Prospertochu:


We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

Best thing is to just run away to safety. Triplets on 55k slaary? A blessing or a curse ?

Well, because of stories like this is why I can't sleep off the work. Always trying to improve myself and find better ways to earn. That's why if you are interested like I am, follow my signature

As a married man, you don't have a wife.

Just let the greedy and wicked soul you call a wife go for good before she send you to early grave

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

odinson1:
Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.




@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?

Don't mind that SIMP Op..
Funny enough he would keep on labouring to cater for an unruly and ungrateful insatiable wife and Kids that won't understand his sacrifices or that thier mother would brianwash that he isn't doing enough for them.. all this would take a toll on his health.. when the kids are grown.. he would probably be dead.. while his wife would be alive and very healthy and bubbling to enjoy her childrens wealth..

Men dey suffer for Nigeria sha.. being a so called responsible man in Naija is a thankless job..
Wahala for who no choose baby mama levels without co-habiting ..

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Let Her work she's jobless... Let her help her husband and the husband too in the interim should look for a better job

moneyissweet:
As a married man, you don't have a wife.

Just let the greedy and wicked soul you call a wife go for good before she send you to early grave

A breastfeeding wife of three triplets is what you call greedy and a wicked soul because she’s trying to feed 6 people with 40k monthly? How do you want her three babies to feed? The woman who breastfeeds them, if she isn’t healthy herself, how will the three babies survive?

Some of you boys on NL will just talk like it’s easy being a woman

Judybash93:


Again! Smart men don't marry!
Your uncle knows what's up because he lives in a gynocentric society that'll suck everything out of him if the jobless woman decides to leave after getting married to her.

He knows.
When I hear of Well-to-do Guys marrying Jobless Slay Queens or Students, I marvel.
The worst happens when a Guy who has got an unstable job, in an unstable country decides to marry an unstable Lady. That's Hell.
The mentality of a woman who leaves the house to work, even as a Tailor or Trader, will definitely be different from that which stays put at home.

She wants to leave and you are still calling her wife

for her to even entertain that thought and be bold enough to tell you, she has already left you, it's a matter of when not if

when you married on 55k salary where you expecting Paradise after??
see now your marriage is making you look bad in front of your wife, marriage and even children
at the end of the day wetin you gain??
poverty, frustration...

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

STFU....
I can't do such to my mom...
Unless I married her a virgin...
But even with that, you dare not starve my mom...

Starve her and GTFOutta my life...

Ladies be saying shii cos marriage they say favour y'all

seanwilliam:
Honestly I feel like crying reading your story. I can imagine the kind of mental stress you , your wife and mom going through .

Honestly 100 naira condom would have saved you of this mess.. also never marry a woman out of pressure. That you impregnate a woman doesn’t mean u should marry her.. don’t mind people casting stones on you , anyone can find himself in a mess..

Solution is too set up a business for your mom,even if it’s selling little little things, that way you will be able to save off the 10k u give her monthly ..


Now let’s be real , I am not always in support of women or whatever they represent but taking care of three kids should be one of the hardest job on earth ..

I’m not married yet but anytime my sister comes visiting, if she sleeps, one of her kids ( the little one ,2 years) will be disturbing my peace , crying, playing with any thing in my room carelessly . I always pray she doesn’t come with her kids sometimes . We are talking only of one kid here , now imagine 3, Breast feeding and All round care for kids no be small thing my brother, your wife can only work from home , if she starts a teaching job, believe me she’ll be less productive..


It’s either u beg your mom to take care of the kids ( you need to be compensating your mom time to time for this ) while your wife work or you set up a business for your mom and u increase the home allowance..
Also try some side husle to increase your income (I know you’re trying your best ).
Pls always use condom or do family planning before u have sex with your wife.


At this stage , divorcing her will affect the kids and if that happens, all your effort will be in vain. Apart from that you can’t take custody of the kids and if you are to be paying child support, your whole salary won’t be enough .. tbh you and your wife really fumbled !


