DarkCaesar:
Let the Son of Man take his seat while waiting for others to tune in……….shey relationship stress self no dey taya una

ori e tie daru

Senomi:
That's y I've over standardized myself, I already hv high expectations for the kind of person I'm going to date, if ur not cut out for it or I don't observe at least 60% of those standards then I'll just ghost, I now get angered unnecessarily whenever a guy stops me in my mind I'm like wetin dis one wan talk again, nairaland has made me understand how nigerian men reason and and their thoughts about women so I don already make up my mind anything wey anybody wan do make dem carry on but as for me I'll just keep observing from afar and for a long time make the bullshit and tears no reach me, I already hv a lot of goals and what is giving me sleepless nights is how to execute them, anything relationship matter na till they kingdom come I don leave dat one for all of una

it is well

debbydams:
ori e tie daru

This is a nice topic.
Hypergamy, expectations and polygamy has killed relationship.
Like modernization, we can do little or nothing about it.
Everyone should just live his/her best.
Me I'm learning to fall in love with myself. Outside is scary for commitment and I don't fancy jumping from qussy to qussy.
Quest now is to be happy without involving another party

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

You chose a very good topic.
We don't just find ourselves in this situation, a lot has gone wrong before we arrived here.

I believe at one time, almost everyone had truly loved but circumstances made people change.

Imagine dating someone and giving 100% loyalty only to find out you have been wasting your resources on him/her.

Do you think you will be willing to give your next date the same treatment?

It's a pity that most of the time, innocent ones suffer from the sins of others and after the experience, they, themselves, become beasts.

That's why it's difficult to find true love.

Kalatium:
This is the paradox of liberty. We want freedom to do whatever we want this is what it as brought us to.

Wetin freedom go cause ehhh. We never even start. J just wonder how next 10 years go be like

debbydams:
ori e tie daru

Relationship always scares me. I've shattered a lot of hearts, currently battling demons I created in the past. The sh33t even makes it hard for me to attempt for fear of hurting more people.

No matter how sincere you are, the bottom line is there is hardly any relationship without expectations. At some point, either or both parties would want something more

MrWondah:



Relationship always scares me. I've shattered a lot of hearts, currently battling demons I created in the past. The sh33t even makes it hard for me to attempt for fear of hurting more people.

No matter how sincere you are, the bottom line is there is hardly any relationship without expectations. At some point, either or both parties would want something more

not enough reason not to pick my calls..have u forgotten how we used to be, I hop u don't regret avoiding me Sha cos it bn almost 2months oo..anyway make I just dey look you

Here in lies everything that is wrong with relationships today.

F*cked up people not giving a f*ck about repairing their damages but want everyone to accept them as perfect.

Worst still, the Media hype for haters. Instead of thanking and appreciating those who stood by you, people today will rather use that precious time to talk about their 'imaginary' haters.

dhiqson:

Story
Thanking God for my last relationship
The person that I thought I was gan spend the rest of my life with, taught me how to let toxicity go
I mean, she's the reason I'm redpilled
Rn I no even too dey send
If it ain't about me, you're just playing yourself
And maybe I have a problem, I dunno don't care I'm all to myself
Got great friends I could kill for
I go hard for them, they go harder for me
Life's Good
God's good



You date a mature lady
She feels she's always right
Younger one, just plain st*****
Omo abeg

debbydams:
not enough reason not to pick my calls..have u forgotten how we used to be, I hop u don't regret avoiding me Sha cos it bn almost 2months oo..anyway make I just dey look you

Comrade, I go gist you when all these things finish.
I no know weda na bad luck, misfortune or karma

You just discribed my Ex just now... bitch is selfish, ungrateful it's all about her, pride, ego etc... bitch that has not giving me a dime after much sacrifice bitch is telling me nonsense. There are good guyz like me and we end up meeting bad girls who are so selfish
.. bitch want me to tell her I love you but has never told me she loves me... wasted my time and money on this selfish ungrateful heart. Relationship is difficult this days. I was sincere, honest committed, bitch valued what she can benefit more than the relationship.
quote author=debbydams post=107748111]Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla[/quote]

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become...

The world has gone mad and it didn't begin today. However, the situation is worsening at an exponential rate thanks to technology. The dating scene is a mess, thanks to both Women and Men. Women who believe in the Hoe phase charade and men who believe sex is proof of their masculinity. Female feminists, male feminist, fake Redpillers who applaud both parties not excluded.
As to why the dating scene is so messed up? One word, "Revenge" dating. It is what created this vicious cycle that ultimately contributes to marriage being called a scam. Also, those spreading information and misinformation, Incels, heart-broken misogynist claiming Redpillers and their female counterparts ensure the cycle never ends.

