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Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Glycolite: 2:35pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: REST ! |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by hahn(m): 2:38pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Mariangeles: I heard that story too. Women have a way of abusing men emotionally and then physically but the man can do nothing about it because society will always support the woman 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Nezzjnr: 2:48pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Wow... Some people are telling the OP to mind her business?? To be honest.. You people are really mad. Her own blood brother for that matter oo |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by pocohantas(f): 2:57pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Nezzjnr: You that is not mad, tell the OP what to do to her brother’s wife. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:00pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
aminusodiq:The statement in bold is a bit unfair, don't you think. When the going was good, the one's who chased you away wasn't just the wife but also your uncle - how could his wife had chased people away without the man being fully aware of it? ![]() Also, family decision to ignore him because when the going was good, they had no share in the booty, means the man himself came from a dysfunctional "when the going is good we have to be there or else..." kind of family. ![]() Maybe there is more to this story and you can open another thread so we analyze it further but I think the blame shouldn't be on just the wife but the husband and family as well. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Ishilove: 3:08pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
kkins25:And the bolded is why we should be careful who we meet for counsel. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by dollytino4real(f): 3:09pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
HilcomTech:u are the demonized one sef! U want quarrel among dem |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:10pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Vickyvice:Stop making things up. The only are equally culpable as they are capable adults who know where to go when ailment hits. It is eagerly convenient to want to offload a man's poor choices on his spouse when there is a problem. An autopsy will likely that most of those dead refused to take seriously their own health eventually dying as a result of their own negligence. ![]() I know illness well.... and i know well that the world will throw troubles at me just as it does to those who are healthy but it remains solely my responsibility to manage my situation - seek medical help as well as help from others - if I intend to beat the situation or even live.. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:11pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
MPESA:Abeg waka pass if you have nothing intelligent to add! ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by aminusodiq(m): 3:15pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by benqo01(m): 3:16pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
OP SAME THING AM FACING,WHEN I READ SOME COMMENTS HERE IT BAFFLES ME PEOPLE AINT READY TO LEARN,SEE SOME WOMEN SHOW WAYWARD ATTITUDE TO THIER INLAWS AND THAT IS REALLY BAD... NOT KNOWING WHAT WILL HAPPEN TOMORROW DO YOU GUYS KNOW THAT THE OP CAN BE HER ONLY SAVIOUR TOMORROW SEE IN THIS LIFE EHN THINGS DEY CHANGE. SHE DEY DO AM E DEY SWEET HER FOR BODY LOL A TIME WILL COME WHEN SHE WILL REGRETS ALL THESE.... OMO THIS LIFE EHN JUST DEY COOL DOWN. BEFORE THEY MARRY DEM THEY CAN EVEN KISS THEIR INLAWS FEET STUPID PRETENDERS OYA NA MARRY THEM ND SEE WICKEDNESS WOMEN NOTHING SWEET PASS MAKE YOUR INLAW LIKE YOU WELLA EHN U DON GET SMALL EDGE BUT SENSE NO GO ALLOW UNA THINK THAT WAY I ALWAYS TELL TELL PEOPLE CHECK THE KIND OF FAMILY YOUR GIRL COME FROM E GET WHY BECAUSE IF YOU MARRY A GIRL WHO THE FAMILY IS ALWAYS UNITED,SHOW EACH OTHER LOVE OMO NA ANOTHER PLUS B DAT 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by aminusodiq(m): 3:20pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Mariangeles(f): 3:21pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Kobo, e feel like say you be woman today. ![]() I never still fit decipher you. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:22pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
tunjilana:If you care about someone, the first thing you do is respect that person, this regardless of age, relationship, rank etc. This ought to be commonsense but unfortunately most Nigerians don't realize even this little nugget of wisdom has been in existence long before they came into being. ![]() Next, you ensure you don't invade the person's space without permission from that permission. Forcing your opinion, ideas and ways on other is indicator that you care less about that more and more about your opinion to the point of ridiculing the others existence to impose your will on them. ![]() Anyways, the guy already admits to advising his brother who he admits is a serial babamama-boy, yet the brother continues in the same path. So what does he gain from continuing to blame the women for his brother's lifestyle? ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:25pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
MT:You people ehn.... the way you approach issued makes me wonder what in the world is going on upstairs. ![]() In the case of a crime being committed, it is the authorities who are responsible for being about justice. ![]() If, however, the man commits suicide, this instead of making other choices in his life, then there is nothing anyone can do for him since suicide is a personal choice individuals make of their own. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:27pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
KingOfTheDamned:I was going to suggest that but the brother there seemed to care more about getting his way instead. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:37pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
