Papi85:
Hello house, abeg e get issue wey Dey bother me here for the past 1 week now which I would love to share to get opinion and advise

I am in love with a lady whom I wish to settle down with and already visited her place for introduction on the 28th of last month. Her family welcomed me and her father was pleased to see me for the first time saying he have heard a lot about me

Let me say that I hv told a lot of pple of my plans and I must confess that 80% out of 100 warned me seriously not to proceed and if I do that it won’t end well

But the biggest problem now is that the lady in question is from arondizogu in ideato north and many of my kinsmen and relative hv been warning me not to move ahead with my plans on getting married to the lady because of her origin. She is from ndiuche in arondizongu and from my personal findings the result I got about the place is terrifying and at this point I am confused. Hv not been able to sleep for the past few nights

Is there anyone that knows arondizogu very well here?

You didn't state even a single fault from either the girl, her family or Izuogu, neither did the people who have been advising you to quit. Dude all I read here is stereotype, unless you don't wanna spill it all.

I have had great experience with a lady from Aro Ndi Izuogu, precisely, Ujari. Luckily, just like myself, the lady bu onye mmiri(this might scare you because of the lies your clergies tell you, but mind you, water no get enemy) and the experience was great.

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ChrisKels:


You didn't state even a single fault from either the girl, her family or Izuogu, neither did the people who have been advising you to quit. Dude all I read here is stereotype, unless you don't wanna spill it all.

bro I don’t want to spill the girls fault because I myself do hv flaws as well. No one is perfect and even with her flaws I still made the move of going to her place to familiarize myself with her family

My fear is how almost everybody I hv told about my intentions advised and cried that I should back out. Even prophesies from 3 different men of God came and all were pointing at one direction which is negative

My bro I truly love this girl with all my heart but in a situation where friends and family who should be happy that I am about settling down instead are crying and begging me to back out it’s no good sign

Also as a man I hv been seeing the signs both physically and spiritually but hv been stubborn about it because I love this girl to a fault

I am an only son and my greatest fear is making mistakes when taking a life partner

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ChrisKels:
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Papi85:
bro I don’t want to spill the girls fault because I myself do hv flaws as well. No one is perfect and even with her flaws I still made the move of going to her place to familiarize myself with her family

My fear is how almost everybody I hv told about my intentions advised and cried that I should back out. Even prophesies from 3 different men of God came and all was pointing at one direction which is negative

My bro I truly love this girl with all my heart but in a situation where friends and family who should be happy that I am about settling down instead are crying and begging me to back out it’s no good sign

You know the girl more than they do. Now, ask them to tell you why they don't want you to go there.

If you were not a Christian, I would have suggested that you run consultations(igba afa) on her head to see if the road clear or not.

Me, I won't settle with a woman without thorough consultations, not what people say or believe.

If the signs are bad, back off. Mail me their reasons and the signs if you wish.

ChrisKels:


You know the girl more than they do. Now, ask them to tell you why they don't want you to go there.

If you were not a Christian, I would have suggested that you run consultations(igba afa) on her head to see if the road clear or not.

Me, I won't settle with a woman without thorough consultations, not what people say or believe

bro I am a Christian and hv consulted 3 different men of God about this issue and they demanded for the girls family name and community and said I should call back in the next for response and if no response comes that they will still be pushing until a sign comes

Brother can u imagine that the result I got were all negative about the girl. That if I marry her that the union won’t last after 2 kids and that I will live the rest of my life miserably. Even they told me that God hv been giving me signs about the girl especially through dreams but because of the love I hv for this girl ignored all

I hv dated this girl in question over a year now, next month will make us 2yrs together

Charles... another thing to find out for yourself after much introspection and being completely honest with yourself.

Do you have peace of mind as regards your being with this lady? Does she give you the vibes of true peace when you are with her and when you think about her.

Faults will always be present with you both. Your sexual compatibility could also be awesome BUT....

...Do you see truly see a future with her that includes peace of mind? Do you see a future where you can count on her as your wife for better and for worse?

If you do, then... fine. But If you don't... then my man, drop it.
You don't want anything that will hit you with HBP in the future.

You know, not even Blood is thicker than peace of mind.


In the end, the decision is at your table. It is your future. Not that of others. It is you, Charles.

