heniford2:
Alpha not simp she don't control me she saw a hard working smart dude and she fell madly inlove with as for the washing of plates i deceided to do so based on what i saw other whitemen do she do the 100% cooking and her the 50/50 was her idea which i like because it makes her feel belong and assured, as for the Nigeria girls stuff i was born and raised in Nigeria dated alot of them so i can testjfy my son is mom is a nigerian woman

I seeeee. Ok. Ok. Let's agree then that washing, cooking, collecting money from a woman, being a baby daddy, and all the other things you do DO NOT make a man a simp and emasculated, yeah? Righttt. You decided to copy white men. If you as an alpha is copying what the westernized men are doing, then those men are alpha males too. Taking care of kids, buying flowers, treating their women right, respecting them, giving them listening ears. If YOU are not a simp for doing so, then OYINBO MEN aren't simps for doing so, abi?

Also, inspite of you having a baby out of wedlock, you see yourself in a positive light and you say good things about yourself. I hope you extend the same courtesy to single moms.

So you have no problem with equality and a woman making decisions with you? You obviously agreed to HER TERMS. She brought the idea and you went along with it, as a sensible alpha, amiright, because it made her feel assured and loved? You have no problem co-making decisions and running your affairs, mostly jointly, yeah? There's nothing based on gender between y'all. You have penis and you're washing, and can cook if you want to; she has vagina and she's bringing in money. Now, does this not seem like equality to you? The arrangement you're having. And I'm sure you're not bragging headship to her and giving all the whole conditions - a woman must do this, a man can never do this, like your Naija brothers. You're both compromising and I sincerely hope when you see a Naija man doing for his wife all the things you're doing for your oyinbo pepper baby, you will not call him a simp tomorrow. You really are putting in efforts into making her feel secured.

At least this proves how reality plays out.

I totally dis agree with her submissions, it is highly delusional in this modern age.

Saying the man must provide for everything in your marriage is BS infact you will surely be jented at the long run with such mentality.

Any man who marry your kind must be ready for a long and tough period of problems. Feminist or no feminist each ideology is diff and that of yours is a total turn off.

In saner climes contribution from both parties are essential in growing family together, it spells how committed you are in the relationship. It is in Nigeria you will hear such nonsensical ideology, and so men are created to be punished and rubbish. Hence, who is even benefiting from the marriage, is it not the woman.

Quoting the scriptures, is justifiable but not as you have set it up and where have you read that eve did not see to the garden up spring besides, the love that God has for the world that is why he gave is only begotten son. Look, drop that mentality you carry about and build with your man .. bye

Jeon:




YOU ARE A WOMAN

True, but certainly not a wife.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Actually, women are created receivers, men provide & women multiply what was provided good but entitlement mentality is not welcomed because women can also help their men too and vice versa

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Oshey central processing unit

Favfables1:
This is her POV...
It's her stance on things like this and I agree with it totally...

As a traditional woman, she is seen and not heard, she has no qualms about sharing her husband with other women, she kneels to serve her husband, she doesn't go to school, she goes to farm and sow "women crops" like cocoyam, pepper, and the likes, she can be used to entertain visitors sexually, she has no right to vote, no right to question her husband's decision, she is not involved in making decisions however must bear part of the consequences should a mishap happen....

So my dear...
If the OP can be a traditional woman for me, I will definitely be a traditional man for her anytime any day...

Okay, whatever. I think it should be clear I really do not give a damn with y'all 'traditional' beliefs at this point.

I was clearly the one who mentioned how everybody cherrypicks the part of their beliefs' system that suits them.

Be a traditional man too na. If the government coman draft you for war, don't come crying to feminists to do something. Don't insult baby mamas as their pregnancies, in the 'African' way, are true proofs of their fertility.

Fine, if you don't mind your babe sleeping with your friends when they come visiting. Enjoyment, yeah. And when you kpai and go to the world beyond, your rich king and elder brother can take over your wife and family. Perfecto!

Johnsown1:
All these manial domestic work can't be compared to the redicule,insults and hunger starvation that men goes through every day of their lives in other to give his family a good life. So don't hype yourself with these things dear because I cooks very well if not more than you

Noooooo. You must be shitting me right now. Whatt daaa'. I know say you go try twist am. Like I know. I am not the object/subject of anything here. I asked a simple direct question: can you share in her burdens, including pregnancy, breast-feeding, cleaning poopoo and catarrh, running halter-neck, skirter, and belt when the kids fall sick? :DRaise them through teenagehood, go for PTA meetings, wash everybody's clothes, iron them, cook 24/7, sweep the whole house, build the home, be a Rock of Gibraltar spiritually, psychologically, in facttt, do eeeeeverything women do, IF YOU WANT HER TO SHARE IN YOUR BURDEN?

