Op, forget all those saying, there is nothing wrong in it. Infact everything is wrong with it. I am very sure majority of them aren't married so they don't see it they way you are seeing it. If it was her parents i would understand. Her brother stay your house shouldn't exeed 3days, he should go stay in a hotel. Culture and tradition permit a wife to serve her husband first before others. It is respect. The brother should even be the one to correct that.
Please talk to her, just do it in a calm way, so she can understand and correct herself.

That is arrant nonsense and total disregard for her husband. To think the man already told you he's hungry.

Even if she was the one that provided the money for the food, her husband must be served first! Before any other person.

Someone like me, before I serve myself, I'll first serve his food and set aside not to talk of another person.

Na una know where una dey see all these chicken brains dey marry.

Sha no smoke your lungs dry.

Mercychen:
That is arrant nonsense and total disregard for her husband. To think the man already told you he's hungry.

Even if she was the one that provided the money for the food, her husband must be served first! Before any other person.

Someone like me, before I serve myself, I'll first serve his food and set aside not to talk of another person.

Na una know where una dey see all these chicken brains dey marry.

Sha no smoke your lungs dry.

I'm scared of getting married due to heartbreaking stories we read these days, some people are just in hell.

I serve guests first, spouse next and me, last . Anything wey remain dey ok.
...walahhi, u dey worry.

God1000:
I'm scared of getting married due to heartbreaking stories we read these days, some people are just in hell.

No need to be scared. Just make sure you court whoever it is with serious prayers, telling the holy Spirit to guide you that anyone that will not give you peace, let him scatter it.

Marriage ehn.. it takes the grace of God to find what you really want.

Treepower2000:

I can see why Nigeria is where we are today.
No rational thinking.
The man pointed out that he told his wife that he was hungry and wife's brother still sleeping.
What's the rational of waking up someone in bed to serve him food before someone awake and hungry because he is a guest.
The so called brother in-law have outstayed his welcome and should therefore go back home.
After a week in another person's house you should not expect to be treated as a guest because you have become part of the household and should expect no special treatment.
Respect is reciprocal.

I've been waiting to see this from somebody and I'm glad someone has enough sense to understand the illogicality of this action.

Majority of the people who commented on the first page should really be ashamed of themselves honestly because in a bid to sound modern and woke they missed the point op was angry about.

An hungry husband asked his wife to prepare food for him quickly to eat but when she is done she went first to give the guest who is still asleep in the guest room his own share while leaving the hungry husband yet unattended to Doest that even make any sense atal?

I don't even care who the guest is or not cos even if he his my older brother and not hers I will still find it offensive.

Where is the respect and care for the husband cos I'm sure if the husband should attend to put the needs of guest before hers she wouldn't like it.

chatinent:
The way men pick on irrelevant things these days now amuse me.

Xmas is around the corner...

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

I guess you need to work more on your ego and anger management.
Forget the fact you are the breadwinner bla bla bla... She is your wife, not your slave, even if you think she married you because your money. Treat her with regard. She's only trying to play the perfect hostess. Try play the perfect host too. You people should eat at the table together, especially in the evening when you are back from work.
Anyway if you never chop the food, weighbill am come.
Hungry dey.

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

You are not mature at all. You better quit smoking cos it's affecting your sense of judgement. She served her brother first cos he was in the guest room.

Let your guests leave your house with good impression.

Learn to see her brother as "OUR Guest" and not brother inlaw

Mercychen:


No need to be scared. Just make sure you court whoever it is with serious prayers, telling the holy Spirit to guide you that anyone that will not give you peace, let him scatter it.

Marriage ehn.. it takes the grace of God to find what you really want.

exactly mercy, but I don't know if God will hear/answer my prayers because I hardly go to church.

God1000:
exactly mercy, but I don't know if God will hear/answer my prayers because I hardly go to church.

Huh?
So you're not even a bornagain?

It is well.

Mercychen:


Huh?
So you're not even a bornagain?

It is well.

born again ke

I'm from a very good Christian home, but if I tell you my story ehh you will laugh tire.

How was your night?

elantraceey:
What happened to going to the kitchen to get your own food?

It's the same thing that will keep you single or sent out of ur husband's house if they manage marry you.

author=God1000 post=108741704]born again ke

My brother, Jesus loves you. Please accept him now as your personal Lord and savior..it won't cost you anything.

I'm from a very good Christian home, but if I tell you my story ehh you will laugh tire.

It's not enough. You need Jesus personally. Biko.

I too was from a very good Christian background but it got to a point I knew I needed to know Him more for myself. That was when I gave my life to him and since then, the journey has been worth the while.

The best thing to ever happen to anyone is Christ. Please taste and see that the Lord is good.

How was your night?

Oh, twas great! The hammattan though.
Hope you had a blissful nights rest too.

Mercychen:

My brother, Jesus loves you. Please accept him now as your personal Lord and savior..it won't cost you anything.


It's not enough. You need Jesus personally. Biko.

I too was from a very good Christian background but it got to a point I knew I needed to know Him more for myself. That was when I gave my life to him and since then, the journey has been worth the while.

