DarkandHandsome:
The problem is you and not her. You think relationship is all bout smashing, going shopping, etc... Think outside the box and spice this thing up. If you can't handle a relationship, how would you handle marriage? Na divorce you dey use practice so o

relationship is what apart from sex!

Ok clap for yourself nice achievement but don't lament when you jam the wrong one ok.

Wish you the very best. You will understand wella I pray not too late.

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

some people are like this but all you have to do is stay... stay with her, in a while the attraction builds up again and this time it gets stronger...

Mr OP love is not enough to you from one girl to another your own is still better, some guys dont own a gf all they have is ashawo joint they s*x from one pillow to another, smh
My brother the best thing for you now is have time for your siblings, your 1st and 2nd counsins.(sic)

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

You are not alone. If you want to still be with the girl, then both of you should take some time off to miss each other. A clingy relationship is quite suffocating. If you try this, it will work for you.

Take out time to miss each other. Let a full day pass by without both of you talking to each other. But first, discuss it with her.

Why people get fed up so quick in a relationship is because they are not taking out time to miss each other. They talk every day which is not healthy for a long term relationship. Take out 1 to 2 days to miss each other. You will be surprised how this will create more passion based on the theory of scarcity.

Scarcity creates stronger desires and demands. For someone like you, this is going to help alot. When you both stay off each other for like 1 full day or 2, this will increase your desire more for her to want to see her again.

This is how it works: Monday to Tuesday, dine, give each other attention, talk and do all the normal relationship things. Then both of you should not talk to each other all throughout Wednesday. Watch out how your desire to see each other will skyrocket again.

1 day in, 1 day off (no talking to each other). 3 days in, 2 days off( no talking to each other). This will help you both miss each other so much which will in turn helps renew your passion for each other.

You're not ready mentally. Don't force it. If you want to marry, you will know it's time. Then again, marriage is not mandatory. It's not for everybody.

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Ausval:
Do you mansturbate??...if yes your problem might not be far from this

And secondly you don't place value on women...you need to start placing value on women stop seeing them as object or something you can easily do without

what value one can place on a woman apart from sex?

missimelda01:
Try not to have sex with the next girl you meet, find other non-sexual ways to build intimacy and you'll continue to find her interesting.

Sorry, most girls see sex as assurance and seal of love, and are willingly and most times desperate to give it to any man who they love in return. Failure of the man to have sex with them is seen as though the man does not truly love them, besides many ladies only have their body to give in relationships

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Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

...first of all...take a break... evaluate the kind of woman you want..as in the key things you want... secondly keep sex away from the relationship,so you can grow intim acy outside sex cus the problem here MIGHT just be having sex too early without building any form of friendship and companionship...trust me friendship is so so important cus when love tends to be reducing in any relationship, friendship will hold that relationship and help rekindle the love; thirdly please be ready mentally before you think of marriage cus you will be seeing that face every day for most years of your life...so you must tell yourself I'M READY FOR THIS, I'M READY TO SEE THIS PERSON ALWAYS...the sex fit tire u sef under two months,then reality sets in....so please build friendship, companionship and bonding without sex at the early stages... sex may even make you think you are in love when you are not..take your time and don't rush..I wish you the best

toujurs:
Are you saying guys feelings depreciates after having sex, while the ladies feelings appreciates after having sex ,

If it's just lust for the guy, then yes

I understand you, not everyone likes or enjoy a close relationship for too long especially when the partner doesn't contribute any other thing interesting for mutual growth.

toujurs:
Are you saying guys feelings depreciates after having sex, while the ladies feelings appreciates after having sex ,

As funny as its sound but there is truth to your point, base on tested hypothesis.

joyandfaith:

Love and affection depreciate after premarital sex for both men and women.

That's if it was just lust

Pinkyposh:
Your age determines the level of commitment you will put in a relationship.
If you are not psychologically ready, you can't keep a relationship, so don't force it, when the time comes you will know
But if you are of age like from 30 and above, and you have a stable source of Income and yet this acting this way, I think you need to visit a psychotherapist

Actually, the above factors r the exact reason why he wouldn't settle.

If a guy is of age n can settle his bills, people often feel it's time to settle. Why shd he settle n marry, when the best years of his life is just starting?

If a guy can date 6 girls in a year, it means he has being able to brush up himself physically/financially to now look like the shiny groom. Same people that won't even look his way 5 years ago.

Until that guy finds someone who can challenge him mentally, he is never ever going to settle n I support him. The reality is that most girls tend to over relax n stop doing things that attracted the guy in the first instance.

I am not saying he has no faults, it's just that, it is his time

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

it's because you are just a child

My guy dey patronize olosho. That's what good for you. Remember, Aids is real. Chaii..

From my POV, relationship isnt your thing else you would cherish every true relationship you build.

