sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

You're cool with it. That's why you're not walking.

what are you still waiting for..do u want die first

Terrible. Really terrible.

Datboredberry:
Don't be stupid and partial... What could a grown human being to to warrant such?

You're trying to justify the man's actions... Ask yourself, if it were his boss who had offended him... Would he react like this?

Most of you men are cowards who can't challenge a fellow man but you prefer to act like rabid dogs when there's an altercation with a woman...

no mind the goat e no get sense.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

Half baked or not, an adult should not flog another adult.

Datboredberry:
Don't be stupid and partial... What could a grown human being to to warrant such?

You're trying to justify the man's actions... Ask yourself, if it were his boss who had offended him... Would he react like this?

Most of you men are cowards who can't challenge a fellow man but you prefer to act like rabid dogs when there's an altercation with a woman...

With what you wrote here, if I could see you physically, you deserve flogging. Do you hear from her husband.

Does your family know? Do you mind reporting to the police? What is your family dynamics like?

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sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

dacblogger:
Quick question... Is he from Abia state?
Meanwhile, do you have brothers? If you do, let them gather and give him joint beating that will reset his head.

What brings Abia to your empty myopic views....your type is reason why nairaland has lost values....Next now you will face Yoruba and Fulani.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Issue him a divorce paper, he brain go reset

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Separate from him madam, before he graduates to another weapon worse than a cane. You are not a kid that he should be putting his hands on you, let alone caning you. What manner of madness is that? He must have really damaged your self-esteem for you to be coming here to seek for advice on what to do when it ought to be crystal clear by now. Leave his ass before he injures or even kills you. Marriage is not by force.

The way this babe kept saying "flog me" is annoying! Like the first poster said, you are not only hurting yourself, you are ruining the mental stability of your children fa. How very shameful that you allowed this to happen to you....he flogs you! No blaming the deranged man....he is already deranged! Aunty, be sane biko!

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

Marry una mate or someone within age range, una no go gree, na to de marry una ancestors who are retired UFC and WBA boxing champions



One smallie girl that's not up to 4ft will be like; I want tall, huge, fat, chobby, dark, handsome man, na like this e de always end

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

you should consider divorce. Youve married a wrong person. You can talk to us, let's be of help.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

What that man doesn't know is that his kids will grow up hating him with a passion.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

in anything de man shouldn't have done dat, he is crazy

SmellySperm:
He flogs you with cane? Is he a classroom teacher?

As in..., maybe he's a retired headmaster.

Madam keep enduring the flogging o, pious wife.
At least you've not had a cause to visit the hospital yet.
Enjoy the beating pls, husband house is better than a few broken teeth and bones.

You flog him with mouth, he flogs you with cane.

❌❌
It appears you don't mind him
flogging you. What you don't like is
him flogging you in front of the Kidz.

Sister, you have yourself a problem of
low self-esteem & are willingly in a
sadomasochistic tango. ☹️☹️☹️

In the final analysis, this sort of
relationship ends in tragedy.❌❌❌

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

maybe you first check yourself. Women always use the beating as a way to attract public sympathy while ignoring the attitude that attract it. The man also need to control himself instead of go physical. I do tell people, if woman can't respect the man, divorce and if the man can't tolerate the excesses of the woman, divorce. Fighting is the most useless thing to see in marriage and people pretend all its well

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

How old are these kids?

Datboredberry:
Don't be stupid and partial... What could a grown human being to to warrant such?

You're trying to justify the man's actions... Ask yourself, if it were his boss who had offended him... Would he react like this?

Most of you men are cowards who can't challenge a fellow man but you prefer to act like rabid dogs when there's an altercation with a woman...

I don't want to be sentimental. Women can provoke hell out of their husbands but I don't support domestic violence. I know what I am going through everyday. But, I have never in my life touch my wife in an hurtful manner.

I will never beat my wife!

[quote author=sazzyyarns post=109820200]My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too. Examine yourself too so as to identify ur lapses(if any) n apply wisdom. Ipray dt d Almighty God ll c u tru but u might ve seen d tendency dt he ll flog u one day after marriage even while in courtship bt ignored.

Its very wrong for your husband to do that, I don't even support a man beating his newly wed wife, considering you already have Kids, its terrible that he beats you.

He was probably brought up, to be a narcissist, and a psychopath, there are some cultural beliefs should be discarded, the concept that a man is a master to his wife, or that he owns her, should be discarded.

The legacy of slavery and colonialism, has also added the appeal for violence and inhumanity, which is unnatural. I am not a very good student of history, i wonder if this was normal before colonialism, for men to beat up their wives, and even children.

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

SmileDance:
so what do you want us to do? We should come and flog him for you? Congratulations, just know when your kids grow up they will also flog their wives since you allow yourself to be flogged.

Eni ti ko tii ku, ko i ti mo iru iku ti yio pa ohun.

You may need a translator for comprehension sake.

Datboredberry:
Don't be stupid and partial... What could a grown human being to to warrant such?

You're trying to justify the man's actions... Ask yourself, if it were his boss who had offended him... Would he react like this?

Most of you men are cowards who can't challenge a fellow man but you prefer to act like rabid dogs when there's an altercation with a woman...

TRASH

SOME MEN DEY FEAR THEIR WIFE.



SO, HOW COME YOUR OWN HUSBAND THEY CARRY BELT BEAT YOU?

kurlz:


What that man doesn't know is that his kids will grow up hating him with a passion.

That's it, and tomorrow he will be blaming his village witches for turning his children against him and making them neglect him.




Most of such men are usually illiterates or educated illiterates who also have similar friends.



The Op's only option is separation pending when the UFC boxer he married repents and realizes that his strength is not meant to be used against his wife and kids but to protect them

sazzyyarns:
My husband flogs me with cane and belt whenever we have an altercation. We are not newly weds and by now we should have understood each other.

He never apologizes when we reconcile instead he says i should stop doing things that provoke him (which doesnt include me going physical, so its not even in self defence). At this point im really just frustrated!!!
He flogs me in the presence of the kids, sometimes he flogs them and then flogs me too.

This is the truth you need. If you take it, good for you. If not, good for you.

You have two choices:

1. Live with him like that..and your boys will try flogging their wives too in future. If the wives of your boys are not as slow as you, then, they wont have happy homes. They will move from one woman to another.

2. You leave the man. Listen, such a man cannot change. Never. It only takes God to change him, and it will take time. Can you bear the shame? He wont want you have your children. So, be ready for war.

Go and buy cameras with batteries in your rooms. And start recording with voice. Get him on camera
beating you ....video with real proof. Make sure you have it. As soon as you have it, move to the court, divorce him, and compel him to pay for your children's welfare. He will pay for the rent and everything. This is the only way you can escape such a demon.

If you like stay in the house and allow him to continue beating you. Those insulting you are right cos you are the one who is slow. And your children are seeing everything. You are just making them learn what is bad, and it's on you.

Goodluck!

Mase2020g:




Issue him a divorce paper, he brain go reset

lol, in this bubu regime, if u offer divorce paper to any man, he will quickly sign it with joy

Men should understand that the glory of the home will be taken away the moment you lay your hands on your wife.Violent men are not wise.

SmileDance:
[s]so what do you want us to do? We should come and flog him for you? Congratulations, just know when your kids grow up they will also flog their wives since you allow yourself to be flogged.[/s]

Coming from a lady. Twue

The glory of the home.

Iyaebe:
Men should understand that the glory of the home will be taken away the moment you lay your hands on your wife.Violent men are not wise.