cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

how about don't marry at all and save your sanity?

Hmmmmmm

deolumike:
So a gentleman who has lived a circumspect life, built himself a good reputation and has his bright future right in front of him is supposed to ignore the wayward manner and promiscuous lifestyle if a girl despite admonition and warnings.

You people really expect to eat your cake and have it.

@bolded is not peculiar to women alone.
These things are not in black and white but I see your point.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

Why do that have to be a choice. You can choose not to marry

Panda7:
people that want only virgin na toto u wan marry or na toto be food

you think say reasonable man ft pay confam bride price for toto wey another guy use 2k buy...
As in juxt reason am...

Bobo dont settle for less oo..
If you be poor guy dem for no look ya face oo

AfroKnight:
This is bad advice.

Don’t eat sh!t because you’re hungry and jollof rice is still on fire. As a man, place value on yourself. Don’t be like OP.

Who needs to marry when you can enjoy yourself with them during their past. Who told OP he can't be a girl bad past lover too.

Gotze1:
Youcannot marry a struggling guy but want to be married with your past. Hypocrisy.

You must know me really well to say this with certainty. I might be learning a great deal from you about myself this hot afternoon. I'd better grab a bottle of drink for that.

ukaface:
Una wey don spoil person daughter, wey dey here dey rebuke Wetin o p talk Na una gangangan go jam those kine girls .

For una wey still dey ' holy' may the good ones jam you.

some wey sugar daddy don rubbish and married men don gabbash nkor... Who will bear the consequences

Panda7:
people that want only virgin na toto u wan marry or na toto be food

Being a virgin comes with a lot! ,y'all need to stop bad-mouthing girls who choose to keep their virginity, you should encourage instead!

It seems you don't know what virginity comes with , I'd tell you..all you need to do is to read this till end and sink something in.

Being a virgin shows good character is present !.
I've heard some people say "character is better than virginity", this still remain a senseless statement to me...a lady who is able to keep her virginity intact in this kinda era we find ourselves has withstand a lotta pressures from friends , she was able to control her sexual urge/libido! which shows she has SELF-CONTROL! ,Also,she has been abstaining from sexual immorality! ,that shows she has the FEAR OF GOD! , SHE says to herself her husband will be the first and only person to see her unclothedness?, that shows "DETERMINATION"! , SHE is keeping her virginity till marriage ,that shows her "PATIENCE" level is high
SHE is keeping her virginity for her man(her husband), that shows RESPECT!

All these I have listed above sum up to be a GOOD CHARACTER every man needs in a woman to marry.

So,
It sounds funnily bad to me when I hear people say it's better to marry a non virgin with a good character than marrying a virgin with a bad character! It's a senseless saying, doesn't make any sense!
Like,a senseless saying from those who lost theirs already doing their best to make the virgins less determined ,which is a bad thing! , soooo bad.

Being a virgin shows her ability to resist the wordly attractions despite how corrupted the world is presently , it shows her ability to resist immorality,stop trying to bad-mouth them by fabricating stories to talk bad about them,it pays to keep one's virginity! you wanna say virginity ends one night,right?..you might be right , but what it comes with never ends, it's FOREVER!.

I'd discuss more of this some other time,I have limited time right now!

justiz5:

Desire in God to give you the best.
See God will never give you a girl that is a pussy distributor (Public Pussy) if you desire in his will. Even when the "SELF" in you wants to mislead you, God will call you back. You can also do a background check even when you are sure the Holy Spirit is the one leading you.

Nothing is hidden under the Sun.

That lady you desire to marry has a past life that can not be hidden.

Every past life can be uncovered. If people of the word can do it, why can't the people of God.

For instance, I know most of my coursemates' lifestyle while in the university. The female once that used to fu...ck all over the campus or town. Some even spent days in the hostel fun..cking guys. Some of these guys will even gist loudly to our amazement how the mess girls' private parts look like, the sound it produces for every sex position and all of that.
Some have kept the video/audio recordings to date.

Now if any of my relatives want to marry such a lady and wants to find out about her lifestyle, I will gladly tell him so he can make his choice whether to Mary a fu..ck girl or not.

Another thing with these 'ashawo girls is that "na them de over do holy holy for Church pass.
They appear so religious in the Church but at night, na dem de chop Pe'nis pass.

They preach on Facebook, especially if suitors are not coming after graduation.
The big boys that bleeped the hell out of them do not consider them good for Marriage, it is you the Godly type that would want to go and neck-dip your di.ck in the wide public puss.y in the name of marriage because one useless simp on nairaland wants to make believe a mess girls past life does not count?

#Shame#

Word!

Panda7:
why should she have several sex partner?? and why should she meet bad guys ??and why should she be a sinner

Word!

cappyolu:
Who needs to marry when you can enjoy yourself with them during their past. Who told OP he can't be a girl bad past lover too.

Lol. Comrade we want to focus on heavenly race in the new year. Let us abandon sinful ways.

keneck1:
Most times I read comments on this platform concerning marriage coming from kids that are yet to understand intricacies involved in choosing a live partner,most of them are still very young probably still under their parents care, anyway live has a way of making people to see reality when the chips are down.Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.Some married men will understand my point better,live no dey easy oo

Are you a married man or woman?
I wanna decipher something

Double0h7:
Women are so special, we're more valuable than money and gold. These niggers spend their whole life thinking, debating, and formatting on top of our ass! Lol! If they spent this much energy on politics and economics and innovation, Africa wouldn't be the shit hole of the planet. The power of a woman!

Valuable than money and gold??

You are saying rubbish



I can't open my eyes and enter pit

Nyascobar1414:


some wey sugar daddy don rubbish and married men don gabbash nkor... Who will bear the consequences

they will still bear the consequences

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the most senseless advice (comment) I've seen here on nairaland for this year

Chaiiii, which kind mumu advice be this . You mean I should just lock up and try and forget the fact that the woman I'm about to share my prestigious and beautiful future with was once a community diick servicer?

