Posaqato:
Chai, Onyeka Onwenu don old o. I remember the days of "One love keep is together..."

LilMissFavvy:
Were these 3men you mentioned truly her ex husband's, or it was mere rumour ? Whatever the case, she's a great woman to have been able to raise her Children by herself giving them a good life.

wiseoneking:
And check out yourself too, you must really be old if you are aware of the days of that "one love keep us together" if Onyeka is around 70yrs today, I bet you may be btw 50 and 70. As Onyeka grows older, so likewise y'all.

Godjone:
It is well.
The husband must be a wicked,useless, heartless and ruthless man. Ever since she spoke about him, the ejiot has not come out to debunk nor deny the accusations that means the ejiot is as guilty as charged.

She used same scenario to act a sorrowful movie. Who have watched that movie? Idomie generation clear road

HayB100:
Most marriages nah hell

PastorMIsBack:


Do whatever suits you. She did what suited her.

LetDemKnow:


Nigerian veteran singer Onyeka Onwenu has opened up about the difficulties she faced in her failed marriage.

The music star made this known during a chat with Kikilomo Atanda-Owo on her show “Real Talk with Kike.”



She hammered on how much she tried to make her marriage work until she could no longer manage the situation.

““I went through it. It was difficult because I really didn’t want my marriage to end but I could not take it anymore. It would have killed me. I always say and that is the truth,” she said.

She also revealed that she singlehandedly raised her children from nursery school till they bagged their masters degree.

“And it was not good for the children to live in that kind of environment where the mother is depressed, the mother is carrying the weight of the whole family. I raised my children from kindergarten to Masters Degree,” she added.



Onwenu is a Nigerian singer/songwriter, actress, human rights activist, social activist, journalist and politician.

She recently released her book ‘My Father’s Daughter‘ which highlights her successful music career.

SOURCE - https://mediarants.com/onyeka-onwenu-recounts-the-difficulties-faced-in-her-marriage/

JooEeL:
This woman seriously fine when she young enh...

But with that her song "One love", she dey use style dey dey for One Nigeria.

Iya yi... better find Biafra levels.

There is nothing like One Nigeria in Nigerian settings o. ... ki olori di ori e mu.

Okdi:
In as much as I so much love all your music, I must tell you that when a man makes money no one will know, but just few weeks woman will take control of the house the entire neighborhood will know. You took care of your children till they bag their masters is nothing to me. So many men are doing it and dying in it but no one will talk or even give accolades to men. Good luck and bear in mind that marriage is hell if it doesn't work out for you.

FreeStuffsNG:

Most folks who think that marriage is a scam are from dysfunctional homes

If your experience of marriage is hell, sincerely I am sorry for you but you can build a heaven on earth marriage if you try harder.

No doubt you will be stretched but trust me you will reap bountiful joy from it especially in your old days when you are no longer as strong as today. A lot of folks who made their marriage work should be your role model.

Most of the red flags are always there before marriage but some people just ignore the red flags and think they can save the other party when they are not my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. That's why boys don't marry,only men do.

In the case of the Amazon Onyeka Onwenu, all the red flags were there too but someone or both of them are not being truthful. I know that she will never wish that any of her children should be raised in dysfunctional family like she did with her own children. I am happy she has shared her experience for others to learn. Her father ,who lived a successful life as a community leader and political leader, must have raised her to be so so much independent that she perhaps carried such character into marriage where genuine partnership is the Holy Grail . Truly she succeeded as her Father's Daughter but failed as someone else's mother and wife.

I was very much impressed seeing the widow , children and grandchildren of Late Pa Ernest Sonekan yesterday. It was as if that man had already planned his glorious exit while alive.

Find great role models who can help you. It's not your fault when you are born and raised in dysfunctional families but it is your fault when you turn yours into one.

May God heal every home facing threat of break up today. Home is a sanctuary and try and leave a legacy of one even if your parent never left one

LilMissFavvy:
Were these 3men you mentioned truly her ex husband's, or it was mere rumour ? Whatever the case, she's a great woman to have been able to raise her Children by herself giving them a good life.

