Marry from that family at your own detriment. Because na after the wedding you go see tasking, your life will be full of frustration

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Must you marry her? What sort of nonsense is that? You better get strong head o or you go buy wine and put money for envelope for all the people in her village. I hate it when they exploit men all In the name of marriage

Nothing like marriage from that side of Nigeria, it's basically buying human n extortion

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

you wey get bad character . You go tey for here !!!

Ninu rogbodiyan yi, u still Dey marry Igbo girl.. comrade u bam o.

If you love your wife to be you can go ahead with it all you need to do is negotiate.

Blixon:

She said that’s what they told her to tell me. She doesn’t have a clue either.

That's why they get old without getting married.

doctor306:
you wey get bad character . You go tey for here !!!

Lolzz, my character no bad pass jarey. Chewing gum males can't handle it aii

ogwuche4u:


Must you marry her? What sort of nonsense is that? You better get strong head o or you go buy wine and put money for envelope for all the people in her village. I hate it when they exploit men all In the name of marriage

Money in envelope could b 50naira each.

Shebi someone sang " Elo ni One Milli One Million Dollars"

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

are you advertising yourself?

If I show you my own when I do last December enh

You go know say your own de learn

Blixon:

She said that’s what they told her to tell me. She doesn’t have a clue either.

Na maga you be na, anything that is not in the list no concern you

AutoChick4U:
Money in envelope could b 50naira each.

You want them to make the woman barren? Even the 50naira is extortion.

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

I don apply

All the best bro...

Op for the wrapper thing I did it when I was about getting married, you have to buy wrapper for your wife's paternal and maternal aunt, I gave my uncle's wives as well it is part of the marriage in some part of igbo culture. Don't make it to be high quality wrapper, go for the lower quality. As for the money in the envelope, our people use to do it but I forgot to do it in my own case. My mom told me that it's not something much like #100 or 200 in each envelope, it's part of the marriage rite and not something you should be worried about.

Vondata:
U r getting married to a hungry family, better do the ones u can do, if they insist, u quit

honestly,very hungry family with heavy drops of poverty and illiteracy.

And Op u should have mentioned the state so tgat people who are from there and are grounded can help u out. This is 2022 u pple should stop giving half information.

AutoChick4U:
I've got only two brothers and my uncles are millionaires so they don't need ur envelop. Bride price is 50naira just apply within.

Where are you based?

Boy nothing is normal in Nigeria………Nigeria as a country is not normal

As an Igbo man this culture is alien/strange to me

IGBOS. SELLERS OF CHILD

If thats imo state especially mbano or isiala mbano thats how they do.

Everything u listed here is negotiateable that's the beauty of it go to your in-laws with your Kings men and price your self out...is fun my brother

[/b]From my side, it is called "Iluru nwanyi" meaning in a lay man's understanding "your wife will take you to all her extended family (Aunties and Uncles) especially the ones that are married and show them whom she has agreed to marry...and you can't go empty handed that's where the drinks and money come to play.[b]

Now, it is not compulsory but it is necessary.
You will have to make out time with your wife and visit them even if they are living in another state from yours...

My Dad (blessed memory) made my elder sisters to do it with their husbands... They only go to their houses with wine(Eva) and #1000 envelope.
I found out that most of my cousins didn't do it and we only get to see their husbands in their traditional marriage day.

During my own time, my husband refused that he wasn't going to do it and my Dad forced him but he boldly refused. And we ended up not doing it... And nobody died.
My marriage is still kicking fine to the Glory of God.


So you see, everything boils down to you... If you wish to do it... Go ahead
If not, don't force it....

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Do WHATEVER THEY TOLD YOU TO DO DON'T COMPLAIN NO BE YOU SAY YOU WAN MARRY? ABI NA DEM FORCE YOU?. OGA FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS

Highman56:
are you advertising yourself?

Yes ooooooo, need more kids and a man of my own ooo. Not too much to ask ryt

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Blacckkk:
Give away! Give away!! Give away!!!

A philanthropist wants to give away 200,000 to twenty people.
You stand a chance to win 10,000 naira.

To participate, be among the first 20 to call 07030469439.
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Phock2sweet:
I don apply

Bros this ur moniker eh

Blixon:
Please my Igbo brothers and sisters,

Help me answer this.

I went with my friend to collect list from my prospective in-laws last weekend..

I am fine with the list though heavily loaded already, but now the family are saying that that’s not all, that I will also bring wine and money in envelope for all her brothers, they are seven in number, same for all her paternal uncles and wrappers for her paternal aunts, they called it something in Igbo “to marry for someone”.

Please is this supposed to be so? I am not very knowledgeable about the culture, help me here pls. What custom is this? I don’t understand why I have to marry for anyone else or buy wine for every sibling, uncle and aunt.

The Diokpara’s own is already stated in the list so why asking to do another one for the same diokpara again including the siblings and uncles and aunts.

Did they tell you the amount you should put in the envelope? If no then give each of them 1k then get them cheap wine, but your wife to be should be able to sort out this issue with her family, you guys will need money to live comfortably after your marriage so they shouldn't push you into debt just cause you intend getting married to their daughter.

Instead of you to consult and know the traditions of the place your potential wife is coming from, so that nobody would be able to con you,
you are here asking silly questions. mtcheww