Any man that tries to use money to control His woman is not being smart. Life goes up and down. The two are expected to be one. But you were with your wife in competition.

Your sense of self worth was tied to your networth and you respect for your wife was commensurate to what she had in Her purse. Now you want to apologize only because she is earning more than you and that makes you feel less of a Man.

Did she tell you she wants your apologies?

Better continue earning your 600k and taking care of your family responsibilities. Don’t try to compete with your wife, because you might die before your time. Focus On becoming a better human being all round.

truthsayer009:


Yes exactly, and it seems to be working, we have nine pages already and this dude hasn't said anything on the thread. People are pulling their hair out over a fake story that never happened.

Fake content or fake content creators seems like a good business model, I remember a lady friend of mine back then in school used to work for a dating site as a remote communicator when the website first launched, she chats with men like she is a real babe looking for friendships or relationship, then stop replying chats after a while. I was surprised when I heard that this used to happen.

A very good business model. I can already imagine creating a page on Facebook, starting with this measure of concocting tales that never happened, garnering an audience and whoop, I have a massive following. Trust me, controversy sells.

laluski:


Look at your last paragraph...you mean you know this and you have the impunity to come here and ask us for advice...you must be very stupid..
I don't blame you, I blame her for marrying a slowpoke like you..infact between she marrying you and you saying all this here..I don't know whose more stupid..if to say na my sister come tell me this kind story WORD FOR WORD..my advice to her would have been a very dirty slap.
Lemme ask you if your father did all Thai to your mother and you knew all this....will you love your dad the more or call your own mother a fool...
Tell us your answer here sincerely before it enters your empty brain to get angry at the truth am saying and want to vent your childish anger back at me...
Kai...this boy just spoil my mood this evening Sha...

.
. Calm down bros

mercy87:


Well, i'm a man and a married one at that. I can tell you that my wife is my equal. We are in a partnership building a beautiful life together. Women are not lesser beings.

ok
Whatever rocks your boat Mr mercy

dawnomike:
In all these, I still wonder why saying "My wife, I am sorry" is so much of a problem to you...
How to say sorry to wife is by first killing that your ego sir. #Peace

Na foolish African man him be... something he would have done before coming here to voice out..

The woman nice... very foolish somebody... the guy for see better see.. silly thing... when it is his fellow men to show strength he cant.. Now u can see why Nigerian women deal with men like this abroad... Shei Una dey see am!!

Then u go say Naija women wicked!!

Op, you are so lucky. You have a great wife. Not every guy out is that lucky.

Apologize to her. Treat her right. Good women is hard to get. From your writeup, I can see this woman is a great woman. You did not condemn her in anyway.

BTW, can you help us with the type of training she did and what type of job she is doing. Please. So many people will benefit from it. I am sure she is working for one of the jobs overseas. That's a good source of income. Four thousand dollars in this buhari government.

Good luck op.

WELL IF YOU CANT APOLOGISE AND CANT DEAL WITH IT DIVORSE ABEG AND IF YOU FEEL SHES PLANNING ON DEALING WITH YOU AND YOU CANT SWALLOW YOU OWN PILL THEN LEAVE BEFORE YOU TURN VIOLENT

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

You are a mumu man.
Go and apologise to her with immediate alacrity.

You are lucky she is who she is if not she would have dealt with you. For the fact that you said you pushed her to this level because of what you have done to her or said to her . Mr you are wrong. She is who she is now cause of Grace left to me you won't smell nothing. You are still thinking if you should say sorry. You are wicked and mean. People like you will marry woman and want to run them down with words. A woman you married and because you made it a little she becomes trash to you
For the fact she didn't let it get to her it has put her on a winning side.

She is a woman that knows her worth and doesn't deserve a man like you

Raalsalghul:
I doubt this story especially coming from a new moniker.

Fake as hell.... Indirectly waiting for DMs on what the wife does. May be fiction

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way.

