Ugulo:
You're a thief, sorry i mean pest for posting this. God greated an helper to a man not someone that eat everything brought to the table. Naso eve take do eat apple o..
Na women like you we dey avoid to marry not that we can't provide o but women like you are not helpers and prayerful

She's not a pest or whatever. She only said she ain't bringing anything FINANCIALLY. She didn't say she wasn't gonna contribute in other ways.

Where did she write that she's eating everything, jeez??
She literally wrote the word multiply! That is she makes bigger or triple whatever you give her. How she's going to do that is what I don't know sha. But she never mentioned anything about being useless.

Why is this money part paining you people?? Besides, is it not virginity, youthfulness, fertility guys want in a woman? So why are you mad when a woman says she's bringing no money?

Oga o.

Today, you're saying this is what you want, tomorrow, you're condemning what you said you want.

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Gbam!!!!!!!!!!

Wise woman!! You have spoken well.

but the way poor men who are too lazy to work and want to eat of a woman's sweat will abuse you today ehhhhhh.... I mean men who only own I pass my generator will drag you as if they want to on that GEN....

Poor and lazy men over to you..... finish her ... she is the cause of your lazy bones

Just know that after abusing her.... a man who cannot provide for his own is worse than an infidel. Find something profitable to be doing o

Magnoliaa:
This is purely a traditional discussion and it is for you people to discuss. Those of you that subscribe (fully) to the ideals. I don't have a problem with it 'long as you're not trying to set is as a standard for every woman/man.

Actually, feminists believe in sharing (that is not along gender lines).
'Masculinists' believe in being the heads and providers.

So, it is not feminist to say a man is the provider and it is not 'masculinist' to say a woman must co-provide/'bring something to the table'.

Masculinists are your allies- or they are supposed to be. Y'all believe the same thing. So why are you attacking masculinists in your main OP; why are you attacking men who wants to provide??

You people should be getting your terms and conditions clear o. I don't know what feminism has to do with this.

You people are sha confusing everything and want to straddle all sides.

God bless you o! The problem with nowadays feminist is not wanting equal responsibility.

I still believe in real feminist. I know they'll give me peace of mind, because i'm also a free person that want peace also

biggie73:
Continue with this mentality. The world is filled with single mum and baby mamas for a reason.

Guys need to be careful ooo,women like this are dangerous.most rich guys prefer to have baby mamas and be single because all this kind women ehnnn.
Them be time bomb.
Nothing is as bad as living with a cunning and manipulating female.

rickleye:
I'll be frank and not coy. You must be the dumbest woman on this forum.
However, my senses are also telling me that the nonsense you dropped is just to seek out attention.

You have no idea what feminist means - equal opportunity for male and female. To them there are no male only roles and female only roles in society. What a man can do , I can do better - My response - You CAN"T.

" we are not created to provide but to process " No feminist says this. This is where you lose your diatribe.
Then you quote the bible and mention Eve. Like she is the best example out there. Her husband gave her detailed instructions of what to do and not to do. Yet she couldn't keep and relay simple instructions.

You not subscribing women to bring anything is what makes women, illiterates - not being sent to school. if all they do is sit down at home waiting to be impregnated , or given money to make food , turn a house to a home.

I do not and will not be involved with a lady who doesn't think she can do more with her life than what you mentioned. She is to be a "helpmate" an assistant. Both contributing with their skills to the success of the union.

I can buy groceries and cook so why do I need you to process.
I can adopt a child or get one through surrogacy, so why do I need you to process.
I can stage a house and buy homely stuff, so why do I need you to process .
When I get frustrated, I will go see a therapist, so lady why do i need you to process?

I do more than " bring the money" and when I decide to settle down - She better do more than "process"

Anyways, If you want to escalate your backward thinking to a voice call , I may be available.

How can I like this your comment multiple times??

