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Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Obynolee(f): 3:02pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Tribalism123:
Fella Don't bring finance here. If u dont have advise better park well. Divorce ke. No be only irresponsible man. Will u keep kwaaeet?
Don't mind some people, home breakers, hope the OP have a strong filter to filter most of advise |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by martinslaura: 3:02pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa:
I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do. Just leave that religion matter. True religion is in the heart. Madam its possible ur hubby got addicted b4. Coming to marry u. He probably needs u to have kids for him. He needs help and u must also check urself maybe u pushed him to it. But my best guess is that he was into it b4 marraige. He needs help. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by gazilion: 3:02pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"
I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.
I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light? Dear ChiomaCa, I won't advice you to divorce your hubby especially since he's very sorry and repentant. He needs help! It has become addictive and he's hooked to it. Most prostitutes are possessed and some are not only looking for money, some are agents of devil sent to destroy souls, destinies, homes and marriages. Being religious is not a solution; it is being genuinely born again and transformed!! Your husband needs help - GOD! Speak to a pastor who understands deliverance and can counsel and help him and your family. God bless you dearly. Can you speak to me please, if you will? 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Siberry: 3:03pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
StPete: It's just sex and it's his own addiction. Either help him to fight it or just let him be. As long as he does his bit in his family. You see, to men like that, it's just sex. No feelings attached.
I know many people would reverse the case if it was the woman but women don't just have random sex, it comes with emotions. Even prostitutes catch feelings with their clients. So just let him be. Insist he use a condom with them and just free your mind about how he bleeps around. In his own time, he will stop You are stupid. Very stupid. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Benki003(m): 3:03pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Dear ma'am am also in the same situation but the good part is that she's just a girlfriend not my wife ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) The best way is try breaking up with her in ur mind then give it time u would get fed up then that's where you file for divorce, that simple |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pseudonomer: You seeking advice from people whose home are already broken and they are on a mission to make sure everyone else is like them.
You got the typical advice from those sad individuals, Divorce. But don’t do it without fighting for the marriage first, unless he’s physically abusing you or not treating you right.
What he has is an addiction problem, if he apologizes everytime and still goes back to his old ways, it shows he has a problem, he’s always trying to stop but couldn’t help himself. He needs you more than ever, and that’s why you are his wife, please don’t give up on him yet.
Try to talk to him, maybe he should see a therapist or something, and you can threaten that you’d have no option to divorce him if he continues, I’m sure he loves you and his family, maybe that will help him overcome this addiction. Just try anything that will help him.
Also, make him free to tell you everything, trying to appear pious will always make one to pretend. Put being religious aside, ask him what are his fantasies, what attracts him sexually, what makes him begs for more.
Addiction is a serious problem, please help him, without trying to help him, don’t listen to those sad humans.
I am not saying your advice is bad oo but hope you know she and her daughter are at the risk of contracting an STD or HIV from this same man that haas refused to stop his disgusting act? We all know if the tables were turned, the man would have thrown his wife out the door? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by l0uie(m): 3:04pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Wetin concern me? I'm out of this thread, qbeg. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by MPESA(m): 3:04pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ShenTeh:
Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.
Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband. Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.
He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.
Hypocrisy sucks. For your mind you don give am better advise abi ![](/faces/huh.png) |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Snow02: 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough if this is true I suggest u leave him On the other hand u can help him overcome his addiction but he has to be willing to work on it |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Tribalism123(m): 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"
I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.
I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light? Madam I just noticed that men are fuckabites. All u need to do is dress well and entice him. When making love, tender ur displeasure to him. Then And Only Then Please Don't mention the past to him again, like saying, "you did this and that before". Just let go |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Obynolee(f): 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"
I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.
I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light? Hope you have a good filter to filter advice?, some,we have heard stories of friend that poisoned their friend simply because she got visa to yanki the same way some people wants you to come back 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Siberry: 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: I'm not with him because of wealth. I have a company here in Nigeria and it's still functioning! My brother manage this on my behalf... Also whenver he wanna talk about his traveling out success story, he will definitely mention my mum and I Go to Canadian govt for help. Leave that house before this man infects you with HIV, Herpes and cervical cancer cacausing virus. He will never change. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by cleod: 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
You did not know who you married. It is either he was doing it before marriage or got addicted to it within the period of two years you guys were separated. if he is avoiding sex with you, then he is definitely not enjoying your sex life, it is either you discuss with him and improve on your sex life, leave him or live with and press ignore button. Religious men are the most hypocrites. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by marsup: 3:05pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
It's no fault of yours. Everyone has a weakness, it's unfortunate your husband's weakness, will wreck him financially or otherwise. Seek therapy. It's not a fighting issue, if he is willing to change, therapy will help. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
Don't ever let anything or anyone make you feel less woman. You are beautiful, you are strong, and you will get through this with your head held high. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by 15ssDRIVE(m): 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough Ugly babes are the Queen of bangs. if na lie ask bangbros.U |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by messenger4891: 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"
I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.
I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light? Your husband is a good gigolo man...that is a business to him ... So is either you leave him or you found a way to be happy ....mind you if you cheat blc you want to pay him back .....the story won't be the same.....where you live law made it available for women to be beneficiary of most separations . |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by DrMrsFunmi(f): 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
pseudonomer: You seeking advice from people whose home are already broken and they are on a mission to make sure everyone else is like them.
You got the typical advice from those sad individuals, Divorce. But don’t do it without fighting for the marriage first, unless he’s physically abusing you or not treating you right.
