placeofallure:


It is a tragedy for a man to walk out on a woman in a marriage. If you don't know, Amazingbaby is pained and hurting, please don't add to her woes.

What woman wouldn't want to know the whereabouts of her Husband, not bf or Fwb o! She didn't do too much by demanding for an explanation. God forbid if anything happens to the man, she's the first point of call.

Pray, Mr. Super Cleaner, how else would she have presented the story other than the way it happened? You accused her of demonizing the husband. Hmmmmn! Like BRATISLAVA said, reverse the genders and see if you'd still have the same opinion.

Don't blame anyone if you haven't walked in their shoes.

@ OP Amazingbaby, Your home can still be salvaged. Don't be hard on yourself, it's good you're looking after yourself now, take care of your kids too. Give them a good life, after all widows excelled at raising kids alone. Pretend he's dead so you can focus. He'd be back. They come back, only they may never return as complete as they left. God be with you.

He later proved that his first post was from a place of hate, intolerance and abuse, by calling the op a slut, nag and other attempts at shaming her. Someone he doesn't know personally. She can't say the truth if it doesn't make forum men feel good. What else is she supposed to say? Perhaps tell us she's a terrible woman and the actual reason her husband made the decision to cheat emotionally and otherwise?

Once a woman makes a post and you see frustrated forum boys posting from only one angle, just know that they are projecting all the hate they have for women in their analysis and "advice".

Everyone knows that you cannot get advice on the forum except you're a man, and as a man you will be misled because they will be trying so hard to please and pamper you in doing the wrong thing by calling your wife a bitch (their go-to word) and making it seem like you are justified in everything you do as a man.

People should stop bringing relationship problems to this place. Even 12 year olds who want to sound macho will come in to post their indoctrination.

Thanks to whoever sanitized this thread. Discussions on the act of lovemaking should be restricted to the sexuality section. Even at that, it should be consensual. I can’t enter a thread to read posts and at worst, healthy banters, then one 70yrs old man would be fooling himself with nonsense talk.

You must VERY STUP*D if you think that should be allowed in 2022. No be only postmann, na post office. When you are ready, quote me with one your numerous monikers make hand touch you. 70yrs old man wey no wan grow. Spits

Ma'am I suggest you forget about him and his side chick focus on your gym,driving lessons and kids ok. Start looking good spice up your life dress sweet take pictures and post on social media where he is gonna see it sometimes ignore his calls.

One side story Sha we wish to know what's going on

pocohantas:
Thanks to whoever sanitized this thread. Discussions on the act of lovemaking should be restricted to the sexuality section. Even at that, it should be consensual. I can’t enter a thread to read posts and at worst, healthy banters, then one 70yrs old man would be fooling himself with nonsense talk.

You must VERY STUP*D if you think that should be allowed in 2022. No be only postmann, na post office. When you are ready, quote me with one your numerous monikers make hand touch you. 70yrs old man wey no wan grow. Spits

Your clapbacks dey always dey just witty and fitting. Watin be this now? LMAOOO. It's so very classic of them, sighs. If they are not insulting the female's anatomy, they are describing yucky sexual acts. I tire, omo.

dey will say 'no peace for the wicked' i wonder who is d perpitrator of peace and who is d potrayal of wickedness here in dz situation. I knw some men 'll at first wan to go back to ease dia consciousness or whateva remains of it & play house again with dia unsuspectin wives, only for him to realize d woman has been an inborn FBI up his ass d whole time & she be lookin all battle-ready to wear his brains out with deep-rooted disgust, detrimental & ill-mouthed cursing words lyk a whole arsenal of enrupted volcanoe! dz aggravates d situation dat may lead to tins gettin physika or further emotional bitterness from d woman's side & unremorseful hatred on d man's path. d battle is drawn with zero regard for the mental state of d kids. Bcuz someone's voice was louder dan d threats of 'nuke-attack' from N'korea. Now, she wans to forge a progressive alliance wid him for d sake of d kids' future. But d man not done yet, is comin back lyk a wounded lion. If she'd tamed er tongue, 80% of world problems ll av bin solved

Ihatebuhariwith:
keep thanking those who wish you bad.. your eye go clear soon.. oju e maa no.

