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Advise Needed by Coded93(m): 4:39pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
I’ve been a long time reader pls post anonymous I’ll be in the comments section . Hello good day I’m 28yr old I have a daughter of a year and 4month and the mom is carrying a second child , i don’t have a place of my own yet , still squats with my parents which she’s aware of before having the first baby ,I told her i wasn’t ready yet we both agreed on not keeping the baby , later got to know she didn’t termin8 it , it’s too late then , nothing can be done . She got her way to my parents told them and all , My Mum accepted her and i told her it’s just the baby I need and have nothing to do with the mom , after giving birth she still stays around (in my parents home ) which she’s aware with my action towards her that Love doesn’t exist btw us , Something happened she got pregnant again the month my daughter is gonna be one yr, we talked about it that we both don’t want it to occur as I’ve been able to take care of my daughter the way i wanted and besides I can’t be living under my parents roof and be making Babies it doesn’t makes sense , she tried to termin8 this again , said she already done it , after a month i suggest she do a test again it’s still there , my mum got to know ,she wasn’t happy about it cos our daughter is barely a year old , besides things haven’t been moving on well with me (financially) This led to heated arguments which i told her if she can’t termin8 it she should leave, she left , leaving our daughter behind . Later relatives of her dad came begging to accept her back , My parents harkened to there pleas ,accepted her back which i wasn’t aware of , just came home one day and i saw she’s back . The issue here is she’s almost due to deliver and we still squat with my parent un, I’m not always comfortable about it . She knows Love doesn’t exist between us , if not for what happened btw us , she’s not the type i want to be the mother of my kids We both don’t just fit I just keep her cos of the baby she had with me I can’t imagine her staying with me as my wife cos I’ll have sent her packing a long time ago . She knows i don’t have a single Atom of love for her , I understand the first one came in as a mistake , but after she got to know i don’t love her , she still go ahead carrying a second baby . Cos i don’t know how I’m gonna cope with the situation of things in the country having 2 kids and got bills piled up . And never planned to be in my parents house whenever I’m ready to have my own family. Don’t know what to do I’m thinking after she gives birth we both go our separate ways cos i don’t see us living happily together , the earlier the better , we nag at each other all the time , we don’t share ideas we don’t reason together . It won’t have gotten to the extent of carrying the second child my mom talked me into allowing her stay a while . PS : we’re not formally engaged in yet . |
Re: Advise Needed by Nobody: 4:46pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Stop trying to push all the blames on her kos I'm sure you were begging her to open for you when you were in the mood.Stop dating who you can't marry,stop having sex for fun,as e dy sweet na so e dy bitter. Just take care of her for now and do the needful when she's done nursing her baby,some ladies and desperation sha,why try to trap a man who does not have any atom of love for you,nonsense. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed by yomi007k(m): 4:47pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Alaye! She is not fit to be the mother of your kids and you impregnated her twice? Na you be the problem. No be she. Atom koor, molecule ni... 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed by Kobojunkie: 4:59pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Coded93:You had unprotected sex with this gal at least twice yet you are here to tell us that you can't cope with having two kids? Who do you expect to cope with caring for your kids then? ![]() You no get money but you keep popping out babies? Why you no use birth control? ![]() Abeg, you fit ask the gal make she come nairaland come tell us her side of the story make we hear her abeg. ![]() 13 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by KiNg0G: 5:00pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
paste your account number. we go crowd fund you to Take care of your babies. lazy blame shifting swine 8 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by Kajaard: 5:08pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Very lazy he-goat. You don't have a place of your own but you can fvck. Mumu. You don't love the girl but you still sleep with her. Too many dumbos on this forum. cc: Coded93 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:09pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Something happened and baby entered her tummy... 9 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by Mariangeles(f): 5:16pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
You are very very irresponsible for having sex and impregnating a lady twice under your parents’ roof, and still have the audacity to put all the blame on the lady. You lack discipline too. 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed by Spherical77(m): 5:18pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Coded93:You still live in your parents house and you are having sex, not just a sex but "an unprotected sex" you claimed you don't love her but still went ahead to have sex with her till she got pregnant two consecutive times. Chai! You are such a wicked idiot 9 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by Amanee(f): 5:24pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Difficult to believe that people are this foolish in this day and age but the op is proof 9 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by Aforxzy(f): 7:34pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