The solution? The solution is something so simple it becomes complex although it must be done as a collective, but every movement begins with one person, I and you. As @Opeyemiextra said, Reorientation is the first step, after that every else will fall in place.

MrWondah:


Comrade, I go gist you when all these things finish.
I no know weda na bad luck, misfortune or karma

hmmnm harry

I keep saying it... What a lot of people need is therapy and not a new relationship. Most people don't even understand themselves not to talk of understanding someone else.

Just be the carbon copy of what you wanted in a relationship, and you will just find it.

This should be on front page. This reflects the current reality of today's world

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

Since many of you blindly follow men not because of future purposes but solely what you want to gain from him immediately.

(So many guys not dere visit their girlfriend if they don't have cash in their pockets, is that relationship ma?)

Unlike before in 90's or even early 2000. Then, on the average. Ladies dating mainly for future partner, I still remember that ,the easiest way to get to the pant of woman was to tell her, that I wnt you to be my future wife and not mainly money can spend. Then, when ladies noticed that guy they were going out with married already, they would run as fast as possible away from him, but now, its pure amount you able to spend, married or no married not concerned.
In fact, teenagers prefer married men this day, hope you know the end results of such relationship even before it started?

Now, even 4-5 ladies know one another and that they are dating same guy, they would still not use their head and think logically, if you ask all of the girl individually, each of them would say, I know I am his main girlfriend and that others are just warming bed. With this,why won't you be dating guy and the guy will not date u?

debbydams:
God will not come down to help, even God will partners still divorce..pastors are not left out

for example, pasor Chris O. of Christ embassy

omooluorun:
That's why we need to seek the face of God to avoid stories that touch

You seek the face of God for the other but how about you spend much of that time working on being a better person yourself?,

#Lalasticla

Celebrate where you find yourself dear, some are looking for miracle marriages while others are looking for miracle divorce... If you're not getting the best,just be calm no harm in looking further. You've one life to live , the right person will come. You can take that to the bank

Truth be told; we've changed morally in this country & the major contributor to this is bad governance that has affected our psychology.



2023 is close by
Bola Ahmed Tinubu is not qualified to lead Nigeria,we can not afford to install another old and sick man that urinates and suffers from parkinson disease for another 8yrs,we Nigerians can do better by electing a qualified candidate irrespective of his or her tribe....God bless Nigeria.

czarr:
Just know most guys wouldn't ask to just be friends with benefits, because most girls would feel insulted and not agree...so instead we wine you, make you feel special small, fvck a few times and ghost you.... that's how most guys move, it's left for you as the woman to be able to see through the whining and see who has genuine attraction for you, but women are blinded by appearances.(looks and money)

The same thing ladies do to guys! 2 weeks ago, a girl ghosted me same way. All because she asked for a huge sum as a loan, which I gave her, I think she got angry because I asked her to send me back. She was just acting strange on WhatsApp and I immediately blocked her. No time!!

Me sef nor send, I just move on. The same thing guys do to ladies, most ladies out there do worse! They have like 56 boyfriends, tasking each and everyone of them for money to vomit what they don’t have!

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

My mind is blown!
So honest

Celebrate where you find yourself dear, some are looking for miracle marriages while others are looking for miracle divorce... If you're not getting the best,just be calm no harm in looking further. You've one life to live , the right person will come. You can take that to the bank...ciao

omooluorun:
Relationship built with all sincerity on God's foundation cannot be moved. Of course there will be tribulations but God will come through.

There is only one set of rule given you by God where all your relationships with your fellow man is concerned and the same set applies whether you are speaking of business relationships or intimate relationships.

Tribulations also apply as far as all possible relationships, so the focus should instead be on you being the person God commands you to be first and foremost.

zed7:
Wahala for those wey never marry. Many people are damaged to be honest.

You need to search with a microscope to find a decent partner these days. We still have them but you need to be able to identify them. They may not come in your favourite package.

"They may not come in your favourite package"


Exactly!

Vivonose:
God is love, once God is involved in your relationship, it would stand the test of time

Stop deceiving yourself with mere words that mean nothing. God wants to be in you, not your relationships. It is by you doing as God has commanded of you that your light shines in every relationship you find yourself in , including business, friendships and marriage.... all of them pretty much governed by the same set of rules.

debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

You obviously know that 99% of women won't agree when u tell them 'babe let us be hitting ourselves". They just have to find a deceitful way,

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

Kick out the person who's making you rant this hot afternoon and know peace abeg

You can't force people to love you in a loveless world!

Ussycool:
Some guys double date that is why they ain't commited and lack honesty. It is disgusting that some ladies out there are carbon copy of characters you point out.

Look debby, pray over things when your relationship is summersaulting. Men are turning to something else, imagine some guys claiming that MARRIAGE is a scam. How then do you think they will take relationship serious?

It's okay to double date so that you can select the best....