Papi85:
bro I don’t want to spill the girls fault because I myself do hv flaws as well. No one is perfect and even with her flaws I still made the move of going to her place to familiarize myself with her family

My fear is how almost everybody I hv told about my intentions advised and cried that I should back out. Even prophesies from 3 different men of God came and all was pointing at one direction which is negative

My bro I truly love this girl with all my heart but in a situation where friends and family who should be happy that I am about settling down instead are crying and begging me to back out it’s no good sign

Also as a man I hv been seeing the signs but physically and spiritually but hv been stubborn about it because I love this girl to a fault

Papi85:
bro I am a Christian and hv consulted 3 different men of God about this issue and they demanded for the girls family name and community and said I should call back in the next for response and if no response comes that they will still be pushing until a sign comes

Brother can u imagine that the result I got were all negative about the girl. That if I marry her that the union won’t last after 2 kids and that I will live the rest of my life miserably. Even they told me that God hv been giving me signs about the girl especially through dreams but because of the love I hv for this girl ignored all

I hv dated this girl in question over a year now, next month will make us 2yrs together

Pastors and so called prophets can be manipulative and they tend to feed on your fears. I don't trust them, they lie a lot. Were you having those dreams before or after the warnings from people?

I feel Nigeria should start onyekuru against Egypt

Papi85:
bro I don’t want to spill the girls fault because I myself do hv flaws as well. No one is perfect and even with her flaws I still made the move of going to her place to familiarize myself with her family

My fear is how almost everybody I hv told about my intentions advised and cried that I should back out. Even prophesies from 3 different men of God came and all were pointing at one direction which is negative

My bro I truly love this girl with all my heart but in a situation where friends and family who should be happy that I am about settling down instead are crying and begging me to back out it’s no good sign

Also as a man I hv been seeing the signs both physically and spiritually but hv been stubborn about it because I love this girl to a fault

I am an only soon and my greatest fear is making mistakes when taking a life partner

Big Bro, please if you know that you aren't getting what you want, if you know the love is not reciprocated, bikonnu leave her. Love fit make you dey think say this girl is the best thing after slice bread. We're talking about marriage here. A very important part of a man's life. We should avoid costly mistakes. Any red flags can cause problems in the future. Our people say, "what an old man sees while sitting down, a young man can't see it ontop an iroko tree".
Nwanne, you'll find a better person, don't overlook flaws just because of love. Think critically.

TheSuperNerd:

I have a really good feeling about Kelechi at this Afcon. Ismael Bennacer of Algeria was still at Empoli when he went to the Afcon with Algeria and shone so Bright. Immediately after the Afcon, lad signed for Milan.

This Afcon is gonna be huge for Kelechi. Not just him though. I feel Aribo's next move is also gonna be kinda linked to his Afcon showings.

Wishing our lads the best of the very best.

When be our first match sef?

isan:
Uzoho shouldn't have spilled that

Why won't he spill it? He is not a talented goalkeeper. This bunch is the worst set of goalkeepers we have every produced to a major tournament.

TheSuperNerd:
Charles... another thing to find out for yourself after much introspection and being completely honest with yourself.

Do you have peace of mind as regards your being with this lady? Does she give you the vibes of true peace when you are with her and when you think about her.

Faults will always be present with you both. Your sexual compatibility could also be awesome BUT....

...Do you see truly see a future with her that includes peace of mind? Do you see a future where you can count on her as your wife for better and for worse?

If you do, then... fine. But If you don't... then my man, drop it.
You don't want anything that will hit you with HBP in the future.

You know, not even Blood is thicker than peace of mind.


In the end, the decision is at your table. It is your future. Not that of others. It is you, Charles.

bro the signs are not positive but I hv been pushing on because of the love I hv for her

Since I hv been with her till date whenever I see her in my dream it’s all negative

Even 3 nights ago I saw myself in a dream where I went visiting at her home town. The father welcomed me and was happy to see me. I was discussing with the dad all of a sudden an old man who should be in his early 70s or mid 60s surfaced from no where. The old man looked haggard,rough and drunk. So the dad asked the man who he is looking for and the old man replied that he came to ask for the girls hand in marriage

I got provoked and confronted the man immediately even her dad joined me. We were asking the man how shameful he is coming to marry a girl whom he is over 3 times her age but upon all the shouting and threat the old refused to leave insisting that he must take the girl home as his wife

So after much fight the old man grudgingly left the compound and sat outside still waiting

The next the I saw in the same dream was another guy, this time a young guy who should be around my age but dirty and rough.. he also came that he wants to marry the girl as well

This time the girls dad was confused and didn’t know what to do anymore but I was the one that stood in shouting at the guy even we were at the point of fighting before I woke up

I hv seen a lot of signs via dream but this is the latest one I saw about 3 abi 4 nights ago

ChrisKels:


When be our first match sef?