[quote author=Magnoliaa post=109903312]

And when you kpai and go to the world beyond, your rich king and elder brother can take over your wife and family.[quote]


I can only do my part when alive, but seriously , when I die, what's my own? It's not like I'd the maltreatment. Absolutely none of my concern when I'm gone

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Lol. Only idiots will argue with this. If u agree to take care of the house 100%, do chores,cook, wash and take care of the kids, ur hubby will provide 100%. But d wahala started when u girls started saying u are not slaves and can't do all the work and cooking

D generation of d 'BROKEs' are coming for u. Broke guys won't lyk a thread lyk dis. BROKE guys are d most insultive n venomous on dis forum.Their BROKE states come wt angers,frustrations n transfer of aggressions.

Princess80:
I really do not answer these kinda comments filled with indults but I'll answer urs.
First, I work and get paid, I have my own dreams, goals and aspirations. I dont need a man to give me food before I eat

good of u

tollyboy5:
God bless you o! The problem with nowadays feminist is not wanting equal responsibility.

I still believe in real feminist. I know they'll give me peace of mind, because i'm also a free person that want peace also

Kkk

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

This piece of thrash you put up is the lowest any human mind can go. Absolutely nonsense

Yusufisraelj:



Really you don't subscribe to women bringing things to the table? Who be this one now!

They are only feminists when it doesn't involve them to make a meaningful contribution.

elantraceey:
And truthfully, bringing money is actually the easiest job in a home.

Do am if e easy

There is little guarantee that one such as yourself is capable of playing your role to its optimum.

You want to play around "soft" roles like taking care of kids. Roles that you can do a bad job at for 20yrs and still get a free pass.

Your husband pays all the bills and carries the responsibilities.

You "train" children.

Any period your husband fails it will become an issue.

But if you fail to instill discipline, a sense of imagination, a work ethic, self esteem etc in the kids- who will hold you responsible?

You are a 419

Princess80:
I didn't say I won't bring, I said I won't share financial responsibilities as u people keep saying.

Both men and women have roles to play, helping is a thing but to share ur responsibilities while I carry my own burden all by myself? Hell no.
Even in govt, there is division of power.
Most men feel as long as they bring money, thats the ultimate but they forgot that there are other roles to play and they turn blind and deaf and allows the woman to bear all the burden.

Sonnobax15:

Wahala for any Guyman wey go mistakenly put you for house in the name of wife . No punishment go fit big pass that one

Hellfire on Earth. The so called husband will chichumchin.

Ybaby:


Gbam!!!!!!!!!!

Wise woman!! You have spoken well.

but the way poor men who are too lazy to work and want to eat of a woman's sweat will abuse you today ehhhhhh.... I mean men who only own I pass my generator will drag you as if they want to on that GEN....

Poor and lazy men over to you..... finish her ... she is the cause of your lazy bones

Just know that after abusing her.... a man who cannot provide for his own is worse than an infidel. Find something profitable to be doing o

Am sure u are a teenager u don't know what truly relationships are all about.u can't even smell a manipulative female from far away sef.

If you continue this way,u might end up badly,try and learn but I hope you would learn in time and be smart to avoid cunning and manipulative women.

Medley02:
Well, the lady is right. As a man, you ought to provide for your family. But, if you are not working or have anything doing at all... You're not or shouldn't even be thinking of having your own family or dating sef if you don't want to be frustrated.

To simply put, LADIES are processors while men are PROVIDERs. it's simple as that


NB: You may not this, but nobody cares sir

No problem na. But she won't have any say in how I choose to run my home. She go dey like slave for the house

VULCAN:
You are doing far more talking than the OP!

You asked her some tough questions. She didn't reply now you are going after THE MALES who commented.

You're sounding triggered.

Take it easy.

This is Nairaland.

It's not as real as you think.

If the OP gets to 40 without a husband or a child she will sing a different song.

I AM ALWAYS TRIGGERED, BABY, IF YOU DIDN'T KNOW THAT. RELAX AND COME ALONG WITH ME; FOLLOW MY TRAIL.

I am neither in support of the main post nor the posts disagreeing with it. Whatever it is you think I do with Nairaland, or however you think I use it is totally up to your fantasies.

Are you saying women have no value?

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

at least eve bring apple to the table

The way you useless piece of shiit of a black species think and process thought is that of a gold fish

If only your father didn't simp to deposit his SIMPathetic sperm, we won't be seeing this thread at all

Well she don talk her own, later on if MAN no gree come,no complain ooo

.