Mallam Kabiru,I no blame you at all . E be like say your preek never jam pussycat wey settle down swallow am like tap wey every abokii don fetch water from .

No matter what--"Don't ever marry any Woman out of pity". Or. "Out of compensation".

Are you a virgin? Or will she be settling down her prestigious and beautiful future with a community diick? You mean she should just lock up and forget that you've had romance with other girls and can't pair bond with her?

He who is without sin should cast the stones.

Most of you come here to make noise, yet in reality you are with another man's wife, or settling down with prostitutes much like yourselves, or the opposite of whatever you type here for likes. Some of you are even incels.

keneck1:
Most times I read comments on this platform concerning marriage coming from kids that are yet to understand intricacies involved in choosing a live partner,most of them are still very young probably still under their parents care, anyway live has a way of making people to see reality when the chips are down.Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.Some married men will understand my point better,live no dey easy oo

Truly, this forum is full of kids. The average user age must be 22.

The kind of nonsense you read here, yet you see men pursuing every type of woman they mock and try to bring down in reality, from single mothers to divorcees to widows to prostitutes to unproductive ladies who bring nothing to the table to masculine women who can't cook. Many are dating exactly what they come here to condemn.

When they grow up, they will realize that these rants they deliver are nonsensical

keneck1:
Most times I read comments on this platform concerning marriage coming from kids that are yet to understand intricacies involved in choosing a live partner,most of them are still very young probably still under their parents care, anyway live has a way of making people to see reality when the chips are down.Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.Some married men will understand my point better,live no dey easy oo

Some of them are here on Nairaland. I can see them everywhere. They rebrand and come under new monickers and will be making 'sensible comments' from time to time, being balanced and just and supporting women just for show. Na lie. Na wives dem dey find if you check am well.

Even the kids that insult women here go on to PM such women on alternate monikers. Hard guy in public for eye-service, beggers of women for responses in private.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

if you no marry her like that,maybe the next one you will meet will be worse than the one you are suppose to marry.

Zeinymira:
There are lots of decent women but y'all chose to ignore them.

You must have put your issue into Reference, for saying this.

Are you an Albino for real.?

MyVILLAGEpeople:


Nobe lie bro
You are a wise man and talking from experience

My nigga. Compliments!

Zeinymira:
There are lots of decent women but y'all chose to ignore them.

Are u one of them?

zainabicy:
Funny thing is girls don’t really have a problem with a guys body count.

We are just different sha, all this gender equality is bullsh****



The real question is -

Would you like to know all the ‘bad’ things she has done in the past ? All the styles and the guys that have hanged her legs ? Or would you rather not know ?

Ignorance is bliss o…

If you want to know, like

If you don’t want to know, share

To many ladies out there, they want a man with allot of bedmatics experience bcus it is believed that these kind of guys would know how to satisfy their sexual desires, hence a man's body count would mean that he's got the right blend skills and competence.

To some of us communication is the lifeblood of the relationship. If there's something I can't discuss with my would-be lifetime partner, then there's an issue somewhere. The dead doesn't hide his unclothedness from the person who would conduct his janazah. We should be so in to eachother to the point that it just won't make sense not to open up on past, present and future.

Of course I'll want to know what am getting into. Lemme know the extent of the damage if at all there's any, because the earlier we discuss it the earlier we get to work on how to right some of those wrongs and salvage whatever is left.

Past could mean some abortions gone wrong and womb destroyed....past could also mean that the potential wife is a porn star....past could also mean an armed robber or drug addict.... could be anything of that nature. I've always encouraged discussing past relationships with my exs, and I do so with the most sincerity of intent. I don't castigate or use it against them in any topic of discuss.

BTW, you're beautiful hadjia Zainab

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

Hell NO!!! We would rather remain as bachelors than marry a retired LovePeddler.

keneck1:
Most times I read comments on this platform concerning marriage coming from kids that are yet to understand intricacies involved in choosing a live partner,most of them are still very young probably still under their parents care, anyway live has a way of making people to see reality when the chips are down.Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.Some married men will understand my point better,live no dey easy oo

Funny but true. There is a reason you rarely see married men reacting to topics like this. Reality hits differently.

Y'all should see through the OP sarcasm.....who marry a leftover, nobody

Magnoliaa:


Some of them are here on Nairaland. I can see them everywhere. They rebrand and come under new monickers and will be making 'sensible comments' from time to time, being balanced and just and supporting women just for show. Na lie. Na wives dem dey find if you check am well.

Even the kids that insult women here go on to PM such women on alternate monikers. Hard guy in public for eye-service, beggers of women for responses in private.

Lol.

Favfables1:

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Really??
Like you're gonna blame men for these??
Chief...
With all due respect...
You're wrong...
Very wrong ...

If a girl commits an abortion, she has only herself to blame no body else!!
Cause she wouldn't have been in that situation if she didn't have sex, or if she insisted on using a condom or taking anti-pregnancy drugs...

They didn't force her to have sex, she agreed to have sex, so now that there are consequences, she should face it with her full chest and not blame anybody!!!

So right now, if I tell you to put your hand inside fire, you'll put it inside and now blame me??

Bros, when it comes to confusing a woman..men are perfect.

pocohantas:


Funny but true. There is a reason you rarely see married men reacting to topics like this. Reality hits differently.

I swear bros.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

Looking for a decent gal no hard...na u know wetin u dey find.

Beress:

That's maybe because ur past is nothing to write home about

Come and force it out from my mouth �
Keep looking for past to dig.
I just don't want to use harsh words you better don't mention me anymore.