What he has is an addiction problem, if he apologizes everytime and still goes back to his old ways, it shows he has a problem, he’s always trying to stop but couldn’t help himself. He needs you more than ever, and that’s why you are his wife, please don’t give up on him yet.
Try to talk to him, maybe he should see a therapist or something, and you can threaten that you’d have no option to divorce him if he continues, I’m sure he loves you and his family, maybe that will help him overcome this addiction. Just try anything that will help him.
Also, make him free to tell you everything, trying to appear pious will always make one to pretend. Put being religious aside, ask him what are his fantasies, what attracts him sexually, what makes him begs for more.
Addiction is a serious problem, please help him, without trying to help him, don’t listen to those sad humans.
best advice. all those comments from ShenTeh mariangeles pocohantas are nothing but frustrated, bitter and desperate bitches whose lives had been completely messed up, reason why they masturbate on threads like this to ensure the OP falls under the same misery as them 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Siberry: 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Tribalism123:
Madam I just noticed that men are fuckabites. All u need to do is dress well and entice him. When making love, tender ur displeasure to him. Then And Only Then Please Don't mention the past to him again, like saying, "you did this and that before". Just let go
Rubbish!!! Yes let’s blame the woman for her husband’s promiscuity. God forbid. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Nobody: 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
gazilion:
Dear ChiomaCa, I won't advice you to divorce your hubby especially since he's very sorry and repentant. He needs help! It has become addictive and he's hooked to it. Most prostitutes are possessed and some are not only looking for money, some are agents of devil sent to destroy souls, destinies, homes and marriages. Being religious is not a solution; it is being genuinely born again and transformed!! Your husband needs help - GOD! Speak to a pastor who understands deliverance and can counsel and help him and your family. God bless you dearly. Can you speak to me please, if you will? Hope this same advice is valid if reverse was the case? Because we know men hardly forgive cheating wives |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Okortor: 3:06pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Babe calm down.
It's raining everywhere, just be more sexy than u use to be, however that can't change him entirely but gradually he will change as he grows.
It's man's nature. If other women begin speak up, u will realize that urs is even better.
Gread week ahead guys. 3 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by na2016: 3:07pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ShenTeh:
Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.
Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband. Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.
He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.
Hypocrisy sucks. OP: don't follow this advice. I understand what you are going through and I know it is not your husband that is willingly doing these. This is a battle that you need to fight and help him stop. Don't divorce him. However, temporary separation may make him look inward 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by safarigirl(f): 3:07pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT: Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..
You also have what those prostitutes have... No try this thing O Very bad advice The husband will now become irritated by her. Men who sleep with prostitutes are sick, but they do not want their wives to be anything like those prostitutes, because they imagine her to be pure, not 'dirty' The last woman that tried to look like the ashawo her husband was sleeping with, the man found her disgusting and condemned her attempts. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by lightwind(m): 3:08pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Nawaoooo. Well, check my signature, follow the link and register. It's pure |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by skillmyman(m): 3:09pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
It is really sad reading this and I empathize with you. I also appreciate your not taking any drastic step.
First, he needs a psychiatrist or a counsellor because breaking an addiction is not that easy. Second, know that it is not your looks that is making him to go to prostitutes so please free yourself of that thought. Third, confirm that he is not infected and has not infected you. Fourth, no matter how your parents look at him, please let your parents know what you are going through. It is important. God help and guide you. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Emmanuel30a: 3:10pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ChiomaCa: I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough "The Fear Of God Is The Begining Of Wisdom" You Are On Your Own As Long As You And Your Husband Dont Read Bible. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by MPESA(m): 3:10pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
JONNYSPUTE: ....If you have explored all the avenues for dialogue and he is still behaving such then ask him for divorce. Or do you want to contract std and die?
Or is there any other reason you don't want divorce? What of temporary separation for now until he comes to his senses.?
Please don't be unfortunate, look at silly things you have been dishing out , she needs help, an advise from matured and sensible beings not from a kid in adults form. Why Your Only advise is divorce and why not give a solution.... Nonsense. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Tribalism123(m): 3:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Siberry:
Rubbish!!!
Yes let’s blame the woman for her husband’s promiscuity. God forbid. It is not rubbish oga. Let me correct u. 1. When u keep mentioning the past the a victim, he always feel guilt. And a constant guilt person is not stable. 2. When she doesn't push forward her displeasure consistently, it will definitely pass fear to the man and he will have a rethink. Anyway Is not my business. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Mariangeles(f): 3:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
[s] DrMrsFunmi: best advice. all those comments from ShenTeh mariangeles pocohantas are nothing but frustrated, bitter and desperate bitches whose lives had been completely messed up, reason why they masturbate on threads like this to ensure the OP falls under the same misery as them [/s] A scammer like you should never be taken seriously. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 3:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
VEXT: Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..
You also have what those prostitutes have... hmmm, I read comments for a living |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by Memyselfu2009(m): 3:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
Not all men cheat, some men values there
wife and treat them fine.
Honestly I hate it when either a man or
woman cheat in marriage.
1. Try and get help and let him understand how you really feel.
2. Spend more than doing things you love..
3. Make sure you have sex twices a week it's should be a must tired or no tired.
4. If he refused to change and still remains the same make sure you are financially ok then file for a divorce.
5. You can't kill yourself for a man that's doesn't value a good woman.. |
Re: Help My Husband Seems To Be Addicted To Prostitutes! by blackgold2018(m): 3:11pm On Jan 16, 2022 |
ShenTeh:
Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.
Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband. Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.
He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.
Hypocrisy sucks. worse and evil advice. Devil incarnate. 1 Like 2 Shares |