Edit: so the wife is no longer breast feeding

Omo she should find something doing To augment your income o..


To single ones out there,
Pls let’s embrace condom o, also forget love , if you’re going to get married you need to be financially buoyant seriously .. also make sure your wife to be use something doing and ready to contribute..

the matter tire me self.

https://gist.am/i-am-married-with-three-kids-2-years-and-3-months-old-triplets-but-i-am-tired-of-my-wife/a/2821

DontBullshitMe:
Nah every time Una dey get ridiculous family problems. Changing monikers up and down posting fake stories.

How much is Seun paying you all for these (contents)?

I love this your world where problems no dey.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

You married an End Time wife.

We are in the End Time.

So expect more End Time abnormal things from her.

Sorry.

Kobojunkie:
55k a month for a family of 5 and you want to have your mother added to that list? You are very very unserious individual.

He should neglect his mother baa, no he should steal baa, no he should commit ritual baa, if she start to teach in a school after the babies have been weaned she will die abi, no, a man is meant to die because he got married, are women not meant to ease the burden of their husbands, is she not meant to be his helper. Why does she want to kill him before his time. If that leech starts to work to supplement her husband's income, they will attain financial stability. But no, u always try to showcase your emptiness which u mistake for intelligence and which you try to supplement with your very dumb emoji

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Ha Oga, feeding triplets and even taking care of them requires enough energy and your wife needs to eat well to do that. Things are really expensive in the market, I suggest you and your wife seat and discuss about her getting a job or running a business that brings in income daily so as to assist cos there are still bigger expenses in the future School fees , house rent etc You both should set up a financial goal you should hit monthly , it will really help.
Please don’t listen to some advise here telling you to throw your wife out, some of these individuals doesn’t know what it feels like to grow up with both parents, a lot of them can’t even afford to get married and they looking for ways to spread their bitterness.
This is a phase and it will pass

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Separation will NEVER solve the issue at hand. All I see is a young couple who lack understanding and proper communication. If these can be fixed, you guys have a bright future.

No matter how much you give a jobless woman, it would never be enough.

First, she needs a job to understand how to make money

Second, let her know your mother should be treated like hers and if she finally gets a job, she would be the one to take care of them in her absence

Third, look for a side hustle asap. Your take-home is too small for this present economy with 3 kids.

Fourth, start making plans with her for the kids future. Let her know they would soon start school and that your salary cannot take care of that bills

Fifth, sit her down and let her understand why you are a couple.

Bola146:



Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

The vain words of a lady....

I mean how will a so called lady I married starve my mom...
As in you dey mad...

The man made a very big mistake for marrying a broke wo*an(parasite)..

I'm sure he didn't even marry her a virgin...
But shes frustrating her...

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Aunty abeg rest.
50k?
I am a woman too.

That money is very okay for a decent meal. I trust he buys bread home sometimes

GUYS should wake up!
Nigeria as a country doesn't give a damn about u.
Your Church doesn't give either.
STOP taking useless risks.

Even Ladies don't take such Risk.
You will see a Lady who has got nothing to offer beyond Breasts & Buttock Fats, still bragging of marrying the wealthiest man in any community!
That's why I think LADIES are smarter at making marital decisions.

A Jobless single MOM with 2 kids still brags of trapping a wealthy man because she has got Breasts and Fatty buttocks.
You will never hear them saying they would settle for a Low-Life man. Always high-Life.
They always aim for the Best.

Sigh
I pity you tho , honestly I do , wish I can help but I got something to say (The bitter truth)

1. How do y'all decide to get married and raise babies without proper income and even a side business which generates more money ?

That's where you fvcked up bruh
Never get into that family life with brokenness but seems you're already there, may God bless you with a bigger opportunity .