I am also thanking you too sir maa.. I don't know which one you are... You think I was a fool for saying thanks maa? You that thinks you are smart came to insult me naa... Wise man.....

Magnoliaa:


Your clapbacks dey always dey just witty and fitting. Watin be this now? LMAOOO. It's so very classic of them, sighs. If they are not insulting the female's anatomy, they are describing yucky sexual acts. I tire, omo.

Na im username be that na. Postmann oshi (I dey mention am with my full chest. So that he can come for me when e done chop belleful ). I am always here for him and his cohorts. You will think these are young men o, but na old man wey dey at least 40 years dey mumu this thing. Vulva this, vulva that. Na vulva make am no get sense? No dey respond to such degenerates in 2022. No single one of them fine. Ugly men do the most.

BRATISLAVA:


With your rape username, where do you stand from to make your post, wild dog?

Angry little red pill boy.

Fvck outta here b!!tch

salt1:


I gave a wife exactly this advice but it's still not working. Instead, the husband is using the divorce threat to terrorize her life more frequently than before. He even makes it more traumatic by throwing her things out of the house occasionally and ordering her to leave with her children.
If the man has fully decided to get rid of her and try out with another girl, even her trying to be nice to him will be irritating to him.

I know a wife that lost her marriage for being too submissive and caring. Instead of enjoying the peace, the man was irritated by the attention she was paying him.

OP, please ignore him, find joy in yourself and your children. Carry yourself with dignity. YOU MUST TALK THROUGH THIS if the relationship is to last. Begging and burying misunderstanding of this nature just means that they will keep resurfacing and he will keep using the weapon of desertion, divorce and abandonment to keep you vulnerable and insecure. What is preferable is a healthy marriage, not just a long marriage.

And what if the advise work for her?

pocohantas:
Na im username be that na. Postmann oshi (I dey mention am with my full chest. So that he can come for me when e done chop belleful ). I am always here for him and his cohorts. You will think these are young men o, but na old man wey dey at least 40 years dey mumu this thing. Vulva this, vulva that. Na vulva make am no get sense? Make una no dey respond to such degenerates in 2022. So single one of them fine. Ugly men do the most.

Asinnn. Seriously?? Now I'm convinced common sense and responsibility with men does not come with age. It is an individual thing. Na man wey wan get sense go get sense. Because you'll be dealing with jobless jambites trolls (who can slightly be forgiven) and then still come and be dealing with old men that are supposed to be granpas already? Ko make sense o.

E be like say there's no one of them you've not faced. I tend to forget that sometimes, because you're still here, unshaken. Not because you've not been attacked, but because you've not been silenced. I don't know all that have transpired with you and them, because I know that moniker and some of the rest that were popular in that set. Including that diss.troy. I was surprised to know he was on a 'mission' of running you off at some point.

I thought they alllll used to avoid you ni o and you guys have never crossed each others' e-paths.

They'll say you never rest and stop, but meanwhile if it was the opposite, they'll use you to check off list by saying they sent you away or made you more invisible online.

Amazingbaby:
Biko toks2008 and baby123 make una leave my page even though I love baby123

Link to the first https://www.nairaland.com/6971181/husband-left-us

This week have been crazy, I took alot of advice from this page and was minding my business, I called him on Saturday to come pick the kids because I deserve rest, he said he would prefer coming to the house to see them, he came I cooked and we all ate around 5 he picked up some clothes and left.

He kept calling to talk about things in general and I was responding fine. My kids got sick on Sunday (night fever) and I spent all night tepid sponging and administering drugs.

On Sunday night, he went out with his infamous friend when I called him around 10 he was still out (something he hardly do) when he got back he called and we got talking one thing led to another and I still asked him about the text message and the girl as usual he kept on hammering on how he doesn't owe me any explanation. I told him that if he doesn't give me an explanation I would have to call the girl directly, he cut the call and I actually called her.

When I asked her where she went with my husband the lady told me that my husband saw that she was interested in tech event and took her there on that Saturday, he actually went to pick her up (lol).

I asked her how did she know everything about his business and why would she want to work for him for free, she said my husband normally come to his friends office and when he is not around he do strike up conversation with her and tell her all about his business and she was interested in growing it (lol).