I'll advice you focus on something else( career, business, studies) for a while, try your best not getting into any relationship for now cos obviously u've been hurting this ladies who tends to love/like you. Give yourself some time outside relationship, at a point when u see the need for one then u can put in all necessary efforts. Stay blessed.

sslcrypt:
To be honest I was in same shoe in my 20s but not as chronic as yours. Sometimes it's a state of mind, fear of the unknown that might be feeding your subconscious mind. What I will advice is that focus on your job if you have one and let the job be a source of happiness.
As you progress and develop, the responsibility mindset will kick in. What you going through now is not really care or love but more like higher level lust and fun. Deep down you are not ready and also you see them as tho they aren't your responsibility.

When you fall you will fall hard and won't believe it's this your same self, I am married now for 6 years and I take care of my lovely Nigerian wife as a delicate egg.

Interesting. What about her brought out that side of you? What made you fall hard?

oscaruzie:
jman06 is right...

the average nigerian girl doesn't put you on edge...it's always the stereotypic 'you've gotta provide and take care of all my generational needs, being your woman is contribution enough'...it's almost fruitless.

in this age and time, since women have decided to be 'woke', then it should be equal, y'all ladies need to bring to the table, spice your relationships up by healthily competing with your man, creating value between partners, else, just like OP and most of us, it's always gonna be short term and we'd move on, to da next...

suck on this...

Lwkmd no be small kind suck on this

Nigerian girls all over the world are shivering after reading this post

Correct alpha male.
That’s how it’s done

When you’re ready to marry, start looking for a virgin

dingbang:
swears, that sex thing makes guys to get less interested. So it is best for both parties to keep it till wedding night.

If it's lust not love, the guy will lose interest. In that case, it's even better to not get married. If not the guy will lose interest in the marriage

toujurs:
it definitely doesn't depreciate for women but appreciates, that is why most guys put so much efforts to have sex in a relationship, its not like they need the sex that much, but most women tend to show commitment in a relationship after sex.

I'm talking from an experience sha

You talk get merits, I guess that's why does men saying women only have sex to bring to the table are kind of right.

dauntless15:
Exactly what's happening to me rn, currently I have a text from her asking babe are we good? And I can't say yes because I know that's a big lie, I've been trying to breakup with her but I don't have a tangible reason, she's been good and everything there's really nothing I can use to breakup with her, then my conscience is acting funny because she predicted last week that I would break up with her when I texted her that we need to talk and it'll feel like I'm now discarding her because I used her( that's what they think sex is right? Using?) but that's not the case, I am the problem I know, but she won't understand, right now I just want to be single, and free, the calls and care is too overwhelming even though I loved her from the start and the relationship is barely two months old, I literally need space even though the poor girl doesn't deserve such bullshit treatment from me.

I replied the op. Read my reply up. That's the solution to your problem. For those linking it to spirituality, they don't just know how the human's mind functions.

A healthy relationship should have some rooms for missing each other. Too much availability, makes demand falls. Scarcity creates more desires and high demand.

Apply that with your partner and watch how you will both long to see each other every other day after allowing some rooms for scarcity to exist between you both. But first, you must both discuss it. Tell your partner both of you should make it a point of contact to take out some times to be missing each other to create more desires in the union.

Durabest:
As a married man which i am.i always see my wife as the best amoung the rest,whatever single girls wore and i like if i have i always buy 4 her.My heart is always on her and i don't have any sidechick thats the secret.

What made you that way? Why aren't you interested in side chicks?

Hmmm

I won't say I understand your Feelings because I am not in your shoes, but before you love someone, you have to love Someone who is In You.

That person is not You cos human love is selfish, and you don't need a selfish love. The Someone who is You, who you have to love first is God.
Love him first with a pure heart, and see how your next relationship will be....


Nothing is wrong with you, you can't give out what you don't have. Love God who is in You and everything will fall in place...
Takia

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Blame the greedy girls

joyandfaith:


It is not true. Women feel they have been used after premarital sex and they would like the relationship to work out. Based on psychological research.
killmods

I say it depends. Most guys can have sex with any woman, whether they love her or not. When the woman realizes that he didn't really love her after they have had sex, that's when she feels used

toujurs:
Are you saying guys feelings depreciates after having sex, while the ladies feelings appreciates after having sex ,

It deals on emotion.

Tejumola856:
I’ve tried to be in relationship many times but it doesn’t work for me, I will just get tired all of the sudden within a couple of months, I can’t even point out a reason I get tired of it, I dated at least 6 girls last year which I later breakup with them without a reason.

What I discovered is that I always love them in the beginning to the extent that I will promise them heaven and earth, at the end of the day i will get tired of them.

The issue now is that, I met this girl last year December during the Christmas, I’m not going to lie, I truly love this girl, I asked her out and she agreed to be in relationship with me, this girl has been loyal to me, she’s always come to cook for me, she has once washed my clothes, I found happiness and joy in her but now, I’m having a feelings of breaking up with her, I stop calling or texting her, I don’t even know what’s going on in my life right now but my mind keep telling me to break up with her cus I need to be free.

Please over to you married men and those who are in relationship, how does it work out for you? I don’t understand my life again!

Thank God I am not the only one going through this.

BUT I think my own case is better than yours because i don't promise the girls anything.

They are free to go any time they feel like it.