MartinsD12:

You didn't tell us what you do for a living or are you just an ordinary house wife ? Or ok I read you said you expect him to bring 300k so you sum it up with 600k for family upkeep and a decent accommodation, maybe man is trying to meet up with his responsibility maybe he needs more money and if you know your husband well you can tell him where to invest his money not on gambling, talk to him you didn't tell you us you have talked to him about these if possible invite a family member you know he respect to talk to him too but you seem to be distant from your husband it's a pity, go and do your work as a woman, marriage is not a bed of roses but you can make your home a safe heaven if you want to not looking for divorce so soon this shows you ain't prepared for marriage in the first place .

jeff1607:


I think so o, the thing such guys don’t chase much and most are introverts tho I have seen quite an extroverted few

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

loosingfaith519:
Sad. Thanks.

nomenclature:
You mean funding a new app (buying shares?cowrise invest?,piggyvest? .so you are worried he is not blowing the money but instead investing for the future ..
You are the enemy here ,you have to leave him alone so make his life better .
You are a mumu woman.
Gentlemen if you marry a bad woman,you are finished ,if you.marry a bad and woman with insatiable taste, then you are completely finished.

loosingfaith519:
I don't own you explaination of what I do. If you read my post correctly, you would understand I didn't ask if I should divorce him or not. I only seek for how to go about the divorce.

HardMirror:
is he willing to cooperate with you to stop the habit or at least so you manage funds on his behalf? Because that should be the first step to stem financial damage this habit could wreck

kingthreat:
I don't pity women. There was a better guy toasting you and you rejected. You chose your present husband with clear eye. Now you are bringing your issues to us after 4 months. Abeg fight your own battles, Ukraine is fighting theirs.

Germi9:
It is okay to try some bad habits as a Man , but dont do it to the extreme especially when it has to do with your finances . But wife wait oo .. you want to divorce your husband of 4months with a baby inside of you? Did you even love him in the 1st place? Or you were Lust? Oh now he is no longer attractive as he use to be huh? You are not even willing to try to change him but to call it quit peacefully hahaha

I pray i never meet a woman like you, because na me go mess you up ,where is your patience or you think marriage is all bed of Roses ? Abeg comot for road jare’

Romanoff:


Trust me, she wouldn't have known.

A lot of ladies date and marry men and only know how much they earn.

Not how they spend it.

Ask some guys how they spend their salary and watch world war 4 happen.

They'll ask you if you woke out for their hand.

loosingfaith519:
I don't own you explaination of what I do. If you read my post correctly, you would understand I didn't ask if I should divorce him or not. I only seek for how to go about the divorce.

loosingfaith519:
I wish he could be opened like you. I would have gladly help him.
We always talked about this, he has promised severally to stop. When I mentioned it now, he would tell me not to take him back to his past, but he is still doing it. Even yesterday, he still Gambles.

mpire:


Truthfully, it's too early to throw in the towel, divorce is awful; unless you know somethings that you cannot deal with for the rest of your life and you're certain hes never gonna change. If you've only been married for few months,I'm assuming you're in Nigeria ask a lawyer if you can annual it instead of a divorce. Annulment is different, your plate is wiped clean and it never shows you've ever been married. I'm not sure about naija, but ask a lawyer. But honesty 4 months is just too short for anyone not to endure and throw in the towel; but I know it might hurt you so bad to wanna up so soon, it's your call at the end of the day because only you will live your own life. All the best.

kingthreat:
I don't pity women. There was a better guy toasting you and you rejected. You chose your present husband with clear eye. Now you are bringing your issues to us after 4 months. Abeg fight your own battles, Ukraine is fighting theirs.

loosingfaith519:
Is like you're into gambling as well. How much have you made so far, because the last time I checked, my husband is always in need of money, yet he earn much.
I feel like gathering all of you doing the same stu.pid habit, stressing your loved ones in one room and set you on fire?
Rub.bish

Putindbutt:

Boy, you still crying. Who told you women don't cheat on rich dudes?
It was your mother feeding your wretched father that was why he couldn't afford to chase away the bitch when she cheats on him.

loosingfaith519:
Is like you're into gambling as well. How much have you made so far, because the last time I checked, my husband is always in need of money, yet he earn much.
I feel like gathering all of you doing the same stu.pid habit, stressing your loved ones in one room and set you on fire?
Rub.bish

mpire:


Are you a rich dude? You're so poor, even poverty is giving you money. Have you forgotten your family history? Did anyone ever make it out of Edo? The only one that made it to Lagos, came back after 2 years of fruitlessness.

Wait you don't even know your father, your mother couldn't tell which of her customer refused to use a condom. and thanks to the poor woman that picked you up in Edo at the refuse dump, it's good to see that your 4th grade education is paying off and landed you a cleaner job at the club.

You need to go and apologize to the tree working hard to provide you the oxygen you're wasting. Why are you alive again? Pele, your hands must be tired jerking off to Deborah and Amara...useless mofo, go get a job. I'm still waiting for your passport, have you ever even been on a plane? I'm sure you have seen one on the TV.

Here's your life misery....

loosingfaith519:
Stupid praying from a Gambler. Shame on you

Putindbutt:

You and loosingfaith519 should go fúck yourselves

WHITELIGHTER:


And who told you the so-called better guy isnt having an addiction to some even worse than gambling? I know even you is addicted to something, so stop choice-shaming her.

Putindbutt:

You and loosingfaith519 should go fúck yourselves

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

Stenewiser:
just November, I laugh marriage is not meant for all women, imagine the trash madam please move, you have a child's reasoning, at your age you can't handle a common problems.

bodyloveghetto:


Haya, with two kids attending the best school and setting my woman up, got my own houses? I’m pretty sure am a responsible one… just wondering 4 month and you felt like leaving the marriage… Better you go sort your stuff out and all I was saying “you’ve got your options” phew