She got very uncomfortable and started talking about how she is a minister in her church (I actually bursted out laughing at this point), she said a whole lot of things contradicting everything my husband told me, he was even talking with her since he left the house.

two babies letting there ego clash

Hightser:



It’s funny how you want to get a job now, learn driving and go to the gym cause divorce is around the corner, what stopped you from doing any of this all this while? This is actually what it means to be a good wife, having a job, taking care of your shape and doing things for yourself.

Imagine the different times your husband, even if he was tired would have to drive you cause you don’t know how to drive, imagine how much weight and pot belly you have developed all along and it’s now you want to visit the gym, imagine you have been jobless and contribute little or nothing economically to the marriage since.

And you call all of the above being a good wife?what excuse do you have as why you didn’t do these things since? The children? Are the children all dead now? You cook and clean the house? Won’t the house be cleaned now?

This is the problem in marriages, women lazy around and allow the man labor to death, when you say jack they remind you about house chores, most of them start looking for jobs to cater for their kids when the man suddenly stops breathing (dead)

If you had a job, went to the gym and could drive yourself all this while, I don’t think you would even have the time to monitor your husbands movement. If you did, maybe now you will be talking about expanding your business or investment, not do what you should have done years ago, you are looking for a job? Who employs an old fat lazy lady that can’t even write a coherent story to manage his business?

Do you feel better now? I guess you were looking at your wife or mum while writing what you wrote because that is an apt description for them.that we decided that I stay home with the kids is how it works in a lot of homes.anyway why am I wasting time with you.

Biglittlelois:



In your attempt to be smart by quarter, you woefully seem dumb

Buhari is a man of the olden days that you claim are wise, who is presently destroying the country on a per second basis,

The world, a sane world, is UK and US cos it is a functioning society

Are you trying to glorify Buhari and diss the west? Cos your incoherent blabber/postulations doesnt make sense.

When its comes to marriages, what is sane about the uk and US, why should a country rich in culture & values like nigeria give all that up to be like a failed US/Uk or should we just discard there divorce ratings
i dunno what to call it or maybe Inferiority complex is why nigerians don't even know there are things to emulated & there things you discard, naa everything bad nigerians wan copy MTheads

BRATISLAVA:


Even if you see a billion things he's doing wrong, you will only be interested in imagining what she could've been doing wrong because your sole interest in relationships is to see the evil in women and the sainthood of the man.

Reverse the genders in her story and tell us what you would really have to say.

The husband is a manipulative, lying, cheat with no respect for his home. Meanwhile you can focus on her imaginary nagging. Ignore his blatant BS as much as possible.

To the OP:

Never lose yourself over a marriage or a man. I can't understand women who kick out family and friends to focus on their husbands and children only. Yes, you have a responsibility to them, but you also should have a life outside them. Your life doesn't revolve around marriage and children only. Don't stop working to please a man, because you will only have a life of regrets afterwards.

Link up with friends and family and let them help you get footing in a job, networking, etc.

see who is dishing advise, someone that can not even keep a mere B f/Gf r/ship successfully... awon da bii mo se daa ! yorubas will say; awon a baa ni dá maa ba eni de bè
amazingbaby we av seen ur sistas here help you crash ur home buh sadly that is where there support ends. cococandy is feign perfect home, perfect husband, the house wey una no follow her reach you decide to throw ur own home away, welcome to OYO

salt1:


I gave a wife exactly this advice but it's still not working. Instead, the husband is using the divorce threat to terrorize her life more frequently than before. He even makes it more traumatic by throwing her things out of the house occasionally and ordering her to leave with her children.
If the man has fully decided to get rid of her and try out with another girl, even her trying to be nice to him will be irritating to him.

I know a wife that lost her marriage for being too submissive and caring. Instead of enjoying the peace, the man was irritated by the attention she was paying him.

OP, please ignore him, find joy in yourself and your children. Carry yourself with dignity. YOU MUST TALK THROUGH THIS if the relationship is to last. Begging and burying misunderstanding of this nature just means that they will keep resurfacing and he will keep using the weapon of desertion, divorce and abandonment to keep you vulnerable and insecure. What is preferable is a healthy marriage, not just a long marriage.

