loosingfaith519:
The greatest fear in life is not to stay single, but to be with someone who gives you high blood pressure.

Is better to be single and Happy than to be married and depressed.
How many days do we have to live on Earth?

NoToPile:


I was just wondering, talk with a gambler.

Gambling is a very strong addiction that I even think it's a spirit.

She's in for a very long ride, those addicted to gambling will tell her the truth.

It's just a pity she didn't discover before she married him.

Nicepoker:
Says an unmarried E Newspaper. She should leave without notice so you can take her place right?

Arielle:

How will she know how far gone he is if she doesn't even try? How can you say you love a man and you don't try to help him? An addiction does not mean its his character. It is a sickness and can be overcome with support, love and expert help. You don't give up so easily on someone you love.

Mercychen:
That is why they are always looking for a working class lady who can bring to the table so they can continue gambling and spending their own money recklessly. You better dump his ass.

You don't need to go through all that stress of divorcing him because that will drain you mentally and physically except you plan to remarry which is not advisable as most of them are the same. So, just secretly get a place for yourself and unborn child and leave him without warning, before you lose your sanity.

When he's ready to leave the singlehood lifestyle and become a responsible husband, he can come for his family. Otherwise, forget about him. Life is too sweet to let one person keep you in sorrow all the days of your life.

Marriage is overhypped, especially in this generation of overgrown babies in men's skin.

Bleiz:



What's ur brand of beer?

OCTAVO:
Just 4 months? I may be hard on you, you are impatient, selfish and self-centred!
How would you feel if your husband notices something bad about you too after marriage and opt for divorce after 4 months?
It's like you are not even interested in making your marriage work, that's why you can consider divorce after 4 months. Did you ever love your husband at all before marrying him? Mehn!
In as much as I understand your frustration about his gambling habit, I think he needs you to help him overcome this habit. And you are unwilling to help him, you gave up on him too quick! Some faced worse predicament and they overcame. I wonder what this generation is really turning into.

Aufbauh:



I guess you're probably a kid going by your shallow response.
Where did I said that Gambling is a guaranteed investment or better still, which investment is guaranteed?
I'm talking as a grown man & not an inexperienced young adult.

I'm 13 years in Marriage and I've equally had series of issues which some are more challenging to me than what the op is complaining of.
Marriage is for mature Adults & not for sensationally impatient adults.

NoToPile:


Haba at bolded how many times have we all read on this forum where the male gender always state they should not allow their wives know their financial worth and you are talking about fiancee here, don't check phone don't do this don't do that. Don't declare your income, don't declare your expenses to her don't this don't that.

Some men don't even declare to their wives nau.

If she goes about asking too much about how he spends his money, she will be called a leeach that can't make her own this and that.

How would she have known he was gambling online. It's just a click away.

Try not to blame the lady now you are saying a lady that is matured this and that, she's just unlucky to have fallen into his hands.

Point is it is very possible for her not to know he's very financially reckless except by divine intervention.

mpire:
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So where is your own bicycle at least since you've been playing, you mean you personally don't have a success gambling story even from your sister's, uncle cousin's step mother?

loosingfaith519:
Thank God you know it kills.

HardMirror:
I wish I could talk to you privately but no need for that. ..

First dont let the many Idiots calling you names and saying nonsense bother you. Most nairalanders are teenagers pretending to be adults.

It is unfortunate you have made the mistake of getting married to a gambler. Note I AM A GAMBLER too and spend nothing less than 300k a month gambling. It is terrible. Sometimes I quit and things improve for me, but within a few months I find myself gambling again.vit is a terrible addiction. Your husband is in deep shit I can tell you and if he does not change soon, be ready to cater for a destitute.


Dont be fooled. Gambling will ruin him totally. I hope he recognizes this and he is honest about changing.

If he keeps lying to you and not showing any sign of changing. Better get real with yourself and divorce him, dont let emotions get the better of you.

Only stay with him if you see him making effort to change.

He should immediately hand money that comes in to you for projects you have planned together if he is honest about changing. This would at least help him control how much he loses to gambling. If he does not like this idea, trust me, he is not ready.

