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Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Vyolet(f): 6:28pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
This African marriage life sef no just balance, Husband will err, wife gets the blame for everything ![]() A man has chosen to live irresponsibly, yet the wife getting blamed. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by thorpido(m): 6:29pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
@Op,you're not being fair to your SIL.She's the one who is hurt in all this.Her actions are her own best way of dealing with the situation though not the best. An innocent child is in this picture and doesn't deserve to suffer for her parents' misdemeanor.She should understand that. Keep showing your niece love and do the best you can.Your SIL will come around someday when maturity sets in. As for your BIL,he should man up and take responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Preciousppearl(f): 6:36pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ciscodollards:a man that wants to be in the life of his child will try his best even if his wife raises hell. Your bro is irresponsible, he just doesn't want to be in the life of that child he should stop blaming his wife for his actions. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Foodqueen(f): 9:03pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ciscodollards: Marriage is deeper than what u think. Your brother is not a fool. He chooses his marriage over a love child. If his wife have chosen to leave, maybe he would av been miserable. That's the sacrifice he made for cheating. Let them be. It's not easy seeing a reminder of your husband's infidelity staring straight at you. Your parents understands better. Is your sister married? How would she av reacted if her hubby cheats and av a child outside. For you, someday you will understand. Ta ba ni ko kan wa o....a o leso... Ta ba ni ko kan wa....... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Oyiboman69: 9:52pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ciscodollards:how is your own brother treating the child?. Its not a yardstick for you though, just asking. whatever she thinks is left with her...you people should ignore her and her selfishness |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by eyinjuege: 10:25pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
She hasn't stopped you from getting in touch with the child though. She has no power over that. What she has power over is not associating with you, and that is the path she has chosen. Respect that and do you boo. Be in your niece's life. It's wrong of you to also assume She should treat the child like hers, especially when she's not ready to. You don't force these issues. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by eyinjuege: 10:32pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Ciscodollards: Why is her blocking paining you so much? Is friendship by force? How has her blocking reduced your self worth or your akant balance? Please, do what your conscience allows. And let her deal with her own conscience too. Secondly, I think the woman is also ashamed that her husband stepped out on her. You, his relatives posting such pictures publicly is further announcing the humiliation she feels. Her friends, relatives, acquintances may not yet know about the crisis in her marriage and such information on Facebook about your niece from another woman will only bring hard questions her way. Questions she may not be ready to answer for now. Until she's ready to deal with the hurt and pain, she won't bring that child close. Even the child's mother won't allow that. Your parents probably understand this hence are careful about what's put on social media. She will be alright last last 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Twenty8: 10:42pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Richy4:So u think she'll just pretend as if nothing happened and accept the child? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Klass99(f): 11:16pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
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Re: Am I Wrong ??? by SoaringLife01: 11:44pm On Jan 21, 2022 |
Things dey happen sha. Wife wen dem marry come family dey dictate give full family not to relate with their blood.That one na 'egha'.My fellow Urhobos understand me better. That your elder sister na sist she be. She na egbe wedger. You, OP , you try too.One chilled 10Naira Ice cream for you. As for your brother, tell am sey make he man up,make he noh dey zozo.He already make the mistake and make he make sure sey he take care of he daughter. That girl fit become the glory of una family in future. |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by NoToPile: 1:46am On Jan 22, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Inlaws will always be Inlaws ![]() They can't call their brother to order to at least drop chop money for the child, it's the wife that is handling the issue the best way she deems fit they are accusing. Handle your blood the way you want to. Then let her handle the matter the way she wants to. No be ordinary block she block una shuu, it's not like she's maltreating the girl or something. Leave her now, you are even saying shebi she's forgiven, woo just drop matter oo. Face your brother call him to order to be responsible for his child.,leave his wife alone. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Richy4(m): 6:24am On Jan 22, 2022 |
Twenty8: No one says she should accept or not to accept her... What I am saying is that she should locate the appropriate person or persons to channel her displeasure on... not on the innocent kid or the people trying to be in the life of an innocent child irrespective of the circumstances surrounding her birth.... Nairaland is full of gender based biased individuals (Male/female), ... we are talking about a little girl here... People should keep their gender based differences aside when a kid is involved... Though I am glad that OP has promised to continue what she was doing... 5 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Twenty8: 11:05am On Jan 22, 2022 |
Richy4: Our actions/inactions will always have consequences on us and it will definitely affect others too, just like we're not the one who ate the fruit at the garden of Eden and are feeling the heat. Truly the little girl is not at fault but will affect her too. |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by alpontif(m): 12:06pm On Jan 22, 2022 |
A Man, a Real Man should understand that his responsibility is primarily to his Children, his blood, as such, that your brother is the Wicked Person. I will not even blame the wife, women are expected to react that way, only the very few among them that has the holy spirit living in them will be able to show live to anything other than their own offspring. By not providing for the Child, by listening to his wife, your brother has committed grievous errors,and basically he is still a Simp. He made a terrible mistake by impregnating another woman, he is now compounding that mistake by refusing to recognise or care for his biological child that he has a spiritual responsibility to, all in the name of trying to please the wife. If he is not careful, that Child will be the only glorious child in his family, and will surpass all the others, if you try to be unfair in how you deal with innocent souls, Powerful entities have a way of balancing the equation in a manner that will not please you at the end of the day. He is sinning against the innocent child, against himself, against his God by continuing to ignore the Chid because of the wife. It is not too late, he should man up, recognise the child, build a relationship with the child, provide for the child and make sure that the world sees that he took ownership and responsibility for the sake of natural justice to the Child.. Continuing on this path will cause issues for his wife's children in future, I have seen this play out in many cases. Your brother should be a man. Men, Real Men fear no one, they are only accountable to God and their Conscience.. He should do the right thing, even if it will make his wife unhappy. Better that the wife is unhappy, than an innocent child's spirit be angry with him. 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Ciscodollards(f): 12:25pm On Jan 22, 2022 |
alpontif: Thank you so much. You have spoken well , I agree with everything you have said 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by ststyreal(f): 11:31pm On Jan 22, 2022 |
GboyegaD:Untill you walk in her shoe, then I have nothing to say to you. Your brother deserves all he is getting from his wife. So you people should let his wife be... |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Fatiaaa: 3:30pm On Jan 24, 2022 |
I believe she is d one feeding all of you dat make you give her so much importance if not ur family should all block and reject her 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by adebayo3449(m): 3:38pm On Jan 24, 2022 |
1. Just behave like you don't know she is angry or fighting with you. She is not serious. 2. You can however talk to her and let her know it will be unfair for you guys to not accept the girl and perform your duties. She should forgive and try to Forget. If she refuse, please ignore her. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by adebayo3449(m): 3:57pm On Jan 24, 2022 |
Foodqueen:So, what do you advise they do. Since you are only considering the situation of the wife alone. See boss, the deed has been done, it's either the wife accept it or not, tho we understand the mistakes of the husband and how she felt. Apart from the sorry, if she wants them to ignore the child, I think she should leave instead. Rubbish 1 Like |
Re: Am I Wrong ??? by Jesslove(f): 10:03pm On Jan 24, 2022 |
Your sister in law na winch |
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