So I saw a thread earlier, and decided to educate husbands in the house how to play the home politics, just as adviced by my pastor's wife.

My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.

Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.

You can add your own way of playing the family politics.

Please if this is front page worthy, kindly move to fp, so men can learn 1 or 2 this new year.

May our wives not take all our glory all in the name of I'm too busy in Jesus name. Amen

Exactly

I wish I could give you more likes. You have spoken like a real man that was both a child and is a husband

Ofadaman:
Truth is, the world isn't fair to men,but that's how the world works, growing up as kids we see more of our mum, they provide the care and all, but we hardly see the real side of our fathers because our mums portray our dad's as the enforcer who only disciplines, meanwhile the man toils from dawn to dusk to make the money ,it's the money that our mum's translate into the good things like food, school bags,fees, clothes, parties etc .
This places the mothers in position of care and weakness, a position that uncannily makes we want to care and protect them, we grow up with that mindset such that when parents are aged we send money to our mums in hope that they'd transform it into something good. Now, this is where we are wrong, women aren't good with power especially over their husbands, should you take this approach, the women will try to subjugate her husband and soon you'd find your father becoming more naive and have less voice in home affairs.

As a son, who understands , when you send money , send to your mum for the house items with your dad knowing, but also send to your Dad privately for his pocket (even if it's a quarter of what you gave your mum for the house items) , because a man needs it for his confidence.

The world has no sympathy for men, even in their old age, they have no where to run to, no shoulder to lean on, even their own kids abandon them. No one remembers their struggle, have you heard of any musician singing about how his father prayed for him or advices him?.. it's always the mums.

If you're a man and reading this, You can break this circle, be there for your father,

Tell this to your sons also.

Women always being manipulative, I use to think my Dad was a wicked man.

Gbam, most of them will make you see your father as a witch or terror, whereas behind you they will be the ones to incite your dad against you, because when most of these things that will make your dad discipline you will happen your dad won't be at home, but somehow, the wife will report to dad, and dad will take action.

Then when you are away she will tell the kids how you can't even show little mercy.

The earlier men starts playing the family politics, the better for them

Kingpin1000:
Women always being manipulative, I use to think my Dad was a wicked man.

OP come lemme hug you. This is the best thread I have seen this year.

I hereby appoint you as the secretary for fathers association of Nigeria, south south constituency.

Lalasticlala. I can see you. We are discussing the snakes in the family. Do justice

Brb about my father

I'm back.

I don't know if I like my father but I've grown out of believing he is not a good father. My father will give my mother money to buy us Christmas cloth, in our presence. He will even tell us stories about how his father neglected him but he won't do that to us. I still remember he is a big disciplinarian.

Hmmmm


Also children love to play.... Play with them as much as possible, buy toys for them as much as possible and join them to play with the toys.. Be a child for your children o.. That one dey very important! ... Mothers rarely carry their kids when theyv gotten to three years.... Oga carry them till they are 8 or even ten.... Don't be a tyrant to ur kids no matter how harsh you are to their mum...

Dalunu

CondemnBattery:
So I saw a thread earlier, and decided to educate husbands in the house how to play the home politics, just as adviced by my pastor's wife.

My pastor's wife thought me a valuable lesson. She legitly told us to be smart as husbands, when the kids did something wrong in your absence and your wife did not discipline the child, but waits for you to come back and discipline them, don't. Make sure she disciplines them herself, otherwise your kids will think you are the wicked one and the evil one.

Don't always give your wife all the money to buy things for the kids, take the children out to the market, buy them clothes, take them to the grocery store, buy the provision in their present. Let them know you are the one buying them. If you buy them shoes or anything, make sure they are aware that you are the one buying them. If you do all these, the kids will love you more. This is 2022, don't allow your wife rob you of your years of labor when it's time to reap.

You can add your own way of playing the family politics.

Please if this is front page worthy, kindly move to fp, so men can learn 1 or 2 this new year.

May our wives not take all our glory all in the name of I'm too busy in Jesus name. Amen

These are the fact.

These are politics women play to win the children. Accrue all glories meant for the responsible fathers to themselves

Good points.
3. Always be available for them. Everything is not about hustle and business. Close early, go home and have a wonderful time with your children

You want to drag your kids' love with your wife or what?
What if you're a military man and you're never around?
What if you're an expat in another country and you no dey ever dey?
What if you're a sailor and your presence at home is nothing to write home about?
What if......?


I could go on and on. Just stop there and do what your duties are as a father and husband to your nuclear and the love will never die. Don't ever expect all your kids to love you equally but remember that no matter what they all love you unconditionally.


What do I know anyways? I'm just a single guy without any offspring yet so maybe I don't know what I'm saying.

The author of this post is mistaken in thinking children can easily be manipulated and misled, hardly, not when they are adults and grown ups... with time one could easily realise who is who. A nasty mother can't mask her nastiness, same for the father.

I do hope some ones listen tho..
Blessing to all women out there..

Provide for them. dont be a dead beat father. Always be there for them. even if their mother tell lies about you to them, one day, they will know the truth. i have a dead beat father and i don't about him. he manage the little from my mom. he has never paid my school nor buy food. he would reap where he didn't sow. we have open a shop for my mom. last December i gave her 90k. i gave my dad no money. it was my mom that gave him 10k from her 90k.

The children are not stupid they see all the effort of the parents. you don't drink away ur life and expect so much from me

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Hahaha ,well am a man with kids ,if u don't want to have problems with your family members try to show real love to your wife and be faithful to her,especially during the early years of your marriage before she start to make her own money or before the kids grow up into Adults,she will be the person promoting you before your kids behind your back, because a woman can never talk ill of the real love of her life ,I travel to village for meetings and community elections for two weeks when I came back i saw that my kids really missed me cos my wife missed me ,out of the blues my second boy said to me u are the best dad in the world, I knew my wife taught him to say that while I was away ,so love your wife and take care of her needs according to your capacity u will have a peaceful life and your kids will love you and take care of you in your old age..

Very funny. A man should take his children out to buy clothes. Why? What’s wrong with the wife doing it??

There are other ways to show ur affection and care to ur children. It goes beyond buying this or that. It’s about spending time and having right discussions, connecting and bonding.

They already know u pay the school fees and rents and all that and that doesn’t guarantee a good relationship with ur kids.

A P T, as we grow older the truth reveals itself.

Yeah

Mom moved out of dad's house when I (last born) was a baby. I grew up with my mom but dad would always come around to take me out for stationery, wears or drugs. I can really say we all love both parents equally. He was a very caring father.

I agree with OP.

Just be nice like a normal guy man

We will continue to safeguard the lives and property of Nigerians, so help us God!

~SAYS NIGERIA POLICE

Watching.... Lemme sleep on this.

Omo...this just broke my heart into pieces. Forgive me lord, for in have being wrong abt my dad all along.

Man go dey work.. Women go dey take the glory..
At the end of the day. Kids go love mama more...
Op your points are valid..
Na the same %tage of love I get for my dad and mom .. I can't love one more than the other..

Ok

nice one

I totally agree