The best thing to ever happen to anyone is Christ. Please taste and see that the Lord is good.



Oh, twas great! The hammattan though.
Hope you had a blissful nights rest too.

I will try mercychen, it is among my 2022 new year resolutions, I will serve God next year, but that won't change my believe in humanism though.

Your story is going to motivate me more.

Hammattan is really strong oo, sleeping alone isn't easy this time, the nature is at work.

My night was great mercy, thanks, na only cough dey disturb me.

God1000:
I will try mercychen, it is among my 2022 new year resolutions, I will serve God next year, but that won't change my believe in humanism though.

Your story is going to motivate me more.

Hammattan is really strong oo, sleeping alone isn't easy this time, the nature is at work.

My night was great mercy, thanks, na only cough dey disturb me.

ah.. sorry o. Hope it's not "Omicron" or what is it called?.

Just try and treat the cough. You know the weather is dry. So you won't be eating chicken legs and be coughing. .

You are healed in Jesus name.

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

You Don chop belle full na

Mercychen:


ah.. sorry o. Hope it's not "Omicron" or what is it called?.

Just try and treat the cough. You know the weather is dry. So you won't be eating chicken legs and be coughing. .

You are healed in Jesus name.

lol, Omicron ke, back to sender oo
Thanks for your prayers dear.

I've taken some syrup already but it's just too stubborn, like you said this weather is bad

Thanks for your prayers dear.

You're welcome.

I've taken some syrup already but it's just too stubborn, like you said this weather is bad

Maybe you should add antibiotics to it. Go to a pharmacy and ask them to give you antibiotics for cough. Then use it with the syrup. Also make sure you're using the right syrup for the type of cough you have.

Is it dry cough?
Chesty cough or phlegmy cough. There are different syrups for all this types of cough and if you don't use the right one that tackles the particular one you're having, you'll just be wasting money.

Get well before Xmas.
Pele.

Mercychen:


You're welcome.


Maybe you should add antibiotics to it. Go to a pharmacy and ask them to give you antibiotics for cough. Then use it with the syrup. Also make sure you're using the right syrup for the type of cough you have.

Is it dry cough?
Chesty cough or phlegmy cough. There are different syrups for all this types of cough and if you don't use the right one that tackles the particular one you're having, you'll just be wasting money.

Get well before Xmas.
Pele.

thanks so much, I will do as you said.
Do have a fruitful day

Bola146:
As for me I don't see anything bad in that, it's a way to show honour and respect to him, it's just a visit not forever, he will soon go to his house.

NB If you truly want a happy home, don't seek advice on social media, those kids who can't maintain a week relationship will advise you astray. What works for A might not work for B.

Even with your modifications, it's the same thing!!! Is the man living forever in your house? Why come here to rant instead of telling your wife directly that she did something wrong?! You see why I always said good communication with intimacy are good in every home especially with this teens getting married everyday. I know he will still come back to ask if it's good for his wife to be greeting him every morning or late in the night orishirishi Dear Lord have mercy on us all

no try am...

God1000:
thanks so much, I will do as you said.
Do have a fruitful day

UWC.

ChybuzzDD:


This must be one of those kids commenting here.
Don't comment on things you don't yet experience or understand.

This one no be "junior come take your pap". You'll understand when you get married.

ONE OF THE WEAK MEN THAT FEELS SUPERIOR BECAUSE OF THE MASCULINITY TAG.

WHAT'S THE PROBLEM IF SHE SERVED HER GUEST BEFORE THE HUSBAND ?

if u claimed u were hungry and refused to eat the food because she served her brother first..
then u were never really hungry.
Becareful of the seeds u sow..

ignis:


It takes an idiot to recognize one.

A tale of two idiots

airexx:
It's the same thing that will keep you single or sent out of ur husband's house if they manage marry you.

Lmao.... Because of food? Just say you're overgrown incapacitated baby that can't even serve his own food. Mthheewww.

Bola146:


Like seriously, let him wait for the kids to advise him, he will be alright. All these people saying she is foolish for doing that are washing their wives panties and acting like slaves for their wives but they come online leading people astray

no be Nigerian men? Na so their lives be o.

Leaving an hungry man to serve another that isn't hungry is wrong.

Tokskob2008:
Majority of the people who commented on the first page should really be ashamed of themselves honestly because in a bid to sound modern and woke they missed the point op was angry about.

An hungry husband asked his wife to prepare food for him quickly to eat but when she is done she went first to give the guest who is still asleep in the guest room his own share while leaving the hungry husband yet unattended to Doest that even make any sense atal?

I don't even care who the guest is or not cos even if he his my older brother and not hers I will still find it offensive.

Where is the respect and care for the husband cos I'm sure if the husband should attend to put the needs of guest before hers she wouldn't like it.

This.

elantraceey:



Lmao.... Because of food? Just say you're overgrown incapacitated baby that can't even serve his own food. Mthheewww.

Who on earth sprinkled this bitchy dust?

sparog:


A tale of two idiots

3 idiots altogether, including you.