You don't love her and you don't have a place of your own yet Something happened she got pregnant again. That's how something will happen again after this second child.. You both should get something doing instead of birthing anyhow.. Shameless duo. 7 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by bigcee(m): 7:49pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Ah, you're a very wicked person. You impregnated(twice) someone you have no love for. What exactly do you want us to do for f**k sake? Wtf is wrong with some people. Lazy, irresponsible, yeye man. Na toto full your head. I am very sure if she opens again, you will impregnate her for the third time, anuofia. 8 Likes
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Re: Advise Needed by Dailyparrot: 7:55pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Aforxzy: That phrase got me. I'm happy he didn't deny the paternity of the child but rather blamed it on "something happened". He got back, saw the lady in their house and fell on her and accidentally, she got pregnant. What a good man. You're just 28 and expecting the second child. Men in their 30s with good sources of income are still buying time before they marry. Here you are birthing babies like an imbec*le. This is the reason I don't pity people most times because they tend to do what you are scared of doing. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by Mariangeles(f): 9:17pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: If I dye, just know say na you keel me! ![]() 8 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Advise Needed by Herbephe1(m): 9:52pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
the most stupendous thing I ever read on nairaland. You're very dull,you impregated someone you don't love, what happened to using condoms or pills? "Don't smell what you can't eat" 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by thorpido(m): 10:06pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Op,you've not heard of protected sex before? How do you have raw sex with someone you have no atom of love for? You still decided to do it twice?! ![]() Whatever you decide,just be responsible for those kids.You may decide not to marry their mother(she's dull too for getting pregnant without a direction) but make sure you work to take care of those kids and make yourself available in their lives. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:14pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Op it will take the grace of God to escape poverty o. You never even start dey pay school fees ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by faithfull18(f): 10:15pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
But you were sleeping with her. No advice to give, carry your cross. |
Re: Advise Needed by Gerrard59(m): 10:39pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
The only financial assistance I can render to you is funding a vasectomy operation at Marie Stopes, it costs about 80K. If you agree to this, do PM me. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed by The5DME(m): 10:44pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Mariangeles:ishilove |
Re: Advise Needed by The5DME(m): 10:44pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Gerrard59: ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed by Kobojunkie: 10:59pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Gerrard59:OP,heed this advice abeg! ![]() Any ideahow much are abortions? He claimed to have asked his gal twice to get one and I kept wondering how much that would have cost him each time? ![]() |
Re: Advise Needed by yuping(m): 11:45pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
![]() Very very stupid human being na him you be, shameless goat, Animalistic Idiot. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by yuping(m): 11:48pm On Feb 15, 2022 |
Gerrard59:Yes I agree very stupid set of immature brat we have here in Nigeria, coming out to say rubbish. |
Re: Advise Needed by 9JAFULLBREED(m): 12:21am On Feb 16, 2022 |
@op You're poor and still get pride join. She's not your type but u having raw sex with her? I know for sure nah your type dey tear woman pant ( Japata ) U dey have raw sex with her under your parent's roof? Aswear u be real osinwin 6 Likes
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Re: Advise Needed by HarunaWest(m): 12:24am On Feb 16, 2022 |
Coded93:See the nonsense that some boys that call themselves Men write with confidence. You didnt like her enough to marry her, yet you impregnated her twice in your fathers house. Dude you are a Psycho. 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by HarunaWest(m): 12:25am On Feb 16, 2022 |
Iyaebe:why did you remove your dp nah? |
Re: Advise Needed by HarunaWest(m): 12:26am On Feb 16, 2022 |
yuping:As in ehn even me insult am..very unserious dude |
Re: Advise Needed by SavageBoy: 6:19am On Feb 16, 2022 |
This Op is very lazy,proud,irresponsible and the definition of a self entitled empty vessel. Instead of you to own up to the responsibility, you're busy blaming the poor girl. In fact both you and the girl are stupid... na your innocent children I pity. If you're jobless,better go and start looking for how to get keke maruwa on a hire purchase, and start riding May our 28 not be like that of the Op 4 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed by nnamdiosu(m): 7:26am On Feb 16, 2022 |
I stopped reading at that place you said..."something happened and she got pregnant" lol. You are a commedian, or aspiring to be one! Like thunder struck and she became Pregnant or you clapped your hand and belly entered? I feel for the children. And their mother. Man up. Take responsibility. Don't let your kids hate you when they grow. |
Re: Advise Needed by Stephen0mozzy: 7:29am On Feb 16, 2022 |
![]() ...you dont know that abortion is illegal, you for don to jail by now for trying to force the girl twice now. I wish the girl would see you as the irresponsible individual that you are and put her life together |
Re: Advise Needed by ahnie: 8:25am On Feb 16, 2022 |
Iyaebe:Don't mind the gecko,see how he's painting himself like a saint,but he's busy knacking her like a starved cheetah. 1 Like |
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