Wahala o ti e si. Ko le. If you want her to share burdens with you, share burdens with her. Ko ju bee lo.

This one that Naija men are suddenly in support of the modern age and equality on this thread, watin dey happen?

See all them craftily trying to slip out of the headship role. Head don dey pain una? LMAO!

Hmmm

The logical gender would come for you.
I didn’t bring anything. Just vibes and light skin.

Magnoliaa:
This one that Naija men are suddenly in support of the modern age and equality on this thread, watin dey happen?

See all them craftily trying to slip out of the headship role. Head don dey pain una? LMAO!

....Abi o. It's not easy. The economy is really biting men harder so what do you expect?

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

True sha ..but am very angry about this truth op

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Who is this loose she-dog

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

You are a trouble maker

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

So what did your parents send you to school for then? You mean you have no useful talent that can contribute as a service to the society? Maybe we should go back to the days when it was a taboo to send girls to school since they would only end up as an housewife anyways.

Because u get boobs,ass and vijjay u need to be pampered? my friend go and work

confirm0:
Actually, women are created receivers, men provide & women multiply what was provided good but entitlement mentality is not welcomed because women can also help their men too and vice versa

How is a traditional woman expecting her man to provide entitlement mentality?

Oga boss, make it make sense.

If you people are going to be doing 'each other's roles' then you can't really say this role is meant for man/woman no more.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Abi o. It's not easy. The economy is really biting men harder so what do you expect?

Eyaaaaaa. Maybe una fit try gather money buy time machine. I'm sure the earlier years would be pleasant for y'all.

Princess80:
I really do not answer these kinda comments filled with indults but I'll answer urs.
First, I work and get paid, I have my own dreams, goals and aspirations. I dont need a man to give me food before I eat

So you do all these and you still come her to deceive
Other ladies to be useless to themselves and their husbands. I pity those ladies that are being misled.

K

You're a thief, sorry i mean pest for posting this. God greated an helper to a man not someone that eat everything brought to the table. Naso eve take do eat apple o..
Na women like you we dey avoid to marry not that we can't provide o but women like you are not helpers and prayerful

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

You will soon understand better my motivation speaker

Well spoken!!!

Insult? Naa it's a waste of time.

I support you op. If you want me to help with finances, I will surely help but you must also help with the chores. 50/50. No dulling.

Even your fellow women go shame for you

Everybody must share every responsibility as long as they capable and available. With this your reasoning,...I advise you look up the word entitlement in your beginners learners dictionary.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

There are ladies of value

There are ladies of pussy. We call them FBO - FOR BED ONLY ladies. They are liability.

Oh....and one man will pay the bride price of this one....and buy wahala! SMH.

This one registered on Nairaland today to seek attention.

Few hours after registration you already created 4 topics

rickleye:
I'll be frank and not coy. You must be the dumbest woman on this forum.
However, my senses are also telling me that the nonsense you dropped is just to seek out attention.

You have no idea what feminist means - equal opportunity for male and female. To them there are no male only roles and female only roles in society. What a man can do , I can do better - My response - You CAN"T.

" we are not created to provide but to process " No feminist says this. This is where you lose your diatribe.
Then you quote the bible and mention Eve. Like she is the best example out there. Her husband gave her detailed instructions of what to do and not to do. Yet she couldn't keep and relay simple instructions.

You not subscribing women to bring anything is what makes women, illiterates - not being sent to school. if all they do is sit down at home waiting to be impregnated , or given money to make food , turn a house to a home.

I do not and will not be involved with a lady who doesn't think she can do more with her life than what you mentioned. She is to be a "helpmate" an assistant. Both contributing with their skills to the success of the union.

I can buy groceries and cook so why do I need you to process.
I can adopt a child or get one through surrogacy, so why do I need you to process.
I can stage a house and buy homely stuff, so why do I need you to process .
When I get frustrated, I will go see a therapist, so lady why do i need you to process?

I do more than " bring the money" and when I decide to settle down - She better do more than "process"

Anyways, If you want to escalate your backward thinking to a voice call , I may be available.

May God so bless you for all these points you stated man. Like WTH?!!!

Very correct. But absolutely stupid when you don't bring anything, but you want to dictate everything!

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

If foolishness is a person.

Then you are a slave not a partner.

I have never replied or commented before but with this one I will not keep mute.....Oga or madam..... no be as dem born you ...dem born man....it's only a selfish and greedy woman that sounds like you ....but 99.9 percent of smart generation women are like you my sister...enjoy today and cry tomorrow... ..gbam...thank God there is no pension and entitlement that they will give you when you kill you man.....old olosho sef dey...take your time to ask them their story before you turn your man to your ATM....abeg your mama born man at all....