Your solution to this, is to give him crazy sex, styles, participative sex, go further, go a little crazy, you will get him back and thank me later.
Pray for him as well.

Get into his head. Talk about his fantasies, be part of it. Let him open up his desires to you. Thats the best way to bring his attention to you. Be his partner in the crime.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

OK. What about the anal sex, she should allow him also?

Sorry about your situation, you guys need to create time and space for your moment without your kid interference, you will win him all back to yourself. There is no excuse for cheating, do not listen to those advising you to leave him/divorce, there are no husbands here in Canada but d**ks, hold on to what’s yours, pray and create that private space for you two, all will be well.

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

You don't have to reply every comment you see here,that shows how immature he his...I would advice you seek for God's intervention and look for a drastic way to put him in check,by making sure you have a good job and your papers are complete...From there you know what to do that will make him beg on his knees,when you threatening him with divorce.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Is it a red light? I don't get this part.

You're already married to him.
Do you wish to divorce him?
I hope he doesn't transmit STD to you.

MPESA:



Please don't be unfortunate, look at silly advising her ,what

....What will you do if your wiife always have sex with gigolo's and you have begged her to stop but she still does it?

ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

Check the type of prostitutes he like and you will understand the type of women he fantasy about. That will give you a clue on what to do.

Mariangeles:
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A scammer like you should never be taken seriously.

a prostitute like you should also not be take seriously.
ewu

Madam, first know say[b] "God hate divorce" [/b](mal 2:16). Secondly, your husband de addicted to casual sex and e no dey see am say e wrong and na the only ground wey you fit take divorce am. As you love am reach try to help am. As you say wuna dey religious, try make you let am see say on religious ground o! he dey do wetin God no like. Then abeg insist say make you and your husband do test. One principle wey go work well na wetin Jesus talk about looking a woman he say comot eye. Make you husband too do like this make e clear any link to those site from e phone. Make God help you for your marriage. No say no marriage dey on a smooth and leisure ride.

pseudonomer:
You seeking advice from people whose homes are already broken and they are on a mission to make sure everyone else is like them.

You got the typical advice from those sad individuals, Divorce. But don’t do it without fighting for the marriage first, unless he’s physically abusing you or not treating you right.

What he has is an addiction problem, if he apologizes everytime and still goes back to his old ways, it shows he has a problem, he’s always trying to stop but couldn’t help himself. He needs you more than ever, and that’s why you are his wife, please don’t give up on him yet.

Try to talk to him, maybe he should see a therapist or something, and you can threaten that you’d have no option to divorce him if he continues, I’m sure he loves you and his family, maybe that will help him overcome this addiction. Just try anything that will help him.

Also, make him free to tell you everything, trying to appear pious will always make one to pretend. Put being religious aside, ask him what are his fantasies, what attracts him sexually, what makes him begs for more.

Addiction is a serious problem, please help him, without trying to help him, don’t listen to those sad humans.

She is not a therapist, it is not her work to help someone who is addicted. It is the addicted person that will decide to seek help, if not, frustration will kill her inside that house.


If it was the wife sleeping around with men outside the home, would you be advising her husband to help her overcome her addiction? Do you have any idea what addiction does to the loved ones of these addicts? Do you know how easily their lives can be ruined because they want to help someone who is sick?

She has a child she should be looking out for. What about the child? What happens when she suggests he get help and this religious man would rather not spread his dirty linen outside? You think religious people who commit adultery want to tell strangers of their adulterous ways?


Some of you are actually very wicked people and your words reveal you to be such. You give people advice that you cannot take or would not give your loved ones.

This is a sick man and it is not his wife that will cure him, he needs to want to cure himself first.

And you are still with him until he gives you HIV, right? Nigerian women and marriage sha!

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DrMrsFunmi:
a prostitute like you should also not be take seriously.
ewu

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I am not a prostitute.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

Nonsense advice. It won't change nada.

ictplotter:
Ma check yourself very well, it mine be a karma or law of natural retributive justice? It seem you slept with people's husbands while a spinster then. Because if hubby is not keeping friends, drinking and smoking
So what is attracting him to prostitute?

Stop talking nonsense here, are you an illiterate?

Why can't the man just be sick? Why must his sickness be attached to the innocent wife?

Why do you people always excuse men from being accountable?

Is not about your husband and prostitutes... or choosing prostitutes over you. It is about what he needs to fulfill him sexually. Now that you got a peek that your husband is a freak and not the ehmmm... "religious type" .... is for you to decide if you would be freaky for him? Are you willing to subject yourself to anal sex and whatever else? He's not going to ask you ... he respects you... but if you bring it to the table... I want to get freaky with you... do me whatever you want to .... that will bring out the freak in him and there will be no need for prostitutes. Are you willing to sacrifice compromise? If not ... he will continue to do what he is doing .... and is now no longer interested in you sexually ... not because you're no longer beautiful in his eyes... but because you are now wayyy too boring in bed to sexcite him.... the prostitutes have taken his freaking to higher heights. Your choice.

Mariangeles:
[s][/s] I am not a prostitute.

I am not a scammer

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Your husband opened the door for the enemy and now they have partnered with him,he can't stop again even if he decides to. The spirit of worldiness and fornication have taken over him. I will advise you to enagage in fasting and night prayers for him. If he truly paid your bride price.When you pray the Lord will hear you if you too are not living a life of sin.
If you need more help,contact me.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Are you trying to solve the problem or worsen it?

