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Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by sunjai(f): 2:47pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles:thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 2:51pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
DjBigMoni:OP you have already said somewhere on the thread that your wife has a hot temper, so all those trying to excuse her actions as being possibly caused by depression, should realise that depression may cause a woman to behave out of the ordinary if under extreme stress, but I doubt it could change a woman's character. A calm gentle woman is unlikely to become abusive or violent , your wife violent actions occurred because it was already in her character and this matter is extremely serious. On many levels this is a red flag that cannot be ignored and must be addressed. First and foremost, start by according your mother-in-law the respect she deserves, to demonstrate that your own parents taught you how to behave. Her behaviour shows she is capable of attempting to murder not only you, but your mother and by extension members of your family. She is also showing that she is negligent of her own health to be fighting whilst healing from a major operation, meaning in those moments her anger is such that she wasn't valuing her own life. This means if she cannot see much value in her life how can she see value in another person's life hence her ability to attempt to murder someone in that moment of rage. Even your baby child's life can be taken by her during such periods or anger. That is why I say her actions cannot be ignored. She cannot be left alone especially with the baby because her actions have passed depression and have enter psychotic. Arrange additional helper(s) of her choice to assist her and move out of the house for a week or more to calm down. It may also show how serious what she done was. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Oyiboman69: 2:52pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:I support you arguing of bringing issues to some family but you condemning it is very wrong. do you know after delivery, a lot is needed to be done from bathing of the baby to bathing the mother also with a very hot water which she would not be able to do on by herself cos there is some pain attach to it in the process and also keeping a close look on the baby and the mother?... In addition, failure to do those things also result to some after effect on both of them. besides, how can a man have the chance and time to take of a nursing mother in the in this present Nigeria when all you bring financially is not enough?.... me wen my wife born,I no even fit cope with her and the baby for the same bed,cos after a hectic day, I got to sleep well so as to get healthy for the next day hustling.... from your write up, I can also deduced that your a single guy so,in this context, don't condemn the process... that girl is ill mannered devil,I won't tolerate such person around me... |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Elporo(m): 2:53pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
eyinjuege: Why u dey answer the small boy. ![]() |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Kobojunkie: 2:54pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Oyiboman69:1. You don't know what precipitated her actions.... hence the reason why it is best to hear from the horses mouth on this. It could have been the case that the MIL threatened to take the baby away the woman in question. We don't know until the OP reveals the truth. ![]() 2. Postpartum depression does not go away after pregnancy. Sometimes it lasts years afterwards. It is not some predictable phenomenon and should not be treated as such. ![]() 3. Old women are humans and are prone to errors, aren't they?, ![]() 4. If my mother is out-of-line, she is out-of-line. I try to judge all things fairly - no favoritism. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 2:54pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles:So husband don't get postpartum depression during wife's pregnancy for all the hustling to put food on the table, right? Because when it comes to women's issue, you guys have name for it. I may be going out of the topic, it absolute bullshit from his wife. She won't let her husband mother to visit for Omugo but she prefer her own mother. Why didn't her fight her own Mother? The way you guys defend your fellow women online, despite their witchcraft actions, you ladies still defend them. It makes me judge you ladies as same. Attending the same coven |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 2:56pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
NOETHNICITY: Till then, respect is reciprocal. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by DarkJeddi(m): 2:57pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Very convenient.. Guess her postpartum depression.. Is selective on who she unleashes the consequences on. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by BAVOSKI(m): 2:58pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
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Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 2:58pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Blyzz: Small man, see you later. I thought I was explaining this is to someone wey get sense. So you feel women don't provide for the family, guy try get sense cus most women are providers these days. Bye |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by macrodata(m): 3:02pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Vickyvice:If you're a lady, someday you'll understand the value of our tradition. If your mom don't have time to attend it's understandable but don't make it seem like it's a waste of time & useless because you are woke. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Kobojunkie: 3:02pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Oyiboman69:1. That is why she has a husband to do that job ... he is her 'helper' after all. ![]() 2. Men/husbands across the world, take care of their nursing wife and baby every day. Nigerian men aren't shihidi. ![]() In some countries, men wake up earlier than usual to bath their baby, cook the meal for the day, prepare bottles and refrigerate them, boil hot water, even bath their wife, this before leaving for work each morning and until the wife is able to get on her feet to help. Why can't a Nigerian man be expected to do the same in his own marriage? ![]() 3. Single guy because I don't see the Nigerian situation and man as you do. Look, it is time people wake up from the Nigerian mentality that is nothing but normalized foolishness, ok? There is everything wrong with settling and accepting what amounts to foolishness as the norm. ![]() |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 3:02pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Ninisun:woman are greedy, they have a limit to what they do. Of course, they provide. But why must you support your fellow women even while she did wrong. Ain't that witchcraft? You already gave a name for the cause of her action. Btw, why did you call me small man, & don't bye me ![]() |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Kobojunkie: 3:05pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