I am carrying my siblings and girlfriend along in my quest to stop gambling and my honestly with them is the only thing helping me cut my losses. An honest gambler seeking to change would not keep money by himself. If he cannot hand over the money he makes, he is not ready to change

loosingfaith519:

I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.

We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.

On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.

We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

Mercychen:
That is why they are always looking for a working class lady who can bring to the table so they can continue gambling and spending their own money recklessly. You better dump his ass.

You don't need to go through all that stress of divorcing him because that will drain you mentally and physically except you plan to remarry which is not advisable as most of them are the same. So, just secretly get a place for yourself and unborn child and leave him without warning, before you lose your sanity.

When he's ready to leave the singlehood lifestyle and become a responsible husband, he can come for his family. Otherwise, forget about him. Life is too sweet to let one person keep you in sorrow all the days of your life.

Marriage is overhypped, especially in this generation of overgrown babies in men's skin.

Richy4:
Anyone that says they should sit down and talk have never met an addict before...it's like pouring water in a basket.....

Felimax:


God bless you too madam.
God's divine peace fall on your home in Jesus name.

Nadeol:


We assume you went to school. Please always read to understand, and not just to post a comment. We won't do you the favor of responding to you again. Thank you and have a nice day.

mpire:
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Oponu are you rich? You don't even have a job. What percentage of rich men gamble, do you have that data? Re.tarded clown, so you're making up bogus data to justify you gambling, who the hell cares? Jobless i.diot keep gambling your life away, who's stopping you? But making up stupid 79% of men gamble crap. Go tell that to your illiterate village people.

Ladycewhy:
Drug addicts, drunkards, gamblers, you see these people, they will drain you and possibly sink you with them.

I have real life examples of a gambler and a drunkard. I have seen how the wives and kids of these men struggled emotionally , psychologically, financially.


Some people will tell you it will get better,some will tell you to pray ,some will tell you it's treatable.


Hmmm. Sigh, it's sad you didn't notice it on time. My sister, I will not sugar coat it, if under 4 months things are like this, it won't get better.But hey, yours can be that one in a million cases that turned out good,you never can tell ,hope they say is the only miracle of the poor and down trodden.


If you feel you are assistant Jesus Christ,you can try and save him, but be ready to loose your soul ,sanity,peace and happiness in the process.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

whitedove:
may wisdom be multiplied unto you in Jesus name.

Romanoff:


Is that not what most men want?

A woman who doesn't ask questions about their money and how they spend it. A woman who doesn't ask for their phone password or even go through their phone.

That right there is what most of you young men of these days want.

jeff1607:


Why the “what most of you young men want”?

There should be moderation in everything, I prefer my woman asking questions as it puts me on my toes.

I just know you were going to put the phone password thingy, you don’t need to know ur partner’s password or go through his phone to understand what he/she is doing or does. Once you carry one leg and put on a path you should know where the other foot is going to land.

This is marriage matter not dating or gf/bf. There should be moderation in everything, some ladies or would I say most ladies don’t know how to talk, they are soooooo rude in asking questions and don’t even know when to ask questions.

Your partner comes back from work n slouching on the couch and only his shoes are off or he’s in the middle of a thought or probably just came out of an argument with someone then the next thing are questions. There are happy times to ask questions and no be everything wey enter head pesin go just spit out.

NoToPile:


You guys have started with all these misquoting.

Where is it that the woman is the spiritual leader of the home. Did your Bible tell you that?

The man is the spiritual leader of the home, it is because most men have failed that you see women leading the home spiritually.

Give her advice if you want to but don't start preaching heresy.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Very stupid comment from a stupid person who may be so useless yo himself one would wonder if he can even afford a week old news paper.
You must be very very stupid for calling her evening news paper for speaking her mind and the truth most of you here can't speak because of your gender biased mentality.
What's good in staying married to a gambler just for you to end up paying the bills alone. Would you say the op is married to a man or to herself if she has the do everything herself and still pray the man.
If you like it, may such fate befall you.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

Putindbutt:

You're a fool. I didn't throw up percentages, I only corrected your ignorance. Rich people do play sports betting & that's a fact. You can't know what rich people do at their leisure until you move away from your bed bug infested family with ancestral poverty.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.