You understand me quite well, begging is not a big deal I have live with him since 2010 what if I beg and I have to tip toe on our marriage for me not to trigger him to leaving again,once men see your fear they will try to use it to their advantage.i just saw my self begging for ever and I am already tired.what stop him from leaving the next time and wait for me to beg....I am so exhausted.

Magnoliaa:


Asinnn. Seriously?? Now I'm convinced common sense and responsibility with men does not come with age. It is an individual thing. Na man wey wan get sense go get sense. Because you'll be dealing with jobless jambites trolls (who can slightly be forgiven) and then still come and be dealing with old men that are supposed to be granpas already? Ko make sense o.

E be like say there's no one of them you've not faced. I tend to forget that sometimes, because you're still here, unshaken. Not because you've not been attacked, but because you've not been silenced. I don't know all that have transpired with you and them, because I know that moniker and some of the rest that were popular in that set. Including that diss.troy. I was surprised to know he was on a 'mission' of running you off at some point.

I thought they alllll used to avoid you ni o and you guys have never crossed each others' e-paths.

They'll say you never rest and stop, but meanwhile if it was the opposite, they'll use you to check off list by saying they sent you away or made you more invisible online.

I am serious, very old man. I dey sure say na small thing my mama take senior am.

Lol, you know I used to be their daily target. So I am very familiar with their monikers and I know their faces too. Him and the Disstroy dey the same group, with some other not-so-goodlooking one. I think that one is now Shaqfu. I like as them dey change moniker after each ban, e dey sweet me die.

I can’t rest o. They must make me deactivate.

pocohantas:
I am serious, very old man. I dey sure say na small thing my mama take senior am.

Lol, you know I used to be their daily target. So I am very familiar with their monikers and I know their faces too. Him and the Disstroy dey the same group, with some other ugly one. I think that one is now Shaqfu. I like as them dey change moniker after each ban, e dey sweet me die.

I can’t rest o. They must make me deactivate.

Yeahh. They definitely always change monikers and 'rebrand'. Omo, your head strong. As if you're a living and potent charm medicine.

pocohantas:
Thanks to whoever sanitized this thread. Discussions on the act of lovemaking should be restricted to the sexuality section. Even at that, it should be consensual. I can’t enter a thread to read posts and at worst, healthy banters, then one 70yrs old man would be fooling himself with nonsense talk.

You must VERY STUP*D if you think that should be allowed in 2022. No be only postmann, na post office. When you are ready, quote me with one your numerous monikers make hand touch you. 70yrs old man wey no wan grow. Spits

pocohantas:


Na im username be that na. Postmann oshi (I dey mention am with my full chest. So that he can come for me when e done chop belleful ). I am always here for him and his cohorts. You will think these are young men o, but na old man wey dey at least 40 years dey mumu this thing. Vulva this, vulva that. Na vulva make am no get sense? No dey respond to such degenerates in 2022. No single one of them fine. Ugly men do the most.

What wouldn't you do for the attention? You missed the orgy lastnight and ever since your twitchy fingers couldn't stay off your itchy clits.

But who wants an old, over-used meat with a collapsed labia pointing southwards like you? Surely not me. Never with someone who is a victim of incestuous rape.

Let me go, Poco. Erase me from your memory. It should be easy after all these waters over the bridge. Let them wash over the wounds I inflicted, the ugly memories I re-evoked and the dents left on your persona. But you wouldn't. Like an old witch abandoned in some mud hut, you refused to let go.

"Hand go touch me". By calling on some mod to effect a ban. That's your only medal for your servitude on this forum. By now you should know it means nothing to me.

You're free to dab your eyes while hitting the mod button.

salt1:


I gave a wife exactly this advice but it's still not working. Instead, the husband is using the divorce threat to terrorize her life more frequently than before. He even makes it more traumatic by throwing her things out of the house occasionally and ordering her to leave with her children.
If the man has fully decided to get rid of her and try out with another girl, even her trying to be nice to him will be irritating to him.

I know a wife that lost her marriage for being too submissive and caring. Instead of enjoying the peace, the man was irritated by the attention she was paying him.