40k is too small , that's right
But 40k is never too small for a sensible woman who truly has a good heart and loves you dearly and understands your hustle

2. How do y'all get married to broke women with nothing to offer?

I mean no disrespect but if by chance I happen to be broke today which will never happen
My wife can carry 1yr responsibility without giving me any attitude
She's done even more during our bf/gf days

If she can't contribute anything and she can't also manage 40k for one month, what if something happens at your place of work and you sit at home for 2 months without a job , what will happen?
Ever thought of that ? No I don't think so .

Your wife's most respected being on Earth should be ur mom not even the husband (you)

If your wife is comfortable feeding ur mom one square meal then she isn't a wifey , I'm sorry
Stop giving her money , just give her 10k
When you're paid monthly, use ur own leg enter bigger market and buy what should serve y'all for a month , if she decides to waste the food , let her being her own money , it's a man and woman that both raise their kids , there isn't anywhere it was written that a man must kill himself for his family when all the wife does is sit at home and add more probs

Lights up my kpoli in peace


Modified:
@OP Please drop ur aza make I see how this week goes, I go drop something inside

And this is to everyone else who wishes to show him some love , it's no begging it's called "Brotherly love" you can also bless your own brother.

Op drop aza no shame at all we gatchu.

Lights up my kpoli in peace

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Listen to yourself. You can’t encourage your fellow woman to go and get a job and support her husband. The man that brings 40k from 55k of his earnings for his family then uses the remaining 15k for transportation. I’m sure she won’t act the way she is now if it was her own mother that is homeless and staying with them.

I also blame this dude for getting married with such little income. Worse, getting married to another broke and unproductive lady just like himself.

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

.

The mama force you and you obliged...
You are not yet a man with standard...
Tell her no..
And keep her as a Babymama...

Never you do anything out of your comfort for any female..
Except your own mom

This is why I advise people, both man and woman to try and get a skill or side hustle before going into marriage.

Those people pushing you into marriage won't be there for you when issues like this come up.

OP, eh don set na, na man you be, try and sum it up!

In all, God will help us all.

Oga...just talk to Ur wife to give Ur mother food.

D truth is that money is not enough, but u will not also kill Urself.

Let her understand u...and u, understand her.


Things are damn expensive in the market, even with 10k a week, na die oo is not positive not to talk of 20k a month.

U and Ur wife should talk to understand each other...

55k per month bros you dey try

All your comment shows you are senseless the kids are still very young, 3months and 2 years they must eat,

Can't you read .must you just open your mouth and type rubbish,
Do not ever marry, or have children so you become an old fool at old age

Mumu






quote author=odinson1 post=109421126]Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.




@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?[/quote]

To the OP, If you have an android phone, look for all these facebook jobs and apply for one, download zoom app for interview purposes. Now to men out there, never marry, I repeat never marry a jobless woman(especially housewife) let her work, don't be deceived by love or foolish prayers. This women telling you how difficult childbirth is, what about single mothers that are taking care of their children without help from people,
To the OP, ignore any female moniker advices, it won't help you, they all are in support of what your wife is doing to you, it is known as herd mentality, live your life well.

November24:


Aunty abeg rest.
50k?
I am a woman too.

That money is very okay for a decent meal. I trust he buys bread home sometimes

God bless u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! U seem to be the only sane lady here

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Money is obviously the problem, talk to God about a side hustle and quickly do it, you will be fine with a little money on top what you are earning now

Stenewiser:
oga I don't understand you, am not saying it's wrong to give your mother money, but are you her only child, and also the family house you moved out from, why is your mother not staying there, was she not legally married. And lastly how do you expect your wife to manage 40k to feed six people, you married a good woman, the stress is just too much for her. look for a side hustle, you need help, even the house you are staying is not yours or rented by you, hmmm.

Make Una dey pity someone na... The man work for good 30 days without a saving as almost 80% of salary goes for feeding. In what way do the wife want to help him?

GOD to marry sef dey fear person like this because you don't know wat the wife might turn to.

Instead of complaining, why not sit her down and talk to her calmly. Your wife and children are your first priority. The whole 55k is not even enough to take care of the family for a month.
May God open more doors for you financially.