when she just gave birth and she and her husband are yoruba. I think it just depends on the women sha

DjBigMoni:
Thank God for safe delivery, even though it was CS everything went successful.

So my mum came around for Omugwo first and ever since my wife had been having issues with her. it got to the extent my wife pulled a knife on my mum and I, she even fought my mum before she left.

So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and I have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. But I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

lol you better sleep with one eyes closed before she kill you for sleep.a woman that cannot handle a conflict with civility but must apply violence is a threat to your existence