OP, please ignore him, find joy in yourself and your children. Carry yourself with dignity. YOU MUST TALK THROUGH THIS if the relationship is to last. Begging and burying misunderstanding of this nature just means that they will keep resurfacing and he will keep using the weapon of desertion, divorce and abandonment to keep you vulnerable and insecure. What is preferable is a healthy marriage, not just a long marriage.

Don’t mind all these hypocrites. Thank you for saying the truth. While I urge her to have some patience, only someone that has never been with a manipulative spouse wouldn’t know that she is in for a rough ride. OP would keep begging until he strips her of all her self-worth and happiness!! He will throw her out and be very brazen because he knows she would beg.

People like that shy away from communication. They are very good at keeping malice and the other party wey no get that kind mind would continue begging them. They must talk this through like two adults!

Magnoliaa:


Yeahh. They definitely always change monikers and 'rebrand'. Omo, your head strong. As if you're a living and potent charm medicine.

E done run create another one. McDuncan Mighty.

Oh dear!!!!

BE strong and steadfast.

You will always find peace and laugh best.

pocohantas:
E done run create another one. Mc Duncan Mighty.

What I was going to sayyyyyy! As predicted. Kai!

See, don't kee me with laugh here, you this girl.

[img]https:///view/ravil27-gif-20704161.gif[/img]

pocohantas:


As in, no effort to be better or call themselves to order. They just thrive in the fact that the woman would always get blamed when things go south. Why someone would be comfortable inflicting emotional and maybe physical pain on the woman that keeps his home and fixes his meals, all because he knows she is stuck, is something very close to wizardry.

By the time they are old, they will start playing victim. Naija women sha get their own for body too. They know when to strike back.

Only few men would tell themselves the truth, some have said the truth on this thread.

@bolded is one of the reasons why sometimes I don't empathize when I hear some stories, some women hardly forgive, they will keep quiet because they know the odds will always be against them and strike later on, some will even bear till all the children get married they will prefer the husband taking care of the children financial responsibility while they live in sadness with the consolation that it's only for a while ( that while can be 25 years),once the children are okay they move on physically, meanwhile they had moved on emotionally 20years back.

Some will even still be with the man and move from one childs house to the other zero form of association with the man.

Whether this vengeance is right or wrong I honestly cant say.

Lots of boys on NL don't realize that 90percent of the time the way your wife would treat you when you are old is a reflection of the way you treated her when you were both younger.

McDuncan:

What wouldn't you do for the attention? You missed the orgy lastnight and ever since your twitchy fingers couldn't stay off your itchy clits.

But who wants an old, over-used meat with a collapsed labia pointing southwards like you? Surely not me. Never with someone who is a victim of incestuous rape.

Let me go, Poco. Erase me from your memory. It should be easy after all these waters over the bridge. Let them wash over the wounds I inflicted, the ugly memories I re-evoked and the dents left on your persona. But you wouldn't. Like an old witch abandoned in some mud hut, you refused to let go.

"Hand go touch me". By calling on some mod to effect a ban. That's your only medal for your servitude on this forum. By now you should know it means nothing to me.

You're free to dab your eyes while hitting the mod button.

Ah. You need not waste good diss at pocohantas. She's way beyond redemption.

A thorough look at where she finds relevance will let you know just how depraved and hollow she is. Imagine someone finding solace in sections like Romance and Family, where basically everything is subjective, that's a good pointer to her offline life.

It indeed is a pity.

Magnoliaa:


What I was going to sayyyyyy! As predicted. Kai!

See, don't kee me with laugh here, you this girl.

[img]https:///view/ravil27-gif-20704161.gif[/img]

Come, this person na real human being? Omo, nature wasn’t fair to some people o. Reminds me of Sharkfur.

NoToPile:


Only few men would tell themselves the truth, some have said the truth on this thread.

@bolded is one of the reasons why sometimes I don't empathize when I hear some stories, some women hardly forgive, they will keep quiet because they know the odds will always be against them and strike later on, some will even bear till all the children get married they will prefer the husband taking care of the children financial responsibility while they live in sadness with the consolation that it's only for a while ( that while can be 25 years),once the children are okay they move on physically, meanwhile they had moved on emotionally 20years back.

