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Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Karleb(m): 3:43pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
No disrespect to my Igbo friends but this culture is shitty and should be abolished! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by awa(m): 3:43pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
NoQualmz: The fake write up got me annoyed this afternoon. How can you come online to belittle a whole Tribe... It's a huge insult. Na only few people like you understand the useless write up. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Amalekki: 3:43pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
This is how we build, encourage and entrench corruption within our societies then we turn around and start blaming whoever is currently holding the baton in Aso Rock ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Privatepart00: 3:44pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U: Na wash Your uncles are millionaires yet none of them could help , sort yourself in Abuja Fake fake 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by SmartPolician: 3:44pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Deicide: Traditional marriage is the real marriage. ![]() Even if you don't want to throw a flamboyant traditional ceremony, you must meet their traditional requirements before taking your wife to the altar to say I do. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by seyz91(m): 3:46pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Stupid thread You said it already that you are heavily loaded, so why the question and complain? ![]() Go and waste your money onto the stupid vagina people wey go still dey Bleep around in marriage ![]() Afterall, Na married people dey commit adultery pass Blixon: 1 Share
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Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Privatepart00: 3:46pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Imo or Abia state? It won’t even pass those two states Tell us the exact place, let the people from there give you correct information Cc:Blixon |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Nobody: 3:47pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Blixon:If your wife agrees just pay bride price and do court wedding. All this extortion is done by greedy relatives who never even cared about her welfare. |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Oceanfield: 3:48pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U: Nice , I think I know the place if you are from Delta. |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by linearity: 3:49pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Blixon: Bros, everything including the content of the list is negotiable these days, unless you want to act as a ‘big boy’ to your Inlaw’s. Na all of us dey this country dey suffer am together, they included, so they know how far….so sit them down, especially the father of the bride and talk to him man-to-man. Every father wants their daughter to enjoy their marriage and have plenty, so they are very very soft when it come to these list of a thing, they will understand where you are coming from…it is the extended family members who have nothing to lose if the marriage go sore or if you guys are drinking garri that will carry the list mata for head like some die hard APC & PDP supporters here….but the bride father if willing can talk sense into them and also give you sound advice on how to proceed. Some of these extended family members are like vultures who have not eaten a very good meal for many weeks and sighting the prospect of a potential meal are angling not only make up for lost meals not eaten, but eyeing the possibility of taking enough for storage against potential hungry weeks ahead.....You should also understand their weakness and play on it, they are willing to have a very very tinny bite if made to face the reality of not having anything at all. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by teemac01(m): 3:51pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
ibechris: If I were u,I will call my would be wife and tell her that after this marriage ceremony,that u don't want to see her family near your house let alone come closer. Then wait and watch her talk to them to behave. I WAN ADD TO THIS WONDERFUL QUOTE OP...THIS IS WHAT I WILL ADVICE YOU TO DO...IF THAT REQUEST IS NON NEGOTIABLE...I BE IGBO MAN AS WELL AND I DONT CONDONE SUCH NONSENSE...BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY IF D FAMILY GET SMALL WAHALA LIKE DIS WEY PASS THIER POWER NA YOUR WIFE DEM GO TAKE ENTER YOU...SO LET IT BE KNOWN TO HER THAT SHOULD INCASE...GOD FORBID...BUT SHOULD INCASE THE SITUATION COMES UP...SHE SHOULD NOT DREAM OF COMING TO YOU WITH HER FAMILY PROBLEM...THE WAY THESE PEOPLE ADD ALL THIS NONSENSE TO BRIDE PRICE LIST AS IF NA SELL DEM DEY SELL THEIR DAUGHTER... 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by advanceDNA: 3:51pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
osuofia2: My nigga 1 Like
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Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by LieutGen: 3:55pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