vickydevoka:Dude, how come you almost always say things that don't align with reality almost every time you speak of women? Who told you this bloody lie that you cling to? Even the woman's psychiatrist can, after only a few visits, tell you her personality type and her character traits. Jeezzz! ![]() Stop choosing ignorance abeg! ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by MT: 3:38pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You are the silliest being I have ever responded to here. To start with, you are not cultured enough to respond to issues without throwing Shades. Mr. Intelligent, if a man commits suicide, the man is gone but his kids will need to be taken care of. Most responsible families will still need to handle financial commitment to the upbringing of those children. They become the family responsibility. And what also happens when he suffers any life long ailments or depressed, you expect responsible family to abandon him. People that come from responsible families will easily relate to what I am saying. This will be my last rebuttal to you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:39pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Druss:No one here is saying don't pass an opinion. I am instead saying do not disrespect his choice. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:44pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Dybala11:The question in bold is an excellent one, and from what I have learnt through my investigations through the years, it isn't always that the lesson and the end are somehow connected. It just happens that the events coincide. ![]() Again, I have nowhere here said anything about alienating the couple in question. Relatives, who care about each other, always need to be their love ones even if in the background. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:45pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Dybala11:I didn't say any such, so I am not sure where you get that from. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:49pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Dybala11:Again, I use the word "abandon" here to imply "leave". When you get married.... your former family becomes of secondary concern and your new family becomes of primary concern. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:51pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Dybala11:It does! A marriage contract excludes the existence of third-parties .i.e. your parents, siblings etc. So yes, when you enter a marriage....it no longer should matter what your parents or siblings think. What should matter is what you think and what your spouse does.. That is what a marriage is. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by AloneTK: 3:56pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
It's either most people do not recognize or deliberately chose not to respect boundaries. Marriage is one of such. Do the little you can if you truly care, but from a distance. The distance means everything- To them, Privacy. To you, Honour. 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 3:58pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Solofresh2:Depends on what what is that happens to the brother. ![]() Given that the brother isn't married, in the case of an accident, his parents will will contacted of course and from there his siblings rally around to do whatever it is they can on his behalf. :- But so long as this woman is his brother's choice, all he can do is voice his opinion and stand in the background to support his brother assuming he in fact cares about the guy and not his own ego in this. ![]() I was in fact going to suggest they ask the brother to maybe see a mental Health therapist since this isn't his first time impregnation a woman for love. But from what the one here says, it seems the family is instead bent on blaming the women for their brother's habit. ![]() |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by placeofallure(f): 4:02pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Rachel98: So? He should send his wife away because you are family? See, mind your business. The most important person in your brother's life is his wife, just like the most important person to her is your brother. If whatever thing she does doesn't prick your brother in any way, why should you be bothered? They owned each other. Family members become secondary the moment they both said "I do." The most you can do is tell your brother to call her to order. He may refuse to, or she may refuse to change, they're adults. You can't compel them. Just stay off and never be bothered with whatever happens to them both. Daada lo ma ma sele but if the opposite happens, they shouldn't call me, I am not at home! |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by litaninja(m): 4:03pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
Oga, dey your house. Rachel98: |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by meobizy(f): 4:03pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
This is 2022. Everybody should mind their business. OP, go your house and leave your elder brother’s alone. Person go do good thing only to see their matter on Nairaland one day. 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Nezzjnr: 4:06pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
pocohantas:Since they're not married legally.. The elders of the family should come around and tell the lady to leave in a polite way.. As for the kid, The Man should be able to take care of the Little kid. But in this situation, It seems the Guy is still in love. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by placeofallure(f): 4:13pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
aboyaji: Oga, that's your opinion. I'm afraid in this case, your opinion really doesn't matter. You're not to decide who gets put away, your brother does and he's ok with his baby mama. Go and sit down. That's my honest and simple advice for you. When you get married, you'd be free to run your house as you wish. You should be worried if as a baby mama she wields so much power, what if she becomes a certified wife? Wait till it's your turn, easier said than done. I'm never in support of her supposed rudeness or hostility but I know a lost battle when I see one. |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Mom007(f): 4:13pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
She didn't separate you from your brothers, you guys separated yourselves from your brother. So if truely someone is using charms on your brother, this is how you will abandon him? Where is the moral support between siblings? And mind you, its not nice to be in someone's house and be selecting food. You guys go there with all your bad manners and entitlement mentality and expect to get away with anything! When she is not feeding you the swallow and soup morning, afternoon and night, can't you just eat what everyone else is eating and get that ' my brothers house' mentality out of your heads? Mind you, that house doesn't belong to your brother but your brother and his wife! You are an outsider and don't know the dynamics of their financial relationship! As you have vowed not to go there again now, are you helping your brother or harming him? 1 Like |
Re: My Elder Brother's Wife Is So Rude. by Kobojunkie: 4:14pm On Jan 18, 2022 |
aminusodiq:So people who are calm and gentle don't know how to assert themselves in their own homes? You know for an excuse, that is ludicrous ! ![]() |
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