Some will even still be with the man and move from one childs house to the other zero form of association with the man.

Whether this vengeance is right or wrong I honestly cant say.

Lots of boys on NL don't realize that 90percent of the time the way your wife would treat you when you are old is a reflection of the way you treated her when you were both younger.

Well said. A woman who enjoyed her husband in his youth would find it very hard to stay away from him when they are old. Rather we have elderly women that move from one son’s house to the other. Dragging love with the wife

I know a man that is currently sick, my mum was just gisting me of him. She said his wife went to keep him at his family house. That shey when he was young and agile, they said she won’t have peace or enjoy her marriage. They encouraged their brother to do anyhow because she no born boy. Now another woman gave birth to a boy for him, dumped the boy with them and eloped. So they should take care of their brother, change his diapers or better still, call the other woman to help. My mum mouth open. She was like “some women get mind o”. I asked her, the man sef no get mind? Abi na because e dey sick now, come humble?
Lol

ShaqFu:
Ah. You need not waste good diss at pocohantas. She's way beyond redemption.

A thorough look at where she finds relevance will let you know just how depraved and hollow she is. Imagine someone finding solace in sections like Romance and Family, where basically everything is subjective, that's a good pointer to her offline life.

It indeed is a pity.

Females are like ants. They follow the sugar trail. Let her tag along my coat tail for now.

She was a little jealous lastnight while the younger female warriors had their vulvas penile-filled, hers was left rusty and empty like a broken water pipe.

ShaqFu:
Ah. You need not waste good diss at pocohantas. She's way beyond redemption.

A thorough look at where she finds relevance will let you know just how depraved and hollow she is. Imagine someone finding solace in sections like Romance and Family, where basically everything is subjective, that's a good pointer to her offline life.

It indeed is a pity.

Heya! Is that how you console yourself for giving up on running me out of Nairaland? At what point did you realize this? After losing how many monikers.

Hahahahaha! I no tell you say na you go tire? Thanks for throwing in the towel.

And we finally have our winner.

pocohantas:





Well said. A woman who enjoyed her husband in his youth would find it very had to stay away from him when they are old. Rather we have elderly women that move from one son’s house to the other. Dragging love with the wife

I know a man that is currently sick, my mum was just gisting me of him. She said his wife went to keep him at his family house. That shey when he was young and agile, they said she won’t have peace or enjoy her marriage. They encouraged their brother to do anyhow because she no born boy. Now another woman gave birth to a boy for him, dumped the boy with them and eloped. So they should take care of their brother, change his diapers or better still, call the other woman to help. My mum mouth open. She was like “some women get mind o”. I asked her, the man sef no get mind? Abi na because e dey sick now, come humble?
Lol

@ 1st bolded honestly its a cycle.

@2nd bolded some women have been hurt so bad that they don't even care any more, in this case let the favorite of the family that 'born boy' take care of him nah.

McDuncan:


Females are like ants. They follow the sugar trail. Let her tag along my coat tail for now.

She was a little jealous lastnight while the younger female warriors had their vulvas penile-filled, hers was left rusty and empty like a broken water pipe.

Josefu aka Shaqfu said you people have lost this battle. He said you should leave me alone because I pass all of una. Josefu is tired of losing and getting banned. Please listen to him and retreat to base. Thank you!

pocohantas:

Heya! Is that how you console yourself for giving up on running me out of Nairaland? At what point did you realize this? After losing bow many monikers.

Hahahahaha! I no tell you say na you go tire? Thanks for throwing in the towel.

And we finally have our winner.

Unlike you, I don't patronise sections like Romance and Family where subjectivity is the order of the day. I deal with facts.

So I'm telling you to provide screenshot of where I said I'll run you out of Nairaland. Like run you out of Nairaland as if I'm as jobless and attention seeking like you.

So madam attention seeker. Kindly provide facts by virtue providing screenshots of where I said the bolded or forever be what I say you are.

pocohantas:
Come, this person na real human being? Omo, nature wasn’t fair to some people o. Reminds me of Sharkfur.

Lord knows where memers and those gif websites used to go and find people's pictures from.