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Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by asanausana91: 9:23am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519:for how long you guys courted? |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by mpire: 9:23am On Mar 03, 2022 |
[s] Nadeol:[/s] So where is your own bicycle at least since you've been playing, you mean you personally don't have a success gambling story even from your sister's, uncle cousin's step mother? 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by King3urna(m): 9:23am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519: It happens this post is indirectly talking for real I’m seriously addicted to something very expensive I have a pregnant girl who needs every day but I will chose it then regret after buying am my girl is worried and scared though she could not tell me to face but her body language says it all and not happy with my self I cos I made so many promise before she agreed to carry the child now I’m not living up to any of them I need some hash advice oh 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by delishpot: 9:23am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Fulaniherdmens: You dont know what you are talking about.. You dont even know the problem gambling addiction can cause to a home. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by queenfav(f): 9:24am On Mar 03, 2022 |
You can work on the marriage by talking to him.This our generation is too quick to give up on marriage!Except there are other things like physical abuse, womanizing and maybe substance abuse that you aren't telling us. |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Aufbauh(m): 9:24am On Mar 03, 2022 |
mpire: I guess you're probably a kid going by your shallow response. Where did I said that Gambling is a guaranteed investment or better still, which investment is guaranteed? I'm talking as a grown man & not an inexperienced young adult. I'm 13 years in Marriage and I've equally had series of issues which some are more challenging to me than what the op is complaining of. Marriage is for mature Adults & not for sensationally impatient adults. |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by InvertedHammer: 9:25am On Mar 03, 2022 |
/ This is bound to happen when people concentrate on profession and income while disregarding expenditures. Someone who makes N5m/month but spends N6m/month is still as broke as it can get. / 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Messi1997: 9:25am On Mar 03, 2022 |
What happened to the marital vows you took? You should be there for him help him overcome his addictions not divorce. I know personally gambling kills but you as a wife should sit him down and talk to him. |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by slevan: 9:26am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Take it easy. This will become a history! Trust me, it would. loosingfaith519: |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Kobicove(m): 9:26am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Richy4: Don't mind them, let them be talking nonsense 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Nobody: 9:26am On Mar 03, 2022 |
aikyg: |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Putindbutt: 9:27am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519:Your thoughts too abi?.. Merchychen is over 35, single & lonely. You can park your load and go leave with her so that both of you can live your lives embittered together since your mind is already made up. But if you still want your marriage, you have to take every step to make him stop it. Gambling is addictive but can be stopped. You will have to be a bit more patient while at it, he can't give up what he's been doing for so long at once. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by mpire: 9:27am On Mar 03, 2022 |
[s] naija4life247:[/s] The fact that your who.re of a mother wasn't able to tell you who your father was before she abandoned you at the refuse dump with the dogs doesn't mean that is everybody's story you know. Why are you displaying your entire life's gambling frustration on a stranger? 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by BluntTheApostle(m): 9:28am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519: I am a punter too, and I have about 3 betting accounts. Your husband's problem is that he is not a financially disciplined person. In my own case, I set a limit every month. I make sure never to stake past that amount. My maximum stake is 20,000 per month. I also have maximum for casinos. I will never stake past it no matter how long my losing streak is. When I started betting, dem chop money no be small. The more I lost, the more I played. Then, I began to read books, and I became a smarter punter. Your husband needs to use money more wisely. The only good thing is that he is at least squandering it in the hope of getting more money faster, rather than wasting it on prostitutes and side-chicks. I will advise you find a way to make him more financially disciplined. For example, you people should speak to your bank to help with a joint savings account which automatically debits salaries as soon as they come in. Leave some amount of money for him to stake with every month. When the money finishes, let him wait till next month. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Nobody: 9:30am On Mar 03, 2022 |
bodyloveghetto:Is like you're into gambling as well. How much have you made so far, because the last time I checked, my husband is always in need of money, yet he earn much. I feel like gathering all of you doing the same stu.pid habit, stressing your loved ones in one room and set you on fire? Rub.bish 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by delishpot: 9:30am On Mar 03, 2022 |
aikyg: She prolly was not looking into his finances wben they were dating. She most likely was managing well as a single woman but now that they are married and expecting she need him to pull his weight as hubby but now she is beginning to see the real him as it concerns his finances. As for catching him in the act, unless she is the type that stays with him 24/7 he might hide his addiction whenever she is around for visits. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by edunaragold(f): 9:30am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519:. Two students was dating, Yoruba is bf, Edo is gf,so she was pregnant by mistake by the bf,after the parent settle,she went back to see her mom after given birth and baby is 5 months ,she told the mom that this bf has change oo,she don't understand him any more even as both are students,and staying together, the mom said ,is he beating you,she said no,is she taking care of u and the baby,she said yes,even be bought food stuff before he travel to Lagos ,the mother said ,my daughter you are mad,u better thank God,all men are the same ,no man wey no like woman if he is not drinking or smoking, go back and be patience. The daughter when home and was determine to stay no matter what. Pray for him,call a pastor to come talk to him,use that energy and foccus on your own job,pray for him |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Arielle: 9:30am On Mar 03, 2022 |