BluntTheApostle:


This is a fallacy. Coming from a certain type of home is not the only factor that influences your opinion or the facts you have about something. In fact, as you embrace other agents of socialization, especially school (formal education), your views change.

Fela came from a Christian home, but he grew up questioning the existence of God. Same as Soyinka, whose mother was a vibrant Christian.

If the type of home you come out from influences how you see marriage, then there is something wrong with how much you have experienced life outside your home.

For your information, there are reports of paternity fraud, extramarital affairs, messy divorces. All these are indicators that marriage is a big scam. You don't need to come from a dysfunctional home to know.

The other day, an acquaintance of mine seeing a married woman was telling me how women are becoming bolder every day. I told him women have always been bold. The reason why incidents of cheating wives are now on the increase is because of social media and chat rooms. Women have always cheated at the same rate, perhaps not as much. Advancement in cyber technology has only made it easier to catch them.



Define a heaven on earth marriage?

The same people who promise you those types of marriages have their own marriages embroiled in one scandal or the other, from Chris Okotie to Chris Oyakhilome to Biodun Fatoyinbo to Johnson Suleiman. Even Okposo, the veteran gospel musician cheated on his wife, and he did it raw, or perhaps the condom broke, which was why he was able to impregnate her. Perhaps, if he had not impregnated her, people like you would have continued to praise the longevity of his marriage. Only God knows what the other so-called musicians are doing behind closed doors. Some time back, a pastor even took the wife of a congregant, and married her in church. The audacity!

Bill and Melinda separated last year. There were reports that Bill was crossing boundaries with his employees.



No one ever makes marriages work. They just endure because of many reasons.

Many researches have shown that women view marriages as oppressive, and merely tolerate it for their kids. Men who are on the receiving end stay too because of the kids.

In Africa, especially, you will find Christians enduring turbulent marriages because their churches frown against divorce. If the church reach a consensus to make marriage dissoluble without it appearing like a sin, you will see the number of marriages that will crash.

That over 60% of divorces are initiated by women speaks volume. Imagine a society where a divorced woman is not judged harshly,many marriages would not even last.

Also imagine a divorce dissolution requirements that do not favor the dependent (who are usually women), many men will be walking out of their loveless or turbulent marriages, except for the pain of being separated from their kids.



i guess every marriage that ended in divorce were between boys and girls.

My brother, marriage is a scam. In fact, the apostles considered it a distraction. And for good reasons too.



And that is a major reason why marriage is a BIG scam. Expecting two usually different individuals to live together till death do them part.



There are no assurances that Shonekan's wife was happy in her marriage. The very mistake you ask people to avoid is what you yourself are jumping into. Judging people by their exteriors or outward appearances is a terrible way to form an impression about someone.

When Tonto was all over the social media singing Churchill's praise, and giving the impression of enjoying a happy marriage, who ever imagined that they were like cats and dogs behind closed doors?

Same with FFK and Chikwendu.




Great models like Oyakhilome until a messy divorce exposed him? Great models like Okposo, like Bill Gates, like Dangote, like who exactly. They are great in the public eye, it doesn't mean their marriage was true. Many marriages endure because the couple, especially wives fear what society would say. Yorubas, especially, don't have a culture that regards a divorced woman highly. So, women stay in the marriage even if it is an unhappy one.



You don't have to marry to have a home.

LetDemKnow:


Nigerian veteran singer Onyeka Onwenu has opened up about the difficulties she faced in her failed marriage.

The music star made this known during a chat with Kikilomo Atanda-Owo on her show “Real Talk with Kike.”



She hammered on how much she tried to make her marriage work until she could no longer manage the situation.

““I went through it. It was difficult because I really didn’t want my marriage to end but I could not take it anymore. It would have killed me. I always say and that is the truth,” she said.

She also revealed that she singlehandedly raised her children from nursery school till they bagged their masters degree.

“And it was not good for the children to live in that kind of environment where the mother is depressed, the mother is carrying the weight of the whole family. I raised my children from kindergarten to Masters Degree,” she added.



