jaxxy:


This is nice bt an extreme. I think men loose their conversation and toasting skills when they get married they forget wives are women who need to be handled in a certain way to get the best out of them or put them in the mood.

Some women hate the mechanical and boring sex approach their husbands use day in day out like they have lost their damn minds.

The fact u married a woman doesn’t mean everything is automatic for u. U must understand her and she understands u.

I totally agree with you with all you said. Men should be more romantic, and likewise women towards their husbands.

My views are can be extreme, and I'm working on myself to learn to do better. I hope to change though

crixlight2:


May God bless you and your wisdom , I can see many people blaming the husband alone , without addressing what really caused the issue. I think the woman is already tired of the marriage , or what’s the meaning of starving your legally married husband sex and she no Dey even dress up in front of her husband again. Many immature people running to wedding anyhow

Thank u for a well balanced contribution....cheers!

ImaIma1:


I don't think you are quoting the right person. Because I cannot see where I said one person was right with their actions.

Okay

Women are animals in human flesh, you are starving your husband of sex to achieve what? If una no marry now una go dey disturb pastor and churches up and down, if una marry give man happiness for were, The man no slap am well self, no wonder the creator himself cursed these lost daughters of Eve..

Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions.

Spousal rape is despicable, but we need to know why she has been denying you sex in the first place.

Edusouls:
Women are animals in human flesh, you are starving your husband of sex to achieve what? If una no marry now una go dey disturb pastor and churches up and down, if una marry give man happiness for were, The man no slap am well self, no wonder the creator himself cursed these lost daughters of Eve..

My warm regards to that animal and accursed, lost daughter of Eve that gave birth to you.

Mercychen, what's your take on this?

Christinaog:

Men are scum

women are animals in human form, u are denying ur husband sex, if he starts cheating una go start to dey complain up and down, no wonder God cursed these daughters of eve from the onset..

If your wife is denying you sex and you have a high libido,get a side-chic or patronise a good prostitution. That would stop all these rape nonsense,life shouldn't be that difficult

AntiMCU:
Seems like marriages these days is synonymous with sexual starvation.

At least, our forefathers had polygamy (options) for issues like this.

And some of us are not even having sex with our husbands because of erectile dysfunction and others. This life no balance.

Op you did wrong but don't listen to this person. You will regret it if you give a woman such power over you. Just give it time.. don't apologize again, act like everything is okay and you don't care. You will see her coming back to you. Then you can apologize again and take her out for a good dinner in some fancy restaurant while you guys talk over things...make sure she promises not to hoard sex next time

InTheCloudySky:
You didn't bother asking her/finding out what was going on with her or in your marriage (you obviously had pre-existing issues that may have caused her to withdraw from you) to have refused you, but you resorted to violence.

As if slapping her wasn't bad enough, slapping her to the extent of her bleeding in the mouth meant you did it with a lot of force, not to mention the force you obviously used to rape her. The act of rape in itself is an act of violence. Sorry (not sorry): you're a beast. After being violent towards her x2, what do you expect?

Get on your knees, plead with her and ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her again. Secondly, you're selfish if you're expecting her to cook for you after what you've done. You should be the one cooking for her during this time ―to appease her. Things should fall back into place if you start doing that and catering more to her, then you two can go see a sound marriage Therapist to work out your issues. Otherwise keep eating the indomie you've been eating.

cococandy:
Those things you mentioned are not violent crimes

Coco...Haba!!!

Really.. so slapping you in your cheek is now worse than impregnating your best friend or sister??

So an act has to be violent before we can consider provocation.....U sef know so this your logic no follow...

i926:

It normal for most women to stop or even hate sex, after the get married.

please can u give reasons because am finding it difficult to understand y a married woman wont have urge for sex for several months

Bouncing2:
Oga leave dat woman,
You bought her presents and she threw it in the garbage bin?
Begged for her forgiveness and she refused?
Refusing to greet you for 5 days?
Cooking for herself and daughter alone?
Denying you ***?

Something is really bothering her and she's refusing to spill it out,,
I don't think she love you,,,you f**ked her ordinary p**sy and she's behaving like this,,,what if you had gaped her @$$ nko

Jeeeeeez! Dang! That woman is someone’s daughter

ledaman:
Don't mind them most of them are on free data to be typing trash. How can a reasonable spouse denied her husband sex? With no tangible reason.

E no pure na

You're a rapist. You have raped before. I feel sorry for your wife. You raped and assaulted her. You need to be jailed.

Tell you what imma play devils advocate for a lil bit

Unless the OP isn’t saying the whole truth but I don’t see any explanation from the wife, stating the reason why

There’s no sex in the marriage Where’s the communication As much As I don’t not condone rape, seems like

The OP and his wife got issues. Wife now has a stupid leverage for possibly never forgiving her husband.

This marriage is a scam

Nigeria is just a weird country. I can't imagine someone talking about rape so casually but it's Nigeria so I shouldn't be expecting less.

He should report himself to the police but it's Nigeria and the police will laugh it off.

cc: @StandToEndRape isn't this a crime? There's evidence and he should be arrested and prosecuted. The woman also need therapy and I hope she gets help.