.... Ask you Mama even your papa never still complete till today.[/quote] I like that and its so true. This jumping out of marriage at the first sign of difficulty is very ill-advised. The OP thinks this is boyfriend/girlfriend. Marriage is hard work. You will never reap the gains of a good marriage if you're not ready to put in the work, sacrifice and committment. These young people, sha! |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Karlzy01(m): 9:32am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519:13th March will make it 2yrs I quit gambling. I didn't go for counselling or anything. I got into trouble so much so that I was beaten by a soldier and asked to do frog jump on Sunday 1st of March,2020. I got into trouble so much so that I was been cut off from everybody I was related to,a ran away from home in Lagos and came to benin cos I messed up to the tune of 600k,my family had literally given up on me. I was working as a cashier for a guy in a bet9ja Shop in Benin the guy was a Cultist to and he had soldier friends, alot of times my account wouldn't be balanced and I'd be owing him,so on this particular day i finished the money in the account,more than 80k plus the ones I was owing him previously it was about 115k . He and he's soldier friends had warned me that if I mess with the account again I was going to regret it,he knew where I stayed in Ekosodin so .... Please I'll finish this story later,I'm a bit busy. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by heniford2: 9:33am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519:the Pressure you guys put on guys its just to much, u want to move to a bigger apartment and after that start begging again, the pressure has made him to start gambling your trying to say doing those days u where dating him he was not addicted to it, he paid ur bridal price abi did wedding right |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Putindbutt: 9:34am On Mar 03, 2022 |
mpire:Rich men play sports betting too. fool |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by jeff1607(m): 9:34am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Romanoff: She would have known before marriage, it’s so easy to know one especially if they are dating, how can a lady marry a man who isn’t open with his expenses and his movement c’mon, plus his movement during weekends, they way he follows up on scores not actual matches, unless they didn’t court or he was spending unnecessarily and she did ask questions, a lady who is truly matured and concerned is usually worried about her man’s finances take for instance she notices his house is usually stocked with food stuffs by month end then suddenly either the pantry is empty or he’s buying half of what he usually buy she should know there’s something wrong somewhere. There are so many pointers to know while dating hence some ladies when they see such traits they just break up with such a guy and he would say “the lady just ghosted him or walked away” 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by 15ssDRIVE(m): 9:35am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519: Dear Sister, Just make sure you get a good phone, go to the next betting center. Devote 2-3 days, record them with their high spirit when they come betting. Be sure you got enough time to record them after getting their obituary loosing result. In 2 -3 days you will not be angry, but you will be pitying your man. Abeg play the video for him after family time, at least you guys still have some Short chit chat. You can also send him data first, and then the videos. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Arielle: 9:35am On Mar 03, 2022 |
baby124:How will she know how far gone he is if she doesn't even try? How can you say you love a man and you don't try to help him? An addiction does not mean its his character. It is a sickness and can be overcome with support, love and expert help. You don't give up so easily on someone you love. |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Kenturkey048(m): 9:37am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Mercychen:Where is your advice ? |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by OCTAVO: 9:38am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Just 4 months? I may be hard on you, you are impatient, selfish and self-centred! How would you feel if your husband notices something bad about you too after marriage and opt for divorce after 4 months? It's like you are not even interested in making your marriage work, that's why you can consider divorce after 4 months. Did you ever love your husband at all before marrying him? Mehn! In as much as I understand your frustration about his gambling habit, I think he needs you to help him overcome this habit. And you are unwilling to help him, you gave up on him too quick! Some faced worse predicament and they overcame. I wonder what this generation is really turning into. |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by duncan511: 9:38am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Mercychen:this one nor go fit stay for marriage because of her bitter, |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Putindbutt: 9:38am On Mar 03, 2022 |
DrFunmisticGlow:All because of gambling. Someone like you would stab your husband to death when he gambles. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by bestdudes: 9:39am On Mar 03, 2022 |
loosingfaith519: You are good woman but unfortunately, you should have tried to know this before proceeding to marry and now you are pregnant. It will be hard. Any marriage where one spouse does not heed the advise of the other it bad. He should channel that attitude to Youtube so that he can learn new skills that can be used to make money. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by seyz91(m): 9:39am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Just one year into your marriage and you're already fed up with the marriage. Haba! @bolded! Not even up to a year sef, na just 4months marriage, very very fresh You can imagine that Naija girls of now adays not mentally ready for marriage union but the wedding and Tag of I am married so to them make their parent proud as a typical African Lady sees marriage as an Achievement. Aufbauh: |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Deborah98(f): 9:39am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Marriage doesn't change a dysfunction. If he was exhibiting this behavior in courtship how do you expect him to change. Marriage is a leverage ground for people to now freely do what they have been doing in secret. Well it's never too late in the eyes of God for change. Go on your knees and pray. Seek wise counsels from people. Talk to him about it and on your plan save for the arrival of your baby while trusting God for a change. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Peacefully Divorce My Husband by Osanoghodua1: 9:40am On Mar 03, 2022 |
Divorce never a good option. You should pray over this and discuss this with him. Let him totally hands off from gambling. I wonder how you didn't discover this while dating or you were blinded by Love? God will help him quickly. |
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