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How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Opeyemiextra(f): 12:35pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
So, I have this neighbor who sells some stuff but for some reasons, I wasn't comfortable buying from her. I buy from the market. This really got her angry and I didn't even know this until recently when she would mention it. To what really happened, I was home one day and she probably assumed I wasn't. She started saying very terrible things about me to another neighbor that it scared me that another human being would really do that. I was very angry while I was inside my room deciding what exactly to do. I thought of confronting but I decided against it. Eventually I went out, greeted both of them and she was shocked that I was at home. I could see guilt written all over her even days after. Have you walked in on people or heard by chance people talking ill and evil about you? How did you handle it? 64 Likes 4 Shares
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Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Kriss216: 12:37pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Women and Gossip ![]() Nothing about this gender is worth emulating. Tueh! 150 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by KiNg0G: 12:45pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
you went out and greeted them? and came back inside your house? jubilating because you thought you saw mere guilt in her face what were you trying to prove?.... you seem like those ajebutters kinda breed. make i tell you how mama okemute go handle am for area here. She go carry chair come outside, then she go tell them to continue. because she too still get her own to talk. full area go scatter na Dc go settle the matter... make hu na stop to dey act like ajebo. na 9ja we dey o....if you do smei smei for your present them go use you play ball. 160 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by firstbornson(m): 12:49pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
You don't want to buy from her for reasons best known to you. I don't see the crime in that. People will talk shit about you especially when you want to "dey your lane". If you hear it with your own ear, sit them down and talk to them, assertively. It may just be a misunderstanding after all. If you hear it from the "Dem say" gang, I would ignore. Some people can just be bitter and spread shit about you sha. Those kind people, straighten them up. If you don't want trouble, trouble will surely come to you. 59 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by firstbornson(m): 12:53pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Kriss216: Stop making stupid and immature generalization. It seems bashing "women" is what sells on this platform now. Bashing is what people do now when they have nothing to say. 108 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by inumidun2010(m): 12:57pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Eccl.7.21 - Also take no heed unto all words that are spoken; lest thou hear thy servant curse thee: Eccl.7.22 - For oftentimes also thine own heart knoweth that thou thyself likewise hast cursed others.. KOGBAGIDI.... 29 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Nobody: 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
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Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by TimmyTen(m): 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
I think it's really important to always remember that the person who's talking about you has gone down to a very low level to try and hurt you, and that you should always be the better person and not get mad about it and lash out at the person. As long as you ignore the person and the issue, that person will never get the satisfaction of knowing that they won the "fight". 26 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Inkling(f): 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Carry soldier go beat them or report them to DSS Because you be God 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by setobaba: 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Are you I’ll? No Is she still talking about you? No Bro it’s nothing move on 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Charmingrascal(m): 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Look away and ignore. That will frustrate them. The moment they know that the Ill talks and naysaying are getting to you they will continue to talk about you but when you don't give a hoot, they will be forced to shut up 42 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by gistray: 12:58pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Buy him Cold beer for a start. Or allow him sleep with your wife to cool his hot temper 3 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by TheWolfen(m): 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
People will always talk... Nowadays I don't give the flying fvck of whatever people thinks anymore. Op you have to kill and bury that the personnel in you that give a fvck because I have learnt that no matter what you do or how you act people will still talk shit.. Even dead people still get talk about in a bad way how much more someone that is still alive. The human psychology is a complicated one. 33 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Oxtertee(m): 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Some so called neighbors are devil incarnate. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by rezzy: 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Since you didn't approach her that very minute you heard her talking ill about you. Please, Press your Ignore button 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by pyyxxaro: 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Put indosid inside their food ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by FalseProphet1(m): 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Anyone talking behind you will forever remain behind you. Ignore them and continue enjoying your peace of mind, engage them and see yourself fighting with losers. This I have seen. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by GoldenJAT(m): 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Let her know you heard what she said!! Guilty conscience will take it up from there!! It is not a fight worth fighting now! Hold on a bit!! Her mouth go put her for trouble! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by ATEAMS: 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Ignore and kill with real success Don't let them distract you with negativities Always remain prayerful....seek the fave of God in everything you do ... 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Dailyparrot: 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Let me share my experience in my house. I am the type that don't talk to people and this makes them assume that I am arrogant and proud. So, the whole people in the compound are just waiting for anything that they will use to mock me but I didn't give them any. When I see people sitting on my car, I would scream and tell them to desist from that. Boom, they are gossiping that I feel like I drive one kind big car that no one else drives. Secondly, because I like moving with slim girls with pretty face, they gossip that I carry under age girls. These were gossips that they had within themselves until I had a little misunderstanding with one of them, voom, she started vomiting all that they have been talking at my back but I give no single f_ck. I told them to call the police on me any time they see me move in with any girl they suspected to be underage and as for my car, you can't carry your oversized self and sit on my bonnet as though it is a seat. 41 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by olisefom: 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
You probably can't change it. Just continue to be yourself and do what makes you happy. Do the little you can do for other neighbours (not to impress) if the need arises. You are probably doing better than the people around her that's why she developed hatred. It is not because of what you are buying from outside, if it were, she should have mentioned just that to the other neighbour. It is an hatred borne out of jealousy. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by emkz: 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Don't react. What they want is for you to react. When you don't react and they know you know, they'd feel guilty, and that guilt would eat them. I once had a colleague who spoke ill of me on the phone to someone else. I did not react. She sent me an email trying to guilt-trip me. I still did not react. I only stopped being close to her. She started feeling bad and was trying to make amends. But it was late. I have also had one church woman accuse me of asking out two girls in the church (people I hadn't spoken to sef). A friend asked me to confront her, I didn't feel the need, and just continued to maintain my quiet demeanour. She can't even look me in the face anymore. A former boss also said nasty things about me to someone else in my face. I did not react when he expected me to, but one day I had enough and I said the most nasty things to him he'd never forget and left his unit. He became afraid because he didn't know I was bidding my time. I don't regret it, but my inner peace cannot be sacrificed for insecure people. 30 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by ipobarethieves: 1:00pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
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Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Issues40(m): 1:01pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Either the Op is a direct relative of one of the moderators or she is a moderator herself. ........because I DO NOT understand how threads like this can make front page. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by GboyegaD(m): 1:01pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Ignore the talks and anyone that wants to tell you about it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by bluefilm: 1:01pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
Kriss216:I dey tell you. Nothing at all 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by Righteousness2(m): 1:02pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
If nobody talks about you, then you are a Nobody. If you are so concerned about what people say about you, you might end up getting hurt, depressed and confused. Strive to Please GOD ALMIGHTY. Totally ignore what anyone says. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Handle My Neighbor Talking Ill About Me? by SpaceAngel: 1:03pm On Dec 28, 2021 |
What people say about me doesn't worry me a bit. They're in their own world and don't mix with mine. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
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