Enny2013:
D generation of d 'BROKEs' are coming for u. Broke guys won't lyk a thread lyk dis. BROKE guys are d most insultive n venomous on dis forum.Their BROKE states come wt angers,frustrations n transfer of aggressions.

Look at daughters of eve supporting themselves

Princess80:


Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Madame.you like vawulence

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

No need Insulting you, u have insulted your self

Kellzzyy:
Olosho don drop quote

Reading along, I expected comment like this...

For this nairaland, una no dey disappoint at all at all...

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

Thank God you even call it “Financial burden” and
you’ve decided to abandon ur husband to that burden alone and you think u can make a good wife?
Na because say na somebody’s son..
Use ur Papa as a case study then come back and spew this nonsense again.

I agree with Op. I will contribute 100% financially but make she know say na slave she be for my house. Anytime she tries to contribute on how I run my home, I go scatter her teeth

[quote author=Magnoliaa post=109903622]

How is a traditional woman expecting her man to provide entitlement mentality?

Oga boss, make it make sense.

If you people are going to be doing 'each other's roles' then you can't really say this role is meant for man/woman no more.

Nope, I was just generally stating that concerning the "entitlement mentality",

The division of other roles is based on priority, e.g which is the man's priority vs his wife's priority, remember even the well grown trained kids get to start supporting the home too on a priority level

Princess80:
Most times I see men asking the question of what ladies bring to the table.

Seriously, we aren't created to bring, we are to process, the man is the provider, he will bring everything for us to process.

If u give us bring sperm, we give u babies
If u give us groceries, we have to give u food
If u give a house, we give u a home
Give us frustration, and trust me, i will surely multiply it and give u hell.

In the bible, Adam had everything and had dominions over it, the woman only came to help him harvest his raw materials.

When it comes to finance, Oga it is 100% ur responsibility, I could only assist when my husband isn't making much and he had future plans or if I earn better than he does.
U can't share financial burden with me and still expect me to cater for the children, wash, cook, clean all alone and still gather enough strength for ur wahala at night.
Bringing money is the only thing a man does, why on earth will u share that very one with me? When I object, u will call me a feminist, Oga masculnist, I will not share.
Every other responsibility in a home belongs to me, while financial responsibilities must be shared abi.
Note: sharing financial burden and helping are two different things.

Oya let the insults pour 123 go.

damn,, what has man gone wrong, is it not in the same bible that say when a man find a wife he has find a good thing, and the proverbs say when a man is prosperous you should look at what the wife is preparing for him, supporting him financially and morally after then spiritually.

this is wht we need from you, we dont need you only in the bed or kitchen. we need you in all aspect of life.
we need you women to connect to our spirit to move forward

Thank you

Magnoliaa:


She's not a pest or whatever. She only said she ain't bringing anything FINANCIALLY. She didn't say she wasn't gonna contribute in other ways.

Where did she write that she's eating everything, jeez??
She literally wrote the word multiply! That is she makes bigger or triple whatever you give her. How she's going to do that is what I don't know sha. But she never mentioned anything about being useless.

Why is this money part paining you people?? Besides, is it not virginity, youthfulness, fertility guys want in a woman? So why are you mad when a woman says she's bringing no money?

Oga o.

Today, you're saying this is what you want, tomorrow, you're condemning what you said you want.

Men also want submissiveness, and if you can’t do all this especially the virgin partyou don’t deserve to have a traditional man. A traditional lady for a traditional man, you kneel down when serving me food and stay on your kneels till I’m done eating.

Dybala11:
They are only feminists when it doesn't involve them to make a meaningful contribution.

If you drag feminists here, you'll hear* it from me. She didn't call herself a feminist, I said she's not a feminist and she hasn't disagreed with me.

Abeg, abeg, as the public relations office of Feminism Nigeria Chapter, on this one ooo, this topic and poster - I am saying it has nothing to do with feminism.

She's a true traditional woman that wants a traditional man like y'all. Na your person. Hold am.