Tuesday

Stormtrooper11:


Big Bro, please if you know that you aren't getting what you want, if you know the love is not reciprocated, bikonnu leave her. Love fit make you dey think say this girl is the best thing after slice bread. We're talking about marriage here. A very important part of a man's life. We should avoid costly mistakes. Any red flags can cause problems in the future. Our people say, "what an old man sees while sitting down, a young man can't see it ontop an iroko tree".
Nwanne, you'll find a better person, don't overlook flaws just because of love. Think critically.

you are right bro

Because I hv been thinking how come 80% of people that I call friends and family is advising and crying that I should not move on with my plans of settling with this girl

I hv met 3 men of God whom I believe in so much and that hv not failed me for once and all the message they gave me after consultation are in line and negative pointing to the same direction

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ChrisKels:


Pastors and so called prophets can be manipulative and they tend to feed on your fears. I don't trust them, they lie a lot. Were you having those dreams before or after the warnings from people?

bro I never discussed my fear to this men of god. I only told them of my plans of getting married to a particular girl but needs to ask questions as well as seek the face of god

The answers I got from this different men of God where pointing to one direction and the same interpretation bro I no go lie you

That if I end up with the girl that I won’t enjoy the marriage and that I will be miserable till the day I die. That the girls grand dad was a renowned native doctor when he was alive. That there are strong forces against the family which will turn to battle me immediately I settle with this girl

Oya bro mk I burst your head. The girl is a pretty girl and hv cousins that are even more beautiful than here within the age bracket of 23-25 none is married. Sometime last yr I was even pushed to ask her this ur fine cousins does it mean no man Dey see them to marry? She opened up to me that women in her family find it difficult to marry

Even her dads 3 sisters that got married all returned to their fathers house with kids. I was shocked

This dreams I hv been having them even before I visited their place on the 28 of December. It was after the visit that I went home for a burial on the 6th of January and informed my kinsmen of my plans which all kicked against

@chriskel if you know ndizogu well she is from ndiuche

Papi85:
you are right bro

Because I hv been thinking how come 80% of people that I call friends and family is advising and crying that I should not move on with my plans of settling with this girl

I hv met 3 men of God whom I believe in so much and that hv not failed me for once and all the message they gave me after consultation are in line and negative pointing to the same direction

You've made a Decision already, but seem you're bothered with guilty conscience. Go ahead with your Decision bro, and don't feel guilty over it. Its Marriage we are talking here not just dating.

Oasis001:





You've made a Decision already, but seem you're bothered with guilty conscience. Go ahead with your Decision bro, and don't feel guilty over it, coz its Marriage we are talking here not just dating.

thanks bro

Papi85:
bro I never discussed my fear to this men of god. I only told them of my plans of getting married to a particular girl but needs to ask questions as well as seek the face of god

The answers I got from this different men of God where pointing to one direction and the same interpretation bro I no go lie you

That if I end up with the girl that I won’t enjoy the marriage and that I will be miserable till the day I die. That the girls grand dad was a renowned native doctor when he was alive. That there are strong forces against the family which will turn to battle me immediately I settle with this girl

Oya bro mk I burst your head. The girl is a pretty girl and hv cousins that are even more beautiful than here within the age bracket of 23-25 none is married. Sometime last yr I was even pushed to ask her this ur fine cousins does it mean no man Dey see them to marry? She opened up to me that women in her family find it difficult to marry

Even her dads 3 sisters that got married all returned to their fathers house with kids. I was shocked

This dreams I hv been having them even before I visited their place on the 28 of December. It was after the visit that I went home for a burial on the 6th of January and informed my kinsmen of my plans which all kicked against

Your mind is made up bro. If you are convinced within yourself that there are elements of truth in your fears and that you can't handle it, then cancel the union, and get yourself another girl, otherwise, if you end up with the girl, any little challenge wey you get, you go dey fear and you go dey suspect her, you go begin see her as reason for the challenges, like that, peace dun run from your home oo.

This is just my little advice nwanne m

Papi85:
bro I never discussed my fear to this men of god. I only told them of my plans of getting married to a particular girl but needs to ask questions as well as seek the face of god

The answers I got from this different men of God where pointing to one direction and the same interpretation bro I no go lie you

That if I end up with the girl that I won’t enjoy the marriage and that I will be miserable till the day I die. That the girls grand dad was a renowned native doctor when he was alive. That there are strong forces against the family which will turn to battle me immediately I settle with this girl

Oya bro mk I burst your head. The girl is a pretty girl and hv cousins that are even more beautiful than here within the age bracket of 23-25 none is married. Sometime last yr I was even pushed to ask her this ur fine cousins does it mean no man Dey see them to marry? She opened up to me that women in her family find it difficult to marry

Even her dads 3 sisters that got married all returned to their fathers house with kids. I was shocked

This dreams I hv been having them even before I visited their place on the 28 of December. It was after the visit that I went home for a burial on the 6th of January and informed my kinsmen of my plans which all kicked against

Did the pastors ask where she was from before giving their verdict? They may all have been influenced by that.