Let her go!!! She tink say marriage na home video ...u even Bleep up self..send her packing join...make her mind dey..useless woman

Noah9:
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life . I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life . What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here . Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

If this was Sweden, where spousal rape is a criminal offence, we won't be reading this thread. You'd be in jail awaiting final sentencing while your soon-to-be ex-wife is meeting with lawyers who would sort out the necessary documentation for her to gain ownership of EVERYTHING you guys had before this case!!!

Kingcalls:


U hv no business with marriage...go and be hoeing around in peace...that is ur calling

Get lost.
Thank Goodness that in sane countries and in the legal world they are already establishing marital rape.

Your opinion about me is of no relevance,you hoe.

Kingcalls:


Do u think the person u quoted ever attended marriage counselling b4 getting married( that's if she is married) I'm sure she just got knocked up and they did traditional marriage...she knows nothing about marital rules

Marriage these days is full of selfishness. No body cares about the other person so long as they are satisfied and ok.
S
Where now is the love we prophess for each other.
Na wa o.

Ladyhippolyta88:


Get lost.
Thank Goodness that in sane countries and in the legal world they are already establishing marital rape.

Your opinion about me is of no relevance,you hoe.

Go to the so called sane country na....mumu ...do u even understand their law ...u think its Hollywood.... people wey never see human beings live outside Nigeria no de hard to talk like say abroad na easy way ...

Or u think husbands don't force sex on the wives or u think adults don't 4k woman that are considered minors.... Hollywood movies de decieve u

I know u have gone wrong one way or the other but that ur so called wife is coded Devil

I know u have gone wrong one way or the other but that ur so called wife is a coded Devil

cococandy:
If the man has more rights over her body than she does, then it means she has no right over her body. No? You’re contradicting yourself

There’s nothing “woke” about owning your own body: it’s basic humanity 101.

And marriage isn’t about being “ready to take nonsense”. My goodness!


Please don’t have sex against your wish. Sex should be pleasurable to you whenever you engage in it otherwise it’s meaningless

Can you stop misquoting me and go straight to your opinion?

I never said marriage is literally about taking nonsense. That was just an idiom! There are things you would normally not take but for the sake of marriage, you take them.
Got that?

So, if sex is not pleasurable or you don't feel up to it and your partner is dying to have it, you can't sacrifice to satisfy him that moment? Hmmm
This was why I said marriage is SELFISH AND SELF-CENTERED these days. It's always about one person. As long as you're fine the other person can go to hell.
Where is the love (sacrifice) we claim to have for each other?
Where is the selflessness that should be Paramount in our marriages to make it work?

These are the things causing divorce and separation in so many marriages and the more reason I'm still looking at it in 3D for now.

Mercychen:


Marriage these days is full of selfishness. No body cares about the other person so long as they are satisfied and ok.
S
Where now is the love we prophess for each other.
Na wa o.

That is why we hv a very high rate of divorce cases.... they dont know that the devil's first and most important priority is to destroy marriages

freshkpomo:


You just fell into the trap, you just gave your wife something to hold on to.. I don't know why women are this heartless, almost all marriages are having this issue, and before marriage you need to see how these same women will give you all the best position in the world but once them reach house them go put key for tow tow.... It will make you wonder if you are the only one in love,or you are over demanding or you are not giving them good sex or there is another man in their life.. all these plenty thought fit make man loose sanity and for a man who does not want to cheat, loosing his mind might turn him into a monster and do the unthinkable.

Women stop deceiving men because you want to wear wedding gown like your friends because it seems you are after the gown and not the marriage because that gown looks like an achievement to you, if you see a man's labido is too high for you during courtship, kindly quit and tell him your reasons.. Things like this should never be issue for marriage, how woman go stay for a week or more and her husband body nor attracted her, yet she dey shake yansh round house expecting the man to look the other way, is that not witchcraft...

OP, I am not in support of what you did, but if your wife continue with her no sex attitude.. Just leave the house for her, shey she can cook and eat alone... At least if you nor dey see her, you nor go dey turn on.... She destroyed her marriage herself not you... If you get money, lodge hotel, chop better food, if na wine take calm am down.. after all life is more than SEX...

Bros, if to say I fit see u face to face ba, I go take u out buy u 2 crates of Hero. U be man

Kingcalls:


Go to the so called sane country na....mumu ...do u even understand their law ...u think its Hollywood.... people wey never see human beings live outside Nigeria no de hard to talk like say about na easy way ...

Or u think husbands don't force sex on the wives or u think adults don't 4k woman that are considered minors.... Hollywood movies de decieve u

@bold, actually I do.
I also know that Nigerian law hasn't ratified spousal rape which does exist and the Op raped his wife and even if he cannot be held for that in Nigeria, he assaulted her apart from the bold you just stated rubbish.

The next time you throw abusive words at me I will report you.

MARS1:
Mercychen, what's your take on this?

My dear, Ive already given my take on the matter.
Just scroll through my posts, you'll see it.

If a woman moves her feelings away from you or stops giving you sex for no reason,
My brother she has started giving it to someone else

Use ur head bro

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nrexzy:
Bros conduct DNA test on that ur daughter ooo...
U cant bee too sure these days.....

Umu asa di mean....

correct guy,dat lady dey collect bagging smwhere,wat a f**k. 1 month...she is nt ready to be a married woman,though i dnt support ur actions.....