After our kids, it became very
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Bros! I don't have any advice to give you as you have been well advised on here. But if you don't mind, can you kindly tell your wife that some of us will want to learn her online hussle so long it's legit. If she wouldn't mind sharing. My nairaland handle @ yahoo dot come

Which kain woman be this? They use jazz for u ni. Haa. I fear men o. I'll build my empire in my nameeeeeeee

dawnomike:
In all these, I still wonder why saying "My wife, I am sorry" is so much of a problem to you...
How to say sorry to wife is by first killing that your ego sir. #Peace

A Bi oo!!!
. H such an ARROGANT boy not even a MAN!!!

laluski:


Look at your last paragraph...you mean you know this and you have the impunity to come here and ask us for advice...you must be very stupid..
I don't blame you, I blame her for marrying a slowpoke like you..infact between she marrying you and you saying all this here..I don't know whose more stupid..if to say na my sister come tell me this kind story WORD FOR WORD..my advice to her would have been a very dirty slap.
Lemme ask you if your father did all Thai to your mother and you knew all this....will you love your dad the more or call your own mother a fool...
Tell us your answer here sincerely before it enters your empty brain to get angry at the truth am saying and want to vent your childish anger back at me...
Kai...this boy just spoil my mood this evening Sha...

he is a very stupid man. life is unfair, Above all , let God be true and every man a liar. why do Good people get troublesome partners ?

laluski:


Look at your last paragraph...you mean you know this and you have the impunity to come here and ask us for advice...you must be very stupid..
I don't blame you, I blame her for marrying a slowpoke like you..infact between she marrying you and you saying all this here..I don't know whose more stupid..if to say na my sister come tell me this kind story WORD FOR WORD..my advice to her would have been a very dirty slap.
Lemme ask you if your father did all Thai to your mother and you knew all this....will you love your dad the more or call your own mother a fool...
Tell us your answer here sincerely before it enters your empty brain to get angry at the truth am saying and want to vent your childish anger back at me...
Kai...this boy just spoil my mood this evening Sha...

I beg no vex...

Uncle shey you fit collect cane?
Now, everything is fine you are scared, why do to anyone what you would not like.
Still apologize though I recommend her treating your sh*t once or twice.

OP approach her, thanks her, apologize to her and be very sincere, see her as the only person you has. She might be jobless tomorrow, vow to yourself to always love and treat her well no matter the situation. Always remember that you are the head of the family and it's your responsibility to take care of your home. And try and be humble

HarunaWest:
Dont Apologize for the past for it has passed. Rather, appreciate her for what she has done and start footing the bills henceforth. Also buy her little gifts from time to time whenever you return from office and take her on weekend outings at least once a month. Cinemas, shoprite, parks, clubs, trade fairs et al. Do all these and have peace.

he needs to apologise for the past misdeeds.

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

You do not deserve to be a LEADER AT ALL.

You are not a MAN but a boy!!
Being a responsible Man like I always say on Nairaland and elsewhere takes more than having a job and footing any fucking bills.

You can say anything in reply to me ooo..

PeachtreeReside:





he needs to apologise for the past misdeeds.

Cant you read pride all over his post. This OP wouldn't apologize so leave am alone.

God abeg give me better wife ooo... Abeg Na my prayer be that ooo. As a good guy wey I be ooo

UyaiIncomparabl:


A very good business model. I can already imagine creating a page on Facebook, starting with this measure of concocting tales that never happened, garnering an audience and whoop, I have a massive following. Trust me, controversy sells.

Yeah good idea, check out this lady on IG instagram.com/connotare, she alergedly started a page with fake content, then people started sending her some real content later on

Just repent

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Double0h7:
This narcissistic jerk wants to take credit for her greatness

His words: I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. 

Innately wicked person, I'd say. No charity at all or remorse.

LilMissFavvy:
"She transferred 5million to a wicked husband to use and complete "HIS BUILDING PROJECT"? Fake story

It happens, some women do it, and I know two women that bought a land and built their family house, what they do is just transfer money to the husband, whilst he build the house, but you won't know it's there money... She didn't just do it for the husband, she did it for her kids too...

This man is a very terrible person.... I know men like you, but it gives me joy that she is a strong woman.......

I love you so much Mom, and I promise to make you proud all the days of your life on Earth and you shall eat the fruit of your labor......

Nairaland men like bashing women but you don't know what women pass through in the hands of bad men.... Just that we don't say it, because good women are strong.

Double0h7:
This narcissistic jerk wants to take credit for her greatness

His words: I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. 

Very narcissistic mofo..be happy for her and apologise and stop spewing rubbish #pushed her to greatness my nyash#

That is a good wife materials in deed, pls do tell your wife or you to educate us in this kind of training she got for the work at home oo, thank you, contact 08135307930

How do you apologise to your wife

Just say you're sorry, and you'll change.
And you better work on your self be willing to save stop saying that's how you are.

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

I wonder the kind of advice you need here . You committed the crime and you now know what you did was wrong why do you need this forum to advice you until the woman change the style for you . Some men are really funny .