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Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

When I first visited my would be in-laws in 2015, to make my intention known to them. I could feel their cold reception and knew something isn't right.
After much probing later that day my then fiance who is today my beloved wife told me that her mother said I looked like someone who had just fasted for 21 days meaning I looked hungry and may not be able to take care of their daughter.
We both laughed cos we know that their misgivings were unfounded but that's how they know to protect their own.
I came back again in Dec 2017 for our formal introduction, had our TM in April 2018 and had the white in August 2018 with my in-laws fully in support of the entire process.
Today the story is different... My father in-law respects me and my mother in-law adores me. But all this took patience and time to let them know that I am genuine and that my intention is noble.
Every loving parent would like to protect their daughter. It's your responsibility to assuage their concerns and misgivings.

Your Mum dey find lenge lenge guy wey she go fit use you manipulate

Let me laugh small.
Hahaha...

Modified...
You need to have a heart to heart with your mum.
1) If her reasons are just the physical appearance, no problem
2) If its spiritual.. then you need prayers.

You better go and pray very well. There is something you mother is not telling you. You must pray hard for God to touch her. If she curse you might suffer it in the long run if you are not spiritual. She might go beyond the ordinary. Becareful even though she is your mum. Pray, pray pray very the only way out.

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

There are discrepancies in your content.

You formally introduced him to your parents, yet your mother hasn't seen him before, only phone calls.

Lies I smell

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

If you really believe so much in the guy and you're independent, then cut your parents off and do court wedding first. If they refuse the guy coming to pay bride price, it can be done later ehen they agree especially after you start having kids.

This life is a very mean place though, you should ask yourself if you want to turn your back on family because of a man. What if you alienate yourself and oga starts maltreatikg you down the line knowing you will not report the issue to family.

Relationship ko marriage ni
Who relationship help

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

I can't say much but almighty God will guide and see you through.

If you like let your parent ruin your marriage and future.... Abeg who physic hep?

Kate999:
My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

Mother always weilding this particular sentence like a gladiator in the arena. Had my own fair share today. What is your father saying about it?? Is your granny still alive??

I would have advised you take time taking to your Mom and family.... convince them to see the reason why you need to marry the guy.... you can even go extra length by consulting her pastor or any family member you know she listens to.... just do a little more work before taking decision.

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

A man’s enemy shall be members of his household - The Good Book

Like i always say not everyone related to you by blood is family. Better prepare for battle, engage God in prayers.

If you are not active in a bible believe church already, the drums of war are beating. Now is a good time.

Chloraseptic:
The reason is simple.

Your mum used to fûck the guy behind your back..

jesuuuuuu must you expose her like that? OP no vex , that guy get sugarcane in between and your mum used to f#CK the guy behind your back

Dear Op, take him to The Fattening Room.

Era of Relationship and never a good news. Always complains and regrets. Na wa ooo

Our youth should know that court marriage is the cheapest less stressful and the most important you don't need anybody approval you married you married

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

I can bet you that she has another suitor in mind for you

okenwa:
This is a normal thing/challenge couples face whenever marriage is brought up.

The husband to be must show some serious approach/respect by visiting your mom.

Phone conversations and pictures could be seen as disrespectful/un seriousness from him.

I'd possible your mom knows some encumbrances that you don't know. She may know the area the man live/come from which is not possible to release you in marriage.

Please invite him home to see her.

Her mum didn't sight disrespect as a reason for not wanting her to marry him,so were is this from?

H2ho:
@Kate999 your solution is here:

Milo + 4eggs daily (mix and stir)

let him have it for 2weeks.

please don't thank me

What would be the effect?

Gadafii:
make the guy send the girl mama money because they are dating or they have been dating for seven years

Which kind mumu talk be this?

Has the girl gone to the guy's mom house to cook and clean and fetch water for her, if that's how a relationship should be

Na you be the real mumu. You go date person daughter for 7 years dem no go talk say na wetin Mr. A do for them be this, and they will be positive and happy with you marrying their daughter in this Nigeria? Na mumu be your real name.

I think someone richer has shown interest in you and has settled them well, and promise to do more if they stop you and convince you to marry HIM, don't worry, they will introduce you to the rich guy soon. Please come back and tell us when it happens because both parents can never refuse you to marry a guy because he is slim, that's a silly reason..

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

How does she know he's slender if she hasn't seen him ? Or did she see his pix?

Na dis kain mothers dey carry Aristo in their younger years ooo, na dem dey use juju marry men... Nonsense! Awon Iya ofo!

Why would your mum send away someone you have been with for 7years? That is wickedness. Now, she would push you into the hands of a bad man. Stick to what your mind wants becos las las, na you go dey the marriage.
Thank you God for giving me my friend to marry. I dated my wife for 9years and now, we are living like twins. Nothing gives me more Joy than when friends/family ask if we even de quarrel @all because they have never seen us argue bfore and we play like kids. Na because we don kno each other finish. ,@OP, dating for that long is a privilege for you and the guy, please stick to him. Reason with your mama say it is either d guy or no one else. Ire o

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

You need prayer and cautious..... they're your parents.... just be a little bit careful on your decision.... make them see reasons why you want to settle down with the guy

She has no right to choose or dictate for you.....Forget about that curse sh!t, it will only work if you're scared or believe in it.




I wonder why someone will decide to punish her child for no sensible reason.

mhizace:
our female parent too get problem sometimes,my mum nearly cursed me abi she cursed me ne sef, I no know, simply cause I broke up my ex, I still love her but I no get her time now, infact I refused to go home after our first semester ended, cause I know she will definitely bring the issue again

Why did you break up with your ex ? Was he cheating ? Was he abusive ?

mhizace:
our female parent too get problem sometimes,my mum nearly cursed me abi she cursed me ne sef, I no know, simply cause I broke up my ex, I still love her but I no get her time now, infact I refused to go home after our first semester ended, cause I know she will definitely bring the issue again

Why did you break up with your ex ? Was he cheating ? Was he abusive ? .

Kate999:
I have been in a serious relationship with a guy for 7 years, last year I formally introduced him to my parents. We want to start the marriage arrangements this year but my mum has bluntly refused my fiancée, her excuse is that the guy is not presentable due to his slender physique and she feels that I will be maltreated by the guy once we get married.

I know this guy too well and he cares for me a lot and has never raised his hands on me. My mum has insisted that if I go on with the my wedding plans she will disown me and place a curse on me.

What baffles me is that she has never seen this guy in person, they have only talked on the phone, she just made her judgement via phone calls and photographs.

I really want to fight for what I love but both my parents have refused to respect my decision.

Personally I don't think there's a basis here, physical appearance is never a basis especially if the two people in the relationship are comfortable with the way they look.

Also pray about it.

My dear talk to your mum about your decision, if her prestige is more significant than your happiness. Look at, what one's mother is doing, I really don't get why some parents are more concern about what people would say rather than what will make way for thier kids.