ChrisKels:


Your mind is made up bro. If you are convinced within yourself that there are elements of truth in your fears and that you can't handle it, then cancel the union, and get yourself another girl, otherwise, if you end up with the girl, any little challenge wey you get, you go dey fear and you go dey suspect her, you go begin see her as reason for the challenges, like that, peace dun run from your home oo.

This is just my little advice nwanne m

okay bro tnks a lot

It’s heart wrecking but my mental well being and happiness in the future weighs more than the pain I am going through currently

I no with time I will heal and the rightful person for me God will make her surface in no distant time

Thanks all for your advice and contribution

JohnBullMySon:
Did the pastors ask where she was from before giving their verdict? They may all have been influenced by that.

yes they told me to send her name and that of her family and her kindred in izuogu which I did. They said I should call them the next day that if there is any answer they will tell me but if there is none yet that they will still be pushing until a response comes

And I consulted this 3 men of God different days but all the response I got from them where in line with the same interpretation

Even now I remember. I have a friend who wanted to be a priest but backed out later. When he heard the girl I want to marry is from ndizogu he told me that the place is vast but if it is the main izuogu that he will advise me to back out. That he knows the place very well cus as a seminarian he did his apostolic work there

He asked me which kindred is the girl from I told him ndiuche this my friend screamed. He said ndiuche is the particular place he did his apostolic work in izuogu and that the place is nothing to write home about with strong forces hovering around

That even if no one advised me to back out that he will tell me not to make the move. That the people in the community are too fetish and full of evil. That he spent 5 months in the place then before he hurriedly left

That if it is izuogu that is close to okigwe,umuahia or akokwa that he will even go with my during the marriage but that ndiuche is the main arodinzogu and that they are very bad

That even mere stepping into the community if you are spiritually inclined you will notice that all is not well with the place and it’s people

Papi85:
yes they told me to send her name and that of her family and her kindred in izuogu which I did. They said I should call them the next day that if there is any answer they will tell me but if there is none yet that they will still be pushing until a response comes

And I consulted this 3 men of God different days but all the response I got from them where in line with the same interpretation

Then you have your solution here. They simply did some findings about the kindred and family, and that influenced their responses. So if I were you, I will concern myself less with where she's from and more with her character. Can I tolerate all her bad attitudes without getting too angry?

If she has a hidden nasty attitude that will never sit with you, or you with her, then all those prophecies will come to pass. However, if you and her are good together, behavior wise, then all those background tales are that, TALES. Almost all bad marriages are caused by behavior that a partner can't tolerate. Know this and know peace. Your call.

Papi85:

@chriskel if you know ndizogu well she is from ndiuche

Lol I sabi Aro Ndi Izuogu well. Sha, there jazz strong but that year my grandfather's right hand man, Chief Ikonne a.k.a "Air-raid", "Agu na-eche mba 1 of Isuikwuato" dey always put them in their places. Several times, in a contest, he defeated and brought back home the rams of Mezuo Okoye a.k.a "Pericoma" Lion of Africa", “Arusi Makaja 1 of Arondizuogu", "Arusi izuogu na iheme. Speed Darlington's father

Bro, abeg as your mind no strong, just pull out of that marriage, ka udo chia

JohnBullMySon:
Then you have your solution here. They simply did some findings about the kindred and family, and that influenced their responses. So if I were you, I will concern myself less with where she's from and more with her character. Can I tolerate all her bad attitudes without getting too angry?

If she has a hidden nasty attitude that will never sit with you, or you with her, then all those prophecies will come to pass. However, if you and her are good together, behavior wise, then all those background tales are that, TALES. Almost all bad marriages are caused by behavior that a partner can't tolerate. Know this and know peace. Your call.

okay thanks bro

ChrisKels:


Lol I sabi Aro Ndi Izuogu well. Sha, there jazz strong but that year my grandfather's right hand man, Chief Ikonne a.k.a "Air-raid", "Agu na-eche mba 1 of Isuikwuato" dey always put them in their places. Several times, in a contest, he defeated and brought back home the rams of Mezuo Okoye a.k.a "Pericoma" Lion of Africa", “Arusi Makaja 1 of Arondizuogu", "Arusi izuogu na iheme. Speed Darlington's father

Bro, abeg as your mind no strong, just pull out of that marriage, ka udo chia

ok bros thanks a lot

I hear say the pple too strong especially the part the girl is from which is ndiuche. Her late grand father was a strong known native doctor. His name is igwe and he had many wives

Papi85:
ok bros thanks a lot

I hear say the pple too strong especially the part the girl is from which is ndiuche. Her late grand father was a strong known native doctor. His name is igwe and he had many wives

Just pull out.

ChrisKels:


Just pull out.

ok bro