chii8:


Can you please list the consequences of his actions?

jackcanfield:
I think your Dad should first be ready to be a grand pa ... all this shakara he is doing won't work. Secondly it is not compulsory she must be married to the guy if she doesn't like him, but if she does like him ba damua. Thirdly I don't think religion is a strong point, it is only God that know who is holy, everybody just carry religion for head in 9ja and finally you need to seat her down and help out map a plan for her life, she cannot use her own to kobalize the innocent baby God is designing.

Freestainworld:
Your father should better start accepting his grandchild in advance, all this his garagara won't solve any problem.

GboyegaD:
You guys are not concerned about your sister and how she is managing with being pregnant at this age but rather, trying to dissect some other family's history. You are not any better than the guy's family if instead of trying to have a meaningful conversation with your sister and the guy on their plans, you are focusing on what shouldn't be the primary concern.

GboyegaD:
You guys are not concerned about your sister and how she is managing with being pregnant at this age but rather, trying to dissect some other family's history. You are not any better than the guy's family if instead of trying to have a meaningful conversation with your sister and the guy on their plans, you are focusing on what shouldn't be the primary concern.

uthlaw:
this is not advice, some father strong for head...grandchild without father!

ZALA64:
Good evening dear Nairalanders, I have a story to share with you and I will appreciate your candid advice

I have a junior sister of about 21 years of age, finished secondary school in 2019, tried gaining admission but didn't get eventually, also did A level but at the end, there was nothing to show for, this isn't cause she is a dullard but something Sha must end up something, she applied for another A level at Unilag, and was pushing through not until the news of her pregnancy came in, she was two months gone when I got to know, I really tried to persuade her to abort because I was concerned about her Education and our parent feeling but she insisted and I allowed her take her decision, we informed my dad and mum then the big issue starts, right now my dad does not want to have anything to do with her, she is currently living at my dad's junior brother house

The most annoying part to my dad was that she got pregnant to a Christian which my dad would not approve of, even when they tried to talk to him multiple, right now, he does not care if she exist or not, all he knows is she can't live under his roof anymore

I am the elder sister and my consign goes beyond the religion issue, the boys mother is some sort of hell, didn't like my sister and she looks really fetish, the whole family looked cursed to me, the guy is the only one that managed to finish ND and he is currently learning Mechanic after his ND Program, I have tried to persuade my sister to not have the intention of getting married to the guy now, because first she's young, second how would she feed and third that family is a no no, the red flags are just too glaring, Her strong head is just too much which is why I'm putting it out, if she's reading comments from another person maybe she'd pick something, I have invited her as a guest to Nairaland and she would be seeing all your advices. Kindly help us.

Thank you.

Favfables1:
A 21year old girl is an adult, so you can't decide for her, you can only advice her and if after that, she chooses not to follow your advice, you simply let her be ...

Allow her face the consequences of her decision.... I know you love her and all,but you can't force an adult to listen if they don't want to, so let her be...

Dmamasboy:


There is so many wrongs and not just on her part too. The fact that your concern goes beyond the religious aspect it’s a big wrong. The fact that you want her to abort the pregnancy is a huge wrong. I would assume that you are Muslim since you brought up the religion part, this will mean you and your sister are terrible Muslims. A Muslim woman would know not to associate with a Christian man (only our men can marry Christian women). That part alone is a sin as she has gone against Allah SWT’s command. Fornication is also a sin. But so is abortion (same as murder) and so is making religion take a back step as a Muslim.
Too many wrongs cannot make a right. The deed has already been done. Your sister needs to keep the pregnancy. You and your sister need to educate yourselves more on Islam. Your sister needs to end her relationship with the man and she needs to repent. Your father’s reaction is understandable but with time he’ll come around so long as he sees your sister is repentant in her actions and her words.
Religion (both Islam and Christianity) is bery important because it has a blueprint of how we should live our lives even in this century. Being a Muslim or a Christian by name is not enough, knowing your religion deeply is.

Freestainworld:
my dear wait till the child comes around and see magic happening, unless the man is a very heart hardened man.

willbayo:

You sound like you regret having that boy,you don’t deserve him

tiswell:
I feel you bro. pleasant Wednesday to you.

ZALA64:
Good evening dear Nairalanders, I have a story to share with you and I will appreciate your candid advice

I have a junior sister of about 21 years of age, finished secondary school in 2019, tried gaining admission but didn't get eventually, also did A level but at the end, there was nothing to show for, this isn't cause she is a dullard but something Sha must end up something, she applied for another A level at Unilag, and was pushing through not until the news of her pregnancy came in, she was two months gone when I got to know, I really tried to persuade her to abort because I was concerned about her Education and our parent feeling but she insisted and I allowed her take her decision, we informed my dad and mum then the big issue starts, right now my dad does not want to have anything to do with her, she is currently living at my dad's junior brother house

The most annoying part to my dad was that she got pregnant to a Christian which my dad would not approve of, even when they tried to talk to him multiple, right now, he does not care if she exist or not, all he knows is she can't live under his roof anymore

I am the elder sister and my consign goes beyond the religion issue, the boys mother is some sort of hell, didn't like my sister and she looks really fetish, the whole family looked cursed to me, the guy is the only one that managed to finish ND and he is currently learning Mechanic after his ND Program, I have tried to persuade my sister to not have the intention of getting married to the guy now, because first she's young, second how would she feed and third that family is a no no, the red flags are just too glaring, Her strong head is just too much which is why I'm putting it out, if she's reading comments from another person maybe she'd pick something, I have invited her as a guest to Nairaland and she would be seeing all your advices. Kindly help us.

Thank you.

CandyOps:
Bold of you to decide what your sister does with her body for her especially now she's an adult.
But then I understand you. You are the older sis and raising a kid isn't child's play.

This is a hard one. as she wan born the pikin una go begin focus on teaching her a marketable skill.
Because she'll need to start earning her own money.

Learn a skill (like how to sell human hair on IG & facebook) because to be single mom for Nigeria without much help is not a child's play
Any skill she learns now will help her earn a living after birth.