irunoko:Even better if her husband, her 'helper' in her marriage, is the one assisting her instead. ![]() |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Nobody: 3:08pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Blyzz: You can't be a good counselor, so he should dissolve his marriage because she fought with his mother? Try to create a room for reconciliation. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by jaxxy(m): 3:10pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: So u will accept ur own mum isn’t welcomed in ur house because of ur wife?? Who draws a knife on her mother in-law?? ![]() Or that’s perfectly normal behavior to u? |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Mires: 3:11pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles: So the Postpartum depression is individual sensitive such that it won't extend to her biological mother right? |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Kobojunkie: 3:11pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Emaprince:1. The husband doesn't need to stop working in order to help nurse his wife and baby back to health. In most cases, all he needs do is help feed and care for the baby, help prepare the wife and baby for the day - bath them, prepare food, and make them comfortable before he leaves for work and repeat after work. Millions of husbands/men across the world do this every day, so I see no reason why the Nigerian man should claim exceptions for himself. ![]() 2. The tradition is wrong and needs to be revised. It diminishes the man's experience as a 'helper' in his own marriage. ![]() 3. Wrong! A marriage is an agreement between a man and woman...no third-parties are included in the contract. The moms ought to stay in their own marriages instead. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Owiii(m): 3:12pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
DjBigMoni:Oga why did you allow your mother to come for the Omugwo when her mother is still alive? You started all this and now you want to blame it all in your wife abi. May your conscience judge you to this. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Funflipper: 3:14pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles: "Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?" I beg wetin? Na only Nigerian women dey born pikin? They always come up with this flimsy excuse to justify their wickedness and horrible behaviour. There is nothing in this world that should warrant a wife putting her hands on her mother-inlaw. Not even madness. |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by benqo01(m): 3:16pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
slimjohn2k5: Stop giving excuses here if she was suffering from such can she raise knife on her own mother? |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by TheKingsmann(m): 3:17pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
TheKingsmann1:You will never be a responsible person udeme triumph the Calabar dog eater and scammer unless you give ur life to christ |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Kobojunkie: 3:17pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
NaijaHelper1:1. Yes! Men and husbands world over do it daily, so I don't see why a Nigerian man should get a pass as if he is busier than all. ![]() 2. MIL coming in to help takes away from an experience that is meant for a husband and wife in the marriage. ![]() 3. That is exactly what I continue to do here. I have not stopped you from airing your opinions, have I? ![]() 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by Oyiboman69: 3:17pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:her place is to report her attitude to the son not displaying her perpetual madness... and as for you,,it is either you don't know women or you're just trying to apply unwarranted diplomacy in your judgement.... |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by lagosrd: 3:18pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
See if you allow this kind of thing to continue without proper care, a worse one is on its way. She and her mother must apologize to your mother in the same manner she disgraced her and you yourself must not allow that kind of behavior with treat that you will abandoned her and the kid. The earlier the better |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by ceeceeuwa: 3:20pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
DjBigMoni:You are on a long thing! I am sure you saw those signs during courtship. Carry your cross! |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by 77up(m): 3:20pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Postpartum kee you dia ![]() Op, I don't know why women hate to see mother in law and it's funny knowing fully well that they will also become one later. Similar case is happening around me currently, that wife hates her mother inlaw with passion even though the woman have turned herself to a low budget house maid just to please the wife. I support the first comment , don't allow her mum too, tell her to leave ![]() |
Re: My Wife Fought My Mum by TrumpDonald2: 3:21pm On Dec 19, 2021 |
DjBigMoni: I thought it's the brides mother that comes for Omugwo? Your mum shouldn't have come at least not first. You did wrong there man. Forgive her that she fought your mum but she needed her mother and not yours. |
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