Onwenu is a Nigerian singer/songwriter, actress, human rights activist, social activist, journalist and politician.

She recently released her book ‘My Father’s Daughter‘ which highlights her successful music career.

SOURCE - https://mediarants.com/onyeka-onwenu-recounts-the-difficulties-faced-in-her-marriage/

LilMissFavvy:
Were these 3men you mentioned truly her ex husband's, or it was mere rumour ? Whatever the case, she's a great woman to have been able to raise her Children by herself giving them a good life.

dialfa:
That's what you get from marrying Afonja.

thomasjoe:

On the media she is a saint and perfect model ...off it , she is an extremely proud over consious female (I know this because I encountered her nasty behavior 2ice in different situations) I still love her music but detest her character ...
No man will marry such a woman for long ...very cocky and proud woman!

Antoeni:
HBD Madam , Abeg Park Well , Wetin you see for Marrage ? Make the Husband Open Mouth Talk Wetin Onyeka do , Every where go Scatter
Onyeka that Sleeping Around ,

Mike Okri
Sunny Ade
Jide Obi

SQLmastar:
Madam your marriage was hell because you refused to be submissive to your husband. Always wanting to tour with the big boys whilst neglecting to feed your husband his foods... physical and sexual.
Any wife, no matter how rich you become, must submit to her husband.

Fiscus105:


This is enough to tell that, she has 60/70% fault, she is trying to portray herself perfect and put all blames on hubby. Ego from wife can destroy marriage as fast as lightning of light


So many women divorced in the past and never went public about what caused the crash.

Starz825:

Igbo women dey fine wells..

FreeStuffsNG:

Sir, most folks who believe that marriage is a scam are from dysfunctional families.

If you devote this same energy to understand yourself , whoever you chose to marry and diligent enough to understand that life itself is input, process and output, you will understand the totality of the institution called marriage.

Please go and read more about tabula rasa and functional sociological perspective.

Once you are well formed at home or destroyed at home, the society will place you into a functional or dysfunctional adult regardless of what you think.

One good news I have for you is marriage under the law is voluntary and any marriage done on lies or/and against one's conviction or voluntary permission is void and null.

All those probabilities you cited above are not relevant to the verdict of sociological perspectives even if you cite them from tomorrow until tomorrow. If you die and your wife and children are in disarray or if you die and your wife and children are as elegant and bonded as the Shonekans, the society will place you into the right class you belong ; praised or scorned as the butt of jokes after you are gone.

Opinion is free and talk is cheap sir .

If you are from a dysfunctional home, no matter how you rationalise it, you are a product of a dysfunctional family and if you are not from one and created a dysfunctional family, you are equally guilty.

It's better you rather not marry and deal with the verdict of the society on the dysfunction of being of a married age yet without a spouse rather than battle the verdict of the society on your tie with your dysfunctional family. I repeat again, boys don't marry.

To boys, marriage is a scam because they can't invest today and cash out tomorrow like they do in their craze for get rich quick schemes and cryto

Boys don't marry o. Some boys who married yesterday are either dead, trapped or lucky to jump out to be alive to tell stories that touch today.

Even Apostles Paul wrote that it's better not to be married than get it wrong. Don't marry o,that is my advice to you sir but if you choose to be married, be willing to work hard and find honest and sincere mentors to learn from and inspire you especially when it gets tough.

HayB100:
Most marriages nah hell

Lilimax:
Not! I feel the marriage didn't work cos she married a Polygamist??

Mercychen:


Serious. I sing like her.
I'm a chorister though. So each time we are ministering a song in Igbo language, I sound like her by doing the deep alto part.

Konjiboi:


I want to hear you sing

Lemme know what channel of communication works well for you

Mercychen:


Unfortunately that's not going to be possible.

Konjiboi:


Eya...

Issa wella

I'm looking for a wife

dialfa:
That's what you get from marrying Afonja.

fredoooooo:
Mama , na everyone get marriage wahala .. just thank God for ya life