ibechris: By virtue of marriage, the two family would become one as well. Have you thought of the other way round? What if you are the one that would be needing help from the woman's family members? 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Justice4Toto: 3:55pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Blixon: Concerning marriage and burial in Igbo land I have come to realize that all this omenala (tradition) is very personal. They will ask you for things once they perceive you can afford it. Even at that they keep asking once you are responding Once you said you don't have any money again then they will come to there senses and reason with u. It's pure wickedness An Ibo friend of mine married a Yoruba lady ....the trad and everything cost 400k The bride father called him aside and warn him seriously that he is spending too much. Ask him no to yield to anyone demand again . After the marriage half of the Yam and all other stuff was given back to the guy even part of the money While his sibling spent over 1.8m still he be like say he no do anything. They keep asking asking asking even cigar they the list. After everything one was happy the other was sad 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by skywalker240(m): 3:55pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U:Thanks But If you see the way i always feel irritated anytime i see their call's enh Clearly a deliberate rip-off and they didn't even hide it, telling me since I want to marry a princess from Royal family, i must be equal to the task ahead. My Wife Uncle was even telling me to go and borrow to add to the requirements, If not for my maternal uncle's, who had to put heads together to raise over 135k that day, I for no carry my wife go house Nothing was ommited from the list, despite how much we pleaded for considerations Now I always view them with enormous disdain 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Calicoe: 3:56pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
athaboi:I was like u until I followed someone to ebonyi to collect list. The total amount on the list was 733k. This was December last year and I'm still in shock up till now 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by LieutGen: 3:57pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Blixon: OP there is always a way of bargaining these things "Elders to Elders". Take an elderly along, and at worst Back out |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by skywalker240(m): 3:57pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Justice4Toto:Pure wickedness in daylight i tell you |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Amalekki: 3:58pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
LieutGen:They will tell him to man up and solve his personal problem ![]() |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by providencia(m): 3:58pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U: I hear you. Is there any millionionare who doesn't want to be a billionaires 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by PointZerom: 3:58pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Blixon: Are you From Which state? Is your wife to be from which state? You may be lying..... |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by PointZerom: 3:59pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
LieutGen: The OP is lying. |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by obynokoko: 3:59pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
donbachi:You are correct my brother |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by LieutGen: 4:00pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Justice4Toto: OP, you getti the pointi now?? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Highman56: 4:00pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U:Where is ur pic? To get suitors u need ur pic to be out there. |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by PerfectlyPerfect(m): 4:02pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
doctor306:Exactly. This is what most people don't know. Every item on the bride price list is negotiable with the exception of the bride price which is usually less than ₦100 |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by do4luv14(m): 4:04pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
AutoChick4U: Are you serious, bride price #50, it's show me your picture, before ah apply within |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Highman56: 4:06pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
PerfectlyPerfect:did u mean one hundred naira? Or it was typing error? 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by PerfectlyPerfect(m): 4:06pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
NoQualmz:If you're marrying from a family in Igbo land, every item on the marriage list is negotiable. They might say 20 tubers of yam but if you negotiate to 10, they'll still accept it after initial strong-head |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by blacknoir: 4:07pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
my bloda lok 4 100 naira and put in each envelope make sure u use 5naira sha so that the envelop will full. what kind of nonsence is this,y be say some tribes no they understand at all ,just because a young man wants to marry ur daughter does not give u the right to cripple him financially 1 Like |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by Yankee101: 4:07pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Just walk away Avoid any manipulative system Especially if it will impoverish you when done If you allow it to continue they'll skin you during white wedding and in your marriage Alternatively say you're not doing beyond what's on the list and ask the lady to advocate for you. If not really really walk away, even if you can afford it. It's control and manipulation and you don't want to build a foundation on that |
Re: Is This Normal For Traditional Wedding List? by PerfectlyPerfect(m): 4:11pm On Feb 01, 2022 |
Highman56:₦100. It's ₦50 in my village, and in most parts of Orlu L.G.A. The only issue is the items on the marriage list. Some people try to form big man and they'll go and buy everything on the list. Some others don't know the list is fluid, you can negotiate everything there. When my sister was getting married, 1 of the items on the list of 4 cartons of beer but my in-laws negotiated to 2 cartons. That's why it's always good to get prior Intel from someone from the area you want to marry from As for OP, his babe seems to be ignorant of the marriage rites, and I really pity him on this 1 Like |
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