Is it not better for her to get a divorce and be alife to take care of her daughter?
Why not ask her to file for divorce instead?

So let's assume she starts denying him sex and he got angry and beat her or even kill her,what happens to her daughter?

Why are you all about divorce? Is that the solution?

safarigirl:



She is not a therapist, it is not her work to help someone who is addicted. It is the addicted person that will decide to seek help, if not, frustration will kill her inside that house.


If it was the wife sleeping around with men outside the home, would you be advising her husband to help her overcome her addiction? Do you have any idea what addiction does to the loved ones of these addicts? Do you know how easily their lives can be ruined because they want to help someone who is sick?

She has a child she should be looking out for. What about the child? What happens when she suggests he get help and this religious man would rather not spread his dirty linen outside? You think religious people who commit adultery want to tell strangers of their adulterous ways?


Some of you are actually very wicked people and your words reveal you to be such. You give people advice that you cannot take or would not give your loved ones.

This is a sick man and it is not his wife that will cure him, he needs to want to cure himself first.

... Don't mind all these hypocrites that calls themselves men here. None of them will accept a cheating wife back but wants her to stick with such a man claiming it's addiction.

Even in the holy book,adultery is a bases for divorce.

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

Sometimes men don't want to indulge in some sort of se.x with their wives. They put thier wives on a pedestal, and don't want them to pass through the sexual humiliation. Like choking, anal, slapping, binding, merciless drilling, sucking di.ck on knees .. you konw.

I think he needs help...he might have moved with the wrong type of people who advise him into doing such.i remember the first 3years of my marriage were the hardest of my life because before getting married I don't womanize neither do I follow prostitute but a year into my marriage I grow large appetite for sex any thing in skirt is beautiful to me but I was wise enough not to keep anything I was going through from my wife. Remember I was religious, even those while I was single that I never for once see as attractive I started having feelings for them,I started visiting porn site and all but with the help of my wife because she has a very strong character helped me say no to them all. Now am 8years+ in marriage and have never visited any for 5yrs . Have a strong character and stand on what you don't want, let in know you can help him it might take time and prayers I remember she would wake me up at night and pray together. If God can do mine...yes he can restore your husband stop hiding is sin, let him know he has committed a sin. God bless

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Madam. Send your proof to the police.

Paying for sex is ilegal in Canada.

Nairaland can't help you about laws in Canada.

See the thread below

Vintaged:


That those houses/websites exists doesn't make it legal. Before you dispute his claim, you can do a simple search on the internet.

Find screenshots below of relevant portions of the law

Sebi you already said you won't be checking his laptop and phone again? Biko, don't check o! Play blind and deaf till that man knacks you HIV from his prostitutes. Then you won't say God didn't t show you o!

DrMrsFunmi:
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I am not a scammer

You're far worse.

DrMrsFunmi:

E dey sweet like this to dey make mouth for nairaland.
my number is in my profile in the other account and I dared you to message me up but as a coward you ran off.
oya if Dem born your papa well.
message or flash this number and less than 24 hours your dead body would be displayed on nairaland front-page
08093322644

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

A man who doesnt drink, smoke, hangout with people must be into women on code otherwise fear him pass Adolph Hitler..

Forget the religious stuff, all na cover up...Just one kid and you are begging him for sex, when some couples with 6kids here are still having sex like university boyfriend and girl friend..

Even the coupl sitting infront at the church today, when it was time to exchange greetings, they hugged and kiss...And I was like aaawwwwwnnnn even with four boys from their union...So romantic.

Well, this is your cross just carry on...its looking like a product of no sex before marriage..

Dude has long gone into sleeping with ashawo...it is an addiction you can't stop....And you nko, are sure he is physically attracted to you as it should be?

Abii una marry for selfish reasons...Him looking for a chill wife material that won't stress him over there, you on your path marrying abroad based to escape Buhari hardship .

You guys should fix yourselves...una go dey alright...THIS is actually an addiction for him, you can't stop him, unless he finds another addiction..

For you, maybe check on your self, dressing, hygiene and appearance..Have a heart to heart talk with him..explore eachother and discover your fantasies. Make sacrifice for each other.

A man that has mastered his ways around Ashawo will rarely value even the best of wife material...

#fact#
This trait started when you guys were apart and it was his own consolation which has become an addict.
#Goodnews#
It will stop it. This requires love, patients and time.Tell him how this has made u have low self-esteem.
Your marriage will bounce back
Your marriage will bounce back.

#patienceLoveTime#

You are beautiful, don't ever look or think less of yourself because of an unholy and immoral man.
He was even denying you sex so he could satisfy prostitutes chai. That's the height of it. Just divert your focus to your self and your child. If you try counselling and deliverance and non work, leave him. For your safety.

JONNYSPUTE:
... Don't mind all these hypocrites that calls themselves men here. Nine of them will accept a cheating wife back but wants her to stick with such a man claiming it's addiction.

Even in the holy book,adultery is a bases for divorce.

Dem no dey remember the holy book when it is men misbehaving, but if it is to quote rubbish about wives submitting, their voices will be extremely loud.

Thanksful:


Why are you all about divorce? Is that the solution?

...Yes since she has complained and he refused to stop.

What if she contracts STD and eventually die? Is that the best?

Let her divorce him and be safe and Alice to cater for her daughter

In the holy book, adultery is the only bases for divorce.