Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

This is certainly the most senseless advice (comment) I've seen here on nairaland for this year

Chaiiii, which kind mumu advice be this . You mean I should just lock up and try and forget the fact that the woman I'm about to share my prestigious and beautiful future with was once a community diick servicer?

Mallam Kabiru,I no blame you at all . E be like say your preek never jam pussycat wey settle down swallow am like tap wey every abokii don fetch water from .

No matter what--"Don't ever marry any Woman out of pity". Or. "Out of compensation".

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

For sure if you want to..but note it ain't about her sexual past it's about her attitude and character that's what matter..
As for those calling her community service your own d**k wey don touch many ladies no be community service?

I'm trying to understand, but I'm not understanding.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.....

ur opinion.....


me can't take that! from anyone..

This is bad advice.

Don’t eat sh!t because you’re hungry and jollof rice is still on fire. As a man, place value on yourself. Don’t be like OP.

Lol. Your own life no be measuring yardstick for others. Believe it or not, girls who are good in character and past exist.

What I just noticed is it's not how one expect to meet them that they're met. That's why prayer is needed in choosing a life partner and a blank mind to accompany the prayer. Blank mind because when one looks towards the bloomy right, the answered prayer may come through the left

Besides, a man who is able to look beyond beauty in choosing a life partner.. who has experiences that inspires him beyond beauty.. is not likely to make mistakes in choosing a life partner. But most men are overwhelmed by beauty.

Marry wetin like that, i'm not looking for an angel ooo, but I can never settle for less, altitude problem, entitlement etc never.

Good advice, in fact one of the best advice on this forum. To make it better, if she is a single mother, go for it, they love the best. It's gets better, look for those that have had sexual relationships with yahoo boys preferably those that have been used by them, those that their womb is damaged and the working dead among them. Just forget the past, since the past is in the past. After all she won't judge you by your future.

Opeyemiextra:
Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

Your past go be as e get

Men.. Dont settle for less...
If she's not a virgin... Expect a failed marriage Hoes are pained when they see virgins cos they always wanna corrupt them...

Never worry, the good ones are there..but it ain't easy to differ em....

Once a good girl is gone bad, she's gone forever

I'd rather stay unmarried, than marry a female who is not a virgin....
Nahhhhhhh...
That's not a possibility I'm willing to consider...
As long as she wasn't raped and she's not a virgin, then she's off the chats already...

And for those of you saying, "it's not about her past, it's about character", is sleeping around a trait of good character? Can't a person be a virgin and still have a good character?

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

It is better you don't know her past for you to have peace of mind

Nyascobar1414:
Men..
Dont settle for less...

If she's not a virgin... Expect a failed marriage
Hoes are pained when they see virgins cos they always wanna corrupt them...


Never worry, the good ones are there..but it ain't easy to differ em....

Lots of folks don't know that there's evidence to support this...

The more body counts, the likely the chances of a failed marriage...

Dshocker:


It is better you don't know her past for you to have peace of mind

What if the consequence of such past still lingers, what then??

Clickguy44:
Good advice, in fact one of the best advice on this forum. To make it better, if she is a single mother, go for it, they love the best. It's gets better, look for those that have an sexual relationships with yahoo boys preferably those that have been used by them, those that their womb is damaged and the working dead among them. Just forget the past, since the past is in the past. After all she won't judge you by your future.

Sarcasm! There you have it

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

That's just the ugly truth. If na decent girl u dey wait for, u go grow Moses.

Favfables1:
I'd rather stay unmarried, than marry a female who is not a virgin....
Nahhhhhhh...
That's not a possibility I'm willing to consider...
As long as she wasn't raped and she's not a virgin, then she's off the chats already...

And for those of you saying, "it's not about her past, it's about character", is sleeping around a trait of good character? Can't a person be a virgin and still have a good character?

But u know, people go into dream relationship thinking this might work and get really disappointed.
They keep finding true love in the process keep meeting wrong guys.
Sometimes , men torture this girls.
If not , how can u profess love to a girl..sleep with her without a condom..get her pregnant and ask her to go do arbotion.
We really need to talk to men.

Why digging someone past that may hurt you forever?
If you can't let go of a past, better don't know about it for your mental sake

Try building yourselves the way you want, if you keep searching for Mr or Miss perfect, you'll keep getting disappointment except God wishes

Build him or her the way you want, allow the future to take charge forget the past and move on
We keep getting older day by day and not reverse.
One of the best decision I took was not going into a thing that will hurt me by asking for his past life and God has been faithful.

"marry her like that"

African mentality!
Is it a must to marry?.

Reminds me of Emeka that year.. Girls wey boys dey use hold body for street that year, e reach Emeka turn him go marry her talking about my love for her is pure and the past is the past. This same Emeka dey cry today say him wife dey cheat..

If you Gerrit, you gerrit.


Guys must have sense by force....

Hmmm
Love is blind but marriage is a miracle worker that opens blind eyes.
Close your eyes to her past
but I promise you in few months time your closed eyes will open by her past friends and
sexescapade

You will start hearing stories like
I don’t like my wife again
There is no chemistry
She snores while sleeping

Bros talk true “ you closed eye don open”

There are lots of decent women but y'all chose to ignore them.

Stop that!!! Shitty mentality
First off, marriage is not a must.
Secondly don't drop your standards whatsoever, reason why your grandpa married 3-6 virgins and they all loved together peacefully..
Men are the cause of their problems, the moment we dropped our standards the women trampled on it and here we are..
Criteria for marriage then was mostly virgin bride from a good family.. what we have now is a bastardized system where gender equality and mediocre men worship used women n ignored standards.. placing women on pedestals above themselves.
God first, man then woman.
Man answers to God, woman answers to man.
No unholy man will stand before God, at least without being punished, so it is for a woman before the man. Set standards brother, there are a few good ones out there encourage them by setting standards..

Damnnn niggar
Isoright

Grab my weed to read comments

lolz...the past defines the future...they is no future without past..
all people gat bad past n it depends on ur partner to decide if he/she can adapt wit ur imperfections..
u cnt ask me to marry a popular slay queen wey all boy for hood don tear based on hookup tinz n also u cnt force me to allow my kid sister get married to a notorious ex cultist...NEVER

Funny thing is girls don’t really have a problem with a guys body count.

We are just different sha, all this gender equality is bullsh****



The real question is -

Would you like to know all the ‘bad’ things she has done in the past ? All the styles and the guys that have hanged her legs ? Or would you rather not know ?

Ignorance is bliss o…

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